Are you comfortable dressed in public?

[trisha maiden]

Hi ladies!

I remember the first time I went out; I had just turned 21 and got my own place. I was scared, but I made up my mind and ended up going to a mall. It was great. Anyway when I was walking out of the mall after just making my first lingerie purchase dressed; I felt like a model on a runway! After being out a few more times. I'm confident now, I can shop for girl stuff as Trisha or Matt. It takes awhile but it is so worth it!

Hugs

Trisha

[LindaTS]

Yes, I'm very comfortable being out as a woman. But the one thing I can't seem to do is buy female items, like lingerie, when in drab. If I shop for clothes around Christmas or Valentine's Day I can do it but that's the only time.

[Holly]

I'm more comfortable than I was years ago. It's still hard to go out in public here in the city I live in for fear of discovery that could have a negative impact on my employment. That worry will go away in just a couple more years. Haven't made any purchases en femme yet... maybe this weekend?

[billie_iv]

I'm more comfortable than I was years ago. It's still hard to go out in public here in the city I live in for fear of discovery that could have a negative impact on my employment. That worry will go away in just a couple more years. Haven't made any purchases en femme yet... maybe this weekend?


Everything that Holly said plus the fact that I am tall and my wife is short which I feel really calls attention to myself. I can't say that I have enough confidence yet to journey out alone for an extended period of time although I have been for very short periods.

[Wendy me]

i don't know what's wrong with me but i been thinking on what to say on some threads ........strange wendy thinking.........mabey it will pass....,.
ok this thread .........yes ok are you comfortable dressed in public???????
real good question ..........thought this out hurts a little but .........ok
this is what i came up with .......................


the 5 w's


1 . who......that depends on who will be there , who will see wendy..........
thats a biggy not every one is ready to meet her as she is not ready to meet every one........


2. what...........what we we be doing????????shopping hell yes wendys game ............a run with the bros on the bikes no not realy a smart thing


3. when.........this is a nouther biggy......mabey like at a club out of town or a planned shopping trip works well......town meating in a small red neck town mabey not so good.............

4. were........biker renduve mabey if you want to be killed...........out of town shopping trip to a large city were you can just blend in and dissaper........yes.................

5. why.........major biggy.......why are you going out to play have fun to shop yes ..........that works well........going out to like have your prostrate checked mabey like not good..........................


as i can see most things envolveing shopping are like ok for dressing...........

[ChristineRenee]

My lil' sis is such a tough act to follow!:p

What she said really is the crux of it. Depends on who you are with and the activity. Like Wendy, there ARE some people who would definitely not want to associate with Chrissie. On the other hand I can think of several who would bond very easily and certainly shopping or a salon visit would make for a very comfortable and enjoyable time together.

I also have not been out dressed yet as Chrissie so that has to be taken in consideration too. I'm sure at first I would want to be with some sisters, the strength in numbers concept, so as to feel more secure about it. Not that I can't defend myself...and "Roy", being my protector, would fight to the death for me I know...but it is a concern given how the real world still feels about our community. I am very comfortable with myself....yes...but am not so naive as to believe that there isn't an element out there that would do us bodily harm for no other reason than their own misguided fear, intolerance, and ignorance.

We still have a long, long, ways to go yet....the quest is always ongoing.


Love,
Chrissie:)

[Nina]

No not at all. I wish i was but i've only been out once and was scarred stiff. maybe one day :(

[lissa_cd]

I am still coming out, excited and don't expect to be scared, I am making sure I don't look obnoxious or ****ty, womanlike is the way I need to be seen. Nina, you look so extremely good I guess I'm surprised that you would be scared or that you haven't been out many many times already..

[windycissy]

Very comfortable, and I love it so! There is somthing about feeling a breeze ruffling your skirt that never gets old. I'm lucky to live in a big city, and I pick my spots so the odds of getting "read" are minimal, and since I always go out alone, I make sure not to stay out too late in shaky areas. My favorite thing is to pack a suitcase for my alter ego and transform myself into her when I'm on a trip. Next week it's off to San Francisco as Windy Cissy, I'm so excited!

[Jan W]

Dear Trish,

When fully dressed and presented as best as I possibly can my persona becomes female. As such I become completely comfortable and confidant as a woman.

Very difficult to go back though! Once I'm there I never want to stop. Could be a trap!

