Subduing sexual arrousal - help

[tall sam]

Hope there is someone out there with some real help.

Whenever I dress, I like to tuck or even better, tape my "manhood" away. Unfortunately while dressing and when dressed I get aroused and dear jonnie gets excited - and we know what wants to happen. This can be uncomfortable when tucked but is more of a problem when taped.
I have found this method of taping that can give you a neat little "feminie shape", but if I get aroused, it can become a bit painfull as well, and more of a problem, is the not-so-fem (or nice) bulge it creates. I only dress every few weeks if lucky, sometimes get a weekend for myself but thats it and I want to make the most of the experience in the safety of home or hotel.
Is there some form of medication/cream?? out there that can be used. Nothing permanent like hormone thearopy but something like the opposite of Viagra?

[RobertaFermina]

If there was an application that worked, I would be afraid of consequences....

How about thinking about someone or something decidedly "unsexy" ? Someone with powerful "shrivel factor"?

All the best!

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[AllieSF]

Go Roberta - nice thoughts in lieu of the good thoughts.

How about taking a cold shower first or wear looser skirts and dresses. Aren't gaffs supposed to help you there? I was told there is a specific technique, which I don't know yet, that folds and tucks it away and can be somewhat comfortable once you get accustomed to it.

[Lissa Stevens]

To a degree I think there is a sexual aspect to crossdressing for a lot of us. I don't have your problem anymore. I'm not sure why, it might be that I have come to realize what I truly feel. Without getting to graphic at one time I did have your problem. I would alleviate that problem then rip my clothes off and feel really depressed. I read some advice from a counselor that said to go ahead and alleviate you problem but force yourself to stay dressed. After awhile you will not have the same problem anymore. It did help me when I was aroused but it can be hard to stay dressed. You must get over the feelings of guilt. Time helped me more than anything but you might try this and see if it helps. I wish you lots of luck with resolving your problem.

[RobertaFermina]

This link is interesting.
An Anaphrodisiac is a preparation that works against sexual response. There is information on this link about urban legends like Saltpeter and Potassium Bromide, and some hints of preparations that might work....

Happy Hunting!

http://www.answers.com/topic/anaphrodisiac

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[marie354]

Oh just think about sports... Like baseball, unless that gets you excited too.

[sami1952]

I use to be the same way when i first start,but eventually it went away. when i'm infem i think of nothing but almost being a female and it works for me.when i tuck it stay tuck until i undress..

[Julie York]

An erection starts in your head. Get your head right. Why would you want to dress at all WITHOUT sexual excitement, if you are sexually excited by dressing? What is your motive?

Your subliminal desires and your intellect are not working in the same direction are they?

[Sugar01]

It's a Catch-22. You want to look more like a women, hence the tucking, but in doing so, you become aroused, and the tucking comes undone.

When I first starting dressing, I tucked a few times for pictures. It was cool to see nothing dangling out in front. At least in the pics, I was a woman. But tucking's a chore, and uncomfortable. And besides, we're guys. We shouldn't be ashamed of the equipment we came with. Recognize your manhood, along with your feminine side.

[mskilmer]

This is an interesting topic. I've always been surprised that I can tuck for as long as I want and not get an erection. I love going out dressed, but for some reason my excitement doesn't translate to that. But if I'm in drab and thinking about getting dressed, that will get a rise out of me every time. I suppose when I'm dressed and out, my mind is somehow in a different mode.

[Nicole Summers]

pleats

[vbcdgrl]

In the Navy, they used to use a stuff called "salt peter" for just this reason. Don't know what it is chemically or if/where it's available.

Vikki

[Sedona]

Tall Sam,

Don't go messing around with pharmaceuticals or anything. Your solution is simple: Right before you tuck, um, er, take care of yourself (sorry in advance to the mods). Assuming you're not an adolescent, that should do the trick.

[Stephenie S]

For goodness sake, dear, not to be too blunt about it, but why don't you masturbate, then get on with your dressing? Wouldn't that solve your problem?

BTW, saltpeter is sodium nitrate. I think that it's an urban myth about lessening sexual desire. Sodium nitrite is a potent vasodilator which might reduce an erection or prevent one, but it's effect on lowering the blood pressure would be so great as to make it's use in any but a controlled medical situation quite damgerous.

