I'm not a crossdresser?

[Tina Dixon]

I don't feel that I am any more, though I don't go out to the world much and the wife refuses to acknowledge that I ever did this I feel I'm not a crossdresser any more, but the next level what ever that may be.

Face it I just can't wear panties for the thrill, that is a crossdresser, I now have to transform in to a female in looks as best as I can now, and to me thats not crossdressing, it's some thing else and there's a ton of names but I don't really know where I fit in.

How about you girls, where to you fit in this mixed up gender issue?

And hey I did a poll:D

[Kate Simmons]

I'm kind of the same Tina. I get no "thrill" out of CDing really, just something I do for fun. Since my feelings have come together, it's just a way of expressing that and I have a "take it or leave it" attitude nowadays really. It does tend to brighten the day (or night) for my friends though, so I still go out en femme. What will the future bring? I dunno but it should be interesting.:happy: Sal

[Tina Dixon]

I here you Sal, who knows what the future might bring, but I know Tina is not a guy in a dress any more, those days are gone, she's a person now, but what to do with her?

[sandra-leigh]

Face it I just can't wear panties for the thrill, that is a crossdresser,

That part sounds to me more like a "transvestite" than a "crossdresser". That is, you are no longer a transvestite.

Depending, I suppose, on which meaning of "thrill" you intended. There is often excitement (a "thrill") associated with breaking taboos, and that "thrill" can be adreneline or a sense of self-satisfaction (or self-righteousness) rather than sexual excitement.

For example, I've mentioned a couple of times that I bought some lavender tights and wore them at work, as I was feeling sort of rebellious and wanted to wear something that was definitely not male; wearing the tights doesn't "turn me on", but there's the pleasure of "doing something I'm not supposed to".

But no, I don't know what the right term for what you describe about yourself would be.

[Wendy me]

lol i have been confused for SO long .... all my life i never relay fit in any were.. i always tried to what or who everyone expected me to be but i never felt like it was me.... as for what i found to be who i am all i need to be is me .... i love to get all dressed up and be Wendy .... and i can be comfy and happy just wearing a little some thing fem ... see my fem side and my 'him " side have kinda crashed into each other their is parts of my fem side that have become on all the time ....

as a "guy" i am shaved and smooth .... and have hair half way down my back....and let's not forget my boobs.... softer smoother skin than most "guys" ... i now can be pretty happy


What are you?
Crossdresser
Tranny
She-male
Female impersonator
Drag queen
A woman
Tina your out of your mind I'm better than those pic's


so Tina to pick on of them .... well i don't fit quite right in any of them .... i chose happy........

[marie354]

I hear ya' girl.

I checked "crossdresser", but I feel that it's more than that now. The next level. Whatever that is.

Working towards full-time maybe. I do dress all-day most days anymore. So I'm still finding my way too.

:hugs:

[Brianna Lovely]

Crossdresser-I do like the clothes, but I consider them my cothes, not a woman's.

Tranny-If that's a friendly ter for TG, then yes. If it's ment as TS, then no, I'm not removing any parts.

She-male-If that means having breasts and a penis, then I guess I qualify.

Female impersonator-I haven't tried it yet, but I'd like to.

Drag queen-It could be fun to be "over the top" now and then.

A woman-I'm afraid that I don't have the right plumbing to be a woman, but I am a mixed-gender person.

Well Tina, I would have to say none and all of the above. Although I don't dress for a sexual thrill, I do feel sexy when I dress, if that makes any sense.

[Kieron Andrew]

Tina dont analyze it so much, you are you...Tina, thats the only label you should give yourself

[Tina Dixon]

Oh there are so many more choices to put down I know, but just cross dressing I my self just don't look at it that way any more.

[Roberta Lynn]

I didn't know which one to chose so I voted the last one.
BTW your avatar looks great so my vote isn't really valid :happy:

I suppose depending on the definition I could be any, all or none.
Like you, the thrill of just wearing anything is diminished. I feel the best as Roberta when I'm fully dressed. But it's not the same thrill, it's more like a feeling of comfort, of being me. Yet I don't need to become a woman or to dress all the time.
Like Wendy's post I feel I'm evolving, hopefully growing, becoming a better person. Maybe like a pebble rolling down a river, eventually rounding off all the rough edges.
I do know,thanks to this forum, I'm not alone.
But I'm also unique, I guess I'm just me :hugs:

[Jenny Beth]

None of the above, but I know where you are coming from. I gave up years ago trying to figure out why the round peg won't fit into the square hole. It doesn't really matter anymore, I just like being me.

