Just wondering - fantasies about men?

[tanya50]

I was wondering if othr girls have fantasies about men when dressed up? I do and was wondering if I was strange or what.

[Karren H]

I don't.....

I have fantasy's about shopping... hehe

Love Karren

[joperinal]

As for me I have no fantasies of men when dressed up. I am a straight guy, liking girls. When I am dressed up as Jo and look in the mirror I get "excited" to what I see in the mirror :heehee:

[Vicky_Scot]

Nope sorry, never had any fantasy's about men and if I ever did I would be really concerned.

[Mariah]

yes ;)

but then again I'm special lol.

hopes to you all
keris

[Angie G]

Not me but if you want to then thats OK :hugs:
Angie

[trannie T]

Fantasies are fun, the only one I ever follow up on is wearing women's clothing. When I'm out dressed though, I'm still checking out the girls not the guys.

[Sara Kat]

I was wondering if othr girls have fantasies about men when dressed up? I do and was wondering if I was strange or what.
I do. And no it isn't strange at all. Whenever I'm dressed up I always think about a real manly man making a woman out of me. Hopefully, I'll get to live it soon!

[Rachel75]

I'd like to say no, because I never have, but that being said, I think I'm in a much different place mentally when I'm dressed, so it probably wouldn't be outside the realm of possibility.

[Eva Diva]

No - I'm immune to the appeal of guys. Other CDs, however..... :love: I'm sure that as a group we exhibit the full range of desires.

[btmgrl6]

Yeppers.......love em! Nothing like being treated like a lady, by a big strong mascuilne man!


Steph:thumbsup:

[ReginaS]

This is confusing to me....when I look at men there is no attraction at all. When I look at beautiful women I often have the mixed experience of being attracted & at the same time wanting to look "pull off their look" for myself as well.
There are times though, when I am dressed and feeling sexy that the idea of turning on a man, as a sexy womean, is arounsing. I do not think I could ever act on any of these thoughts as overall the idea of any physical level of intimacy with a man is repulsive. I this this is best left to the area of the ultimate passing fantasy that will *most likely* never happen rahter than a sexual fantasy.

[bgirl123]

hi,i feel the same way when dressed,i feel extremly attracted to me and have strong fantisies of being made love to.your not the only one sweetheart and guess when we dress and the better we look and the sexier we feel is going to want us to be the real woman that we are trying to be.i also felt strange like you said you feel,and i still havent acted on my urge yet but cant wait to find the right guy to try it.

[Beth5083]

I often fantasis about men, but have yet to act on it

[PatriciaCD]

I love being able to be treated like a lady by a sexy man.

[kerrianna]

Yup, and ONLY when dressed or thinking in femme mode. To me it's not about the men, it's about how they help me feel like a woman.

I've actually had these fantasies for a long time - like a lot of fantasies they seem better off left that way - mainly because it's not very realistic for me to enact them and keep the guy a faceless entity which is what I need. It would be a pretty selfish act by me, although I know lots of guys wouldn't mind. :heehee: :D

[Kate Simmons]

Trust me, guys are guys, they are not going to change any time soon.Guys are pretty much interested in just one thing. I know very well, since I am one.:happy:

[Sugar01]

It's not the least bit strange, and certainly no more odd than all of us wearing women's clothes in the first place.

I have a 'sugar daddy' that I see when I'm dressed. I get a much bigger kick going out with him than I do dating women as a guy. But that being said, I wouldn't want to give up one or the other.

[Deborah]

Fantasies about men yes. It doesn't really matter whether i'm dressed or not as i'll only be with one if i was a GG.

[SiSi]

I always fantasize about men, but I've always had boyfriends. My relationships are always monagamous and always safe.

:yrtw: :doll:

[Suzie S.]

I have had fantasies about what it would be like if I were a real woman, with the correct 'plumbing'. I think it is just part of the total experience of cding for me, to experience everything about being female. It is just fantasy, and I couldn't/wouldn't ever act upon it. I'm 101% hetero here.

[aka.laura]

I do have phantasies about men when I'm dressed up but I don't think I will ever really actually do something with a guy. Looking at "handsom" men doesn't turn me on. I had a brief thing with a lovely cd once but then I sort of chickened-out when she wanted more, CD's turn me on very much though. Phantasies are OK I think. My CDing turns on my wife and she once told me she actually had phantasies about being a man and wanting to make love to me like a man.

[Alyshia121]

No, no, no, your fine. There's nothing wrong with your feelings. It's hard to put a label on sexual desires. Sex is so extremely taboo that pretty much anything goes. Except bestiality, that's just weird and nasty :tongueout

[TraceyDresses]

I have never seen a man that excites me in a sexual way. GG's and other gurls is another story all together.

[shericd7]

Yes I think it is all right to have such fantasy's when dressed,but to experence the feel of a man is what I enjoy the most.

[jasmine57]

I don't think it's strange at all. I have the same fantasies. Not that I'm normal by any means.
:love:
Jasmine

[Janet99cd]

I do when i am dressed. It's what my fem side requires.

[Sally24]

Nothing wrong or weird with that at all. Alot of us have fantasies involving men. I personally enjoy some male attention while dressed but wouldn't take that any further than dancing, talking, and flirting. It's not a sexual thing so much as a socializing/interacting thing. Now the actual fantasies, those are another thing where anything goes! But isn't that what a fantasy is?

Sally

[jennifer beckinsale]

i am happily married and never thought about men.i do dream about being fully dressed to the nines,strappy open toe heels,short skirt tight blouse,suntan pantyhose and being paraded around with a man with money.i guess he would expect sex at some time.if that is the case i would want to be taken like a woman.

[marissa_darling]

Yeah, ocassionally.:o

[az_azeel]

No... never or ever will have....

[Eugenie]

Yes I have a fantazy of being with a man. But I am extremely romantic about it: I would like that man to be a gentleman, attentionate, courting me very politely, as should a gentleman with a lady. I would like him to take me to a nice restaurant and to be well educated as to have a nice conversation during the meal. He may have to invite me several times before anything more intimate starts between us. We would have friendly walks along a nice riverside and discuss about so many things. He would have to know when to become more of a lover with me and be very delicate when taking me in his arms for the first time and attempting to kiss me. After all this I may feel good enough to accept being seduced and abandon myself to his desires.

Well; all that is very unlikely to happen.. No?

That's why it is called a fantazy...:happy:

Eugenie

[AllyM]

Tanya, no, I do not fantasize about men at all. I have no interest in men at all. You should not feel strange either. It is just something you may be interested in. No big deal.

[Kitty Sue]

Yup I do. Men and women both.

[tall sam]

Count me in. I would love to be chatted up and spend the night with a man but only in dressed mode. It will probably never happen though - reality strikes!

[Colleentg]

I don't.....

I have fantasy's about shopping... hehe

Love Karren


Just what she said, but added with "just give me the credit cards and no one gets hurt"!

[danielle_from_cal]

Yes I have a fantazy of being with a man. But I am extremely romantic about it: I would like that man to be a gentleman, attentionate, courting me very politely ... He would have to know when to become more of a lover with me and be very delicate when taking me in his arms for the first time and attempting to kiss me. After all this I may feel good enough to accept being seduced and abandon myself to his desires.

Eugenie

For me? Like Eugenie said. But, that's all a fantasy now. Sigh.

[RandiCD78209]

I do fantasize of dating a man when dressed. Like others it is in a romantic way. I'd like to be pampered, lusted after & seduced - much like a high school girl going to her first PROM. If treated like that I'd feel obligated in putting out, after all my man will have earned a treat!

[CindyT]

I fantasize about an encounter, but what I dream about is a lesbian encounter! Like an encounter with another woman who assumes the dominant role.

[silkybillie]

:p Of course!!

[Sugar01]

I do fantasize of dating a man when dressed. Like others it is in a romantic way. I'd like to be pampered, lusted after & seduced - much like a high school girl going to her first PROM. If treated like that I'd feel obligated in putting out, after all my man will have earned a treat!

Exactly! Of course, there's no shortage of guys who just want one thing from you, so it's nice to find someone who doesn't mind working for it a bit.

[paulaN]

I fantasize about it even if I'm not dressed.

[Casey Morgan]

Yup, and ONLY when dressed or thinking in femme mode. To me it's not about the men, it's about how they help me feel like a woman.

I've actually had these fantasies for a long time - like a lot of fantasies they seem better off left that way - mainly because it's not very realistic for me to enact them and keep the guy a faceless entity which is what I need. It would be a pretty selfish act by me, although I know lots of guys wouldn't mind. :heehee: :D

:yt: These are fantasies I have that will probably never be played out in real life. But I have them, and I enjoy having them.

Then too, I have this one fantasy about being the dictator of a small island country. Eh, fertile minds are bound to create fantasies.

[Xandra]

This is something that confused me for a long time - primarily because I attempted to deny it - but, yes, I often fantasize about being with a cross dresser; on the other hand, a man (who looks like a man) does nothing for me.

