Dating Game

[Calliope]

A few vignettes from my life in the dating scene...

One guy "got lost" trying to find my town, hmmmm, but, as it turned out, that was a good thing. Another couple of emails, and he sends me this:


Basicly im just a horn dog-- Somebody like you deserves the best-- I dont think I can deliver that- I origionally answered you add because I was horny and lonly- After recieving your e-mail I see that you are not like others on CL Your a genuime sweet caring person and deserving of love and respect-- I hope you find it ...There is not all bad in the wirld and I know with your genuine love of life you will find it. I dont want to lead you on so Thats why the honesty and appology--- I am sorry for misleading you.. You dond want to meet low lifes like me... Kisses to you and good luck...

Just yesterday, I receive this one - a real corker:


I myself am looking for long term relationship.

Looking for someone to share my entire life with. Someone older and settled and that is looking to live a husband/wife type of relationship.

Is this what type of relationship you are interested in ??

If so, lets chat and learn more about one another.

Not that that means anything, most guys just like sending emails (cowards).

Another guy keeps mentioning trips to "Tahoe" and, ouch, his fancy car, whatta bore.

And, sure enough, that lovely yummy man I enjoyed last week just evaporated.

But, ya know, I gotta have faith and get in the game; otherwise, it's just buying clothes, listening to tunes and typing away on this computer.

And that's not enough, is it?

[Charleen]

But, ya know, I gotta have faith and get in the game; otherwise, it's just buying clothes, listening to tunes and typing away on this computer.

And that's not enough, is it?[/QUOTE]



Hey Girlfriend, I can understand. I've been widowed for about a year and a half. I do miss having someone in my life. I'm not rushing things though. I'm keeping my eyes open, and waiting. The tough part, beside being compatable, is finding someone that will accept Lily. At this point in my life, I am more Lily then Charlie, even when I am Charlie. I am at this point a non-op TS.
I'll tell you this, watch out on the web. I've been contacted by some on this site and they were not looking for anything else but a quicky. The thing seems to be that because we are who we are, the general concensus seems to be that what we are is only sexual. The majority don't have any idea of our nature. Me, I'm open to a new relationship, but will look in person with the people I come in contact with.
For now, I am content to go to work, buy clothes, listen to tunes, and type on the infernal machine until I chance to meet that rare soul who will take me for who I am. I figure I have enough dealing with me and stricking a balance in my life. I spent 30 years hiding, denying, guiltifying Lily. No more! If I find someone- terrific! If not, so be it.
Just watch yourself dearheart. Please. Love and xxxxx, Lily

[melissaK]

The well spring of a relationship is so unpredictable. I have had real feast and famine experiences. Seems years can go by with no one, then as soon as I find one cool potential partner three more show up! (sing the old Lovin Spoonfull song: Did you ever have to finally decide . . .
http://www.geocities.com/merrystar3/allysongs/DidYouEverHaveToMakeUpYourMind.htm)

And I saw no pattern as to from where. I have wildly speculated my body unpredicatably produces some super pheremones or something. :heehee:

My most significant relationships came from: family/friends (2); college classmates (2); waitress (1); co-worker (1); customer (1). I have friends who met online via a mutual interest chat group and got married, some who met though dating services, some through personal ads (a bit passe nowadays I suppose).

But you are right, you do have to put yourself out there to some degree . . . be involved in something, do a new thing, go to a new place . . . risk something.

Hugs
'lisa

[Shelly R]

The dating game is rough. It's more about disappointment than successes these days. Sometimes we all have to go through the dirt to find the diamond. There is a 10k diamond somewhere, lets find it!
Even I don't want to put myself through the "meat grinder" even though my marriage ends this month, I know I will find a keeper someday.

PM me anytime I'm here. Your friend. :hugs:

[karenstidham]

I haven't dated a lot but I know just like GGs if you jump into bed too soon, you problely won't see that person again - except when they want another blow job

A lot of men out their think that sex is all we have on our mind because we wear woman clothes - I had my period of ****ing around in my 20ty before any body knew about aids and thank God I didn't get Aids - I mean I was a real **** - not for money, although now I wish I had charge them for it, because not one of those people are in my life today - most of them died of Aids, but they were only sex partners nothing more - that was between the ages of 20 and 26, then I wanted more and wanted to have only safe sex - then no-one wanted to have sex with me.

I then sword off sex until I fell in love with someone - I am now 52, came close a couple of time and put in the effort and when it came time for sex they didn't want to use protection - with one I said no protection no sex and he walked, after courting me for serval weeks and the other one (a fellow transexuall) turn out to have Aids and wasn't going to tell me and someone told me that she had it and when I confront her with it and deman a test she said if I love her it would be OK - it turn out that she was realy crazy and has been in the mental hospital serval times

I am still looking for that special someone, but now I limited it to Woman, transexuall and transvestite no Men - only recently have I been puting out feeler again to find someone - for about 24 year between ages 26 and last year, I didn't go looking for it but was open to it if it showed up - so if any body in the Baltimore, MD area or any other area is instreted, write me at

[email protected]

Karen

[sterling12]

Hi Calliope:

I wouldn't have too much remorse about this guy. It appears from the written message, that he's only semi-literate and doesn't understand how to use The Spell-Check.

That's not the usual recipe for a winner! You know what they say: "When you least expect it, that's when love finds you!" I hope that's what happens for you.

Peace and Love, Joanie