...and What Should I Do With My Hair?!

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

Hey girls! I need to know what I can do with my hair!

As you can see from my pics, I have pretty short hair for a girl. I really, really want to be able to style it so it looks femme - but in such a way that is reversible and can let me go from babe to butch in a second flat.

I'm planning on investing in a good wig eventually, but I don't have the money for it yet - and besides, I'd rather just use my natural hair, anyhow (though the idea of wearing a wig and going enfemme just sounds so mysterious and fun - kinda like going out in disguise - the movie 'Mulholland Drive' comes to mind...)

Either way, I am going to let my hair grow to near shoulder length so I can do all sorts of fun things with it - but until then, I need to be able to do SOMETHING girly!

Please, please, please - give me hair advice! Thankies!

[Glenda]

Nice hair. You should let it grow. Get a wig in the meantime. They're not all that expensive.

[Dixie]

You could curl your bangs under:thumbsup:

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

Nice chest hair

:blushing: Uh...thanks I guess. I hope it doesn't gross you out. I've gotten rid of some of it since the pic was taken, but I'm not ready to let all of it go.
(I knew I shoulda' just taken close-ups of my hair...but I wanted context...oh well...). Maybe I'm just self-conscious...

[CaptLex]

You have nice hair, Nathan/Natasha (and beautiful eyes). I think if you just grow it a little longer, you can fem it up when you want to (maybe with barrettes) and butch it up when you want to also. BTW, the hairstyle in the middle picture works fine. :happy:

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

You have nice hair, Nathan/Natasha (and beautiful eyes). I think if you just grow it a little longer, you can fem it up when you want to (maybe with barrettes) and butch it up when you want to also. BTW, the hairstyle in the middle picture works fine. :happy:

Awwww, thanks CaptLex... I don't really know how to take compliments. I kinda like my hair too, and like I said - I'm plannin' on growin' (forget the '-ing' ending!) it out, so hopefully within a month I'll be able to play with it (and let my fiance play with it. Hey! We could do each other's hair!

. . .

To aj_gg: We need to have a makeover party!).

Sorry 'bout the tangent: Anyhow, I like the barrette idea, but I don't know how to use them, or any other hair product thingys. I would LOVE to use scrunchies though! I have always loved scrunchies! I don't even know why... Thank you so much for the tips...and for the nice compliments. You're sweet... :GE:

And thanks to the rest of you girls! I'll take all the tips I can get, especailly from any hair experts out there! Thanks again!

[CaptLex]

Awwww, thanks CaptLex... I don't really know how to take compliments.
Oh, it's very easy (and I'm sure Ms. Manners would agree) . . . when someone compliments you, just say, "thank you". You don't need to say anything else. ;)

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

Oh, it's very easy (and I'm sure Ms. Manners would agree) . . . when someone compliments you, just say, "thank you". You don't need to say anything else. ;)

Then THANK YOU! I guess I'm not used to being complimented as a cross-dresser yet. I'm still a litte ashamed - not that I do it, per se, but I worry that I don't look good dressed up, and that's what ashames me. I'm still workin' on that one. I've only recently learned how to like myself as a male - much less as a 'female' too. But again...thank you! It really does mean a lot!

[XDW Nathan-Natasha]

Nice hair. You should let it grow. Get a wig in the meantime. They're not all that expensive.

Where do you reccommend getting good wigs?

Do you need to get them in special sizes?

Any suggestions as to what style(s) I should buy?

The rest of you ladies can answer these questions too.

Thanks, Glenda! I will let my hair grow. It just gets so darn thick that it's almost unmanagable. I'll probalby let it go long, but thin it out some. We'll see.

[Stephenie S]

Dear Natasha,

You don't need a wig. Your hair looks fine just the way it is. Any length you get from growing it will look better and better.

As far as styling it, you need to go to a beauty parlor. That's how it's done. Just tell them you want a style you can wear for male and female. The hair stylist will help you decide on a look and teach you how to care for your hair. Just be honest and tell her what you are doing. That's her business, dear, and she will be good at it. Find a stylist you like and stick with her. There are soooo many hair salons that you can choose from it may be difficult to begin. Ask around. If you see a look you like, just compliment the person and ask where she gets her hair done. It may take you a while, but you have to develope a relationship with a hair stylist. Or, you could just go to Hairs-R-Us, and get a $13 cut. You will rarely get the same girl twice though, and developing a style will be difficult.

Don't bother with a wig, dear. With hair as nice as yours it would be a hot and uncomfortable waste of time and money. Do learn to care for your hair, and do find a stylist you like.

Lovies,
Stephenie

Now, pardon me, hon, but that chest hair has just GOT to go. I'm sorry, but that's all there is to it. Your forms are slidind around on the hair, and it just doesn't look right. Do yourself a BIG favor and get out the razor.

[KewTnCurvy GG]

Product and a good cut.

Go to a salon that is TG friendly (not too hard as there are a lot of gay hairdressers).

Let them know you need a cut that you can style female or male; tell 'em you're an actor if you need to.

I think you need a couple more layers and use a product that will let you 'piece out' your hair.