[Ellie C]

never have had and never will , g g's float my boat ;) , specially my numer 1 fantasy , w b :love:

[Christina Nicole]

Men are disgusting. My fantasy is a Sunseeker Portofino 53, which is, of course, properly referred to as "she."

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

[RobertaFermina]

I don't have fantasies about men.

If a decent fellow asks for a dance, I gladly agree.

If he leads well, I get the treat of letting go and following, which is a delightful feminine experience.

I don't close the door that something could develop from there, conversation, flirtation. The chances of proceeding beyond flirtation are pretty remote, magic and chemistry is required, of course.

I do believe in magic :be:

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Mistybtm]

all the time when dressed and have been with a few and want more :)

[EricaCD]

I don't but there is nothing particularly strange about it. It's a pretty common feeling among CDs.

[jsarah]

I do quite often. I am most definatly bi and have had some experiences but the real fantasy is a REAL date..REAL romance and REAL love making...not just a romp in the sack and a so called "hook up". I have kind of tried to take some steps towards it but then I keep getting nervous and chicken out.

Someday though I'll get there if mr right comes along :)

That said though I still have fantasies about women too, which is why I know I'm bi :)

[Myst]

I have had some fantasies, but only with guys that are also crossdressers. I don't think I'd ever act on it, I am too attracted to women, but I guess it would all depend on the situation. It has been on my mind, and its got me a bit confused. Am I bi? Am I straight? I don't really know! :p

But one thing I do fantasize about to have a pajama party-type of gathering with other crossdressers... just like the GG's have! :heehee:

Myst :star:

[Sugar01]

Men are disgusting. My fantasy is a Sunseeker Portofino 53...

Yeah, but it's easier to get a guy than a yacht. =]

[Eva Diva]

I have had some fantasies, but only with guys that are also crossdressers. I don't think I'd ever act on it, I am too attracted to women, but I guess it would all depend on the situation. It has been on my mind, and its got me a bit confused. Am I bi? Am I straight? I don't really know! :p

But one thing I do fantasize about to have a pajama party-type of gathering with other crossdressers... just like the GG's have! :heehee:

Myst :star:



Pajama party? pillow fight! :D





And then they all kiss. :kissing:

[JennaKnots]

I personally am only attracted to women when in either mode...but have thought there were some real attractive CD's around. Figure that one out.

I think it's great that you feel ok bringing it up here. A lot of CD's get freaked out at the very thought of a question like that...bottom line is, this can be a grey area for a lot of folks. Fantasy doesn't necesarily indicate reality and eve if it does, who cares? There's nothing wrong with being straight, gay, bi or any combination of. So thanks for your honesty.

[Robyn2006]

I know most here find it enough to just be dressed and feeling the glory of being fem - of course, it is far more than that for many- but for me when the lipstick hits my lips (always my last stroke of femininty, completely taking me from here to there, as it were), I'm completely transformed and have all the desires of any woman. Really, I don't understand the statisfaction of being fem without having that tug of being a real life as a woman. God, to kiss a man? To feel his lips peal off from my lipstick...? What could be more wonderful???

Gay? Hardly! When dressed it is compelely a heterosexual thing... The morning after, we might have to talk.... : )

xxxooo
Robyn

[JennaKnots]

pajama party sounds fun ;)

[mona lisa]

I think I explained it adequately in this thread (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?p=648307#post648307) (at least I hope I did).

[AERIN]

Yes, and fantasies is all they will ever be. I do enjoy the teasing and banter though. When I am out on the town it is just for me. I do avoid most sticky situations. I donlt mind an admirere or two and I love converasation. Actually no one has ever approached me in that way. LOL

[cd_luvr_2004]

I don't know if your fantasies are unusual, but ohh how we admirers are grateful for those of you who enjoy allowing a man to take you out, show you off, and experience all of the delights of the sort of special relationship. Nothing is more delightful than spending an evening out with a beautiful woman; dancing, dining, laughing... and seeing the look on other's faces as they realize that I am the lucky guy she will be going home with.

I take it back... the one thing more delightful is being intimately engaged with a woman who wants to be appreciated; and then enjoying the pleasure of that something special extra!

Enjoy who you are and don't deny what you feel!

[Sue Too]

I don't think your strange at all. When I am en femme I have thoughts about men that never enter my mind when in drab. Really it is kind of fun to let my imagination run free.

Huggs,

Susan

[SissyJackie]

Not at all interested in men until I put on a dress then " :devil: with a blue dress on" although my favorite colors are pink, red and black

[Syuviel]

*giggle* all myt fantasies are about guys ^_^

but i very well might be the only gay crossdresser here, so im not sure how much it counts.

[Brianna Lovely]

When I'm in drab, I like men, but when I'm dressed, I LOVE men. I'll admit, I'm a terrible tease, but I could fall in love with the right man.

I've never been with a TG, but I think we could have some tender and loving time togeter.

[MrsDiane]

Syuviel, you are not the only gay crossdresser here

When I am dressed I want to be with a man sexualy

[Christina Nicole]

Yeah, but it's easier to get a guy than a yacht. =]

It's a fantasy. If I'm going to dream, I'm going to dream big!


I don't know if your fantasies are unusual, but ohh how we admirers are grateful for those of you who enjoy allowing a man to take you out, show you off, and experience all of the delights of the sort of special relationship. Nothing is more delightful than spending an evening out with a beautiful woman; dancing, dining, laughing... and seeing the look on other's faces as they realize that I am the lucky guy she will be going home with.

I take it back... the one thing more delightful is being intimately engaged with a woman who wants to be appreciated; and then enjoying the pleasure of that something special extra!
and

I do fantasize of dating a man when dressed. Like others it is in a romantic way. I'd like to be pampered, lusted after & seduced - much like a high school girl going to her first PROM. If treated like that I'd feel obligated in putting out, after all my man will have earned a treat!

No. If one has the mind of a woman, then one has the mind of a woman 100% of the time. It's not switched on and off by the changing of ones clothes. You're also probably TS. Intimacy is emotional, intellectual, and physical. If the physical parts are male then one is not engaging in the physical act as a woman.

Regards,
Christina Nicole

[Kathrynn]

No i don't have fantasies about men ..... i have a real one, who treats me like a lady. He actually opens my car door, and other doors when we are out.
And you know he actually likes to go shopping with me. We have gone to the casinos together and yes i do go enfemme or as we drag queens say "in face".
He has come to a few of my shows. He actually gets a little nervous when i am am between shows talking with the other people hussling a little to get a better tip when i am performing.
What a man i have......
Kathrynn:hugs:

[LoriFlores]

I would much rather be in the company of a woman. However, I do fantasize about experiencing everything there is about being and living as a female.

[Kathryn Philips]

My state of mind also transforms when I dress but not enough to alter my sexual orientation.

[sissyjoanne]

I don't think it is strange at all.
If you had asked me this question a couple of years ago I would have said no, however,I have found myself fantasising about men more and more over the past few months. I think its because I have accepted to myself what I am and not supressing my feelings of wanting to be femenine any more.
I think to be attractive to a real man and turn him on would make me feel very feminine.

[christiecd]

I don't think this has anything to do with my dressing, but I have to admit being curious. What's strange is that I've never been attracted to any male in particular, ever. I have a great girlfriend right now, though, and I am way more than happy with that .

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

There are times I find myself sexually attracted to men (especially to other CDs) but this doesn't necessarily occur when I'm dressed up. This attraction can occur at any time. I have even had fantasies about men (again, especially about CDs).
Despite this, I would generally say I'm straight; that is - I prefer GGs over men, but I acknowledge that a part of me is attracted to men, and I guess that's alright by me.
I mean, I think it is strictly a sexual attraction for me, and not an emotional one. If I were ever to pursue my interest in men it would probably only be for sexual gratification - as such I'd probably be looking for a one-night stand and not a relationship.
That's why I wouldn't say I'm gay, or even bi, becasue I feel (and correct me if I'm wrong, girls) that being gay or bi goes beyond who you want to have sex with, but is more concerned about who you want to have an emotional attachment to. If you're a man and you feel more attracted (sexually and emotionally) to men, per se, you're probably gay. If it's to women, then you're probably straight. Just because you have fantasies about men doesn't mean you're gay. I do and I'm not gay.
No, I may be attracted to men at times, but I'm straight. I love women, I would prefer having sex with women, I love my fiance, and I couldn't see myself living the homosexual lifestyle.

Great post Tanya! And don't worry - you're not wierd. I am!

[ronna]

Well, now, this seems pretty obvious!
Gurls will be gurls, and they seem to like girls, and gurls, and the girlier the better. If only guys could be girls. Wait! They can, can't they?