Love Jan

[Fallen Angel]

i guess the older you get the easyer it gets i go out as often as i can and have a lot fun, im confindent and fell good about my self and if you have the chance to go out do it. i wish i had a few girls to go out with but we useualy meet at the bar i regulary go to.i shop in cd have had my nails done and think nothing of it and i hope sum of the other ladies will some day have the same fun as sum of us do

[Tiffanygirl]

LOL.. I'm comfortable now going outside in public..Didin't ever used to be though.

Love,
Tiffany

[Susan Parker]

Hi.....only tentatively stepped out as Susan. I will one day I'm sure.

[Kadence_Lynn]

I have only recently contemplated about going out in public, I have always felt like I didnt have a chance on passing. But I think as soon as I get my new wig, I may make plans for an out of town shopping trip and getting my nails professionaly done. Everyone here has given me the confidence to take that chance, be true to myself, and not to worry about what people think, or say. Who knows they may be checking me out and thinking how hot I am. :D LOL

[June]

Very comfortable going out, but the bathrooms are a problem :(

[Angelguy]

I'm 20 years old and I have been dressing up since I was 13. I'd love to go out in public but I'm really afraid. And I don't like wigs and make up I only really like wearing the dresses they are so comfortable

[ToniB]

You might get away without a wig and make-up if you have a girlish face and can put your own hair into an androgenous style. If you're as scared as you make out, you'll need to cover your beard and you'd probably be happier with a wig, even a short one. Look at the young GGs who wear dresses (not many now sadly, except for going out), they usually look quite feminine, and you'll need to look feminine as well.

Good luck,
Toni

[Amanda_Nicole]

I really want to go out but I am afraid!! I don't have a problem buying clothes in drab. How can I get the courage to go out fully dressed enfemme?
I certainly envy all of you who venture out.

[Vallari]

Going out en-femme is a rush, but I think you get used to the feeling if your in the same place for a while, like a restaraunt for example. It's hard to get out there. Just start out small. Take a late-night drive when the folks are asleep and city traffic's usually at it's minimum density. It's such a neat feeling when someone pulls up alongside you at an intersection! ;) Go by places you see everyday. It's like being born again when your there as your femme-self. Also having accepting friends makes going tons easier then going out alone. It's also safer of course. Wherever you go, check it out first in drab, and know what your getting yourself into. A little planning (like using the bathroom at home before going to a restaraunt or public place) goes a long way to making your expierence out more enjoyable. Have fun, JUST BE SAFE! :)

[Sweet Susan]

I have gotten more and more used to it. But I have to say that I have never lost the rush it gives me.

[Holly]

I really want to go out but I am afraid!! I don't have a problem buying clothes in drab. How can I get the courage to go out fully dressed enfemme?
I certainly envy all of you who venture out.It may be a little frightening but the alternative is being trapped in a closet for the rest of your life. So the choice really becomes a whole wide world to explore and have fun in or 3'x6' closet. Hon, you don't have to hit the ball out of the park your first time out. Sister Valerie had some good thoughts to share with you. Give it some serious consideration. And don't put a lot of pressure on yourself... you'll know in your heart when the time is right and you're ready for your adventure. Don't dread it, embrace and anticipate it!

[sherri]

Am I comfortable? Depends on what you mean. I am comfortable with the decision to go out and, as my look has improved, with how I appear to others. But even though I've been going out quite awhile and only go to carefully selected places that welcome me, my heart always races a little bit and I am never completely at ease. Instinctively, my antennae are always scanning, if you know what I mean. A stiff drink and a friendly face help.

[Melissa A.]

It depends. At a club where everyone knows I am a cd, calls me Melissa, and treats me like the girl I want to be percieved as, completely comfortable. (I know, no brainer!). Walking or driving around by myself? SO much fun, but a little scary, so I guess a little less comfortable.

I admire those of you who have the courage to shop dressed and interact with those who may not be so cd friendly. I am working towards that. Someday soon.

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Cheritv]

My public appearances as 'Cheri' have been limited to one Halloween party (tremendously exciting and very stress-free due to the fact that it was Halloween), and some late-night drives (low-risk and still very exciting). I'm not anywhere near passable enough to ever really venture out en femme - I'd be read immediately.