Stephenie

[Catherine Hopkins]

For goodness sake, dear, not to be too blunt about it, but why don't you masturbate, then get on with your dressing? Wouldn't that solve your problem?


The "Something About Mary" solution - so glad someone got there before me ;)

Just don't use it as hair gel!

[TraceyDresses]

I too enjoy having a nice smooth panty front and would get excited sometimes as I dressed, but the constant pressure of some nice tight panties would generally help me overcome the buldge and cause things to smooth out after awhile. Of course then I would look in the mirror problems would arise, lol.

[Laura Jane]

The "Something About Mary" solution - so glad someone got there before me ;)

Just don't use it as hair gel!

Lol that was my first thought on reading the this thread!

Once the novelty factor wears off you should be able to tuck and tape without arousal!

[Janet99cd]

It's a Catch-22. You want to look more like a women, hence the tucking, but in doing so, you become aroused, and the tucking comes undone.

When I first starting dressing, I tucked a few times for pictures. It was cool to see nothing dangling out in front. At least in the pics, I was a woman. But tucking's a chore, and uncomfortable. And besides, we're guys. We shouldn't be ashamed of the equipment we came with. Recognize your manhood, along with your feminine side.

Well put.:thumbsup:

[lahr]

I cant imagine what the problem is. Yes I like to look like a real GG but when my excitment is rising i'm paying more attention to and looking at my blouses with breast forms. make up, ect. The sensual feeling of dressing like a real GG is why I do it. Tight panties, The feel of panty hose, the sound of high heels clicking on the the hard floors, the short skirts. Visual, Audio, Its all part of the package. Oh yes I get a handle too while dressing and thats why I do it.

[Kimberly]

I find I don't get very aroused when tucked. I thought it might be like that with everyone... :( xx

[Alice Torn]

/slt peter is one of the main ingredients of black powder, too. Too much of that, and k-blewie! I have never tried it,nor heard any mention of it, but what about a jock strap, to keep it down? I am on several medications, for other things, and I have very little sex drive, at all. and, I am part glad, and part sad, for that.

[Daintre]

I think that for some, the dressing triggers a sexual excitement, in that case, "taking care of business" will also take away the sexual excitement leaving no desire or want to dress at that time.

[MJ]

oh god i taped once, never again . just think of someone ugly that should do it.....

[tall sam]

Never thought I would get such a variety of answers!!
There seems to be some common thread in that if your sort yourself out (masterbate for the less descrete) as I have tried, it does remove the urge for dressing. When dressed and I get the urge and sort myself out, then the fem feeling of arousal goes and I dont feel like being dressed -- bugger catch 22! you want the arousal but need to direct the ENERGY elsewhere.

As for salt peter, I was in the navy many years back and they rumoured that this was put in our food - didnt seem to make a difference!

We cant change what we are, but its forgetting our manhood, even for a moment is what counts so I cant agree with those who comment about recognising my manhood.
Roberta I will chech out the site and Sedona, thanks for the warning, no I wont go and do something stupid.

[Colleentg]

I used to have that problem, but it went away. I think it was because as time went on and I was dressing more, it wasn't a sexual turn on so much anymore. It became a need to dress, psychologically. But even while dressed, now and then, something triggers that physical response. I've even had it while trying on outfits at Walmart. However it rarely happens anymore. There's still that morning 'tension', so I guess it still works!

[MsJanessa]

Tall Sam,

Don't go messing around with pharmaceuticals or anything. Your solution is simple: Right before you tuck, um, er, take care of yourself (sorry in advance to the mods). Assuming you're not an adolescent, that should do the trick.

exactly right---and then make sure you stay dressed for the next 6-12-24-48 whatever hours---you will be fine.

[Tamera]

Even GG's get aroused when they are dressing and looking at themselves in the mirror, more so when they want to show off what God gave them. Of course since they have a different lower anatomy then males, it doesn't show like ours.
What you are experiencing is naural. If it is to much of a problem before you dress. Take some time out (1-10min:heehee: )and resume what you were doing.
Love,
Tamera

[susann_gardener]

I suspect your looking for a quick solution, not all the other stuff that has been offered. Well, if you look at the Fem-Skin advertisement, they have a pad-like thing that gives you a nice round fem abdomin. Within that is a channel for "peter". Seems like a butt pad and a little cutting, a panty girdle and you should be all set!