[Leah B]

I like "Tranny." It's high time we retook this word! Gays retook "queer" so effectively it's hardly an insult anymore. Tranny feels defiant and confrontational. Moreover, it's ambiguous. Transgender? Transsexual? Transitional? Transformer? Tranny covers them all.

I suppose "Trans" is as good for the same reason, without having the negative connotation.

[Tina Dixon]

Tina dont analyze it so much, you are you...Tina, thats the only label you should give yourself
You know what???? Your a gem :hugs:

[Rachel Morley]

IMHO if I were a "regular guy" and I wore a pair of panties and nothing else under my guy clothes, I wouldn't consider myself a crossdresser. I consider my self either a fetish or someone who likes soft underwear.

To me a crossdresser is some who wears several items of women's clothes. I get where you are coming from though, with the various images that come to mind with the word "crossdresser". How about "mirl"? (male-girl) :D

[Kieron Andrew]

You know what???? Your a gem :hugs:
Tina is as much of you as your male self....like i said stuff labels and quit analysing

[Tina Dixon]

We who strugle with these gender issues have a hard time to quit analysing but it's just a thread for a bit of thought and fun is all, I'm just me that can be two people, LOL.

[Kieron Andrew]

We who strugle with these gender issues have a hard time to quit analysing but it's just a thread for a bit of thought and fun is all, I'm just me that can be two people, LOL.
oh i agree i analyse all the time but you did ask where YOU fitted in..... does it really matter to put a label on it as long you're happy, yes i may be considered to be FTM TS to those that need or wish to have a label to put me in, but to me im just Kieron, just a man :D

PS i know it was just a bit of fun too :tongueout

[Vicky_Scot]

Face it I just can't wear panties for the thrill, that is a crossdresser, I now have to transform in to a female in looks as best as I can now, and to me thats not crossdressing

Wearing panties for the thrill. Sorry but that is not a crossdresser Tina that is someone who has a panty fetish.

As a crossdresser I find "Face it I just can't wear panties for the thrill, that is a crossdresser" a little offensive because if you believe that then you are away off the mark with that statement.

Where do you fit in.....if you want labelled then you are IMO Transexual. But why not just use the label........I am me.

Good luck on your journey of discovery but pls remember to respect the others on their journeys too whatever label you choose to give them.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I am a crossdresser, but would love to become a She-Male if I could get away with it. I am happy though in my current situation and a change would hurt too many people that I love and care about.

[DAVIDA]

Tina, I know how you feel. But , to me , I am just one person that is a combination of all of the feelings on the inside. I don't feel the need to catoragorise what that end result is. It is all that makes me, me.
Davida

[Eva Diva]

I chose crossdresser, because it describes what I do. I would have been happy with transvestite as well. The Wikipedia article on the subject said that "crossdresser" was the choice of straight men back in the day who dressed in women's clothes and didn't want to be associated with the gay implications of "transvestite".

Since I'm "tgirl-curious" - :D - I guess transvestite would fit. The thing is, I don't spend my time wishing I could be in women's clothes, so part-time tranny would be more accurate. If I could pull off the female impersonator thing, now that would be cool! Beyond passable to being totally hot - yum. :Party2:

[Victoria Anne]

I can't awnser your poll question as I dont feel I am represented there, dressing is not a thrill deal for me but rather a means of expressing who I am as a person.