[Gail Evans]

As said, the more often done, the easier it becomes.
Although I have to admit to getting a little shaky just before I get out of the car. Once the parking attendant calls me "miss" I relax a little. The old addage of going to well populated ares - the mall - works well. Just love being out and fem.

Gail

[Fiona K]

No not at all. I wish i was but i've only been out once and was scarred stiff. maybe one day :(

Wow Nina,
I've never been out but I'd think you should have nothing to worry about, except getting chatted up all the time!!
Fiona
xx

[Richelle]

Yes, I am now very comfortable :) when out and about as Richelle. However, I remember being very nervious at first. I have gone out enough to be able to be comfortable enough to ask directions to the ladies room and to go in and use it.I have even had to what for a stall and it was enjoyable for a young lady to say about me "she's next"

Richelle

[mary anne]

Ive only gone out in panties and bra under my clothes.First time it was to get the mail and it was such a rush because I felt like I got away with something.I went out again the same way except this time I got gas in my car.Thats the extent of it because I'm not passable and my wife wouldnt understand.

[mary anne]

I've only gone out in panties and bra.The first time was to get the mail and it was such a rush that I got in my car and went to the gas station.Thats all I can do because I'm not passable and my wife wouldnt understand.

[jjjjohanne]

I am not interested in being perceived as a woman. I just love to wear the clothes.
One way I go out, I am quite comfortable:
I wear a natural shade of hose, white keds, ladies' khaki pants, and a ladies top. I top it off with a man's head. No one seems to notice. Women occasionally seem to notice my bare ankles in winter (my khaki's are about 2 inches shorter than my man pants would be.) They just seem to look at me and then glance down at my feet and then they are about their business. I don't think they realize anything is uncommon. Once, a guy who was smoking on a sidewalk tracked my shoes or ankles as I walked by. He noticed something.
I wore this to office at my apartment once. The lady who works there and I started talking and I sat in front of her, nothing between us, and I crossed my legs with a lot of hosed ankle and my keds (which I think are obviously femme). No apparent reaction.

Another way I go out requires a cold winter day:
I wear heels, dark hose, a skirt/dress whatever, a coat with a hood with a drawstring, glasses, and a scarf (over my mouth). Once, I walked all over a shopping center sidewalk by several people with no reaction. It was great. I was on of the only two people crazy enough to wear a skirt that day though!

Finally, a more daring activity:
I wear hose with shorts and either man shoes and socks, or my keds. I did my Christmas shopping like this and no one seemed to notice. I even wore this back to the apartment office and started talking the same way with the lady in the office. I crossed my legs and everything. I thought for sure she would notice, but she didn't. I wore this outfit to a Pay Less shoe store. The clerk walked back into the area where I was trying on ladies shoes. (I am rather nervous when I dress) She startled me while I was walking in a pair of heels (and all man clothes except for my hose). She asked if I needed help and I said no. She saw my shoes and said oh and gave me my privacy. I figured the cat was out of the bag, so I eventually went to the front and asked her opinion about some shoes I was wearing. She looked at the strappy heels and gave a comment and we started talking. I went to the back and eventually she was back there helping me and finally when I mentioned my hose, she realized I had them on. These were Leggs, active support Nude. Not very hard to see hosiery. She looked at my hosed covered feet in strappy shoes that exposed my whole foot, and then looked at me trying on other shoes, but she never saw the hose.

That makes me more confident, but, even so, I am not very confident.

[crispy]

trisha I love the upskirt pic. reminds me of those japanese schoolgirl websites :o :o

am I comfortable dressed in public?

well, put it this way ...... I'd be bloody uncomfortable undressed in public. :) ;)

[crispy]

I've only gone out in panties and bra
.........................my wife wouldnt understand.
not many people would :eek: :D :p

[Tristen Cox]

I would feel comfortable, but only if Nina goes out in public along with me. Two fab girlz having a blast. I think the town would be wrecked by the end of the night :cool::D

[Karencd37]

I went out for the first time in Chicago last September. To a bar called Temptations. I was petrified at first, but then had a great time. I hadn't planned on going out, but the lovely lady who did my transformation talked me into it and actually took me there along with another "girl". Has anyone else in Chicago (or the midwest) been to Temptations?

