Loud n' Proud? Or stealthy? Or neither?

[pocoyo]

Hello :happy:
I've been thinking about transpeople and how we interact with others today and it got me wondering:

Are you loud and proud about your trans status?
Do you share the information around? Do people know?

Or do you keep it very much to yourself because it is no-one elses business?
(And are you worried about transphobia?)

Or do you just tell those you feel need to know?

Thanks

[suzy]

Guess this really doesn't apply to me cuz, I'm not a transpeople.... I don't think +? ....but as far as my CD behavior......My wife knows and as far as I know, no one else and I want it to remain that way!:D

[Kieron Andrew]

im a mixture of loud & proud and i tell those important to me, it depends on each individual situation, but ive never denied it yet, but you knew that anyway:D

[Siobhan Marie]

I'd have to say that I'm loud and proud. I am who I am, I am what I am and I really don't care who knows and that'll never change. I've lived a lie for long enough and it stops. Right now.

:hugs: Anna Marie x

[Kieron Andrew]

I've lived a lie for long enough and it stops. Right now.
thats my reason for being loud and proud

[CaptLex]

Well, I don't shout it from the rooftops, but I mention it when and where appropriate. And I'm very open about it but that doesn't mean I'll answer every rude question that comes my way. Mostly, though, the questions I get are not rude and people know that I'm happy to answer them, but if they're too personal I'll let them know. I think I've managed to open quite a few eyes and minds in the process. :happy:

[Sharon]

All of the above?

I'm honest about who I am, and have even been known to answer a question or two from sincere people, but I don't shout from the rooftops. First of all, I'm rather quiet by nature, so it's just not in me. But, also, and most relevant to me, it's no one's business but those with who I wish to share it with. It's not that I don't take pride in what I have accomplished so far, or in who I am, but I choose to make my statements in other ways.

[GypsyKaren]

I'm loud and proud! I have nothing to be ashamed of, and I really don't care what others think about me, but so far I've gotten back mostly positive feedback. Another thing is that I believe this is a good opportunity to educate people about us, so I don't hesitate to tell who I am.

Karen

[Calliope]

I'm either passing really well which just don't seem possible or else it's people aren't freaking about having a TS in the community. I would think it's obvious so I don't introduce myself as a TS. But I would - loud n proud.

[Stephenie S]

I think it would be hard to call me "loud and proud". I am proud. I try not to be too loud. It's not really ladylike.

I do not proclaim my status to the world. I do not want to. I DO answer all questions as honestly as I can. And, of course, I have to say things to some, such as the optomitrist when I go for new glasses, the SA in the store when I shop for a new bra or skirt, my hairdresser, my therapist, my electrologist, my neighbor as she is nosey and I wanted to get to her first.

So, many at work know because they want to know WHY am I: wearing earings, a cami under my shirt, a woman's watch, longish hair, a pink striped scarf, nail polish, etc. My wife has told several of her friends. My wife told a daughter-in-law. I told my sister.

So I am proud, and out, but I try not to be too loud. I want to eventually just blend in. Probably this is a dream, but hey, dreams are what the future is made of.

Lovies,
Steph

[Calliope]

I try not to be too loud. It's not really ladylike.


You know what works for you, but consider these (immortal) words from Joni Mitchell:


You've got to shake your fists at lightning
You've got to roar like forest fire;
You've got to spread your light like blazes
All across the sky.
They're going to aim the hoses on you
You show 'em you won't expire,
Not till you burn up every passion
Not even when you die;
Come on now
You've got to try.
If you're feeling contempt
Well then you tell it,
If you're tired of the silent night
Jesus, well then - you yell it!

Is Joni not very much a lady?

[joanlynn28]

Just say I am a little of all of the above, I am proud to be transgender, I am open about it to those that I trust, and do maybe try to hide it from transophobic people.

[Felix]

I think I am proud of who I am otherwise I wouldn't dress as male 24/7.

I don't shout it from the roof tops but I probably show it rather obviously as I dress like this all the time.

I tell those who are close to me and who I feel I can trust how I define myself.

I am a little worried about transphobia I guess cos I don't think I would leave the job I'm in cos everybody knows me for me and to have to go through all this again at a new place freaks me somewhat :eek: xx Felix :hugs:

[Deborah]

Everyone important knows. Other then that i'm stealthy.

[Stlalice]

Since all my family and friends outside of work know about my status and I live openly as a woman away from work you could say that I'm most definitely "out". But at the same time since I'm quite close to being able to take early retirement I'm "stealth" at work - dealing with all the hassles of being out at work just isn't worth the pain for the short time that is left before I can retire. Proud? Most definitely. I do peer counseling and presentations about transgender life through my church. Am I worried about being "outed" at work? No. If it happens, I'll deal with it - but I'm not going out of my way to make that happen. A compromise sure but one I can live with until I retire and start living full time for the RLT and later SRS if health and finance permit.

[Shellybean]

i stand 6'4" tall so there is no stealthy...lol. yes i am proud. i am thinking of telling everyone i am part masai..lol
hugz
michelle

[Charleen]

I ain't shouting it from the roof tops, but kinda whispering. My hair is long as are my nails which I keep polished, mascara always, filigree hoop earrings, multiple rings and a charm bracelet, perfume. This is constant whether I'm drab or fab.
I have told a few friends and their reaction was, "No s--t!"
Nothing has been said at work where I am Charlie. I'm sure they have noticed but have not said a word.
I am finally not ashamed of who I am. Big step that. Couldn't have got there without this forum, so thanks to one and all!
Love and xxxx, Lily

[pocoyo]

Hey thanks for all the cool answers everyone.
I am enjoying reading them and thinking about them.

[Marcie Sexton]

My wife and I both now support and let people who speak of CD/TGs in negative ways that they too are people, much like society itself...some good some bad...but all until proven other wise deserve equal treatment...

Marcie herself is still stealth, but working on ways to become more public...hard to be seen and accepted as a woamn at 6'7" though...

[Stephenie S]

Oh, Calliope, you are so right. Joni is soooo much a lady. I will read those words over and over.

Thanks
Stephenie

[Adam]

i am as stealthy as i can be i mean when i can of course freinds and family no though but new people i meet i dont and wont tell

[Kimberly]

Friends and family know. I consider myself "out" as transgendered - but I'm still in a process of getting to know what course of action to take with my life, whether transitioning is right for me and whether I should seek proffessional councilling to determine where I am at the moment.

My friends are very supportive, and I've gone out with my close friends as Kimberly... so doing well! :)

Out and proud; no other way!!

[btmgrl6]

So must wasted time that could have been well spent living my dream. Once I was out, and more or less comfortable with who I have become,it was like a revelation....This is me,I can do this! I can be the girl I've yearned to be for so long. I can come and go as I please work,play,travel...pass or don't pass,and the majority of folks that I encounter don't seem to give a hoot either way. it was like being re-born. total elation! Now..it's time to pass the info to my sisters:heehee: I climb up on the soapbox now and then,rant and rave a bit,and sometimes I need someone to shove me off. Because as I am sure someone is going to say... I can't,and I have my reasons. I can respect that. But for those of you who can. I say...GO FOR IT! What an incredible feeling of freedom. Kinda makes me feel like that lady who sings that "the hills are alive" song.......Julie Andrews I think. (The sound of Music) hee hee.


Steph