[tamparay]

I have been wearing womens things since I was 10. There was alway some thrill and excitement slipping on shoes and stockings and lipstick etc, but the thrill of doing this was daring. I still get breathless shopping for ladies things, cute shoes, cute skirts and walking out and caint wait to get home to dress up. I dont do drugs but Im sure it is the same rush, call me what you will, I still love dressing and feeling like a woman. Raye

[kerrianna]

Where's the option for redhead? :idontknow: :RND1:

[MJ]

hi Tina i am a woman , got the papers to prove it :happy: :love:

[Shelly R]

oh i agree i analyse all the time but you did ask where YOU fitted in..... does it really matter to put a label on it as long you're happy, yes i may be considered to be FTM TS to those that need or wish to have a label to put me in, but to me im just Kieron, just a man :D

PS i know it was just a bit of fun too :tongueout

I used to analyse myself a lot, not now. It's not where you fit in on the list of labels, it's how you fit with yourself, and that you are happy with who you are. After that point labels just don't matter.

Just my viewpoint, from just another Woman. (oops! a label :heehee: )

[Byllie]

Now this is an interesting thread. For me, the act of dressing is to reflect an aspect of my persona that is *hidden* normally. Am I a guy? Am I a gal? Well, for me, it's neither. I'm Byllie, and I'm just allowing the feminine part of me to become dominant for awhile. Do I need to fully dress? Yes, but not because I want to be a women. Rather, I like to fully dress because it facilitates the expression of my feminine aspect. So, am I a guy in a dress? Depends how you define *guy*. If you mean genetically, well then of course. Otherwise, the term *guy* could just as easily be replaced by *gal* for me. Does this ramble make sense?

[insearchofme]

I know exactly who your are. You're Tina Dixon a beautiful lady!

[Joy Carter]

None of the above, but I know where you are coming from. I gave up years ago trying to figure out why the round peg won't fit into the square hole. It doesn't really matter anymore, I just like being me.

This is what I was going to say. Thank you Jenny Beth.

[Fab Karen]

Crossdresser= has no clear definition. Society in general sometimes lumps a guy only wearing pantyhose together with us full-dressers ( doing the best we can to look female ) under this phrase.
Tranny= generic slang, can mean transvestite ( technical word for crossdresser ) or transsexual
She-male= society in general follows porn industry definition: a pre-op transsexual, mostly looks like a girl ( especially in face, & usually has gotten breasts ) but has a penis.
Female impersonator= professional performer. Might not enjoy dressing when not working.
Drag queen= old term, usually associated with being gay and/or a performer. I think most girls going out don't want to be called that.
A woman= Society in general: A GG or in modern times, a post-op MTF ( this is NOT to suggest pre-ops & others shouldn't call themselves women if they so choose )

I could say I'm transgender ( an umbrella phrase ), but if talking to someone not familiar with our community, I'd say fully femme crossdresser, doing my best to look female, ( & I'd give movie examples as a reference ), and that I don't live that way 24/7.

[Toyah]

I know i dont fit in the comfortable CD window so cannot really help because most CDs dont get me

[Michelle Ellis]

I go with how I feel... I'm just a girl... I don't care what my birth certificate says, they obviously got it wrong.

M

[Jennaie]

If I am going to dress, it's all or nothing. I haven't dressed in a very long time now. Am I a crossdresser? tranny? woman? man?

Let's put it this way, if I walked up to the restroom and found the doors with signs that read: Men, Women, Crossdressers, In-transition, post-transition, undecided, Anybody, I think I would just go in the Anybody door regardless of how I was dressed.

In short, Universal acceptance

[Tasha Meredith]

I guess maybe transgender fits best. I rarely get to crossdress but I can't go 10 seconds without feeling "femy" or wanting to more GGish.

[deniedtoo]

I think it's been hinted at here, and maybe even said. I'm not really interested in a label to describe "me". I cross dress - it's what I "do" ie wear "women's" clothing or better put, I wear clothing INTENDED for women :heehee:

It doesn't make me anything other than me.

I change with time, and I don't think a label will every fit as nice as the skorts I bought the other night.

:2c:

I'll get of my :sb: now. :love:

[trannie T]

There was no category for "Fat Guy Wearing a Dress" so I voted for "Crossdresser."