[Sejd]

Good question, but think about this. Who gives you the most compliments when you actually go all the way and dress up like a woman? Women!!!!
It's not the men who sees you, cause they have no clue to begin with, I know cause I'm one. So why bother???? women will compliment you on anything which is cool, or sweet, or stylish, whereas men has now clue at all and hardly even notice you. A short while ago, I was at a party, dressed as usual as Sejd, and a friend of mine (a man) looked at me and said: To me you are still a guy in a skirt. He still had no clue as to what was going on and I had to pull myself together to educate him in a kind and friendly way about how transexuals actually feel. Waiting for men to turn you on, quite frankly my dear, I think it's a waste of time.
hugs
Sejd

[cindychan]

I fantasize about wonderwoman and amazons not hairy men. he he

[Laurie909]

I don't have fantasies about men.....but I do have fantasies about other crossdressers. Mainly the attractive ones.

[Steff26]

No, you are not the only gay cd here. I am with you on that.

[Marcie Sexton]

Nope, nada, no way...

Should I ever, which at my age is very doubtful transition, I would still perfer girls...something about that part of a male just doesn't agree with me, funny part is I have one...and...willing to donate it to whom ever might be interested...

[StephanieH]

Not here, just enjoy the sensation of being someone I'm not supposed to be - if that made any sense. :happy:

[Kerrie Sifton]

I think that all of us have a variety of fantasies. I love the the feminine look. and if the girl happens to be a CD, oh well, I like suprises!! Did I ever tell you about the gurls in Montreal. They were beautiful.:hugs:

[susan lewis]

i did for a long time but finally acted on those fantasies, the few experiences I have had with men have ben wonderful, the men have treated me as a lady and i found being held and kissed by a man to be wonderful

[Reneecdinphose]

Any Cd's that fantizies about men , WANT MEN, and in any relm, wouldn't that constitute as you being "GAY", I figure, how about you "Transgender" and transform yourself into the woman that you want to be, and take it like a woman, and get on with you life, don't waste a REAL woman's life for a man that fantizies over "****ING SHIT" sorry.... it is what it is...
Not into gay men
A Cd's wife, that fantaizies over...... "Me"

[MsJanessa]

Do I have fantasies about men? Well yes, and it usually involves Me wielding a whip--lol

[MsJanessa]

Any Cd's that fantizies about men , WANT MEN, and in any relm, wouldn't that constitute as you being "GAY", I figure, how about you "Transgender" and transform yourself into the woman that you want to be, and take it like a woman, and get on with you life, don't waste a REAL woman's life for a man that fantizies over "****ING SHIT" sorry.... it is what it is...
Not into gay men
A Cd's wife, that fantaizies over...... "Me"

And is there something wrong with being "GAY"?

[Nicole]

Yes, guilty as charged. But I appreciate beauty in many forms so it all runs together anyway. :heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

And is there something wrong with being "GAY"?Not that I know of, Hon. The way I see it is this way: Gay means happy and happy means gay. So if CDing makes you happy, I guess it means it makes you gay. If you say no, then I guess CDing doesn't make you happy and therefore you are not gay. So, what is the point of CDing if it does not make you happy(or gay)? Some are, some aren't , who am I to judge? They are all my friends regardless.;) :happy:

[Reneecdinphose]

.A Gay man ... only hurts himself from hiding.....

IS there something wrong with being gay ???
Most gay men ... well don't like Cd's, TG's or Tv's they would rather sit there and chuckle at you then, ask you for a date ...
a gay man has a better chance

[CaptLex]

Any Cd's that fantizies about men , WANT MEN, and in any relm, wouldn't that constitute as you being "GAY", I figure, how about you "Transgender" and transform yourself into the woman that you want to be, and take it like a woman, and get on with you life, don't waste a REAL woman's life for a man that fantizies over "****ING SHIT" sorry.... it is what it is...Not into gay men
A Cd's wife, that fantaizies over...... "Me"


A Gay man ... only hurts himself from hiding..... IS there something wrong with being gay ??? Most gay men ... well don't like Cd's, TG's or Tv's they would rather sit there and chuckle at you then, ask you for a date ... a gay man has a better chance

I'm not sure what you're saying. Do you mean that a CD that fantasizes about men should just transition? If so, that doesn't make sense. :eek: It may be true that most gay men aren't interested in CDs, but some are, and other men are too.

[SAMANTHA SIREN]

HYE TANYA; In answer to your question as to whether or not you can get attracted to some sexy male when you are in fem' garb, I can only say that when I am dressed up with my high heels and make-up on and I sit sort of feminine with my legs showing underneath a very long graceful dress. I do get attracted by the idea of having a man fancy me. I don't think there is anything wrong with that even though I am a very hetro orientated male. I think one's emotional needs and desires should not be restricted by the fact that you are one sex and someone else is another and that you should allow yourself to even experiement with a chosen lover of the same sex if that is what you really feel like indulging in. After all when you dress up you are more or less taken over by your feminine side, so what is wrong if you fancy a male when you are in your female mode?

Darling just be yourself and be happy!!:hugs:
Love and Kisses,
Samantha Siren.xx
If you would like to chat about this my e-mail is AMPTY17@AOL.COMxx

[Brianna Lovely]

Not that I know of, Hon. The way I see it is this way: Gay means happy and happy means gay. So if CDing makes you happy, I guess it means it makes you gay.

That's so funny. A number of years ago, I was at a dear friends house, having coffee, when his daughter called. After some idle chit-chat, his daughter said, "Daddy, are you Gay?"

Eddie chuckled, then said, "Well, honey, I've always thought of myself, as a rather happy fellow."

Gosh, I loved that man.
If he was still alive, he'd take me out, when I'm dressed, anytime.
Damn, I'm starting to cry.
Bye.

[karynspanties]

Yes, I do have those fantasies. My best friend from childhood new I dressed. We would get together and he would dress me in my moms stuff. Started when we were like 8 or 9. Then when we were in our teens, we started having sex while I was dressed. That's when I felt most like a woman. We were lovers until he was killed on 9/11. I am the god father of his kids and he was the same for mine. I miss him terribly. I MISS YOU RUSS!

[Ms Alison Janes]

It would be interesting to have a poll about this.

[Reneecdinphose]

I'm friends with allot of GAY men, and to be honest, the gay men that I assoicate with do not dress up, they are solid in their sexuality and known that they want "Other men", when I talk of them about Cd's changing and becomming gay, they laugh. I've gone into clubs with them and they sit and make fun of the drag queens and the crossdressers, for attempting to be something that they are not,. But in the same recourse I understand what their desire is, "Hello" I'm married to a cross-dresser so I understand the need to be pretty, but when they change their sexual preference for the reason of costume play, it's gone to far. "GAY" men like "Men" not women, and any man that dresses in drag, wouldn't attract such a "Man's Man", they'll attract nothing other then what they are and what they are reselembling.
Gay men are attracted to men, not women.... not cross dressers... "MEN"
His Wife.

[CaptLex]

I'm friends with allot of GAY men, and to be honest, the gay men that I assoicate with do not dress up, they are solid in their sexuality and known that they want "Other men", when I talk of them about Cd's changing and becomming gay, they laugh. I've gone into clubs with them and they sit and make fun of the drag queens and the crossdressers, for attempting to be something that they are not,. But in the same recourse I understand what their desire is, "Hello" I'm married to a cross-dresser so I understand the need to be pretty, but when they change their sexual preference for the reason of costume play, it's gone to far. "GAY" men like "Men" not women, and any man that dresses in drag, wouldn't attract such a "Man's Man", they'll attract nothing other then what they are and what they are reselembling.
Gay men are attracted to men, not women.... not cross dressers... "MEN"
His Wife.
Whose wife?

Well, sweetie, I'm not exactly a stranger to gay men (and what they like) myself, but if there's one thing I've learned in this CD/Trans world it's that there's an exception to every rule and nothing is carved in stone. BTW, it sounds as if your friends could use a lesson in tolerance and acceptance - kind of sad considering gay men want those same things.

[Kate Simmons]

As Captlex said, there are always exceptions to the "rules". That is what is so nice about the human species--the diversity. I have several gay friends who like CD's and have dated them. No one will always act a certain way, just because it's considered the "norm". No one can make me, for instance, dress up like a woman to express my feminine feelings. I do it because I choose to do so and when I choose to do so but I'm not limited to being en femme to express those feelings because I'm always myself. The challenge is always to be yourself no matter what the seeming odds. That is the true test of character.:happy:

[tvbeckytv]

I'm friends with allot of GAY men, and to be honest, the gay men that I assoicate with do not dress up, they are solid in their sexuality and known that they want "Other men", when I talk of them about Cd's changing and becomming gay, they laugh. I've gone into clubs with them and they sit and make fun of the drag queens and the crossdressers, for attempting to be something that they are not,. But in the same recourse I understand what their desire is, "Hello" I'm married to a cross-dresser so I understand the need to be pretty, but when they change their sexual preference for the reason of costume play, it's gone to far. "GAY" men like "Men" not women, and any man that dresses in drag, wouldn't attract such a "Man's Man", they'll attract nothing other then what they are and what they are reselembling.
Gay men are attracted to men, not women.... not cross dressers... "MEN"
His Wife.


we are not all pretending to be anything other than what we are.
and as a GAY transvestite, i can tell you i am quite able to attract the opposite of what i am.
oh, im also very comfortable with the mannor in which i take my man... you must have been doing it wronge

[Fresh_as_Candy]

I often have fantasies about men... but I have them about women as well:heehee: hehe

[Dixie]

I considered myself to be very hetero, but when I dress as a woman my wife introduced me to anal sex. I have never had sex with a man dressed as a woman but I do fantasize about it. My wife has been encourageing me to go ahead and do it, it's a turn on for her, so we have a few times with me in drab, I find when in drab I only want her to do it not guys, but when dressed I want both.

