Crossdressers Who Feel They Are Men

[Tina_Someday]

I was curious about a few things that I could never ask a guy in person :-) So I was hoping any Crossdressers who consider themselves Men might answer some of my crazy questions.

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive?
2. Do guys really think highly of there penis?
3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis?

[Ruth]

Well Tina, I qualify for your quiz so I'll try to answer.
1. I would not like it if I lost my sex drive. It diminishes with age and I'm resigned to that, but just plain losing it would be a difficult thing.
2. I think highly of my penis. It's part of my body so I'm attached to it just like all the rest. I maybe don't hold it in the same exalted regard as some guys, but I would not want it to come to any harm.
3. If I lost it I would carry on without it. I don't see why the loss would make me want to die any more than the loss of a limb. I'd be interested in the thinking behind this question.
Maybe the common ground for these three questions is the centrality of what you see as the male identity. For you it seems to centre on the penis: for me it is more a mental state. I would still be a man if I had no penis. (It would make CDing a bit easier though!)

[Angie G]

1 I don't know I don't use ut all that much lately
2 it's a guy thing
3 no i'd just become a woman :hugs:
Angie

[EmmaJane TS]

Hi Tina,


I was curious about a few things that I could never ask a guy in person :-) So I was hoping any Crossdressers who consider themselves Men might answer some of my crazy questions.

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive?
2. Do guys really think highly of there penis?
3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis?

A1. No, feeling feminine and sensual would be enough if God forbid I did lose my sex drive.
A2. It's a penis, nothing to go over board about...! So I guess that IMHO not that highly, obviously can't speak for any other guys.
A3. No, it would save having to tuck it away all the time.

Hugs and kisses,

EmmaJ.

[TV Wannabe]

Personally I think that would really suck, but it would be like any disability, I would learn to cope with it some how. I don't know if I would transition completely if I lost my penis, you brought up a good topic, it has really made me think.

[stormrider]

Well, I'll weigh in on thi one.
1. My sex drive is not what it used to be, but I still like it.
2. My peni is nothing specil anyway, it does give me a little pleasure and when I am in a hurry, I can still go to the bathroom standing up without wetting my pantyhose.
3. No, if I lost my penis I would not die. I would become a woman like I should have been all along.

[Julie York]

You're talking about identity. You're going to get some conflicting answers given that half the folk here have a confused identity perception with regard to maleness sexual apperatus.

But I would think the answer is Yes to all three questions from most men who don't have transgender issues.

[Eva Diva]

I was curious about a few things that I could never ask a guy in person :-) So I was hoping any Crossdressers who consider themselves Men might answer some of my crazy questions.

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive?
2. Do guys really think highly of there penis?
3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis?



1. Yes

2. I've grown very attached to it, if that's what you mean.

3. Lose my penis? I'm very absent-minded, but I've never been that
bad.


I woke up this morning with a bad hangover
And my penis was missing again.
This happens all the time.
It's detachable.

[background singing begins: "detachable penis" over and over]

This comes in handy a lot of the time.
I can leave it home, when I think it's gonna get me in trouble,
or I can rent it out, when I don't need it.
But now and then I go to a party, get drunk,
and the next morning I can't for the life of me
remember what I did with it.
First I looked around my apartment, and I couldn't find it.
So I called up the place where the party was,
they hadn't seen it either.
I asked them to check the medicine cabinet
'cause for some reason I leave it there sometimes
But not this time.
So I told them if it pops up to let me know.
I called a few people who were at the party,
but they were no help either.
I was starting to get desperate.
I really don't like being without my penis for too long.
It makes me feel like less of a man,
and I really hate having to sit down every time I take a leak.
After a few hours of searching the house,
and calling everyone I could think of,
I was starting to get very depressed,
so I went to the Kiev, and ate breakfast.
Then, as I walked down Second Avenue towards St. Mark's Place,
where all those people sell used books and other junk on the street,
I saw my penis lying on a blanket
next to a broken toaster oven.
Some guy was selling it.
I had to buy it off him.
He wanted twenty-two bucks, but I talked him down to seventeen.
I took it home, washed it off,
and put it back on. I was happy again. Complete.
People sometimes tell me I should get it permanently attached,
but I don't know.
Even though sometimes it's a pain in the ass,
I like having a detachable penis.