[tvbeckytv]

I do wish people would stop putting their own 'Twist' on the meanings of these words.
Again in this thread we have folk implying there is some difference between a Transvestite (term generally still used in europe) and crossdresser. I am a transvestite and can assure you all it means is that I Cross Dress (check out the latin). It does not mean that it is a fetish, or that i dress for sexual turn on. As with crossdresser, it gives no indication of gender status or sexuality.
It would be nice if people could appreciate that different words are used in different parts of the world, so making your own deffinitions can appear a little rude to people not from your neighbourhood.

[Suzie S.]

Don't we just love labels, LOL! I picked crossdresser, although there are some days where I feel I could be any of the above, go figure...:heehee:

[micheal]

I went with she-male.

Dont really think i no what it means ?
Allways thought it was more used as an offensive term.
I just find the phrase funny & im not sure that i could ever really pass or if id want to :heehee:.

Dont get me wrong if offered the chose to go back and start life as a boy or a girl, id have to pick girl :heehee: (no hesitation at all).

[Angie G]

Tina I don't know I'm just happy doing it :hugs:
Angie

[Tina Dixon]

Sure is a lot of opions and desription to desribe to our life styles, if any thing about this thread that opens our eyes is the diffrent discriptions.

Now I'm not making a big deal here but I know whwn I first joined this site I was a crossdresser, a guy in a dress and women undies, but now I do so much more.

I know what I have become??? I used to be one person now I'm two :eek:

[Josephine 1941]

Hi Tina,

I picked she/male because my girl friend loves me as a female. We have great sex when I have on a bra,panties,and stockings. I also think that I am a she/male as I don't need to do anything with female cloths to get excited. Just like true females I wear what I want when I want, look at girls an women they have male cloths on an even now wear mens underware so they are cross dressers. I think that once you get by that act of wearing female cloths to get excited you have moved up a catagory. You now have look at your self an say I am going to be, WHAT EVER!!!! I have picked she/male because I love being dressed and a male and love having sex both ways. Am I right mabye????


Josephine

[Daintre]

When I started on this roller coaster, I was a cross dresser who used the clothes as a sexual stimulus. Over the years, Jenni emerged and I now have a duality. When I have the time Jenni comes alive, but Jeff is always ready to take control when needed.

[Lanore]

For me, it's not a thrill anymore but a lifestyle. I don't crossdress, I dress. I start my day female in the morning and end it female. My female cloths adapt rather well in public and I am at ease where ever I go. As I get older and my body goes through the changes, it just fits how I was born and who I am inside and I love every second of it.

Lanore

[Rhonda Jean]

I hate the hierarchy that these terms imply. Some time ago there was a person on another board who made a point of defining himself as an "androgyne" in practically every post. It came across to me like, "I'm too good to be considered a mere crossdresser. I'm an androgyne!" as if that term denoted some sort of royalty.

Ever know someone who got a promotion with some important sounding title and from then on never missed an opportunity to throw that new title they were so proud of into every self-introduction? Same thing here.

Unless I decide to change some plumbing, I'll just be a crossdresser, thank you! No, it might not finely define every aspect of what I do, but neither does any other term of the hundreds out there. People outside of our community don't spend a lot of time familiarizing themselves with the minutia of our proclivities. Throw out a term other than crossdresser or transexual and they'll probably be more confused than they were.

Years ago on Sally Jesse there were several crossdressers and their supportive wives/SO's. One very attractive CD, when asked by Sally what term applied to him/her said, " I'm just a garden variety crossdresser." I thought that was pretty cool!

[TracyH]

Putting a name on what you do just narrows it down into a predefined role and puts a hamper on your self expression. "You can't wear that feather boa! You're a crossdresser, not a drag queen!" I've already had enough of being told what I can and cannot wear, so out of respect for my own creativity, I ask for a "none of the above" option.

[Ellie]

I'm not one for labels either but I understand the need to easily describe where in the Male - CD/TV/TS - Female spectrum one lands (if only for the day).

I answered Female impersonator since that kinda sounds like the next step from just wearing women's clothes (CD/TV). Wigs, padding, breast forms, makeup, voice practice, hair removal (and maintenance) are all done with the aim of passing as an everyday woman. Even if she doesn't get out of the house a lot, much less get up on stage (DQ). Also, my passion for dressing is tempered by my laziness so I don't get all dressed up everyday.

