Femme Name

[susandrea]

A few questions, if anyone would care to help:

Have you ever changed your femme name?

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

Thanks! :D

[Sharon]

Have you ever changed your femme name?

Yes -- my middle name was once my primary name -- Michelle

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?

It's now unchangeable -- it is who I am.

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?

It's a name I just thought suited me -- it is comfortable.

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?

I've been dressing since before my teens -- I didn't even consider a female name until years later.

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

I only think of myself as Sharon, period.

[EricaCD]

OK, I'll start:

1. Changed once, about three years ago. Long story.

2. I do not consider it changeable. The only exception would be if I ever became more "out" (to friends and family, for example). At that point I might change it to a feminized version of my male name, just to reduce confusion. And, of course, if I needed to do so for identity protection or whatever...

3. It's just a name I liked.

4. No.

5. Mostly when dressed, though when I am referring to my fem self I do call myself Erica. For example, if I tell my wife I am going to be out en femme, I might tell her I am taking some "Erica time".

Hope this helps!
Erica

[Danielle Renee]

1] No. I feel like it was given to me (although perhaps unintentionally) by my daddy.
2] No. (see #1 above)
3] Yes. It is one thing from my father that can't be taken away, and it's a reminder of his love. So often I feel his presence and his approval, even though he died almost 20 years ago.
4] Hard to say, but probably not quite. I've been dressing for as long as I remember. I don't recall thinking about the name issue until Junior High.
5] That's like asking a CD or other trans person how often they think about being trans. Since it's a variant of my GM name, it's always with me.

[AmberTG]

My turn.

1. I've never changed it yet, but I am planning to, my new middle name will be just an extention of the one given me at birth, I'm going to change it legally so I can use it legally.

2. I've had the name Amber sense I decided to find a female name.

3. I chose Amber because it was the only one I "tried on" that I was comfortable with, it just seemed to cling to me once I tried it.

4. I didn't have a femme name until I started reading these websites. Strange, I've wanted to be a girl sense puberty but I never named that part of me.

5. My femme name is always part of me, I sometimes have to watch myself when I'm on the computer at web bulletin boards where I go by my male name. I haven't actually tried to write it as a signature yet, but I need to start working on that.

[marie354]

I just answered a similar question...
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=831582&postcount=87

in the lounge.
Here's the beginning...
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=821272&postcount=1
:hugs:

[joanne_mi]

I've always been Joanne. It's a play on my male name, so it seems too natural to me now to ever change. That answers the first 3 I guess. :)

Question 4; I was so young when I started dressing, I barely knew my male name. So, no.

And on to 5: It's always in the back of my mind, there's a deeper connection than just a drag/drab thing.

[stephanietv]

looked in the mirror nd there was Stephanie!!! what can I say

[susandrea]

I just answered a similar question...
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=831582&postcount=87

in the lounge.
Here's the beginning...
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=821272&postcount=1
:hugs:

Thanks for that!

And thanks to everyone who replied. :thumbsup:

[Tasha Meredith]

Have you ever changed your femme name?

Sort of. After highschool. But Tasha is the only fem name I've ever used on the web.

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?

Unchangeable.

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?

I just liked it. A mirror, my first 'in public' outfit, and 2 weeks with the house to myself gave me the inspiration.

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?

The feminine form of my official name.

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

It's starting to grow on me. I'm no full-time woman by any stretch, but I find myself much more comfortable with a feminine name.

[sandra-leigh]

Have you ever changed your femme name?

No, but few people call me the full Tess-Leigh, which is a single compound name, not a firstname/lastname pair. Most people that use my name just call me Tess. So, de facto my name is evolving.


Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?

There is a possibility that I would change it in the future. It's a handle, not the identity itself.


Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?

I just let names float through my mind until "Tess" sounded right, and then I decided that was too short and so let compound names float through my mind until one sounded good.

