I'm different

[Deborah]

...i suppose. I read here almost everyday about the adventures out en-femme. To be honest i could care less about the clothes i wear or how people percieve me. Ok so yes i occasionally like to dress up pretty (I have to stay honest yes?).
Whether i'm dressed as a male or female i still feel all women inside and still desire the body to match.

Anyone else or just me?

[CaptLex]

Whether i'm dressed as a male or female i still feel all women inside and still desire the body to match.

Anyone else or just me?
What I wear doesn't change how I feel either, but it does my head in when people perceive me incorrectly. So, it helps me to appear as male as possible to the outside world. Doesn't always work, but it helps enormously.

[Lisa Golightly]

I wore a guy's suit today to a funeral... No, it doesn't change anything.

[AmberTG]

I think I'm getting to that point also, I don't worry about it as much as I used to.

[Maggie Kay]

In the long view of things, clothes are not that important. How we think and behave is what determines what we are. I am coming to a realization that I have been in the female role for 22 years or more but didn't grasp what I was really doing. It wasn't because of what I was wearing but what I did and how I thought. I was in deep conflict over the contrast of what I was doing compared to the societal expectations of a male. I was put in a female role and I lived it. Raising a toddler as a stay at home "Mom" as the only "male" at the park or taking her to and from school got me a lot of weird looks from the other moms. It was the 1980's and early 1990's when males were considered inappropriate parents. Now I know why I could do it, I am not a male....

[Nadine]

...To be honest i could care less about the clothes i wear or how people percieve me. Ok so yes i occasionally like to dress up pretty (I have to stay honest yes?).
Whether i'm dressed as a male or female i still feel all women inside and still desire the body to match.


Hi Deborah,

I too couldn't care less how people perceive me. It's how we feel about ourselves that matters. I also feel all woman inside most of the time whether I am dressed en femme or in drab. Although I must admit I never dress fully in drab. I always wear women's underwear, including bra and panties, and my pants are all women's as are my shoes (some are a bit androgenous but all have 1.5" to 3" heels) and I always wear some light make-up (usually pale lipstick, eye-shadow and mascara). I too desire a female body.

Love and Kisses,:hugs: ,

Nadine

[Marcie Sexton]

I am another who doesn't care what people think, or say about me, < leaving some other poor soul along:heehee: >, but being dolled up sure helps the persona...

how does the song go...I Feel like a woman...:happy:

[Shelly R]

Yes, it's all about how you feel inside, not what you wear, or anyone else.
For me, it was my feelings about myself that I made my change permanent.

[claireswife-gg]

Nope, it's much deeper than clothes.

[Charleen]

yeah, for me it's what's inside. At work where I am Charlie, I am still Lily. I an Lily no matter what I have on. Yes, I wear woman's clothing, but that it because I feel more natural that way, but that is mearly the icing on the cake. I know I am female, and I do have an outwardly femmine aspect to me even in drab as I always have my nails long and polished, my hair is also long, have hoop earrings, and wear rings and a charm bracelet, and mascara, and when I get off work I add eye shadow and at least some lip gloss. I just feel more comfortable and myself by doing that. It's something I have felt I should have been doing all my life. But even when I am playing the role of Charlie, I am now aware that's what it is-a role, a role I played all my life because I was in denial of my true self, keeping her hidden so as not to offend those around me known and unknown that say "that's wrong". I know better today. Today I no longer have to suppress her and can let the real me shine through no matter how I am dressed. Charlie is like any other garment I might put on as needed like a winter coat.
So yeah, it's an inside job to me. It's a matter of allowing myself to finally accept me for me after years of not only the denial, but the shame for the feelings and urges I buried because I didn't know any better and was ashamed of because of what the "world' thought of those of us who are different.
Love and xxxx, LILY

[Joanne f]

...i suppose. I read here almost everyday about the adventures out en-femme. To be honest i could care less about the clothes i wear or how people percieve me. Ok so yes i occasionally like to dress up pretty (I have to stay honest yes?).
Whether i'm dressed as a male or female i still feel all women inside and still desire the body to match.

Anyone else or just me?

Hi Deborah,
i think that is the same sort of feeling that i was trying to explain in the ts without cd,ing thread so you are not alone on that feeling .
joanne

[kerrianna]

You are what you are inside...everything else is just presentation, window dressing. What is important is how YOU perceive yourself. There are days when I look at my body and see guy guy guy. And that doesn't jibe with how I feel inside so there's a disconnect, a feeling something isn't right. But I can say that about anything about me when I'm feeling unbalanced. I think my eyes are sparkling at the world and I look in the mirror and see they're bloodshot, or something.

The body is a harder thing to live with (which is why some people don't), the clothes are superficial. I use clothing, makeup, scent and jewellry as talismans of my femininity. They keep me grounded and feeling like I can be myself. The hard days are when I'm in my masculine jobs where I really need to be as functionally male as possible and I shed my talismans for the day. But I remind myself that I'm still the same person inside. It's just nice to have reminders.

I haven't been out en femme and don't know if I will, but that doesn't bug me much because I know who I am inside. It would be nice to be treated differently, but I have to be realistic about my life situation as it is today.

I'm pretty content, most days, gender-blending :happy: , wearing or having something femme as a touchstone talisman.