Vallari
02-12-2005, 05:10 AM
I think I have hit a low spot this week in my life. I think for the first time in my life this week I truely felt what disgust truely is.
I find that when I ask people for simple things, I have to encounter obstacles. No matter how stupidly-simple the favor is. The kicker here is, I don't ask my friends for favors much. I also notice that when people ask things from me, I never here the end of it until they get what they want. I feel disgusted with both myself and just about everyone around me in my life here right now. Sure one can tell me "dont be a doormat" and the like. I dont wanna be one. To be honest I really just disgust myself and don't know where to go. After thinking things through it seems that no matter which way I choose to handle things in my life, I get screwed somehow. Believe me, I analyzed this for some time regaurding my situations and this is pretty accurate.
Even my parents - they seem to be of no help anymore. When I explain problems all I get back is "get over it" and "put it behind you" and the like. In other words, nothing that really helps at all, just crap (for lack of a better word). This is just one of the many problems whirling around in my mind. I don't even want to attempt to even scratch the surface of the others here in this thread.
I am seeking counseling, and get a little less than one hour a week to discuss these feelings. I can't talk to family, because as we all know from expierence regaurding this stuff they're generally useless to you, unless your one of the lucky few that have accepting and understanding families of course. My parents recognize my CD'ing but don't like it. My dad has came out and said this. My mom has yet to say it herself. It's been a cold dead issue lately and everytime we manage to have a serious conversation about it my dad throws a hissy fit and as usual my mom cries. Can't talk to my roommates about it becaue I really don't like them. They break rules and I'm really the odd one in the apartment group. I don't even really like the school situation I'm in right now. No counselor's are at my college that can be useful to me. My roomamtes break rules and do things that would get us all in trouble and fined heavily by our apartments. If I tell the school, I may face retaliation from roomamtes, as it wont be hard at all to figure out who told. If I keep silent, they will eventually get caught and we all will get in trouble and have to pay fines, etc for it. Frankly, I cant wait to get caught just so I can cuss out the school admin and use that as an excuse to leave there for good.
Lately the program I'm in at school bores the living s**t out of me and it often hurts my head in the morning when I wake up just thinking about having to sit through the mind-numbing blandness of these classes for up to three hours at a time. Some mornings I wake up and just go right back to bed again, usually because I'm too tired and/or feel queezy,etc in my stomach about whatever problem in my life is currently bugging me. I really don't care for that school, yet I'm already 2 semesters in, so Im stuck as far as i can tell. As an added bonus for me, this school is out in the middle of nowhere, 100 miles from Austin, where my real life is. I swear the only real reason I go up to Waco anymore is because of my computer up there. So a simple trip to and from waco is 200 miles easy. This weekend in particular due to scheduling I get to go back and forth 3 times, befor Mon, for a grand total of 600miles in two days.
I cant talk about any of this stuff with my friends because Im sure they could either a: could care less, or b: be uncomfortable talking about my particular issues. If my parents find out about my current situation in school theyll most likely finish me off and take away this pc, claiming it's distracting mee to much from my studies. So if that happens, I have no damn clue what to do at that point. Im franky to scared and ashamed to consider it.
As for people telling me to just let these personal problems go, its not that simple. If itt was, believe me, theyd be gone long ago. These things cut real deep and hurt me inside. Lately I have been so anxious to solve these issues I often look at myself and fear Im becoming obsessed, which is what I dont want. But Im so hell bent on trying to get by these things lately it's been #1 on my mind. Currently my biggets issue is on the verge of being solved for good - i hope. Im waiting on a friend to send me something so I can get over this for good - an email address. Simple as that. Once I have this email address I can send this letter that explains my feelings to someone who I feel needs to hear them. Thats all it is, an email address. Last week I was told after I asked for it that I would have it that afternoon. Its seven days from that date now, and still nothing. Getting in contact with this friend has been extremely difficult these last days as well, making things even harder. I dont even feel good anymore about solving this because ive been waiting to do this for soo long now. This angers me now because the only way i feel that will put this problem behind me now is now full of angry feelings and resentment. So now I have no idea if this will even help me anymore, that is if i get the email address at all.
I ahve just spent the last week putting up with all this and within the last hour these feelings got out and i ended up destroying the old keyboard to this pc. i just got back with a new one and here i am now.
It just feels like when i tell people my feelings they just right them off, tell me something simple like "get over it" or just laugh and joke at me about them. It hurts.
Now lets take all these issues and combine them with my cd'ing. Lets also add in politics because theres really no escaping that nowadays anymore anyways.I used to be a democrat, but I really just gave up on both parties all together because they both disgust me soo much. Going with a third party is useless because they wont win anyways. Dont even get me tarted about religion or the war in iraq. I always find myself caught up in debates about how being gay is wrong, etc. There just doesnt seem to be any rest anymore.
nobody has to respond to this, i just wanted to get these feelings out because i really have no idea what to do now. I dont know if theres anything i can do now. I guess I can wait around for my "friend" to quit dragging thier ass around and get to helping me out in life for once. I'm more than sure my friend will fail me though in the end anyways.
