Going away...maybe permanently.

[malindaj007]

My wife found my clothes yesterday and everything exploded in my face. I tried to explain that I like to crossdress and that it didn't effect the way I felt about her but she wouldn't hear any of it. After hours of arguing and many tears she finally gave me an ultimatum: Either I leave "Malinda" and everything to do with her or she'd gone. I love my wife with all my heart and I would do anything for her. So I must say goodbye. Maybe in the future things will change.

Thank you for all your advice and support. I'm going to miss you girls.

Malinda

[27th Jennifer]

I'm sorry to hear that. Be good to her, and I wish you the best of luck!

[Wendy me]

sorry to hear that but as you know you just don't stop being a CD ... as it will come back good luck ..........

[noname]

So sorry to hear of this. Just make sure you make the right decision. If you feel you can live up to her expections and you feel it is reasonable, go with it. If not, perhaps she would be willing to go for cousiling with you? This may help her with some of the issues she has regarding CD. Just remember, you have one life to live. Life is a free gift for each of us, make sure you make the right choices.

[Julie York]

Just lie for a bit. Tell her what she wants to hear. Then she might be in a position to listen in say........ a year or so, when she thinks its her idea.


Yeah, I know all the PC stuff. Blah blah blah.

But the sensible approach is what I just said.

[Karren H]

Ouch!!!! Hope things trun around for you.... soon....

Karren

[Angie G]

Malinda sorry you have to go good luck hun :hugs:
Angie

[Wenda]

If you really and truly love your SO completely, then you need to back off, because that is what she needs. Once things have settled down, hopefully you can discuss this quietly and explore some options. All the best! w. :thumbsup:

[Daintre]

All I will say is good luck Malinda, take care.

[Kitty Sue]

I wish you both the best.

[GINA-CD]

I just don't know what to say, but wish with all my being things come out fine for your marriage.

[Andrea Nicole]

Malinda,
It sure doesn't look good. You weren't honest with her, and that's what marriage is about. Plus, the CD aspect will NEVER go away.
Either she accepts it after seroius & honest repore with her, or start looking for that liitle man with papers for you.
Andi ....

[marie354]

I agree with some of the others... Back off a bit. Stash your things somewhere safe and deal with your SO without any CDing for a while. Later on she may start asking the questions that most women ask and the discussions can begin again.

I wish you luck in whatever you decide.

Here... Have some :hugs:

[claireswife-gg]

Malinda,

Good luck :hugs: I hope you two can find a comfortable compromise.

[RobertaFermina]

That's gotta hurt Malinda !

I hope you can breathe your way through the pain and shock before figuring out what you really need to do.

Choices made under threat or ultimatum are seldom whole or good. You may make the same choices after calming down, and getting a hold of yourself, yet even if you do, the choices will have a chance to 'feel right'.

With all my care and best wishes,

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[jasmine57]

Malinda-
Sorry to hear about your problem. I wish you all the luck in your relationship. I've given up dressing for a SO. Be good to her if she makes you happy. Hope you're happy.
:love:
Jasmine

[MJ]

Malinda-
i am so sorry to hear this, but you are born this way you can't stop dressing it will come back stronger than before , you need to talk to her get some counseling , but this will never go away sorry to say this but you are in this for the rest of your life...
i wish you and yours well
good luck
hugs Marissa

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

Malinda...gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this... I'm literally about ready to cry over this news and I don't even know you. I guess part of me is afraid that I'll be given the same ultimatem at some point by my fiance who has just been a saint since she learned about my cross-dressing (and since I started again...I wasn't practicing when I told her). I'm really, really sorry to hear that you'll be going through this. Hopefully you and your wife can talk it over and she can eventually learn to accept this side of you.
I'll pray for you and your wife's unity, that you won't need to split or deny this aspect of your self, and for your wife's understanding...if you don't mind.
Please, be strong and don't deny yourself, but don't ignore your wife's feelings either. If she really loves you, she'll at least want to talk aobut it before asking you to stop cross-dressing (I agree with the ladies though, lay off it for a bit...) or leaving you entirely. Once the shock wears thin for the both of you I hope that you two will be able to have a long talk about this.
Good luck, Malinda - for you and your wife both.

[Sweet Susan]

You do what you must do. It's what you have to do.

[rachel_rachel]

It's good to see that you've made the correct choice.

I know that if i was faced with the same, i'd be gone too.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Malinda

Sorry to hear about your troubles

I would not give up just yet, you will have to discuss how you came to this point in your life at some time and this will give you the opportunity to explain.

Yes your can stop for a while, maybe even completely if thats what you really want, but it will most likely return, and you wil have to deal with it at some point

Best wishes for the future :hugs:

[Emily Ann Brown]

Malinda....

Been there done that one. Follow your heart. If you realize you made a bad choice choosing the wife you can change it down the road. But you won't be able to change later if you choose yourself.

If you need to chat for support in your decision I'm always here to encourage you.

Hugs,
Emily Ann

[Michelle 51]

Melinda I hope thing's work out for both of you Justabit

[Sweet Cindy]

Oh Malinda,
I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's my worst fear. But I would do the same in your situation. Good luck and hopefully a dialogue will begin once your wife starts to get over the shock.
All the best,
Cindy
:hugs:

[Lovely Rita]

Take care Malinda. I hope everything works out. If this is your decision you have 100 percent of my support.
Go and don't look back.

[Sharon]

Some people are capable of ending their crossdressing ways. In fact, we have had several long time members who have apparently done so successfully(at least to this point in tme). I think it comes down to exactly why a person crossdresses in the first place, and how strong a willpower they have. Hey, if I can quit smoking(2 packs per day for almost 40 years), then I don't see why it isn't possible to do this also.

Whatever your future holds for you, Malinda, I hope only for your happiness. :hugs:

[almalove]

I'm wishing that things do work out, I hope you and your wife can save your marriage, I belive it is the most important, I can not say that I know what you'er going throuth ,but just thinking about it trerrifies me , my advise would be to promise that you will try your best ( and really do ( a CD asking another CD to stop, do I look like a hipocrite? well yes I do , and I can not help it just like I can help being a CD ) try ) may be if she sees that you are trying and ask her to help you she will be more understanding of CDs , well I wish you the best and good luck.

Almalove.

[Marcie Sexton]

It is always sad to lose any one, but as most of us would do we would choose our family to "try" to make things work...

I hope things work out for you...