[pocoyo]

Reneecdinphose.....

I'm not sure I even understand your initial post.

But if you want to be part of a transgendered community like this.... I suggest that you learn some tolerance, and open-mindedness and to realise that nothing is set in stone where gender and sexuality are concerned.

Most of the people here are very sensitive to others and know how important it is to listen to each other and understand and not to make sweeping generalisations.

Gender and sexuality are two distinct, seperate things (although they can and do overlap) and that is a fact.

[cdjoanne]

i often fantasize about men and wonder what it would be like to be treated like a lady. i find the thought of being taken by another man or cder very sexy and exciting. feel free to e-mail me if you feel the same way.

[LoriFlores]

I think that we are understanding this question in different ways. My fantasizing is not about having sex with a man while I'm dressed, in that case I remain interested in women.

I do fantasize of having vaginal sex with a man (my vagina) with me as a GG or TS. I also think that our urges would be much different under the effect of estrogen rather than testosterone. I dream of being a woman and doing everything that a woman does and experiences (except maybe becoming pregnant).

[NatieBe]

I must say I too have desires when I transform, but only then. I have had an experience with a man when young, it was rather fun.. It does seem normal to me. NatieBe

[Margie]

I have no thoughts or desires about men. When I'm dressed I'm a lesbian all the way. I simply adore women and everything they stand for, plain and simple.

[Paula T]

about this. I was watching TV the other night while dressed enfemme and Jennifer Lopez was in the movie and I just kept smiling all the time she was onscreen. Translation I love women BUT I admit to having attractions to what I call attractive CD gals. I don't know why and don't care I just do. And when dressed it might be fun to go out on a date with a decent guy who treated you with respect. Dining dancing and maybe if the chemistry was right even sex. I don't know. As far as being atracted to men while in drab NO WAY You explain it I can't. :o

[kerrianna]

Any Cd's that fantizies about men , WANT MEN, and in any relm, wouldn't that constitute as you being "GAY", I figure, how about you "Transgender" and transform yourself into the woman that you want to be, and take it like a woman, and get on with you life, don't waste a REAL woman's life for a man that fantizies over "****ING SHIT" sorry.... it is what it is...
Not into gay men
A Cd's wife, that fantaizies over...... "Me"
:OMG: OMG I'm gay! Who knew? I'd better go and tell my wife. Thanks for enlightening me Renee. :rolleyes:

:Pfft: :tth:

[Dixie]

Well I must be gay to then. I better break it to my wife, She love it!! She likes it when I am with a man, can't wait to do it dressed as a girl. I don't care to do it in drab. I just said I was Gay,..oh no I have been labeled, what am I gonna do????AAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH:eek:

Geez get with the times.:D

[Brianna Lovely]

Well I must be gay to then. I better break it to my wife, She love it!! She likes it when I am with a man, can't wait to do it dressed as a girl. I don't care to do it in drab. I just said I was Gay,..oh no I have been labeled, what am I gonna do????AAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH:eek:

Geez get with the times.:D

I think this is a funny thread,
Just sitting hear reading some posts and thought of the irony of it all.

Years ago, in the USA, Gay men who felt feminine, wore dresses and skirts, lipstick and wigs. After Stonewall, Gay people wanted to be accepted by "society", so they started wearing clothes like everyone else. This trend, to be politically correct and "accepted", has led to dressing in drab and "blending in" with the masses.

So, Gay people have ended up being every where, but invisible at the same time.

I recently read some comments made by twenty something Gay men in New York City, of all places. They where upset because it's getting so hard to distinguish between Gay and straight men at the local taverns.

Seems that so many straight men are dressing in the "metro-sexual" style, semi-fem, and the Gay people keep hitting on guys who turn out to be straight and or married. This has resulted in many rejections, confusion and hurt feelings, not to mention a few punches being thrown.

So, in 2007, Gay men dress drab and CDs dress-up, giggle.

So what?

As far as sexual desires goes, if you're comfortable with yourself, then do what you like.
Explore, feel, love, share and enjoy life.

[sasha29]

Yes I have fantasies about men. I think this is because I consider myself preparing for SRS later on in life.
I have been diagnosed as a man in a womans' body on more than one occasion.

However, I KNOW I am bi-sexual.

I consider myself very kinky and would not want a romantic meeting. I like to get right to the sex and skip the B.S. that comes with it.

Sasha

[tanya3]

yes

[Kate Simmons]

:OMG: OMG I'm gay! Who knew? I'd better go and tell my wife. Thanks for enlightening me Renee. :rolleyes:

:Pfft: :tth:Damn Kerri, now our secret is out for sure. No fun in that. Kind of like "Fried Green Tomatos". The secret of the good tasting barbacue was in the "sauce".:heehee:

[Kristen Kelly]

I fantasize about an encounter, but what I dream about is a lesbian encounter! Like an encounter with another woman who assumes the dominant role.

I would have to agree more with you Cindy. I also enjoy looking at tall women and how they pull off their look. I have no problem with cute guys either but find I like the feminine gay ones.

[pocoyo]

I don't have fantasies about men.....

*raises an eyebrow* From the looks of your signature, you do like them though. :o


:OMG: OMG I'm gay! Who knew? I'd better go and tell my wife. Thanks for enlightening me Renee. :rolleyes:

:Pfft: :tth:

Ahahaha! :lol2: :lol:

[bobbie_francis]

I'm with Karen. Guilty as charged. When dressed, and a strong man can dominate me and treat me like a woman. Yessssssssssss

Kisses,
Bobbie

[Stephanie Stephens]

I'm bi and once I went over to my male lovers house while wearing womens panties under my male clothes. I didn't know how he would respond to this but I wanted to take the chance. He took off my panties and laied me like a woman. That was a thrill I will never forget or regret.
Stephanie

[sherrygtv]

I am not sure Men are what I fantasize about, but a man on your arm does lend creedence to your femininity. I love women.So much so that I try to be one. Thats my best explaination.

[JoBeth401]

I have fantasies about men, and that's the first time I have ever said it! Don't have to be dressed, as it is seldom I get that chance, just have to be in that state of mind which is much of the time.

Doubt I will ever act on those feelings but something on me says, ya never know and I doubt I'd refuse the chance if it happened.

That feels nice to finally say it too! :blushing: Thank you

[Sallynyc]

I frequently fantasize about having a date with a man, and it's usually arranged by my mom or one of ther friends, since my mom, in my fantasy, is trying to make me, age 8 or 9 in the fantasy, become a girl, since she always wanted a daughter.Well, having me dressed at home, watching her getting dressed and putting on makeup, and having me wear some makeup, she has one of her friends sons ask me out. Wow! This is a turnon for me and the fantasy continues,,,, So , yes I do fantasize about male attention when dressed but have never had the experience
Hugs, Sally

[Dixie]

Jessie my wife is the same, I cannot believe the effect on her when she is just thinking about it. I know it will happen some day, I think I am ready. We did it once but I was in drab, wasn't bad but not what I expected kind of a let down, my wife however WOW she was excited beyond measure. I don't think that being Gay, Bi, OR Hetero is right wrong or otherwise IT JUST IS!!!:happy:

[lawnmanmo]

I don't know if your fantasies are unusual, but ohh how we admirers are grateful for those of you who enjoy allowing a man to take you out, show you off, and experience all of the delights of the sort of special relationship. Nothing is more delightful than spending an evening out with a beautiful woman; dancing, dining, laughing... and seeing the look on other's faces as they realize that I am the lucky guy she will be going home with.

I take it back... the one thing more delightful is being intimately engaged with a woman who wants to be appreciated; and then enjoying the pleasure of that something special extra!

Enjoy who you are and don't deny what you feel!