It wasn't until awhile afterwards that I remembered that "Tess" was one of my sister's nicknames, and is the name of the wife of one of my co-workers. I wasn't borrowing anyone's name, or naming myself in honour of anyone, and the name is not a variation of any of the nicknames I've had over the years. If I had feminized my childhood nickname, I would have ended up with "Roberta", which is definitely not me.


Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?

No.


Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

I spend more time on here, not dressed, than I spend dressed, if that's an answer. But no, if someone were to say, "Tess" nearby, I'm not sure I would notice or react.

It might help if I note that I don't consider myself to be female or transexual; I don't think of myself as transgendered either, but I guess I am that by definition.

Someone asked me a few days ago whether living as a woman was something I wanted to do, and the best I could answer was, "I don't know. I think about it from time to time. I keep wondering what it would be like." If I did feel that I was already female, I wouldn't have this curiosity about what the experience would be like.

[gwenrob43]

Have you ever changed your femme name?
No

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?
Unchangeable

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?
I was given a middle name, which is pronounced the same as my chosen name, just spelled differently.

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?
Yes, it was the same-Gwen

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?
Dressed

[Kikacd]

I have only used 1 femme name. I didn't select it until I started looking into CD forums and I chose Kika, which is my male name in Hawaiian. My wife and I went there on our honeymoon and my wife found a key chain with the name on it.

This previous thought spurred another memory from our honeymoon when during a sunset dinner cruise I was one of several men selected by the hula dancers to be put in grass skirts and coconut shell breasts to dance on the tables with them. My wife teasingly said afterwards, "My Kika you were sexy up there!".
You could say that was the first time she saw me dressed in a skirt & bra....lol

So I am and will always be Kika.

:love:

[NewBetty]

I don't think I can take the quiz... I just chose the name NewBetty Saturday when I joined the forum. It popped into my head because of the slang: Betty=hot pretty girl
Also the song from the Mudsharks CD "b.s.p.s.t."(Bettys Sporting Purple Steel Toes)

...and the fact I'm New to the rapidly escalating amount of time I'm wearing silky stuff.

[Sheri 4242]

1.) No. My femme name IS me -- it feels more me than my given male birth name.

2.) No! (See above.) It is absolutely unchangable!!!!!!!

3.) I have been CDing since I was 4 or 5. I do not remember when, but pretty early on it hit me that this was my femme name -- it fit and felt oh so right!!! Didn't know why I wanted a femme name -- or if I even needed one. It was like a lightening strike -- it just hit me that hey, my fem side has a name!!!

4.) No. (See #3.). I started dressing at a very early age -- and, I knew then that I had a dichotomy to my very being. The name came a few years later (maybe 7 or 8 y.o.).

5.) It is with me 24/7/365!!!!!!! It is always with me, dressed or not. (((Well, that is misleading as I am always dressed to some greater or lesser degree -- I always wear panties (no longer even own any men's underwear), and when I wear jeans every pair I have are women's jeans, and I always wear feminine nighties to bed, etc. Around the house at night, I always wear isotoner slippers. (only one of our four chilren know about my CDing, but when I started wearing the slippers near bedtime, my wife helped -- we acted out a scene for the children's benefit (they were all in their late teens to mid-twenties): I came out with them on, and my wife asked what the "h" was I doing in "her" slippers, and I said I couldn't find my slippers, BUT, as long as I had them on, wow were they ever comfortable (which is true), and so I have worn them ever since.)))

So'ooo, even when I can't dress up in a skirt and top or a dress, I am always wearing something.

[MsJanessa]

no--It's always been Janessa(or to some Mistress Janess) wouldn't consider changing it---it's become part of My persona

[BlUeDrAgOn]

Well, to tell the truth I didn't even think about a femme name. Guess I'll have to bring one up one of these days...:thinking:

[Karren H]

No, No and I like Karren, what it's always been and alwys will be.... have thought of a fem middle name before but never found onw that works well of means something...