[Tamara Croft]

I would feel comfortable, but only if Nina goes out in public along with me. Two fab girlz having a blast. I think the town would be wrecked by the end of the night :cool::D

Pffffffffffffft!!!!!!!!!!!! Where's my invite huh??? *slaps you*

Tamara x :p

[Akyra]

Well I can't say that I've ever gone out undressed...
sugar u had better stop ly n......

did u furget alreddy......

wow yu looked good too.....

dang this is turning me on.....

got 2 stop typin now......

*sighs*

[trisha maiden]

Hi ladies

Thank you for repsonding and giving your input!

Trisha

[brendaoz]

Teh first step is always the hardest but I have found by going out to as many different types of places as long as you feel femine and act as such people usually are to busy to notice so be confident and enjoy your new life

[Nina]

I would feel comfortable, but only if Nina goes out in public along with me. Two fab girlz having a blast. I think the town would be wrecked by the end of the night :cool::D
Do you want me to come and hold your hand when you go out. How sweet. Tamara you can come whenever you like :D

[racheal]

Now that would be a great picture! Looking forward to seeing that one. :)

[StephanieS]

Oh, the thrill (and scare) of going all feme. I can remember my first time. It was a dream come true. Absolute thrill. I walked the mall. A few gg's in jewlrey stores spotted me but it didnt stop me. Being called Mame, using the womans room, mingling with other woman shoppers in the womens section was a total thrill that drives me today. I remember the first time I shaved my legs (just the act of shaving the legs is ectasy) and dressed up in a skirt (first time in skirt), hose and fitted blouse and traveled to the mall to prance. The shock and thrill I had getting out of my car in a skirt. Wow - it is not easy. The skirt came just above the knees and every step I took reminded me of my exposed legs. I don't know why I love the click of womans shoes on a tiled floor - but dressed efem allowed me to enjoy every minute. I have not gone to resturants and ordered efem because of my voice, but I have found I will freely approach a female cosmetic clerk emfeme and tell them I am cross dressing and find they are comfortable and a great experience talking girl talk. When I go to the cosmetic section, I am always aware of who is nearby and who is watching. Next time I see a female clerk in a mall who has caught me, I will now approach them and talk to them and ask them advice on how I could be more passable. They are a great help and since they are just standing around looking at passerby's they don't mind talking girly talk. I do have a fear of being trailed by security for some reason. I fear when I hear "Code 10 in Ladies Wear" or "626 call station 8 immediatley". It gets easier with time. You realize half the fears are not real. Enjoy being feme.
Love, StephanieS

[Tristen Cox]

Do you want me to come and hold your hand when you go out. How sweet. Tamara you can come whenever you like :D

Neither of us are the holding hand type and you know that Nina :rolleyes:

See you at six Tam :p

[Jamie Renae]

I have to say that I agree fully with Susan. I am very comfortable going out. I do still get a rush as I am driving into town.
I had an experience recently that emphasized this for me. I was with a group of TG and GG ladies, helping set up a charity fashion show. We were all working at getting the Model's stands setup when a couple of the male organizers pulled us aside. They were concerned that we were they as cross dressers. The stated that we would need to confirm to the "male" dress code, during the show. We had planned to volunteer during the show also. I steped in and told them that I would need to hear that policy from the primary organizer.I told the two guys that we were very proud of what and who we were. They left and I found Miranda, the owner and primary organizer of the fashion show. I told her what had happened and she said to me"Tell them to go suck eggs". I did not get a chance to do that, mostly because I did not see them the rest of the time there. We did resolve the conflict by receiving free tickets to the show and clearance to were whatever outfit we wanted. In this case, one of the complaintants was the dress designer, Jordan Crowson. I kown that Miranda did not want to jeprodize the whole show, so she comped us the tickets to get around the situation. Since we did not have to work at the show.
After thinking back over that experience, I can honestly say that I am about as comfortable as I will ever be, with myself, in public. Several years ago I would have tucked my skirt between my legs and headed out the door, instead I stood toe ot toe with these "Boys".
For those of you that have not found a way to the door yet, try to find a friend to go with. If that is not possible, find a friendly place, possibly a drag club and go there. I still recomend going with a friend. I prefer a "mainstream" establishment, such as a nice resturant. A place where the Bubbas would not be caught dead in. Once you find a good place, just take a deep breath and walk throught the door with a big smile and act like you have been there several times before.
Jame Renae

[Virginia]