Yes CD lover
I also am an admirer who loves the CD lifestyle and the experience of enjoying the wonderful moments with a "special women" who enjoys being a women to the nines. I love to be out and about and enjoy all the things that man and women enjoy everyday but as you said, the thrill of knowing that we have this wonderful "secret" that only we two know. It really is something special.
Jerry

[Dixie]

Well Jessie it's a no glove no love world, as far as you being or not being ready i say "to thine own self be true..." ok maybe some else might have said to, but I really mean it:heehee:

[Tammy266]

HI Tanya I have the same fantasies as quite a few guys have seen me on cam and want to date me. I am bi but I am not really sure how much if that makes sense. I think I would love to have a guy touch me and feel me and caress me. I love to dress in 5" stilettos and seamed nylons so much and I know that it turns a lot of them on. One guy contacts me all the time and says whenever I am ready he is.Tammy266

[jennr88]

i have to say that I do have fantasies about men when I dress up,(i am bi though) I am too scared to persue them though, just as I am too scared to come out. But I do fantasize about men and I love it, it sucks though that I know I wont be able to do anything about it though:(

[Sweet Susan]

I'm friends with allot of GAY men, and to be honest, the gay men that I assoicate with do not dress up, they are solid in their sexuality and known that they want "Other men", when I talk of them about Cd's changing and becomming gay, they laugh. I've gone into clubs with them and they sit and make fun of the drag queens and the crossdressers, for attempting to be something that they are not,. But in the same recourse I understand what their desire is, "Hello" I'm married to a cross-dresser so I understand the need to be pretty, but when they change their sexual preference for the reason of costume play, it's gone to far. "GAY" men like "Men" not women, and any man that dresses in drag, wouldn't attract such a "Man's Man", they'll attract nothing other then what they are and what they are reselembling.
Gay men are attracted to men, not women.... not cross dressers... "MEN"
His Wife.

You really seem to be frightened by the whole thing. Are you really that worried that a gay man will run off with your husband? I don't think gay men are at all as simplistic as you describe them. I think they are as varied and complex as the rest of us. Meaning that if a gay man saw a man in a dress his desires would be compelled by his taste, not whether the man was in a dress or in a Brooks Brothers suit. It's freaked out women such as yourself that cause half of the anxiety in the world. The other half? Go figure.

[Vaerise]

To fantasize about woman takes a great deal of effort for me, which is something that I cannot do, although I still look at them.
Having fantasies about man comes naturally, I have so many guys I have a crush on that I wish I was a GG.

[Riema's here]

I do at times, especially when partying, :devil:

[Riema's here]

I'll tell you ladies my true fantasy is to partner up with one of you hotties, we must look our hottest right down the panties. Excuse me for being so brutally honest. Riema's here

[Kimberly]

I don't fantasise about men per se - I fantasise about sex as a woman.

I think you'll find a mixed response with this question, whoever you ask. But there's a clear distinction between fantasising about men and fantasising about experiencing sex as a woman.

xx

[jillafsdpko]

I'm a married xdresser who only started 2 years aged 43. Initially I was completely overcome by the sheer arousal of pulling on lingerie, then shoes, wig, lipstick and dark glasses. I've always thought I had nice legs and bum; I'm not hairy and em lucky to have a slim shapely build.
Soon after dressing up [in secret] I used to always feel so sexy that I often wondered whether another man would find me sexy? This was quite an extreme thought for a 'straight' guy, nevertheless, the fantasy persisted and grew.
I must admit that eventually I did play out the fantasy which I have to say dispelled a lot of anxiety about the whole thing.
I now dress less frequently; I'm not sure why. But I'm more fussy now getting rid of any gear which did'nt look right. But I still fantasise about men.
Rob [Jill]

[MsJanessa]

.A Gay man ... only hurts himself from hiding.....

IS there something wrong with being gay ???
Most gay men ... well don't like Cd's, TG's or Tv's they would rather sit there and chuckle at you then, ask you for a date ...
a gay man has a better chance

Actually Darling, more gay men are sexually attracted to Us T-Girls than are heterosexual women--GGs

[stephni]

I have been more and more attracted to men whether I'm dressed up or not. I find myself looking at guys butts and bulges way more than I am looking at women. Within the past year I'd say I've become alot more physically attracted to gay men and bi/gay crossdressers than women. Makes it hard when I'm married with kids, but I am what I am. Very bisexual with stronger tendencies towards men than women.
Maybe one day I will get the chance to live out my fantasies with a man or a crossdressing man and see if I really am what I think I might be. I can say that I idolized Farrah Fawcett when I was young and used to pretend I was her getting tied up by bad men.:blushing: I remember being in my parents garage when I was 12 or so. I tied myself up and had my mom's high heeled winter boots on and she walked out into the garage on me. Wow, did I just put that down in a post? :confused2:

~stephni

[MsJanessa]

I'll tell you ladies my true fantasy is to partner up with one of you hotties, we must look our hottest right down the panties. Excuse me for being so brutally honest. Riema's here

ditto darling

[Paula T]

Ditto again:D



ditto darling

[Xandra]

Like a few of the contributors to this thread I also fantasize about experiencing sex as a woman. I also fantasize about being with another cross dresser – and I never thought I’d say this, but while cross dressed, also with a man. It’s a curious fact that in daily life I see no attraction in men except as friends, and it may also seem rather odd that one can draw such fine distinctions but therein lays my authentic voice; furthermore, it feels really good to just acknowledge that!

Perhaps I am feeling more at ease with these feelings and thereby less inclined to want to pigeon-hole my sexuality. All this stated, I have only ever been with a woman and still have both feet firmly on the rear of the proverbial closet which seems like a good place to be at the moment. I suppose, therefore, I am bi with a stronger attraction to the feminine.

Anyone interested in discussing this topic further please feel free to PM or email me.

Alex

[kerrianna]

I idolized Farrah Fawcett when I was young and used to pretend I was her getting tied up by bad men.:blushing: I remember being in my parents garage when I was 12 or so. I tied myself up and had my mom's high heeled winter boots on and she walked out into the garage on me. Wow, did I just put that down in a post? :confused2:

~stephni

:D hehehe not only that Stephni but now we want to hear the rest of that story. :heehee:

[Dixie]

Yeah, what Kerrianna said, hehehe

[stephni]

:heehee: Well, as you can guess, it was awkward. But she didn't say much though, just looked at me a little funny and said I needed to get involved more with sports. :cheeky: I was never the sports type. I was always playing in fantasy land pretending I was in helpless situations and needed someone to rescue me. The more I look back on growing up, the more I realize I've always acted more feminine than masculine.
Now I'm wondering if it's obvious when I look at other guys crotches. I guess it doesn't really bother me though. Maybe I'll turn the right guy on enough that he'll come on to me, and with any luck he'll be a crossdresser too.:daydreaming:

[kerrianna]

Your mom didn't specify what KIND of sports you should get involved in! :D :p

I hope you get a chance one day to explore some more. Just be careful hon. :hugs: :love:

[stephni]

Your mom didn't specify what KIND of sports you should get involved in! :D :p

I hope you get a chance one day to explore some more. Just be careful hon. :hugs: :love:

Thanks girlie.:hugs: I will. Yeah, she didn't say. I should have signed up for field hockey and volleyball. She would have probably caught on then. :heehee:
I love your name. It is so pretty.:luvu:

[deniedtoo]

I was always playing in fantasy land pretending I was in helpless situations and needed someone to rescue me.

That has some strong implications of a bondage-type fantasy :chained: :dom: ;)

As for me, I have practiced only hetero sex, but certainly have had all of the fantasy thoughts: women, men, CD's, Pre-Ops, Post-Ops, etc etc... I guess I'm saying that at least in my fantasyland I'm Try-sexual.

Denied

[stephni]

That has some strong implications of a bondage-type fantasy :chained: :dom: ;)

As for me, I have practiced only hetero sex, but certainly have had all of the fantasy thoughts: women, men, CD's, Pre-Ops, Post-Ops, etc etc... I guess I'm saying that at least in my fantasyland I'm Try-sexual.

Denied

I'm all for that with the right man that I can trust and love.:dom: I am very submissive and will do almost anything for that special man. There I go again typing out loud. :heehee:

[cdjoanne]

i always have fantasies about men when dressed but have never yet acted upon it, but i would love to be treated like a lady. i find the thought of it very sexy

[Dawntv]

Have had these feelings for along time that i would like to experiment with another cd or tv i have a very pretty gg who understands and willingly uses toys to help me live out these feelings but still looking for the real thing

[Eva Diva]

Ditto again:D



I raise you one ditto! :D

[DawnRodgers]

Dawn is positively attracted to men and definitely finds being with them very enjoyable. She has no sexual interest in GG's or CD's. She wants only maculine men. Hairy bodies and passionate lovers. Take me, I'm yours. Tell me what you want. I'll be your girl.

[tanya3]

fantisizing about men is one thing ,acting on it is another. i finally told my wife my last secret about my encounter with a man . i now i am not gay i am for sure bisexual .she has asked me before why it is ok for 2 or more woman to get it on but why it is not ok for a man to do the same for wich i had no answer . now i can . why not !!!!!!!!:2c:

[Kate Simmons]

I'm all for that with the right man that I can trust and love.:dom: I am very submissive and will do almost anything for that special man. There I go again typing out loud. :heehee:Okay Stephi, whatever floats your boat, Hon. I prefer mutual respect and admiration myself. Anyone who tries to tie me up, however, will end up saying hello to the floor. Hey, I can't help it, I'm part Klingon.:heehee:

[Raychel]

Fantasies about men :eek: NO WAY. All my fantasies include women. Mostly my wife to be a little more factual. It is just too bad that my wife NEVER has any fantasies to go along with mine.

