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loriannetucson
04-04-2007, 07:25 AM
The past couple of days has been a wonderful time. I finally went out in public completely enfemme (don't like that term very much). On Monday evening I went to a support group meeting fully dressed as Lori for the first time. I wore my new wig, makeup, my tube top and capris. I received a lot of compliments and felt great (and rather normal). Later on in the evening we went to a coffee house and it turned out no one even noticed us or were even slightly interested in us very tall women. There was one creep, however, who approached me when I arrived alone and asked if I could take pictures of him naked. After three attempts to say no politely, I finally stood over him, looking down at his face, and told him firmly, "No." He backed off and left. I think he was homeless and was mentally unstable (duh!).

Yesterday was even better. I had an appointment with my therapist and I decided to go into Tucson fully dressed as Lori again, this time on my own. I wore a blue camisol with lace on the edges and blue denim capris in addition to my straight hair wig (in my avatar photo) and complete makeup. My first top was at a Target store where I shopped for a woman's watch because my men's watch is way too large and bulky to wear as a woman. I did get "made" by one man who seemed to try and stare from the side of the watches aisle. I used to work in loss prevention and can tell when people are acting differently and not shopping. Other than that, I felt complete freedom walking around, shopping for women's clothes and makeup. I walked past at least 50 people and no one even seemed to pay attention to me. I guess I passed because it was uneventful except for the one man. And when I went to pay, even the female employee only glanced at my face for less than a second to smile and give me my receipt.

This was good. Very Good. I just want to be able to blend in and pass completely as Lori Anne, and I was so fearful that everyone would be staring and gawking at me all day. In fact, it turned out just the opposite. I walked around confidently and tried not to act nervous. I think I did a good job.

I ended up at my therapist's office, and when she saw me she told me I looked amazing. (Of course, I'm sure she would say that if I DIDN'T look that way!) After the session I stopped by and met up with a trangirfriend at Barnes and Noble. In the cafe area we sat and talked for almost an hour, and during that time only one young tween girl noticed my deeper voice and whispered to her mom that I was a man. Everyone else minded their own business and didn't either notice us or simply didn't care.

Overall I was definitely given a confidence booster. Knowing I can either pass completely in public or if I'm noticed not to have people care about how I dress was a big hurdle for me. I have full confidence now and will be dressing like my real self when I make these trips around town much more in the future.

Yay! I have to say it was a good day indeed! Just one step closer to blending into society as the woman I am inside!

Lori Anne

Shelly Preston
04-04-2007, 07:38 AM
Hi there

It sounds as if Lori is now ready to take on the world

I am glad you had an enjoyable experience

I hope you have many more

DawnL
04-04-2007, 07:40 AM
A good day indeed!!!

Charleen
04-04-2007, 08:37 AM
Terrific!
I work in a tourist town and have been watching people to see how I identify men and women. What I have come to realise is that it is quick visual clues. If I'm like most, it's just a quick glance.

Marcie Sexton
04-04-2007, 09:11 AM
Bravo, my dear...I just wish I had a place and a few friends who could/would share a day out as girls...

MarieTS
04-04-2007, 08:49 PM
Wonderful, Lori. Absolutely wonderful. Doesn't it feel so wonderful, so right? Congratulations and may you enjoy many happy future outings!

loriannetucson
04-04-2007, 08:55 PM
I did feel as if I was ready to take on the world! Or at least begin living my life as the woman inside of me. I was always so afraid of that part. I think I've at least partially conquered a lot of that fear now and do feel like I can easily do it again. To see that almost NO ONE reacted was delightful! I can see how differently things are. Before I almost wanted to get noticed when I would still dress as a feminine man but secretly enjoyed getting noticed by young girls or women with my clothing. Now I really just want to blend in as a woman. What a step that was!

I just want to encourage other girls who are in this stage in their life not to be afraid and to either get help from another tgirl friend or just do it! But try your best to look as simple as the girl next door, if you know what I mean!

Lori Anne

Sally24
04-04-2007, 09:57 PM
Good for you! Going out and shopping while dressed is one of life's simple pleasures!

Sally

Denise01
04-04-2007, 10:36 PM
Congratulations of your full day out en-femme.

Denise just got home from and evening of shopping.
It is so relaxing to be able to shop as the person you want to be.

Keep up the good work, the more you do it, the more confidence you will get and be easier for you.

As you said, the important thing to remember is to dress to blend in and you will do fine.

Denise

AmberTG
04-04-2007, 10:56 PM
"Good for you! Going out and shopping while dressed is one of life's simple pleasures!"

As opposed to going out shopping naked? :heehee:

loriannetucson
04-05-2007, 07:38 PM
Shopping naked? Surely you jest! And I'll stop calling you Shirley! :)

Joy Carter
04-06-2007, 12:52 AM
What a great day for you Lari Ann.:D I just wish I didn't have to travel out of town do do the public appearance thing.

I have been thinking about dropping by my ex-counselors office dressed. I can see his face now.:eek:

Siobhan Marie
04-06-2007, 10:17 AM
"Good for you! Going out and shopping while dressed is one of life's simple pleasures!"

Lori, I so agree with Amber, sounds like you had a truly lovely day :hugs:

huge :hugs: and *cuddles*

Anna Marie x

Shelly R
04-06-2007, 04:32 PM
You had a wonderful couple of days, I am so proud and happy for you! You have done the hardest thing, opened the door and walked out, the rest of the world is yours!

loriannetucson
04-20-2007, 01:41 AM
Yesterday (April 18th), I got to go out fully dressed and presenting completely as Lori Anne again. Yet another therapist appointment.

This time I met with a trans friend of mine and we started off by going to a Thai food restaurant. The waitresses there were soooo sweet and apparently are normally very T friendly because of the prevalence of transpeople in Thailand. There were a few other people having lunch there, but no one batted an eye. One group of 5 younger men in their 20s looked at us a few times then kept talking about their own personal stories.

After lunch I went off to my therapists office. I arrived and immediately used the women's restroom. This time as I was finishing another person was walking in just as I finished. She passed by me within inches and smiled as I passed (pun intended). My therapist told me I looked very nice and that my voice was very female. I have been using Melanie Anne Phillips' cd "How to Develop a Female Voice." So far I've made a lot of progress, at least I think. I phoned a CD chat friend for the first time and she was impressed. I actually thought I blew it.

Anyway, after the therapists office I drove home and through town during rush hour. I received a lot of looks by men. What was interesting is that when I went to let another woman onto the street from a parking lot, I smiled and she smiled back at me and gave me the fingers open and closed up and down cute wave that women don't normally give men. That small thing made me feel like a lady, and it was good!

I got home and uploaded my pics. They're on my flickr and myspace sites if you want to see what I looked like that day. I plan on doing this at every opportunity from now on. The self confidence is completely there, and with a female voice in the works, I know I can continue to just blend in with the rest of the women, which is exactly what I would like to be able to do.

It is wonderful indeed to feel like a woman....