[background voices continue to sing "detachable penis" for
a while, then out]


by King Missle

[Debra Lynn]

Okay, I would really hate to see my sex drive diminish, I have so much fun with it right now and it doesn;t seem to be affected by mileage. I think about my penis about the same as the rest of my body, I treat it right and it hopefully doesn't fail me when I really need it. Finally, if I lost it I would have to deal with the situation, it's really my private situation and the loss would make it somewhat easier to dress, but if it happens, I live with it. The alternative is to die without it and that's not really something I would be cool with!

[trannie T]

I'm a man in a dress, although I try to look like a woman inside I'm still male. Therefore I am answering your questions from the viewpoint of a heterosexual crossdresser.

1. I still have a good sex drive and it is a part of my life, I would regret it if I lost my sex drive or my sexual functioning.
2. My penis is a part of me I have a lot of fun with it.
3. If I were to lose my penis I would still survive, I would have more time on my hands, though.

[charlie-50]

q-1 in a word yes i would hate it. i think sex drive very important q-2 if were talken guys in general yes. i just think its a fun part of my body q-3 of course not i would miss it but i would get over it in time. cp:heehee:

[soccervixen]

1. I would be sad to lose my sex drive, it's part of who I am and my life, and would change my relationship with my wife
2. my penis is just an organ, and as such I don't want to lose it any more than I do an eye or ear or leg.
3. I would not die if I lost it, just keep living.

[fwidman]

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive?
At 56.I've already lost some of it, although I have an understanding wife, so that helps a lot. I don't think I'd be all that happy if I lost all of my sex drive.

2. Do guys really think highly of there penis?
I think most guys do, yes. But then, most women seem to think highly of their vaginas so I think we are even there.

3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis?
No more so than any other body part. It might be more stressful than say, losing a finger or an arm, I don't really know.

[MsveronicaGrace]

I was curious about a few things that I could never ask a guy in person :-) So I was hoping any Crossdressers who consider themselves Men might answer some of my crazy questions.

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive?
2. Do guys really think highly of there penis?
3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis?

First let me state a few personal facts:
I have beed dressing for over 20 years, have two teenage children who know nothing about it, divorced for the last three and my ex used to sparingly play with the role. My current GF is very beautiful and was a Mistress so nothing phases her and we play regularly but I never loose sight that I am a man and am proud to be one... even while dressed with makeup and to the nines - just with a ****.
I have gone though many internal strugles, ok, gender identity issues wanting to do hormones, live as a woman ect...
Bottom line is this, we are who we are, born male with the gift of being free enough to explore the female side. After all it's not our fault, it's in our genes... X and Y. We see woman kissing women and society accepts this, the female sex rules, calls the shots ect.. so we want to feel that empowerment as well...
So to answer that question for me is easy -


1. Yes I would hate to loose my sex drive. After playing with the girls, it just makes me hornier for my GF.

2. I love my penis as much as my GF does but love her genitals more.

3. As much as I love my penis, and I do, the question of wanting to die does not fir in here. Anyone in this forum reading this already has the urge to PRETEND to be female so loosing the member would grant them a free pass to live as a female. And there are many other ways in which to be stimulated... so no I would not want to die- I would just buy smaller panties....

Grace

[jessie_cal]

1. Yes, I would be upset to lose my sex drive. I'm sure that my wife would also be upset.

2. I don't personally think highly of it, it's just there.

3. Yes I wouldn't be able to write my name in the snow anymore:(
(ok I'm kidding about the last one, living in the San Jose, I don't even know what snow looks like)

[RobertaFermina]

I am Man, and feel no cause to change that.

1. Would you hate it if you lost your sex drive? Don't know. I'll let you know if it happens. Some have said that it is a gift.