[tall sam]

Girls, thanks for all the ideas - some good some bad, some very expensive!!

Anyway, the good old sort yourself out did it! I must admit that after doing it I really didnt feel like dressing, but I waited, sorted myself out again just to be sure, thought of the most un-sexy person then went to work!

I dont like tucking so ended up taping myself and took it a step further, smoothing it over with acrylic filler, and matching the skin colour with paint colour and makeup. Stick on some pubic hair and walla - I have a very much femanine feature between my legs! I got stimulated a few times but as the advice goes, I stuck it out. I spent saturday night and sunday taped, gave it a breather last night, then this morning I couldnt resist and I did it again (without the full smoothing with scrylic and paint etc). I put on the cutest thong I bought on saturday, a pair of tights, my bra and lycra t-shirt under my work clothes and off I went. I chickened out a bit after arriving in the office and took the bra off but put it back on again when leaving. Well - I am in cloud 9, sitting here all dressed up - nice flat below (it gets a bit excited and firm but then soon gives up - today he is a she!). Would love to post a photo of my fem creation but I dont think thats acceptable on this site!

thanks and xxx

[Vanessa1]

HI all, I am new to the forum here but am on another forum for CDs and I think Sugar had a good thought. You need to embrace you female part aswell as remember that we are males and we cant ignore that fact. I have been dressing for quite a few years and have gone out several times either to a drive thru or gas station and it helps with the senses. Now as I read on in the postings here someone mentioned Salt-peter. You do not, I repeat , you do not want to use this chemical unless you have a Dr involved! I had some supposed friends to slip me a few drops in my drinks for over a month and we are talking a major problem with the plumbing. Not only will it stop you from having an errection but it can complettly remove your sex drive all together perminently, and none of us want that.Tucking is fine but I can go out in panties and skirt and with the panties on me I never get out of place, but it takes time and as someone said earlier, you may have to take care of the errection with your fem clothes a few times to get "USED" to them being on you and not getting easily arroused. I was able to recover from what my friends did to me but it was a scarry time in my life and I never drink from a cup someone just gives me anymore. Try to take it a step at a time and you will be OK.

Vanessa

[DonnaT]

Usually the pain would prevent an erection for very long.

So if you're going out, grin an bear it.

If you want to control it, while staying in, then get a chastity cage/belt. Hide the key outside or in your car.

[Julie York]

I have found that if I want to prevent sexual arousal before dressing "en femme", that the effects of hitting your bell end with a large hammer can last several hours.













What?:eek:

What did I do now?:D

[Sam-antha]

Tuck, tape, retuck and retape over all and, oh ,and forget it somewhere in between.
Sorry I cannot really help, apart from the above cryptic remark, which method does work, for me, if required.

[mona lisa]

Imagine yourself having sex with Helen Thomas (http://www.strangepolitics.com/content/item/117207.html). If that does not work, you can always take matters into your own hand.

[AERIN]

GIRLS, can we talk? Lets be honest here. Mr Johnson needs to be milked when he interferes with your dressing up from time to time and he will cooperate with your ultimate desires. Problem lies when he is milked the girl wants to go back to bed for the night, thus the CATCH 22. Get some help if ya can't handle it alone. Some things are best left to the professionals. LOL

[AERIN]

Vanessa Salt Peter, (Potassium Nitrate) is a myth.

[Paulacder]

I agree with Sedona, Let Rosie Palm take care of Jonnie....:heehee:

[janedoe311]

Saltpeter
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The term saltpeter or saltpetre may refer to:

* Referring to the chemical potassium nitrate (niter/nitre); and/or sodium nitrate (nitratine/soda niter);
* The stellar astronomer Edwin Ernest Salpeter, who proposed the triple-alpha process for burning helium, and an initial mass function for stellar populations.
* Salpeter War (1879-1884) between Chile, Peru and Bolivia.

Potassium nitrate is the oxidising component of black powder. Used in fertilizers and is used to preserve meat, using nitrates in meats can cause cancer.


FYI: The more you dress the less it will be a problem!

[ashlee chiffon]

just wear fuller skirts and dresses rather then those skinnnntight body huggin' outfits....the only problem is with shorts and tight pants, but one size smaller panties are good containment...and long sweaters or shirts to cover also work...
the only Other option is
the operation! :devil:

[Tamara Croft]

Even GG's get aroused when they are dressing and looking at themselves in the mirror, more so when they want to show off what God gave them.
Love,
TameraUhm.... I really don't know what to say to that.... except maybe... WTF?? I'm pretty sure the majority of GG's on this forum will probably be thinking the same thing.....