[Shelly18]

:D nope never had fantasies bout bein with a man but i do often fantasize bout bein with a women while im dressed as a women im young so i havent had the experience yet!!! cant wait to though!!!

[BarbaraLoveToDress]

I have and have been with other cd's both dressed. But the right tools are there. It is so much fun dressing and have a lesbian affair with another cd. Try it you'll like it. I do

[Tanya83]

I would as long as he looked liked a she...And was gone before I straightened out! :D

[Vanessa1]

I can honestly say I have had thoughts of this nature. But what really gets me to thinking is a whole bunch of visions. You see I like both guys and dolls, but I guess I prefer GGs the most, I am of course married to one. Now that being said I also love to see CDs, and TGs. My wife and I love to play with other couples and have often discussed running into a couple of CDs or TGs in our area, but this being the SOUTH, it probbable will never happen. Theres just something about a CD as my wife says that just intreagues me. We just couldnt say no to a date.


Love ya all,

Vanessa

[JeaniT]

In a word, absolutely.

As Jeani, i have no interest in another CD, but a man, oh yes. Take me!! :happy:

Jeani

[Eva Diva]

My wife and I love to play with other couples and have often discussed running into a couple of CDs or TGs in our area, but this being the SOUTH, it probbable will never happen.


Love ya all,

Vanessa




Every time I see someone say anything like that I smile. It's southern, Bible Belt states that have the highest divorce rate, highest single mom rate, you name it. It's no accident that the people who talk the most about family values created music that had cheatin' as the most important subject. :D
I guarantee that if you went to the local Walmart and said hi to the first ten guys you saw, one of them would probably be wearing panties under those jeans.
I lived in a southern town, and I learned about the famous brothel that only closed in the early sixties. The owner was a well-known figure in the community. I grew up in Boston, home of the hated radical-iliberal Yankees, and rest assured, there were no brothels anywhere near my house in those years, or in the years my parents were growing up nearby. If anything, the south was always more sexual than the north, but things were kept within boundaries, like the brothel I mentioned. You just didn't talk about it in polite society.

[Alex!]

I don't think it's strange at all.

I, however, never have fantasies about being with a guy in girl mode. I love women and love being a man.

[KathrynTX]

I occasionally fantasize I'm a GG and having a man make love to me, sometimes pretending that he makes me pregnant. :cheeky:

[Minerva Morgan]

When I am in drab, I am absolutely not interested in men; but en femme the notion is attractive. In particular, I am not concerned with an image some buff dude; but curious about older gentlemen (emphasis on gentleman), or men with a not neccessarily attractive physique. It is the thought of someone finding me desirable that is intriguing; and the thought of being able to give some companionship, joy and love to a man which is attractive. Being essentially in the closet, the question as to whether I would ever fulfill these fantasies has never arisen.

Minerva

[MJ]

i would like to find a hunk and see how it would feel to be with a man or a t-girl for that matter i don't think it's strange at all... gill grissom from csi hmmm

[Paula T]

Ditto again dear. I love your avatar.




ditto darling

[Joyciecd]

I am not surprised there is so much activity on this string. I have always believed, despite protestations to the contrary, that a goodly number of CD's have some latent desires to "be with" a man when in their femmy presentation. I know I do, and have several male "friends" that I only see when dressed. We wouldn't have that interest otherwise. One of my male "friends" calls me every couple days begging for a date. I "ration" him to about every 7 to 10 days. He knows this, but persues relentlessly! It feels so fem to be persued like this! The last time I gave him a "date", he reponded by presenting me with a bottle of Chanel No. 5 and bought me a ruby ring (my birthstone). I think that it is the ultimate to be courted like the gg's have always been courted. Gifts, nice dinners, shows, trips, etc., all fully paid for by the guys.
Like the song goes, "I love being a girl!"

[charlie-50]

nope guys dont do it for me. guess im just a girlyguygirl .cp

[Jennifer_G_2]

Yes, but mostly other CD's. I thing is for certain, the farther I go, the more frequent and strong are the desires. However, my desire to be with a woman AS a woman has grown even more.

Jen

[LaurenInDC]

I think our reactions to how we present are as individual as we are. I don't see anything wrong with having those fantasies at all. On thing, however, to keep in mind - thoughts/feelings only become right or wrong depending on how we act on them...

-L

[JeaniT]

I am not surprised there is so much activity on this string. I have always believed, despite protestations to the contrary, that a goodly number of CD's have some latent desires to "be with" a man when in their femmy presentation. I know I do, and have several male "friends" that I only see when dressed. We wouldn't have that interest otherwise. One of my male "friends" calls me every couple days begging for a date. I "ration" him to about every 7 to 10 days. He knows this, but persues relentlessly! It feels so fem to be persued like this! The last time I gave him a "date", he reponded by presenting me with a bottle of Chanel No. 5 and bought me a ruby ring (my birthstone). I think that it is the ultimate to be courted like the gg's have always been courted. Gifts, nice dinners, shows, trips, etc., all fully paid for by the guys.
Like the song goes, "I love being a girl!"

Oh Joycie, you lucky girl!! I can only dream.

Jeani

[willowgurl]

Hi, All my life when I've been dressed, I've fantasized about men. Since my recent divorce, I hav begun acting on these fantasies. All I can say is, I've never felt so complete as I do in a man's arms. Something to think about. Willow

[franny]

Yes I do.. I always feel in need of a man. But..? I wanna be relaxed.. To be with another CD is what I dream of. u know have fun..

[EmmaJane TS]

Hi,

I've never looked twice at a guy when in drab, but when dressed as Emma or in a femme state of mind, sure I think about being with a guy and fantasize about being treated totally as a women. There is nothing more femme IMHO than being treated like a lady by a gentleman.

Hugs and kisses,

EmmaJ.

[paula_cd]

...just like to say how much this site is a breath of fresh air. I started a thread about fantasing about having breasts. Its refreshing to know other CD's have the same fantasies as its not something that's easily shared.

Love Paula x

[Christa]

Actually Darling, more gay men are sexually attracted to Us T-Girls than are heterosexual women--GGs

I see a lot of stories of supportive GG SO's here, but rarely do I see a posting from a supportive Gay Male SO.

I'm sure your generalization applies to your personal experience, but I wish my boyfriend was one of the gay guys who's turned on by us. I may have his support (which I cherish), but only from a distance when I'm dressed.

[Angela E.]

To answer both parts of your question,yes and no.-Angela.:<3: :GE: :<3:

[stormrider]

Yes I fantasize about men all the time when I am dressed. Unfortunately, I have not acted on my fantasies since 1977. The AIDS scare and where I live have kept me from venturing beyond that one wonderfull time. Maybe someday I will be lucky enough to experience it again.

Michelle

[kerrianna]

Yup, and ONLY when dressed or thinking in femme mode. To me it's not about the men, it's about how they help me feel like a woman.

I've actually had these fantasies for a long time - like a lot of fantasies they seem better off left that way - mainly because it's not very realistic for me to enact them and keep the guy a faceless entity which is what I need. It would be a pretty selfish act by me, although I know lots of guys wouldn't mind. :heehee: :D

I hauled this thread back out because I need to amend my earlier post.

Since I wrote this I have changed. Lately I find myself checking men out and thinking about how they might be as boyfriends. I have started to think of them as romantic partners. And I don't need to be dressed or in femme mode, because I've realized I'm ALWAYS in femme mode in my head. Now that I'm accepting that, I find I view men quite differently than when I thought I was one of them, in competition.

I'm finding more to like about them. Not just physical, but that too :p , but recognizing that a lot of men are sensitive, romantic, intelligent...qualities I used to pretend weren't true of a lot of men.

So no, they wouldn't be faceless entities. Quite the opposite. I would love to be wined and dined and romanced, to be made to feel special and demure, to be taken, and to be a tigress to him too.

And having said all that...I am still in love with my partner and would never do more than fantasize about this. And I will still be her man.

I'm happy that it has dissolved some prejuidices I've had about men for a long time. It's funny how changing perspective will do that for you.
:love:

[Kate Simmons]

You cannot help feelings Kerrianna, they are always there. Nothing wrong with feelings really, never was, never will be. It's slightly different when we act on them though. Whether we just fantasize about being with guys, want to be with guys or actually have been with guys, it all boils down to the same thing, having feelings for another person. I can say I have had those feelings as well but to me it's not so much as relating to a guy-girl relationship as it is having feelings for that person as a person. The role we are playing doesn't matter as much as the relationship which is the important part.
I like being wined and dined myself, being treated like a princess and being in a dreamy guy's arms, what girl doesn't, because it makes you feel very special indeed and the return feelings are mutual. While the physical feelings are nice, I really enjoy the closeness and the sharing. The real challenge is really getting to know someone, romance notwithstanding though. We are always on our best behavior when we are being nice. Real life is about true sharing, both the good and the bad, which a lot of us know from having been married men.
I'm wondering if I could really fulfill being a woman in that respect and I have yet to find out. Once you accept the mantle though, everything else comes with it and who of us are really up to it? A girl can dream though, right?

