I told my best friend

[Princess29]

I just arrived back in OZ yesterday and my best friend picked me up from the airport and we went and had lunch. I've known this guy for over 20 years and we've grown up together and I trust him with my life. I ended up hitting him with it almost straight away which wasn't my intention and I almost chickened out from telling him but I went through with it. I sort of broke it to him by showing him some pictures from my time in Vegas and he didn't recognise me. I said that I kind of "met" someone in vegas. He only started to make the connection after I held the camera alongside my face and I kind of pointed to the camera, then to me, then to the camera etc.
He was completely fine with it and we had a really nice chat and I was able to get some things off my chest. He said that I need to be who I am and I didn't doubt for a second that he would think of me any differently or in any negative way. He is the second person that I have told that actually knows me. The first person was a GG friend in Germany who I sent an email about it and as yet she hasn't replied but she's kind of inconsistent with responding to her emails anyway.

[az_azeel]

Congrats...
I also have a friend of twenty odd years but its something ive not discussed with him.. I dont know whether or not I could.. I was told the he knows although I dont know how.... my eldest lad knows.. he has just turned 19 and is ok with it... In fact I am glad he kows because although I dont dress when he visits we can discuss c/ding at ease...

[Billijo49504]

HI, I'm glad things went well for you. You say you're back in OZ. I assume that means Australia, which I believe is more understanding, than ppl in the states. I'm involved with a Aussie Yahoo group, from one of my other hobbies. When I told some of the ppl there about my CDing, the response was ,So What?" Any way, I glad your friend is still your friend....BJ

[Princess29]

Yes, I mean Australia. I decided that while in the US that this is something that I want to come to terms with while I am still relatively young, I'm sick of having to hide it.
There are plenty of people here who if I told, they would react negatively and I could get in all sorts of trouble. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else's business. I don't know how my family react, part of me thinks that if I told my parents they would say "Oh yeah, we already knew that" and that would be the end of it but I don't know.
Like my friend said, that if you can make peace with who you are, life can be a lot better.

[Holly]

Melissa, I'm glad you made it home safely (I did get yoour email). Isn't it incredible how brave and confident you are becoming! At one time, I too lived in a small town (under 5000). It was just amazing how much people knew (or thought they knew) about each others lives. So I can understand how you feel. The urge to be open an honest about yourself with others can be overwhelming. Use your head. It sounds like you have surrounded yourself with compassionate, understanding, supportive people. That's good.

I'm glad to have met you while you were visiting the US. I hope I can visit you in OZ someday.

[VickieBonne]

My best friend of over twenty years knows too. The only problem, sometimes he treats me like a woman sometimes when we are out...(teasingly) but it is embarassing. Honestly, he took it like a champ and never once had a "weird" feeling about it since.

[Princess29]

I just got an email from my friend, saying how he told his fiance (he had to as I asked him to store some stuff for me and otherwise he would have had some explaining to do) and she said that she wasn't going to do my makeup for me(jokingly). If I was to look up the definition of the words "true friend" in the dictionary, my friend's picture would be there.
He also said that she was surprised with my revelation, she had absolutely no idea about that side of me which in a way I hope would be the standard response as that would mean that I have been pretty good at hiding it from people

[btmgrl6]

Standing ovation for you..... from me. Good job. I know that feeling...it's wonderful. Kind of makes you feel like a new person....like "her".


YOU ARE AWESOME !!!!!

[Amy Hepker]

It kinda feels good to come out to someone you trust. I told one of my friends years ago and he is still my friend. He does not cut me down about it or anything. We usally don't talk about it, but every once in a while I will start talikng about something I did or wore and he talks to me as though it was nothing out of the ordinary.

[linnea]

For the past several years, I have toyed with the thought of telling one of my best friends. There are two of these whom I believe that I could trust, but I must say that I'm not sure about how either one would take it. And I don't want to ruin what has been for decades a really terrific friendship.
I'm glad that you were able to tell your friend. And thanks for telling us about it.

[DawnL]

It is great that you have a friend that you feel you can trust with this. It has to be easier if someone else knows. I'm glad that he was ok with it.

[Princess29]

I finally got a reply from my GG friend in Germany to an email that I sent a few weeks ago, hinting that I had a secret to tell and then showing her some of my pictures. This is her response:
"I saw at first glance that the pictures were pictures of you."
I cannot say that I
wasn't a bit confused, because I would not have thought!
It is not that I think less of you, it is just something I do not understand. I
mean were does this crossdressing come from and what do you get from it?
Like I say I do not understand but I can tolerate it, as long as you do not do
it around me".

[Marcie Sexton]

While I mean this to be short and sweet, I'm sure I will ramble some, so bare with me...

A true friend is something that are few and far between...a "true friend" that is. We all have firends, both business and social, but this day and time a true friend is as precious as gold. When I was growing up my dad had one special friend whom he shared his life and time with, they watched the weekly foot ball game, drank a few beers, he ate diner at my house, I considered him an uncle...he was never a threat to my dads life in any way...they would do any thing for each other and I'm sure shared lots I never seen...

What I'm still trying to figure out is where did friendship go...sure I have professional friends and social friends as well, but the one person I once considered a true friend betrayed my trust and he and my "X" became lovers and help end my first marriage...while there is enough blame for every one, I still have yet to gain enough trust in any one to say I have a true friend...
I will say this that my wife of 20 years is probably my best friend...

But where did the friendship and trust go...or am I living in a generation of the past long forgotten...

[Eugenie]

It is great that you have a friend whom you could talk to in all confidence. It is indeed a great relief to have someone to share our most secret feelings with. I have done so with a few GG and TV friends but never with another Male friend.

It almost came through a couple of weeks ago: I was alone at home when the door bell rang. I answered the intercom, thinking it could be one of my GG firned visiting, as she's done several times.

Surprise, it was my best friend and his wife. I wouldn't have missed seing them at any cost... So I answered that I needed to get dressed and that they just had to make themselves comfortable while waiting for me.

I then hesitated a moment to get to them "en femme", but decided not to... I quickly took off my clothes and put on my drab things on. Not forgetting to wipe out the lipstick I had put on. Fortunately I hadn't been fully made up...

And i went to see them... Hoping that there wouldn't be any visible lipstick traces... I then almost came out to them. But I didn't feel it was the appropriate timing.

Yet I felt bad about not doing it. I had the impression of cheatting upon my best friend, a friend of more than 50 years... But since he has no hints, I don't know how he wuold react. I know his wife would be very open minded, but him, I'm not so sure...

Sorry for having expanded so much around this topic...

I hope that I too will be able to speak to my best friend...
:hugs:
Eugenie

[Wendy me]

thats cool that you felt comfy enough to share that with a few Friends and they were OK with it as well ....

[Princess29]

I've been toying with the idea of just bringing it out into the open with my family but just can't bring myself to do it. I was having a discussion with my brother today and at one point I said how I don't care what other people think of me and he told me I should, that's one of the things that I should be mindful of. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else business. I don't care what the people think of me but I wouldn't want to cause any embarrassment for my family. I'm still trying to sort out where I want to take this now. I think step one is move to a place where nobody knows me and go from there which I should do anyway.

[Amanda Shaft]

Hi there, it sounds like your friend is indeed that! I told my SO last weekend and its made me feel good about things. I would suggest you take things slow though, don't blurt it out to all and sundry just because you have the urge to do so. Think each step through and wiegh the consequences, the thing is not everyone will be positive, your German friend demonstrates that to a degree in her reply. Take it cool and reflect. Amanda x
PS When you said OZ you did mean as in 'Wizard of...' didn't you?:heehee:

[Terry]

Hi;

I to have been dealing with telling a real close freind ,but I then if I do I may end up losing this dear girlfreind , Awhile back I tell her a little about myself , And from I read is you don,t push this from your end let the other person say or not say just keep your ears open for any opening and hope you have not lost a dear freind , also I did have I have a long talk with another girfreind and she is ok with just talking about it but that as far as it go she seem to be some what understanding to a point and that is find because it does give me a better few of other and how to deal with differnce tpyes of people in my life. I hope someone may have away around this as I and from I read many other girls would to.

My love to all

Terry xxxxxx

[Princess29]

My friend's fiancee wanted to see some pictures of me so I sent her the ones that I posted on this website. I sent my friend an email yesterday asking what his fiancee thought of those pictures and this was his response.
Yeah, she said you looked good. I think it's good to see you smiling in a pic, you look happy! I think that all you can hope for your friends, family and children is that they find happiness in what they do with their life, so as long as your happy than I'm happy for you.
I should also add that if its someone whose opinion I value, then I care very much what they think of me but if its a complete stranger than I couldn't care less

[Princess29]

I'm so thankful that I ended up telling my friend as he has been there for me to help me deal with this and a couple of unrelated issues. He is patient, understanding and the very definition of a true friend. I almost chickened out but bit the bullet and told him.
He even told me today that he's been looking on the internet for crossdressing sites, maybe I'll convert him? I guess he's trying to learn more to help him understand what I'm going through.

[Lovely Rita]

I am glad it went well for you. When I told my best friend it did not go so well. He actually hit on me and that was the end of that.