Karren

[Kate Simmons]

I've had three name changes over the years, each represents who I have been and my perception of myself at the time. My next goal, however, is to be en femme and use my guy name. That would be the ultimate self acceptance for me. Put that in your smoke and pipe it folks.;) :battingeyelashes: Sal

[cindychan]

At first I liked Liz but Cin or Cindy seems more to my liking. "chan" means cute so Cindychan is ok with me:happy:

[Jocelyn Quivers]

1. Yes, first name has always been the same did have a different last name when I first came out the closet.

2. No

3. The name does mean a lot to me, it's basically a large part of my feminine identity, it's what makes her distinct and different from my drab side

4. No

5. Unfortunatley she's with me all the time. Whether I want her to be or not.:happy: Jocelyn

[kassandra richard]

Kassandra Richard is a bit of a play on my male name and is an evolution of sorts. Started out thinking of my name as "Kaye" and it kind of grew from there. Don't think I'll be changing it from there, except maybe to shorten it back to Kassie or something.

Although I've dressed on and off for a long time my name was only picked in the last year or so, and therefore it's not really "part of me" yet. We'll just have to see where it goes.

Kassandra

[Diana West]

I have recently changed my name from Janis to Diana West.
I do so because I feel myself evolving and Janis no longer reflected who I was.
I chose Janis from Janis Joplin who was unattractive and manish, which is the way I felt. Now I feel more beautiful and feminine so I felt I finally was ready for the name Diana (for Diana Rigg) and West (for Mae West). Both ladies are beautiful, feminine, and have a certain elegance that I feel I am developing.
I did, however, add the middle initial J. for Janis. I found I just couldn't cease any connection to that name. I was the first one and will always hold a special place in my heart.

[SabrinaDubh]

Have you ever changed your femme name?
Sure, lot's of times.

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?
I used to change it now and then, but I've been Margot now for a good 10 years. While it's not unchangeable, it sure is tough.

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?
Just a name I liked.

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?
Nah. I've been dressing since I was like 3 years old. At that time I didn't think about names or gender... I just wanted to wear the pretty things and be pretty like mom and grandma.

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

I actually have THREE names... my femme name, my male name, and my SCA personna name. Of the three I am mostly "Ciaran", then "Margot", and never "Mike"

Either way I am always me... all facets, all sides... the are all me, and no matter what name I use I am always the same person.

[Bonnie D]

Have you ever changed your femme name?

No.

Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?

Unchangeable.

Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?

The first girl I was ever friends with. I was about 5 years old at the time.

Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?

No. I've been dressing since I was 11 years old. I didn't select my name until a couple of years ago when I needed one for these forums.

Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?

It is with me all the time but only use it when referring to my feminine self or when I'm in that frame of mind and of course when I'm dressed.

Bonnie

[Emily Ann Brown]

I've always been Emily Ann Brown since my first day online as a woman, it will not change in the future (although several friends call me Sister Emily), and it just fits me (AND was not a derivitive of my male given names). In my head I am always Em, regardless of what I am wearing, because I am F2M in guy mode.


Emily Ann Brown

[Ruth]

I had no femme name for a long time, but was advised by my therapist to find out what my real name was - and that is how I came to discover myself as Ruth. So I haven't changed it and I don't expect that I will.

[Paula G]

1. No.

2. I've considered changing it, but wind up keeping it as it is.

3. It's just a name that I picked as an alter ego to who I am (long story about how it came about).

4. Nope, was only when I decided to put a name to "her".

5. It's a part of me now, so it is with me all the tim.

[Shelly R]

#1 Have you ever changed your femme name?
No not ever, Now starting permanent name change.

#2 Do you tend to change it now and then or do you consider it unchangeable?
Permanent name.

#3 Does it mean a great deal to you or is it just a name you liked?
This is the name the other kids since grade school called me most of the time to tease me. I kept it. Sort of a reminder of how mean people can be.

#4 Did you have a femme name even before you started dressing?
Yes/no I don't remember which came first.

#5 Do you ONLY think of your femme name while dressed or is it with you all the time?
With me all the time!

Hope this helps!