[nicoleazcd]

While I think fantasies are a wonderful thing not sure if I could be with a man but another cd.....well?

[CaptLex]

it all boils down to the same thing, having feelings for another person. I can say I have had those feelings as well but to me it's not so much as relating to a guy-girl relationship as it is having feelings for that person as a person. The role we are playing doesn't matter as much as the relationship which is the important part.
Well said, Sal.

Kerri, good for you for opening up and allowing you to learn a bit more about yourself, and thank you for expressing it so well. I think maybe hanging out with the boys has given you a new perspective (see, boys aren't really icky ;)).

[MsJoann]

Yes I do...but only special ones. Most guys turn me off.
It happened twice in my life to where I had a crush on a guy. Usually these guys are cute looking.
Moreso recently I flipped over a young guy. He has long black hair pulled back into a ponytail and has a very cute feminine face. His mannerisms are soft and he is intelligent and soft spoken.
I am putting the moves on him presently because I believe he crossdresses. However, there is also the possibility he is straight....I don't know that yet so I have to tread lightly and see what reactions I get from him.
You know how some young guys are androgynous these days.
I fantasize about holding hands with him, hugging and kissing him, massaging him and yes, making love with him.
I'm not ashamed to admit this as some men and women, at one or more points in their life get a crush on a member of the same sex.
This gal is beyond the crush stage....I've got it bad for him!

[Nyana]

I think i fantasie about other CD...and if it was not a reality i would like to have a night experience with another cd...but that will stay as a dream only!

[Tasha Meredith]

I'm kind of in MsJoann's situation. Lot of daydreaming of intimacy though I rarely find myself attracted to any male in particular.

But boy-crushes... Wow. I had this hottie roommate who was gay. I was not interested when we met, but we knew about each other. He was very athletic and wore those short summer outfits now and then that eventually sent me into guilty little fantasies. I did wind up giving him a back massage at his request but it didn't lead anywhere. I was even cooking for him at one point. I came very close to surprising him with a maid's outfit but never ordered it (too many roommates and visitors).

Another time I was in the library when a guy...um...sort of pinched me on the tush. I didn't know how to react and just froze. That night I dreamed I became a woman as went on a lunch date with a man. :heehee:

So yeah. I guess being with a guy wouldn't be so bad. The way I feel about it is the same way I felt about wearing a bra before I started dressing. Very curious, but unsure and a little embarrased.

[keena]

Probably not. If CDs didn't ever look at men there would be no pics of CDs on the web. Rather, there are tens of thousand pics of CDs in provacative dress (or none at all). Since most gays don't care for women I'm sure they are not interested in looking at men who look like women. Some GGs may be interested. Hetero men and CDs look and I sure many, many of them have a bit of lust in their minds as they do. I'm a hetero CD and will admit I look and lust.

[Madison Marie]

No not at all when I get all dressed up all I can think about is how close can I get to look,walk and sound like a woman. I would die if only one time I could get dresses up and be with my SO.

[RuthieER]

Yes, I fantasize about being made love to by men or CDs. I am a bisexual CD, attracted to men, women and CDs. I have had encounters with both men and CDs, and would like to again. I used to say that I was attracted to men as a woman, and to women as a man, but that is too simplistic. When I am en femme I want to be sexually submissive, regardless of the sex or gender of my partner. I enjoy heterosexual intercourse sometimes, but it is not my primary sexual interest. A more accurate generalization about my sexuality is that I am a Femme Bottom and a Butch Top. My ideal lover would be another bisexual CD, but one who is primarily a top.

Ruthie

[Opie!]

When I was grappling with the issue, seriously thinking about it, I assumed that wanting to look like a girl just meant that I HAD to be gay, so I suppressed the urges, then, I decided that perhaps I was and I should accept it. I found a very feminin boy, and tried it out one night when I was really drunk. I knew then that I am not that way, When I put on nylons, and a bra, I fantasize about having some pretty lady tell me how pretty I am, we would share clothes... and well, I'm sure you can figure out the rest.

I don't see anything wrong with it, but it's definately not for me.

[missattitude]

Well, Since I am already currently with a man, I guess that would mean yes. I guess I am a special cd, since most of the cd's are straight and either have girlfriends or wifes, theres always an execption. Lifes a pleasure when you can be what you want. and the onyl way to go is with the guys.

[joperinal]

As I already posted I am a straight married guy. I love woman and in more details breast and boobs type.

Reading this thread I want to share my (strange) experience:
Last night I had a chat with another CD-er. As I have never been with another CD-er she proposed to meet and maybe take some pictures together.
That would be very cool for someone to take my pictures and be on a picture with someone else. During the chat she send me the picture of the two girls. I really got excited of thinking that I could be on such a picture all pretty like that. And after that she send a pciture of two kissing girls in bikini. Then I got even a bit aroused. Thinking that I could be a girl like that was kissing another girl. But at the same time I also got a bit scared of what could happen if I would meet up with another pretty CD-er (the other girl in the picture is not a girl). Now I dont know if I should go and meet her or cancel the photo shoot. :straightface: If you have any advise youre welcome.

So as you can read it is not easy to define the feelings.

[BrendainTampa]

a lesbian when dressed...i really an paying more attention to the gurls and girls then guys.

i have a big fantasy of getting hit on my a gg lesbian...

[Tasha Meredith]

Now I dont know if I should go and meet her or cancel the photo shoot. :straightface: If you have any advise youre welcome.
Sounds interesting. I'd recommend taking along another friend for safety.

[franny]

I don't think its odd to feel that way at all.

[joperinal]

thanks for the tip Tasha

[Hali]

well fantasies about men i do when am crossdressed only infact it scares me because it feels so right i get all those feelings i read about GGs have when men are around them or within a given radius, i have an intense desire for women if am not crossdressed, infact if am crossdressed i dont feel desire for women like i do for men thanx.

[Alysin CD]

Yes. Always when dressed. Most of the time when not. Part of my femme personna I guess.

Aly

[reneecd13]

I was wondering if othr girls have fantasies about men when dressed up? I do and was wondering if I was strange or what.


Not at first but after awile I did star have fantasies about men. Then I met on, we became friends and then started dating. It is a wonderful feeling having a man open and close doors for you. Having his arms around you and then making out.

Renee:thumbsup:

[Dixie]

My wife gets turned on watching two guys together, so one night I made her fantasy a reality. I was in drab, while it was not unpleasent I did not care for it. When I'm in femme I can't stop thinking about it, my wife says I should try it enfemme and see if I like it, hmmmmmm I just might....:heehee:

[MakalaDrew]

Oh yes!!! I have lots of fantasies about guys and what i can do for them!!:devil:

[sissy_she_boy]

I do have fantasies about men when I am all dressed up. I have only done it once, but it was really nice and I would probably do it again. Besides, that one all of my encounters that I have had while dressed were with other girls like us. I still prefer that, but am open to real men if the feeling is right. And to be honest, the one time I was with a man, I did feel very feminine. :D

[stellatoo]

. I can say that I idolized Farrah Fawcett when I was young and used to pretend I was her getting tied up by bad men.:blushing:
~stephni

My idol and the one I pretended to be was Wonder Woman. My sisters school leotard and boots made a good costume for my self bondage sessions!

BTW I do fantasise about men; strong, manly, dominant ones secure in themselves (and also gorgeous T-girls like the ones on this forum too):happy:

[shybutcurious]

well, im gonna be 100% honest, i see myself as a bisexual women in a mans body. I cant explain it. there are different things of each sex that i find appealing. i have had fantasies about men and women, and i enjoy both equally.

[nishababe]

Its a very strange thing that some of us seem to have this feeling only when dressed in womens clothes .
I am a spiritual type of person and I go into a kind of dream state ,like an out of body experience ,where I feel as if I have a full womans body and know what it feels like to have a vagina ,boobs etc .
When this happens I have a very strong desire to have full sex as a woman and i feel that I know what it feels like .
Perhaps it is a flashback from a previous life as a woman ,who knows ?

Love Nishababe :heehee: xxxx

[melissainks]

well, im gonna be 100% honest, i see myself as a bisexual women in a mans body. I cant explain it. there are different things of each sex that i find appealing. i have had fantasies about men and women, and i enjoy both equally.