2. Do guys really think highly of there penis? Fairly highly. It is not a club women are afraid to join, and it requires no special optics to locate it. It's JUST RIGHT.

3. Would you want to die if you lost your penis? Nope. I'm firmly convinced that my masculinity is essential, and my body parts are not. I'd be more disturbed if I was facially disfigured, or lost a major limb. Of course, I have already sired, and raised a child, and am a grandfather. I have all the proof of virility, and masculine integrity that I need.

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Alice Torn]

At 53, I have very little sex drive, partly age, partly medications. I would like to have the unwanted drive, I had, 30 years ago. I have had penis shame, all my life, though. When I had a boner, I felt shame, and still do have penis shame. My sister saw me naked, as a teen, and she was offended. I have always been more passive, and submissive with ladies, though I admire them physically. I hate having to be the predator, with the shaneful penis weapon, and, would rather play the female role.

[NewBetty]

EVA:
ah-HA-hahahahahaha!
You not only have an awesome sense of humor but great taste in obscure music as well!
Cool!
(BTW <more on topic> I like my penis an don't wanna be a girl without it!)

[Karren H]

1) What sex drive
2) No
3) I could pee through anything....

Karren

[BlUeDrAgOn]

1. Well... if I'd become impotent and still want to have sex, I'd hate it, but if I'd lose the power and the will, I'd live with it. Besides, erections in panties are very annoying:heehee:

2. Well, I think of it more like a 'tool', to gice you a one word definition.

3. Certainly not! If it's happen, I'd stop being a CD to start being a TG:D

[Dixie]

1) I would not care to lose my sex drive, if the penis stops working I ahve other options for pleasing my wife.
2) My penis is important to me but it does not rule me:heehee:
3) I guess I could deal, I dunno. Maybe I would be a TG.
Hope it helps you sort through what you need to. :hugs: Dixie

[Vicky_Scot]

So I was hoping any Crossdressers who consider themselves Men might answer some of my crazy questions.


I think the majority of crossdressers regard themselves as Men but like to express their fem side.

So I was a little confused with what you were getting at.

[Emily Ann Brown]

Okay, you ask in sincerity and you deserve sincere answers.


1. You mean the sex drive that changes the state of my penis OR my mentally wanting to please my partner? I don't think I will ever lose the mental part, and hopefully erectile disfunction would not diminish my mental pleasure...sex is so much more than a physical act after all. The mind is the biggest sexual organ.

2. A big serious no for me! It helped create 3 kids just fine, and so far it still participates in my sex life, but it's just a private part of me like a hand in my opinion. Not worthy of serious pride.

3. Not volunteering as a penis donor for a needy accident victim, but if I woke up and had misplaced it I wouldn't skip work for a week searching for it. Life goes on. I'm TG anyhow....would just make my fem life easier.


Emily Ann

[Kate Simmons]

1. What sex drive?

2. No.

3. No.

As I've gotten older the sex drive is waning. I don't miss it really, I'm more interested now in people, friendships and relationships. Since I don't define myself by my male member (like many men)it would be no big disaster if I lost it. Just being a person is paramount in my mind nowadays.:happy: Sal

[Phoebe Reece]

1. The sex engine doesn't have as much steam as it did years ago. But that's what Viagra is for.
2. I am certainly attached to it. I think highly of it for a while after taking Viagra.
3. Unhappy - certainly. Die - no. But at least I wouldn't be spending money on Viagra.

[Staci G]

1. Sex drive?? hmmm... Ok I have one of those but rarely does it get used.

2. Think highly of it?? I dont even think about it unless I need to pee

3. Lose it?? well it has never gotten away from me yet so if it does I might feel lighter in the panties but thats about it. I wont chase it down and wont look to replace it.

If I were to cut it off in some freak cooking accident I would only hope I could get the boobs to match the new anatomy..

[Maggie Kay]

I guess I'm in the minority here.

Sex drive: Don't want it because the penis has to be used.

Think Highly of it: No, I am disgusted with it.

Die if I lost it: No, I'd be overjoyed.