Kew

[aj_gg]

Now, pardon me, hon, but that chest hair has just GOT to go. I'm sorry, but that's all there is to it. Your forms are slidind around on the hair, and it just doesn't look right. Do yourself a BIG favor and get out the razor.

Right now he's keeping the chest hair for me. I enjoy that he has it and it's kinda like a security blanket for me until I get more accustomed to and accepting to CDing. Sorry if I'm seeming selfish, but it's the one request I've made about his appearance.

[kerrianna]

You do need to grow it out a bit more to have more options. If nothing else get the bangs longer and give a stylist some layers to work with. Here's a few ideas to keep in mind for the really short look, but it is harder to pull off looking femme without an 'elfin' look.

Good luck. :hugs: BTW Captain is right; you do have beautiful eyes. :love:

aj...can he at least 'lower' the chest hair line a bit so it doesn't show when he's wearing the blue dress?

[kittypw GG]

Nathan,
Check out the Caplex's avatar. That is Eddie Izzard. He has a boy hair cut but manages to chick it up. He also is appearing in a series where he is very masculine and has a gotee. I think that he has found a balance between man and girl. You don't have to have long hair by the way. Try using a small curling iron, gel and some hairspray.

I for one am not a fan of long hair on a guy or long fingernails. The more my hubby looks feminine the less I am attracted to him so look out for that. When my hubby is not wearing female clothes I want him to look like a man. Before anyone criticizes this attitude let me say that if he was not ok with that well he has choices as well. CD'ing is his thing not mine and I shouldn't have to be constantly involved with it. He can go find one of the other thousands of females who are just knocking down the doors of crossdressers anxious for a relationship.

I think that it is in very poor taste for someone to point out your chest hair. I think that it is adorable. You are not a gg afterall. Many cd's keep their chest hair and don't shave their legs. You don't have to cave into peer pressure. Take what some people say with a grain of salt. You don't live with the cd's on this forum. You need to do what is right for you and your relationship with your wife. Some people are just sour and selfish.

Have fun expirementing. :hugs: Kitty

[mylitta]

Nathan you have nice hair, and don't really need to have it much longer for a feminine look- as the others have said, ask a hairdresser for advice, but I would think look with 'choppy' layers that you could smooth down in guy mode and use hair products to give more style and volume when in feminine mode. Maybe a few longer layers around the face that you could smooth back when necessary.

And as for the chest- or any other body hair, that is a matter for you and your SO and no-one elses business. Body fascism is alive and well unfortunately even among CDs

[Tamara Croft]

Right now he's keeping the chest hair for me. I enjoy that he has it and it's kinda like a security blanket for me until I get more accustomed to and accepting to CDing. Sorry if I'm seeming selfish, but it's the one request I've made about his appearance.You're not selfish and anyone telling you otherwise needs a good :slap: If you want your SO to keep his chest hair, then that's between you and him, nevermind others encouraging him to shave it off. A relationship works both ways, there has to be some give and take and you're already on the way to being a loving accepting partner :hugs:

It works both ways, keeping the chest hair is something AJ loves, Nathan, you need to respect that too.

[CaptLex]

Then THANK YOU! I guess I'm not used to being complimented as a cross-dresser yet. I'm still a litte ashamed - not that I do it, per se, but I worry that I don't look good dressed up, and that's what ashames me. I'm still workin' on that one. I've only recently learned how to like myself as a male - much less as a 'female' too. But again...thank you! It really does mean a lot!
You're welcome (see how easy that is?). It's understandable - I think women are freer and easier with compliments (giving and receiving) because they're socialized that way. On the other hand, when a guy gives a compliment, most times the receiver will wonder if it's meant in a sexual way and getting compliments can also tend to make men suspicious. I take my mom's advice - she always said to pin compliments on like a pretty flower (in other words, enjoy them).

Back to the hair, now: Kitty made a good point about how (my boy) Eddie manages to make his hair look girly when he wants to and manly when he wants to, without resorting to any extreme haircut or hairstyle. Here are a few example of the man himself:

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[Di]

Right now he's keeping the chest hair for me. I enjoy that he has it and it's kinda like a security blanket for me until I get more accustomed to and accepting to CDing. Sorry if I'm seeming selfish, but it's the one request I've made about his appearance.
Someone saying to you get out the razor is out of line....since your partner and you are enjoying this together ( that is awesome) go at your own speed....and do what feels right for the two of you. You can just wear clothes that cover it up...problem solved:D
As far as your hair goes....try blowing it dry ( your head towards the ground)
adding A blow drying volumizing gel ( I like one called big sexy hair) scruncing your hair the whole time you are drying with the gel.....after drying put your head up and pick out with your fingers...try it I think you will like the results. And have fun!!!

[Stephenie S]

Dear aj and Natasha,

My apologies to both of you. I did not mean to poke my nose into an area of agreement between you both. My remarks about Natasha's chest hair were perhaps out of line but meant only in good faith.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[aj_gg]

It's alright, I'm still trying to find my comfort level in all of this and am taking baby steps. I shouldn't have been so quick to jump on the defensive as well.