This has been a really interesting thread. I think the quote about being a bisexual woman in a mans body describes me more than anything I have read ever. And I am comfortable with that. Although I crossdress, I have no desire to be transgender, I doubt if I would meet the qualiactions or SRS. But I very comfortable boing Bi.For me part of being comfortable being is accepting a tag as being Gay.But realizing that does not totally define me.

Yes the Lesbian word applies to me en femme,but I do look at men as well. So It was wonderful to read there are Gay Men who crossdress, I'd like to find one locally :)

I could probably clip several quotes from this thread,someone wrote an attraction to men is part of en femme persona, even when not dressed. Yes I can relate to that, as I try to be Melissa even when I can't dress the part.

[leggy_tiana]

Great question. Oh yes, I am not a man hater. I have always been attracted to femininine beauty but being in the company of a polite, intelligent, tall gentleman is a wonderful feeling. I found that over the years, as I began to dress on a regular basis and remained dressed for ever longer periods of time, my curiosity to be treated as a lady by a guy grew stronger. I must admit that I enjoy dressing up for men and that the way I dress is partially influenced by them. Hope that made sense.

[willowgurl]

I love Men, am a willing partner for them, and enjoy it immensly

[JoannaDees]

I'm curious. For those attracted or fantasizing about men, are you OK with the great majority of admirers that like the "something extra" idea? Or is the extra off-limits? The off-limits pool is much smaller. :sigh:

[Lisa Renee]

I have always wondered what it would be like to just go on a date with a guy enfemme. To be treated like the woman I feeil I am. I'm sure it will never happen so for now I will just appreciate having doors opened for me, the looks, other things nice guys do for women. I certainly enjoy it.

[Sweet Jane]

I've never fantasised about being with a guy...the thought of any intimacy with a man makes me feel so uncomfortable.

[Josephine 1941]

Hi All,
Fantasy's about men yes, I think dressing as a women an having a man get excited about you is a goal that we all think of. I have to admit that the men I have been with got real excited over me, an yes I was excited my self. I did not have sex with them as Bill C did not , for each of us we have to make that dischicon when the time comes. A lot of us when we started dressing used it for our own excitment. The next step is another man remenber be careful . I know that I am as some would say Bi-curious so when I am out dressed an I turn a man on ,well then moment of truth.
Josephine

[zencat-x]

I compare my CDing to costume play and fantasy about men is in the picture. Especially bondage, me or him. ;)

[laura.lapinski]

Hi All,
Fantasy's about men yes, I think dressing as a women an having a man get excited about you is a goal that we all think of. I have to admit that the men I have been with got real excited over me, an yes I was excited my self. I did not have sex with them as Bill C did not , for each of us we have to make that dischicon when the time comes. A lot of us when we started dressing used it for our own excitment. The next step is another man remenber be careful . I know that I am as some would say Bi-curious so when I am out dressed an I turn a man on ,well then moment of truth.
Josephine


Josephine,

I agree that dressing is to excite me. I don't go out dressed,nor do I have much opportunity to stay dressed for a long period of time. so I was wondering if when one is dressed for a long continuous time, 1day, 2 days, do you always fantacise about men during the duration, or does being dressed become more "mudane or normal" and do you begin to look at women just as one does during normal time? Do you desire women during the time of being dressed? I don't understand why men repulse me unless I am dressed and fanticising. I agree with your "be careful" comment. Since I don't think I will ever be going out, I won't have to worry about that.

Laura

[Seville]

Nope sorry, never had any fantasy's about men and if I ever did I would be really concerned.

Same here, same here.

[Cindyloo]

No not here. I like my women.

[Stormgirl]

never been interested in men,always like females

[stellatoo]

I love females-I like to look at the pretty girls, talk to the beautiful women, and be around as many as possible BUT I when I dress I want to be with a man in a relationship-not just sex:heehee:-but a relationship where I would look after him and he would look after me!
I had a boyfriend years ago and I've been with a couple of CD's and it's no problem. There is such a great diversity between straight and gay that " I count nothing human foreign to me!"


Take care ladies

Stella

[Michelle04240]

I do. I have been with a few here and there, and would like to again. I am married and LOVE women, but when the mood is right I find men attractive. I had a bit of fun with a friend when I was like 15, next time was 15 years later and the latest was last year. So, I don't do it much, but my fantasies are 50/50.

[LisaCMW]

I find that I fantasize more about being with other CD's than straight or bi men. I consider myself bi-curious... PS driving from CT to NC on June 5th, anyone want to have some fun?

[helenejo]

If I'm dressed, all the time. Ive had a couple of experiences with guys when I've been "surprised" in situations where I thought I was alone, hugely enjoyed it & still get excited when I think about them.

I also think there are a lot of "straight" guys out there who can't resist a chance to try something a little different if they think there is no chance of being found out.

[sarah378619]

No, but gender idenity and sexuiality are separate. follow your heart.
Sarah

[serinalynn]

I was wondering if othr girls have fantasies about men when dressed up? I do and was wondering if I was strange or what.

Not about other guys, I am a heterrosexual male and I am interested in women and what women wear. and at times spend hours looking around in womens clothing stores and in womens sites on the internet.

[Kether]

Yes I fantasize about a man making love to me and also women, even though I can't but a face on the man. I think for me it's about getting as close to being a woman as I can.

[Jenna Lynne]

Yup, and ONLY when dressed or thinking in femme mode. To me it's not about the men, it's about how they help me feel like a woman.

I've actually had these fantasies for a long time - like a lot of fantasies they seem better off left that way - mainly because it's not very realistic for me to enact them and keep the guy a faceless entity which is what I need. It would be a pretty selfish act by me, although I know lots of guys wouldn't mind. :heehee: :D
That's how I feel too. The fantasies are very nice, but the guy is always a faceless (though anatomically correct) entity. I was very confused about this for a long time, because when I'm in a public place it's the women I'm checking out, not the men. But at some point I started to feel that what I mean when I say "I'm attracted to women" is probably not what the typical guy means when he says that.

Right now I described it by saying my affectional orientation is different from my sexual orientation. My affectional orientation is toward women. My sexual orientation is toward being a woman (and being treated that way).

***Jenna***

[occdresser]

well fantasies about men i do when am crossdressed only infact it scares me because it feels so right i get all those feelings i read about GGs have when men are around them or within a given radius, i have an intense desire for women if am not crossdressed, infact if am crossdressed i dont feel desire for women like i do for men thanx.

This is the way I feel 100%

[SabrinaDubh]

While I do have fantasies where I am a woman and I am with a man, they are just fantasies. While I was single I gave it a whirl to see if it would be as good as the fantasy. I quickly realized that I do not like men.

While I still enjoy the fantasy the reality was a let down.

[marie354]

I'll bet that there are many that think about it when we are "dolled up", but as far as being there... Not for me!

I've always felt that I should have been a woman, but I've lived most all of my life as a man, so naturally I enjoy being with a woman.
If I had been raised as a female, maybe that would have been different, but I do fantasize sometimes... But that's all it is.
:hugs:

[EllenCD]

Submitting to a cute Hottie is the final validation to all my efforts to obtain the Feminine Mystique. If that makes me Gay so be it.

[Charlotte1]

Nope, only real girls:D

so far.........................:devil:

but i would consider a relationship with another CD if i wasnt with my gf, if that makes sense

'Lotti -x-

[Kiera20mi]

Yes. Although i am bi-sexual Being with a guy is a sensation that my girlfriend and me share. (we use a strap-on)and let me tell you it is very sexy and I love being with guys too.

[Kendra mtf]

Someday my dream of being a lesbian with another crossdresser will come true. Any takers?

[kayla_cd_va]

I don't mind saying that I do think about being with men when I'm dressed. No desire if I'm not dressed but when I dress, I want to be with men.

huggs

Kayla

[renee99]

That's how I feel too. The fantasies are very nice, but the guy is always a faceless (though anatomically correct) entity. I was very confused about this for a long time, because when I'm in a public place it's the women I'm checking out, not the men. But at some point I started to feel that what I mean when I say "I'm attracted to women" is probably not what the typical guy means when he says that.

Right now I described it by saying my affectional orientation is different from my sexual orientation. My affectional orientation is toward women. My sexual orientation is toward being a woman (and being treated that way).

***Jenna***

I think this is a useful way to think about it. Put it together with the fact that for many (including myself) sex does not happen without love, and that is why I couldn't be with a man even though I fantasize about being a woman. I love -- in the sense of butterflies in the stomach, pounding heart, weak knees, and obsessing over how stupid every word must have sounded -- women, not men.

[Nylonkaren]

and I have acted on my desires. I must say that men make me feel like a complete "woman", but I am glad to get back into male mode later. When dressed I want to be feminine and savor the moment. Men, as most of us know, want to flatter for a moment and then have you make them feel good. It is a kick, but not something I need or want weekly.

[teresa jeen]

there are times that i feel like having a mans touch,when insecure and lonely,if he were to romance me or just treat me like an equal,then maybe hell get lucky. treat your SO or GG like gold and they will do the same!!!