[janedoe311]

I do not CD does noting for me. Either a man all the way or a women. But dressing does not work for me. Too much of a perfectionists.

Vote this one.

Gender confused but does not Crossdress.

[Alex!]

I'm just a crossdresser. I am very happy to be a guy, and I am in guy mode about 355 days out of the year (and even then just a few hours each day). It is an artistic challenge and a lot of fun, but it also helps me relax and tap my feminine side now and then. I don't analyze it too much, since the ultimate answer matters not, though I can without question say I am not confused about my gender one bit.

Clothes and makeup are such superficial things, and for me dressing up in female garb (that is, what women wear in a typical Western society) is not unlike so many people around the world who wear all sorts of interesting frocks for all sorts of reasons (religious, traditional, fetish, whatever).

It's funny how dressing up can cause such a stir not just among the public but also within this community. Just wait until there is genetic manipulation and cybernetic enhancement. One day, people won't really give a damn what folks wear or look like, because it will likely be fashionable to do all sorts of strange things to one's body. I hope I live to see at least the beginnings of this on a mainstream level, for it will take a long time for all of this to sink in :)

[LindaTS]

That was a hard one for me. Tranny or woman? I checked tranny because I'm a TS.

[Ruth]

This site is called crossdressers.com so it's not surprising that most of the folks signed on here think of themselves more as crossdressers than as the other terms in the poll. But, I think the use of labels is a fairly crude way to relate to people because we're all different, and although we can all get under the same umbrella for the sake of community on this website, we each come to this activity with our own background and our own ambitions for the future.
I wouldn't object to being termed a crossdresser but I would hope that the person who used the word knew as much about the whole CD/TG spectrum as I do.

[Kristen Kelly]

I am Kristen, she is who I've always been, the thrill of the clothes is gone, I want to be accepted as the person I am, no matter how I'm dressed. I am out often and no longer just the clubs or TG friendly places, I've reached a new peak, I do my grocery shopping enfem, go for walks and love to socialize out. Where I go from here I do not know, scares me at times for I am not moving forward with any kind of plan, just “winging” LIFE. It was just a few short years ago was looking at a closed door trapped on the inside, and now I am PROWD of who I am. As for labels I am a caring, fun loving individual, for some reason all their life had been confused who they were, till now.

[JamieTV]

love the poll. now I really need to think what I really am. I guess somewhere between a crossdresser and a tranny. If I think too hard on this my brain will begin to hurt I think.

[vbcdgrl]

In my opinion, Tina, you're still a crossdresser, transvestite, whatever, a person who dresses in the clothes of the opposite sex. Now, there are certainly different "degrees" of crossdressing, ie. underdressing, partial dressing, full dressing, but CDers don't make any permanent changes(except maybe pierced ears)to their bodies. The next step, transexualism, is when you start to alter your body in some way to achieve partial or full sex conversion. That includes hormones, plastic surgery, permanent hair removal(or addition), all the way up to SRS. That's the way I see it.

Vikki

[cindybarnes]

Ok for some reason the Poll will only let me choose 1 choice at a time, is it because I'm German :idontknow:
And where was the red head answer circle? I didnt even see that one LOL
Afraid I must vote undecided,,,,,,
Cindy

[Jenny Wilson]

What if the "opposite sex" doesn't feel all that opposite?

I answered "crossdresser" because I am a genetic male, and I feel male, but women don't feel all that opposite to me. I have had some close female friends, one of whom knows of my CDing, tell me that I have an amazing insight into the way women feel and think. I believe that's true for a lot of us here, but not for the obvious reason: because we crossdress. Instead, I think many of us crossdress because of how we feel inside. I know this sounds like the question of which came first, the chicken or the egg. For me, the feminine feelings came first and my crossdressing is a response to those feelings.

Jenny

[leggy_tiana]

Over the years as I began to dress on a regular basis and enjoyed staying dressed for ever longer periods of time, it seemed disingenuous to me to consider myself a crossdresser. As the lady within evolved and I continued to explore the pleasures of womanhood, it became more appropriate to describe myself as a very feminine transvestite who would welcome the fate of being a girl full time.

