MelissaAndProudOfIt
03-15-2007, 11:33 PM
Here's a new topic... i think....
Denial....
Self Denial, in our early years there we are crossdressing in secret
(what i personally call the true crossdresser!!!!!!) started between 5 and 6 years old, maybe wearing a sisters school clothes. The need stays with them till they are in last school years and the urge is still there, they know they are different in this respect, so there they are hiding secret from family and friends and others, and also in many cases even to themselves too.
What happens then... they daren't let their friends know as they think their freiends would think less of them, so if you have friends who don't stick with you such a revelation, then they really cannot of been friends in the first place, so it's a good way to find out if your're friends are really your friends...
some deny it to themselves, oh i dressed in early years yeah, i did it more recently too yeah, but it's really only a phase thats all... or a fetish.... well that maybe, or it could be that you are denying your true inner feelings and as a result with be feeling stressed out most of the time because of inner conflict with your true inner feelings and being unable to bring them outside of yourself to your friends... when i told my friend lol, they already knew lol, don't know how lol, they just did... so saved me having to tell him anything more...lol
Denial to a mate/partner/wife...
you are worried to tell a woman because she might not want to know you, if you crossdress.... well not telling her is pointless as she will find out later and be forced into the preverbial corner to have to make her mind up....so unfair..after she has loved you for so long and trusted you faithfully and told you all her secrets, you then drop that bomb shell on her....it's no wonder some quit their partners.. as some feel they cannot trust their partners any more, as if they kept that secret, what other secrets have they kept from them, and believe me that is always on their minds i feel sure... marriage and living together is one of unlimited trust and faith... and it's busted at day one if not revealled I think.
I revealled in the very first day we met, I am now happily engaged to a beautyful woman, who loves me to pieces, she loves me so much for simply telling all about myself to her.. she knew i could have kept this secret from her, but like i said.. at what cost....i replied... the cost of losing her as a partner later if she disliked it.... better to get the matter over with in first instance i think. this matters open to opinion lol i guess....!!!!!
The next, dressing all earlier years and have a non muscle built body, and so feel when you leave school to go to work doing physical work building on that body mass and trying to deny your inner feelings of dressing, thinking that you haven't done it in ages, so the need to dress is gone, but it comes back with a slammer... oops now you have a well built frame....on yer body... you have the urge to dress again... your body is far from ideal now, ... you hoped that well built frame would attract a mate.... it didn't happen and you're still single... you wanna dress, but you dare not go out dressed, only wish you could oh dear.... it's because you denyed your own feelings and now, you have a situation you simply cannot escape from....oh dear.... so a closet dresser for the rest of time.... what a shame.... though I am human too, I can appreciate that such a revelation can be too much, but it's who we are and we really should embrace who we are and not shun ourselves....
Well thats my views anyway
Denial....
Self Denial, in our early years there we are crossdressing in secret
(what i personally call the true crossdresser!!!!!!) started between 5 and 6 years old, maybe wearing a sisters school clothes. The need stays with them till they are in last school years and the urge is still there, they know they are different in this respect, so there they are hiding secret from family and friends and others, and also in many cases even to themselves too.
What happens then... they daren't let their friends know as they think their freiends would think less of them, so if you have friends who don't stick with you such a revelation, then they really cannot of been friends in the first place, so it's a good way to find out if your're friends are really your friends...
some deny it to themselves, oh i dressed in early years yeah, i did it more recently too yeah, but it's really only a phase thats all... or a fetish.... well that maybe, or it could be that you are denying your true inner feelings and as a result with be feeling stressed out most of the time because of inner conflict with your true inner feelings and being unable to bring them outside of yourself to your friends... when i told my friend lol, they already knew lol, don't know how lol, they just did... so saved me having to tell him anything more...lol
Denial to a mate/partner/wife...
you are worried to tell a woman because she might not want to know you, if you crossdress.... well not telling her is pointless as she will find out later and be forced into the preverbial corner to have to make her mind up....so unfair..after she has loved you for so long and trusted you faithfully and told you all her secrets, you then drop that bomb shell on her....it's no wonder some quit their partners.. as some feel they cannot trust their partners any more, as if they kept that secret, what other secrets have they kept from them, and believe me that is always on their minds i feel sure... marriage and living together is one of unlimited trust and faith... and it's busted at day one if not revealled I think.
I revealled in the very first day we met, I am now happily engaged to a beautyful woman, who loves me to pieces, she loves me so much for simply telling all about myself to her.. she knew i could have kept this secret from her, but like i said.. at what cost....i replied... the cost of losing her as a partner later if she disliked it.... better to get the matter over with in first instance i think. this matters open to opinion lol i guess....!!!!!
The next, dressing all earlier years and have a non muscle built body, and so feel when you leave school to go to work doing physical work building on that body mass and trying to deny your inner feelings of dressing, thinking that you haven't done it in ages, so the need to dress is gone, but it comes back with a slammer... oops now you have a well built frame....on yer body... you have the urge to dress again... your body is far from ideal now, ... you hoped that well built frame would attract a mate.... it didn't happen and you're still single... you wanna dress, but you dare not go out dressed, only wish you could oh dear.... it's because you denyed your own feelings and now, you have a situation you simply cannot escape from....oh dear.... so a closet dresser for the rest of time.... what a shame.... though I am human too, I can appreciate that such a revelation can be too much, but it's who we are and we really should embrace who we are and not shun ourselves....
Well thats my views anyway