Hot ladies that r CDers

[psion128]

Hey girls... This topic came up at work and I threw the ppl there a curve ball. :D A few weeks ago, some ppl at work went to a club here called Zanzabar. Well, there were some girls that CD and they came into the club. Lots of guys tried to "hit on her and her friends" and my co-worker kept letting those men that tried to "hit on her" that its a "dude". My thing is, she has a right to CD and yes I wish I was there to see it. But the story goes, one of the guys that she stopped from hitting on the girl came up to us at work 2 days ago and thanked her and expressed his feelings about the situation. He was feeling awkward that he found "her" very attractive but yet knowing that she is really a he, that he was now confused about his own sexuality.

I hope I made this understandable to you in the forum. What do you all feel about that happening to you all? I am very comfortable meeting others that can pass and I won't feel awkward being physically attracted to them. Its just natural for that to happen right? What do you all think about that situation?

psion128

[Jodie_Lynn]

Let me see if I have it straight.
1 - Some of your co-workers went to a club.
2 - there was a CD who went to the same club.
3 - one of your co-workers tried to get acquainted with the CD.
4 - Another of your co-workers tried to clue the other co-worker that the 'lady' was a man.
5 - the first co-worker later came up to you and your friend and stated he was now confused about his sexuality after trying to get to know a CD-er.

Is that correct?


And, what is your question, exactly? Is it: "would you feel awkward if a guy hit on you while you are en femme?"

OR
is it: "would you feel awkward hitting on a woman, only to find she is a he?"

[Toyah]

And, what is your question, exactly? Is it: "would you feel awkward if a guy hit on you while you are en femme?"

OR
is it: "would you feel awkward hitting on a woman, only to find she is a he?"[/quote]


As for the first apart from the guy getting hurt if he did not go away yes!!! and thats why I dont go out at all.

As for the second I am sorry it does not matter how good you are I would spot ya and no I dont want to go out with a CD either coz its still a guy

[jessikasummerfox]

It's always been my opinion, and I think many others, that just because someone finds the female form attractive doesn't make one gay. So, personally, I don't think the biological gender matters in this case. Women (and anyone who visually presents as a passable woman) are attractive to heterosexual males. Period. If your friend is questioning his sexuality just because he found a woman attractive, he's got nothing to worry about.

Furthermore, in regards to his worry that he might be gay, I'm more than fairly certain that gay men like other "men," their masculinity and especially, ahem, equipment. So, unless this guy who hit on the woman (or CD'er) at the club really wants to play around with another man and his "equipment," and it doesn't sound like it from what you've said, then he's not gay.

But, as a third issue, perhaps deep inside he has a certain curiosity about being gay and the potential CD'er at the club just is a way for him to explore that, maybe? Is there a chance that he is gay-curious and doesn't know it yet?

Gender and Sexual orientation are two different things. It sounds like your friend is equating the two. If you feel comfortable, you might be able to clue him in somehow.

But, in regards to your question, if I went somewhere where man who was making a pass at me, only to be surprised by a recognition of my physical gender, then frankly, I would be more than a little concerned. Some men can feel very threatened when faced by these kinds of questions about their sexuality and react in some pretty scary ways. All I have to think about is the violence that some transgendered people have faced to put me on my guard.

[Mitzi]

That was the situation in "Victor Victoria". The James Garner character fell for Victoria, even knowing she was a he, or so he thought. He simply gave up trying to resist his attraction for this irristably sensuous person.

A guy I knew, who'd always considered himself straight, started to wonder after he'd watched a female impersonator show. That he would voice this concern tells me he never considered himself gay.

As to your question/observation, many of us t-girls, whether in femme or drab mode, are attracted to other pretty t-girls. Still we think of ourselves as being straight, though others might disagree.

Mitzi