Being a girl means so much more to me than just dressing like one and I guess that is the major reason why I no longer describe myself as a crossdresser. I always remember being fascinated by femininity and, over the years, exploring the feminine lifestyle has captivated me. The rite of dressing up and applying pretty makeup still excites me after all these years, however, I realize that this is just one aspect of being a girl. Being a girl is much a state of mind too. For me, being a woman means expressing myself from within. To solely focus only on my image is to ignore the most glorious part of the truly feminine experience. Being a girl is combining my inner feelings with my outer appearance, allowing myself to be softer, kinder, and yes, even accepting a submissive role.

For me, achieving a feminine reality and accepting womanhood not only includes the way I dress and look, but also embraces a state of feminine behavior and conduct that is acceptable in public; consists of feminine beliefs that guide my interactions and communications with others and, also very importantly, provides others with the opportunity to treat me as a lady. All of these things help me achieve a state of feminine reality.

[silkybillie]

Amen Honey!!!!

[Felix]

Hi Ladies hope ya don't mind me joining in! Well If Tranny covers genderqueer then that's me cos i'm somewhere on the spectrum more towards the male end most definately. Have the spirit of a woman and the mind of what I feel to be predominantly male which I think reflects in the way I am as a person xx Felix

[Karren H]

Well Tina... First it was getting a last name, then going out enfemme... Now this!!! Now gender confusion?? Girl you are all messed up and no plans to fix it!! Hehe

So when did "getting excitied" be the sole factor for determining that your a crossdresser??? New rules? I haven't been excited about anything.....for a long long long time... And I'm still a crossdresser... I think! :)

Maybe there's a forum out there for people that have assended to an new plane of fem consisiouns (spell check please)!!

www.I.don't.know.what.the.heck.is.wrong.with.me.co m........ Or the sister site..... www.Imsoconfused.net

Love Karren

[Tina Dixon]

Well Tina... First it was getting a last name, then going out enfemme... Now this!!! Now gender confusion?? Girl you are all messed up and no plans to fix it!! Hehe

So when did "getting excitied" be the sole factor for determining that your a crossdresser??? New rules? I haven't been excited about anything.....for a long long long time... And I'm still a crossdresser... I think! :)

Maybe there's a forum out there for people that have assended to an new plane of fem consisiouns (spell check please)!!

www.I.don't.know.what.the.heck.is.wrong.with.me.co m........ Or the sister site..... www.Imsoconfused.net (http://www.Imsoconfused.net)

Love Karren
:heehee: Hell yes I was excited being out in fem, confussed arn't we all, and hey we need to make a round to gether and do rest stops and out houses to give the girls here a real thrill:D

[Karren H]

:heehee: Hell yes I was excited being out in fem, confussed arn't we all, and hey we need to make a round to gether and do rest stops and out houses to give the girls here a real thrill:D

Hang a "Men at Work" sign on the Ladies room door at the Clare Rest Area... I'll be right up!!

:D

Love Karren

[Jennifer_G]

I think it all depends on what term you are more comfortable with. I few years ago I'd have said I was a Crossdresser, but these days I feel a bit more happy with what I do, so I now think of my self as a Tranny.

[Tina Dixon]

Hang a "Men at Work" sign on the Ladies room door at the Clare Rest Area... I'll be right up!!

:D

Love Karren
Sounds like a hoot:heehee:

[lindsaycd75]

When asked I usually say I am what i am and whoever I am what ever that may be.

[Tina Dixon]

Hey this tread is still going, cool, but it looks like your all CD's with trannys a far second.

[Sallee]

Good thread. I am definately a cross dresser. I enjoy wearing the cloths of the opposite gender I get a thrill outof it and that does not mean it is sexual. I don't know what it is but it is a thrill and if I didn't get that thrill I probably wouldn't cross dress. I don't wear panties under my boy cloths at least not often. When I dress I like to dress fully and go out and see if I can pass Usually I do but some times it just doesn't work "Oh well" it is still fun and a thrill. If the thrillis gone it is kind of a pain I have noticed after 3 or 4 days of girling it I am ready for pants. I guess that means I am not a TS :2c: