Okaaaaayyyy... This Is Going To Be Interesting

[Dasein9]

For those who don't know already: I'm a student and teach at a Catholic university. Am writing my dissertation on gender and phenomenology. Have almost no women's clothes left in my wardrobe.

Soo... Next weekend there's going to be a grad student Philosophy conference at my school. The theme is "The End of Secular Thought." Students are coming from Antwerp, and are being billetted with students here. I agreed to take one, warning the organisers that I smoke, have cats, and am a slob. They're putting someone in my apartment anyway.

Now, my coffee table and desk are covered with books with titles like Speaking Sex to Power, Toward a Phenomenology of Sexual Difference, Making Sex, and Undoing Gender. The bedside table in my room... well, let's just say Patrick Califia features largely in that collection, as do some gay erotic anthologies. (I'm planning to give my bed to the guest and sleep on the loveseat in the living room.)

My laundry baskets have my undershorts in them, and my bathroom has men's products, including my razor.

Now, how do I go about being a good host and not freaking this person out?

Aaaannnnd... My kitchen is an absolute disgrace.

[AllieSF]

From what I have understood there is nothing out and about in your flat regarding your CD activities. The books you mentioned seem to fit in perfectly with what you are teaching. Therefore, just clean the place up a bit, definitely hide your "other" clothes and accessories and try to keep the place clean during your guest's stay as a good host should. You know better than I do, but I would not let on anything about your other side, unless you are already out. I grew up in 11 years of Catholic schools. I know they have changed over time, including the nuns and priests, regarding openness to others and in general to modern life and attitudes of today. However, with all the recent and ongoing negative press about Priest abuse of young kids, I would be careful. Enjoy your guest.

[Dasein9]

Oh, I have hardly any women's clothes left at all, so I'm very "out" at home. Not that the cats care, so being out is moot.

And I forgot to mention, just as the cherry on top, on Saturday I'm going to be leaving from the conference to go to a birthday party for two transmen I know, so will definitely be dressing en homme for that.

[michelleupnorth]

This may be a good time to educate someone about who you are and who we are. They will get to know you as a real person with feelings and emotions. I think that is what I would do.

[Dasein9]

I hope to have the chance. Especially as I plan to give this person a key since I won't always be with the conference.

Wouldn't it be a hoot if they billetted a priest or a nun with me? :haha:

[Joy Carter]

Just be your self Hun. I'd not expect any less if I were a guest in anyone's home. But do make the place look a little more kept.

[Dasein9]

I just vacuumed. And will tidy up and spend a few hours on the kitchen.

[LisaRose]

You could clean the place up. Really it's just for one weekend. Even guys like their diggs clean once in awhile. :love:

[pocoyo]

yeah das dude just be yourself.

You are well cool, dont haev to pretend to be something or someone you're not.

They are staying in your house so ... if they don't like it they can lump it :happy:

But yeahit's nice to have a little tidy.. well done for doing that.

Can I look at your erotic books? :D

Perhaps just tuck away or turn around anything particularly risque.

Aside from that I wouldn't worry about anything... well unless they are like a weird transphobic homophobic scary type of person. But you will guage that from when you 1st meet them hopefully.

Good luck dude :hugs:

[CaptLex]

Dude . . . you mean you haven't taught those cats how to pick up the place yet? :heehee:

I agree with the others, it's your place and you don't have to change it to impress anyone - well, except for keeping it clean. Wouldn't want them catching anything in the Bronx. :p

[Dasein9]

Dude . . . you mean you haven't taught those cats how to pick up the place yet? :heehee:

It's the thumbs. They haven't got any. :straightface:

[Dasein9]

A word of advice: When you drop dried cranberries on the kitchen floor, it pays to pick 'em up right away. Once they've been walked on for a month, they're a real pain to get off the lino.

Kitchen's swept and mopped. Porn's all hidden. (No, not real porn, but erotic stories.) Clean sheets are going to be ready at the cleaner's soon. Rugs are vacuumed. Dishes are washed.

The Antwerpian arrives today.

[Stacy GG]

Good Luck ! hope everything goes well. :D

[CaptLex]

The Antwerpian arrives today.
Keep us posted . . . especially if he's cute! Yes, I know I have a one-track mind . . . :D

[Kieron Andrew]

A word of advice: When you drop dried cranberries on the kitchen floor, it pays to pick 'em up right away. Once they've been walked on for a month, they're a real pain to get off the lino.