Amy,
Small steps - just small steps! Get dressed and go for a drive in the car at night or in the evening, then graduate to a daylight spin. The find a relatively safe park with a walking path and take Amy for a walk. Try going through a drive-thru at "Mickey D's."
My first outting was to an afternoon movie matinee. Not crowded, you do not have to converse with anyone other than the ticket seller and when you whisper through a 2" pane of glass they can't tell anyway. You get to sit in a darkened theater, you get entertainment, can glance around, practice your feminine moves and walk out an exit, back to your car and your on your way.
Park as close or as far away as you want. Remember, hold your head up, exhibit an positive feminine attitude and SMILE!!!!! You will do great!
Virginia

[Georgette]

I am still scared to be seen out in public with out my SO along, but I love the rush. The only time I am not scared of being seen by my self is when I go out to the clubs, and I did that last night as the SO is gone fer a few days, went out just to visit and only danced for a couple of slow ones, can't do too much until I get my old ticker working right again. :)
PS I am in no way comfortale, but I like the rish. ewheweeeeeeeeeee :rolleyes:

[Noel Chimes]

I have sat here reading all your wonderful exploits when you have been out "en femme" that I couldn't put off going for a day outing myself. Like most here I had confinded myself to driving around at night, and maybe a quick dash across a late night parking lot. But was just too unsure of myself. Until today.
I had the day off and with the cable gone, I finally took that big courage pill, put on my skirt (black knit) and knit pullover (green and black stripes horizontal) and stepped into the sunshine. I went to a park down in the city. A few cars went by me before i emerged (shaking like a leaf) and proceded to claim this park as mine. I headed over to a gazebo about 30 yards from where I parked, sat down and had a cigarette.( I promised myself to sit there until I finished it).
I sat there watching people walk their dogs, jog or just walk by. No one seemed to notice this "girl" sitting alone. Even when I stood up and walked back to my car, the only person who looked was an older guy and he didn't give it a second thought.( and at 6'2" in stocking feet that's a lot of woman in anyone's book).
I returned to my car with only one regret; I wish one of my sisters could have gone with me. I bet we would have been there till the sun went down. I am looking forward to the next time I can get out. Maybe by then I'll be able to go out with "the girls" on the town!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D
Hugs and kisses, Noel

[Jiera]

Trisha: I agree with Crispy -- your avatar is great.

Fiona: you are stunning. And we joined this site at the same time and you've been 100 times more active than me.

I've never been outside dressed en femme. Nina, I'm pretty sure you have nothing to worry about, but I can understand not wanting to rush anything.

I am simultaneously glad that some of you are unafraid to go out, and also validated that some of you are timid about it. I am definitely, definitely timid.

Ji

[trisha maiden]

Thanks again for your thoughts ladies!

Maybe I should have been a little more specific. But everyone pretty much understood. I wish the world was different, but until then I hope everyone that hasn't been out gets the courage to atleast get to a department store. Few people are usually there on a week day and once your in the lingerie section surrounded by shiny panties and bras you'll feel good. I sure do!

love

Trisha

[the dirty plasterer]

Hi ladies!

I remember the first time I went out; I had just turned 21 and got my own place. I was scared, but I made up my mind and ended up going to a mall. It was great. Anyway when I was walking out of the mall after just making my first lingerie purchase dressed; I felt like a model on a runway! After being out a few more times. I'm confident now, I can shop for girl stuff as Trisha or Matt. It takes awhile but it is so worth it!

Hugs

Trishayour very sexy

[Katiegirl]

The first time I went out was in Dec of last year to a TG group not far from where I live, like most I was both scared but excited. At the hotel bar there were over 50 other crossdressers and I had a great evening.

I now go to various meeting 3 times a month dressed, and with each time I go out I gain more courage and hopefully my appearance improves. Am I comfortable dressed in public - yes I am but as yet I have not had the courage to shop dressed perhaps in time maybe.

:)

Mind of a woman, Body of a Man, Life is a Bitch

[Stacy3595]

Well as right now not really, haven't been able to afford or find any femme attire, but i'm sure i'll go out en-femme sometime this year and take it from there. :rolleyes:

[sarahhotchick]

well for me it is all about hair and make-up, if they are right then me happy. :D

ok so i have to learn then to wiggle ;)
it all takes time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i would even be tempted to go for a walk during daylight dressed.

dam facial hair :mad:

sarah