I find that when I ask people for simple things, I have to encounter obstacles. No matter how stupidly-simple the favor is. The kicker here is, I don't ask my friends for favors much. I also notice that when people ask things from me, I never here the end of it until they get what they want. I feel disgusted with both myself and just about everyone around me in my life here right now. Sure one can tell me "dont be a doormat" and the like. I dont wanna be one. To be honest I really just disgust myself and don't know where to go. After thinking things through it seems that no matter which way I choose to handle things in my life, I get screwed somehow. Believe me, I analyzed this for some time regaurding my situations and this is pretty accurate.
Even my parents - they seem to be of no help anymore. When I explain problems all I get back is "get over it" and "put it behind you" and the like. In other words, nothing that really helps at all, just crap (for lack of a better word). This is just one of the many problems whirling around in my mind. I don't even want to attempt to even scratch the surface of the others here in this thread.
I am seeking counseling, and get a little less than one hour a week to discuss these feelings. I can't talk to family, because as we all know from expierence regaurding this stuff they're generally useless to you, unless your one of the lucky few that have accepting and understanding families of course. My parents recognize my CD'ing but don't like it. My dad has came out and said this. My mom has yet to say it herself. It's been a cold dead issue lately and everytime we manage to have a serious conversation about it my dad throws a hissy fit and as usual my mom cries. Can't talk to my roommates about it becaue I really don't like them. They break rules and I'm really the odd one in the apartment group. I don't even really like the school situation I'm in right now. No counselor's are at my college that can be useful to me. My roomamtes break rules and do things that would get us all in trouble and fined heavily by our apartments. If I tell the school, I may face retaliation from roomamtes, as it wont be hard at all to figure out who told. If I keep silent, they will eventually get caught and we all will get in trouble and have to pay fines, etc for it. Frankly, I cant wait to get caught just so I can cuss out the school admin and use that as an excuse to leave there for good.
Lately the program I'm in at school bores the living s**t out of me and it often hurts my head in the morning when I wake up just thinking about having to sit through the mind-numbing blandness of these classes for up to three hours at a time. Some mornings I wake up and just go right back to bed again, usually because I'm too tired and/or feel queezy,etc in my stomach about whatever problem in my life is currently bugging me. I really don't care for that school, yet I'm already 2 semesters in, so Im stuck as far as i can tell. As an added bonus for me, this school is out in the middle of nowhere, 100 miles from Austin, where my real life is. I swear the only real reason I go up to Waco anymore is because of my computer up there. So a simple trip to and from waco is 200 miles easy. This weekend in particular due to scheduling I get to go back and forth 3 times, befor Mon, for a grand total of 600miles in two days.
I cant talk about any of this stuff with my friends because Im sure they could either a: could care less, or b: be uncomfortable talking about my particular issues. If my parents find out about my current situation in school theyll most likely finish me off and take away this pc, claiming it's distracting mee to much from my studies. So if that happens, I have no damn clue what to do at that point. Im franky to scared and ashamed to consider it.
As for people telling me to just let these personal problems go, its not that simple. If itt was, believe me, theyd be gone long ago. These things cut real deep and hurt me inside. Lately I have been so anxious to solve these issues I often look at myself and fear Im becoming obsessed, which is what I dont want. But Im so hell bent on trying to get by these things lately it's been #1 on my mind. Currently my biggets issue is on the verge of being solved for good - i hope. Im waiting on a friend to send me something so I can get over this for good - an email address. Simple as that. Once I have this email address I can send this letter that explains my feelings to someone who I feel needs to hear them. Thats all it is, an email address. Last week I was told after I asked for it that I would have it that afternoon. Its seven days from that date now, and still nothing. Getting in contact with this friend has been extremely difficult these last days as well, making things even harder. I dont even feel good anymore about solving this because ive been waiting to do this for soo long now. This angers me now because the only way i feel that will put this problem behind me now is now full of angry feelings and resentment. So now I have no idea if this will even help me anymore, that is if i get the email address at all.
I ahve just spent the last week putting up with all this and within the last hour these feelings got out and i ended up destroying the old keyboard to this pc. i just got back with a new one and here i am now.
It just feels like when i tell people my feelings they just right them off, tell me something simple like "get over it" or just laugh and joke at me about them. It hurts.
Now lets take all these issues and combine them with my cd'ing. Lets also add in politics because theres really no escaping that nowadays anymore anyways.I used to be a democrat, but I really just gave up on both parties all together because they both disgust me soo much. Going with a third party is useless because they wont win anyways. Dont even get me tarted about religion or the war in iraq. I always find myself caught up in debates about how being gay is wrong, etc. There just doesnt seem to be any rest anymore.
nobody has to respond to this, i just wanted to get these feelings out because i really have no idea what to do now. I dont know if theres anything i can do now. I guess I can wait around for my "friend" to quit dragging thier ass around and get to helping me out in life for once. I'm more than sure my friend will fail me though in the end anyways.