Kitchen's swept and mopped. Porn's all hidden. (No, not real porn, but erotic stories.) Clean sheets are going to be ready at the cleaner's soon. Rugs are vacuumed. Dishes are washed.

The Antwerpian arrives today.
oooerrr isnt he a domesticated young man lol:heehee:

[Kieron Andrew]

Keep us posted . . . especially if he's cute! Yes, I know I have a one-track mind . . . :D
hmm wonder if Das can get pics of him whilst he's sleeping lol

[Kieron Andrew]

I don't know... that's getting kind of stalkerish :heehee:
yeah and your point is :heehee: :devil:

[Dasein9]

Well, it turns out that my Antwerpian is a woman. I'll call her L for the purposes of posting here. There is a nice boy in the group of 'em, though. I don't know if I can get a photo or not. I don't exactly own a camera.

Here, I was worried that L might be a nun or a Very Staunch Catholic, and she was worried about me being the same! The whole group of Belgians seemed to think I was a boy, which is fine with me. I think L explained what was up to the others in Dutch, so the Americans didn't have to hear about it. When we were settling her in, I just went ahead and told her that I'm no good with subtlety, and was just going to blurt it out. She guessed, "You're a lesbian!" Whereupon I just laughed and told her everyone seems to think that, but that I'm trans. It took about 15 minutes of explaining, and she seems fine with it.

We went out to have Mexican food last night, which really seemed to impress them. The cute guy had never had a burrito, and he'd seen them in the movies, so he just had to have one. There was much drinking and discussion of the similarities and differences in our programmes. And a bit of hilarity, too.

Whew! And I thought this was going to be difficult!

[CaptLex]

Well, it turns out that my Antwerpian is a woman. I'll call her L for the purposes of posting here. There is a nice boy in the group of 'em, though.
Well, I'm glad "L" turned out to be cool about the whole thing. So . . . what are you waiting for? Give the cute guy my phone number. ;)

[Dasein9]

Oi. Not a chance. Besides, do you really want to discuss Merleau-Ponty over burritos?

Nearly forgot to tell y'all: I was telling her about binding and packing, and she asked to see my packy. I was wearing it, and had no idea what the correct thing to do in such a case is, so I simply turned my back, pulled it out, and showed. Then she wanted to touch it. Kinda weird, but I let her hold the thing.

We agreed that I should buy another to use as a paperweight on my desk.

[Kieron Andrew]

Oi. Not a chance. Besides, do you really want to discuss Merleau-Ponty over burritos?

Nearly forgot to tell y'all: I was telling her about binding and packing, and she asked to see my packy. I was wearing it, and had no idea what the correct thing to do in such a case is, so I simply turned my back, pulled it out, and showed. Then she wanted to touch it. Kinda weird, but I let her hold the thing.

We agreed that I should buy another to use as a paperweight on my desk.
wow she sounds cool!! send her my way when your done! :heehee:.......btw i gotta ask do you often go round telling ppl they can hold your thing!! lol

[Dasein9]

btw i gotta ask do you often go round telling ppl they can hold your thing!! lol

Usually only friends.

A lot of people do seem interested in touching my packy, though. Weird, eh?

[Kieron Andrew]

Usually only friends.

A lot of people do seem interested in touching my packy, though. Weird, eh?
awwww man no one EVER asks me!! :sad:

[Dasein9]

Maybe it's because you pass better, and they think it's flesh. People do seem less shy when they know it's silicone.

[Kieron Andrew]

Maybe it's because you pass better, and they think it's flesh. People do seem less shy when they know it's silicone.
there is no way on earth i pass with 40F cup breasts! they dont bind very well!

[Dasein9]

Woah! And I thought mine were bad!

Hmmm... I dunno. Maybe it's because you're in England, with all those stiff-upper-lippy English people who might think it's rude to ask if they can touch your packy... ;)

[Kieron Andrew]

Woah! And I thought mine were bad!

Hmmm... I dunno. Maybe it's because you're in England, with all those stiff-upper-lippy English people who might think it's rude to ask if they can touch your packy... ;)
lol yup its definitely an american thing!

[Question Mark]

there is no way on earth i pass with 40F cup breasts! they dont bind very well!

40F? o_o That's unfortunate.