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[jennigrace]

hi girls. i've been away for awhile. i've been reluctant to dress because my wife doesn't know and i don't want to hurt her. HELP!!!

[AllieSF]

Welcome back. I hope you can stay awhile.

[JulieC]

hi girls. i've been away for awhile. i've been reluctant to dress because my wife doesn't know and i don't want to hurt her. HELP!!!

Help with what?

You've made a choice not to tell her. Unless you're going to make a choice to tell her, you're going to have to live with your current choice. There's pluses and minuses both ways. Can't have your cake and eat it too :)

[Casey Morgan]

Hey! Jenni's back! I've been thinking about you for a while now but I wasn't sure if you'd be popping in. :hugs:

I wish I knew what to tell you Jenni. Whether you dress without her knowing or you tell her you dress, she may/will be hurt. The third option is to not dress and not tell her. Any way you look at it there will be hurt. So I guess the quetion is, what would be the right thing to do?

[Ruth]

Jenni, I don't know you and I don't know your wife so it's very difficult to help. I can tell you that I came out to my wife about 6 months ago and the result was a little surprising. She said that she had suspected something like it. She was more tolerant than I had feared and we are going along just fine (I think). Dressing is now much more relaxing for me because I'm not in constant fear of leaving something lying around by accident. Although I don't dress much (by mutual agreement), what I do is pleasant and guilt-free. There is still the problem that no-one else can know, but I'm just thankful for what I've got.
I'm not saying tell her, just saying don't automatically expect the worst.
All my best wishes for a good outcome.
Love,
Ruth