[keena]

Potasium Nitrate.

[arani5879]

Mind over matter hun. If you just try to clear your head usually it will go away. Well atleast it works for me but I dont really dress for sexual thrill. I just dress because it makes me happy.

[Carin's Wife GG]

Uhm.... I really don't know what to say to that.... except maybe... WTF?? I'm pretty sure the majority of GG's on this forum will probably be thinking the same thing.....

the only one who gets aroused when I am getting dressed is a part of the other half.


Louise.

[Melinda G]

When I was younger and just getting into dressing in a big way, I was all shaved and dressed, and I was walking down the street, and the pantyhose and heels felt so good, I just blew it. Right there, walking down the street. My knees got weak, and I could hardly stand up. I leaned on a building, until it passed, and hoped no one saw me, and decided to help me.

After that, I found a cure. Get some "Lanacaine". It comes in a spray can, and is used for sunburn relief. It contains an active ingredient of benzocaine, along with menthol, which has a cooling, and numbing effect. No prescription needed. Any drugstore should have it, if they still make it. Other sunburn relief stuff should work about the same. Trust me, it numbs the little fellow for a while, but not all night. When you are ready for him, he comes right back to life.:D

[Melinda G]

Potasium Nitrate.

When I was a kid, we used to buy this stuff at the drugstore, and mix it with sulphur and powdered charcoal, and make our own fireworks, and rockets.:D

[charlie-50]

i too am a subscriber of the take care of willy solution before dressing. i think its part of what keeps me alive in this crazy world. and by the way i started cd,ing at about 10 (there abouts) im 50 now i feel the sex urge every time before hand. cp

[Joy Carter]

[QUOTE=aluchi_aluchona;798301]
How about taking a cold shower

I've read it's a warm shower you want to take. Cold has the opposite effect.

[Melinda G]

I never take care of willy before dressing, or I would never dress. Taking care of willy, takes away the urge to dress, for a while anyway.
Usually around Halloween, I don't take care of willy for a few days, while I'm thinking about dressing. The sexual tension builds to an unbelievable level, and I can just dress up and go out in broad daylight, in heels and a short skirt, without the slightest worry.

[Stacy GG]

Uhm.... I really don't know what to say to that.... except maybe... WTF?? I'm pretty sure the majority of GG's on this forum will probably be thinking the same thing.....

umm..I have to agree with Tamara...never been turned on by getting dressed up. I might admire myself in the mirror..but that's about it. :meditate:

[Eva Diva]

Any anit-Viagra type substance would affect the rest of the circulatory system as well - probably not a good thing. you don't want to be messing with your blood pressure without a doctor's supervision.
The last time I dressed, the same problem was coming on, but once I got the pantyhose pulled up tight, everything was compressed, and it seemed to arrest the process. Blood needs to flow in, so squeezing the whole works up against my body seemed to prevent it. Good thing too - I was putting on a micro-mini type skirt. No room for error. :D
Next time put up a picture of Dick Cheney on the wall. That should drive the erotic impulse right out of the room permenantly. :eek:

[dancinginthedark]

Even GG's get aroused when they are dressing and looking at themselves in the mirror, more so when they want to show off what God gave them.


Uhm.... I really don't know what to say to that.... except maybe... WTF?? I'm pretty sure the majority of GG's on this forum will probably be thinking the same thing.....

:Pfft: Why yes Tamara, I was thinking WTF. You see I don't get all "excited" seeing myself dressing or even checking out the finished results etc I sometimes get excited thinking about what I'm going to be doing with my husband later or imagining him taking off what I've taken so much time putting on..but nope I don't get a "tingle" checking out myself in the mirror. It's what happened and hopefully is going to happen again with my lover that makes me excited folks.

Now watching him dress is another story. I have to admit it, that does get me excited and also explains why DH doesn't have this problem guys [sorry you aren't sounding very ladylike here]...It doesn't take away from the dressing, it adds something to it though. Like Louise I've found when couples are acting like couples they get excited over each other. Hint- If you're with someone, do your partner not yourself. It's lots more fun IMHO. :heehee:

dancin