very confused

[jo2007]

hi all.sorry if this sounds stupid .ive always wanted to cd but was always to scared to try,but after a long time it just got too much and now i am slowly doing something about it.ive always been intrested in gg for partners,but now i am not sure and have been thinking about guys a lot and what it would be like.i cant get this feeling out of my head.i got no one to speek to about this and now feel better that ive came on here and got it out.i am sorry but i just had to speek to someone or i would have gone crazy.thanks for reading this.any comments would be so much appreciated.ahhh i do feel better being able to get that of my chest.thanks all.

love joanne

[NewBetty]

Joanne
Well you caught me at a time I'm going through a lot of the same feelings. I've been almost compulsively dressing in femme stuff every night and all weekend for the last two weeks, that's probably 10 times the hours I had on silky stuff the whole rest of my "previous" life. Always liked and was attracted to girls, but lately men (*shudder*) have been occasionally entering my fantasies.

Pretty scarey stuff. It helps a bit & feels better to talk with the supportive group of girls here.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

While I can appreciate your feelings for a GG I don't have the same desire for a male lover but you need to do what you feel is right for you. If it feels right to explore this side of your being than I'd say it's probably something that you have had in your mind for a long time. I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with the crossdressing feelings you are having but what do I know anyway it just might be in your case just that. I think maybe some counseling is in order, but I am also not a big believer in that either. I just wish you all the best and hopefully you can come to the decision that works best for you.
Love
Sandra Michelle
ps my disclaimer is "I don't know anything about anything" so don't take too much of what I said too seriously except the part where I said I wish you all the best!!!

[jo2007]

hi hun,thanks for the reply.seems like you having a great time dressing,i wish i could say the same as my clothes are very limited now,as i went throught a bad spell and binned everything i had and a week after it was done i sorley regreted it.but yea seems were going throught the same feelings just now,its weird ehh but its about all im thinking about just now,yes ur right its scarey stuff but its kinda exciting as well dont you think.its like there could be a new chapter in ur life.have you thought about going and doing something about it?.let me know.more and more i want to go out and do something about it.thanks again for chatting about it with me hun,feels much better to get it out.big huggs

love joanne

[NewBetty]

were going throught the same feelings just now,its weird ehh but its about all im thinking about just now,yes ur right its scarey stuff but its kinda exciting as well dont you think.its like there could be a new chapter in ur life.have you thought about going and doing something about it?.l
love joanne
I've been going through a huge change right now (death of my spouse).

I'm staying in the house when dressed with any type of femme outerwear. I've ventured out with silky undies and hose under my jeans and sweater (mostly late at night, I'll walk around the block having a smoke). I'm sure I still like GG girls, I guess I shoulda seen the attraction to guys coming after all the CWD and trannie art I've downloaded from the web, but I almost feel I identify myself as the girl with big breasts AND a penis so maybe it's just a stray personal fantasy. I'm feeling an urge to go out dressed too, but I'm way too chicken to try it.

All this stuff is intimidating, so many changes in my life, what will the consequences/outcome be???

[Kerrie Sifton]

Jo you may easily be going through the early stages where clothing becomes the excitement and the fantasy. Two weeks is a short time, but you need to begin the longer search of what brings you to cd'ing and where you would like to go with it. Talking on this site and looking at different forums is a very good start, as it helps you explore and recognize yourself. Take time, look around. Your feelings will begin to make sense for you. Admittedly cd girls are attractive, and if you think of transforming more to your female side then you may find men more attractive too.
All the best. :2c:

[joperinal]

Hi Joannne,

As you will go through the forum you'll see that the feelings you have are "normal" :heehee: . For me the stories of all other Cd-ers here were so recognizable. That was really strange because I always kept my feelings and thoughts aboud CD-ing for myself. Happy reading, dont forget the search.

[Shelly R]

Welcome to the forum! It's good that you are here. What you are feeling is quite normal, it's all part of the exploration of who and what you are. You have found a great place to chat, and get information, everyone is helpful here. Take some time and explore the forum, and threads. If you don't see what you want to know, the search is good.
This is scarey stuff at first. Take your time to explore yourself, this could be a wonderful trip for you. :happy:

[fwidman]

Welcome to the forums jo! This is a great place to be, and to learn:)

I think you just need to take things as they come, and not rush into anything. Just enjoy your cd-ing and go from there. As for the thinking about guys, that's fairly normal, even for non-cross-dressing males. I wouldn't go out looking for a guy myself, even though I find the thought of it all rather exciting, but if the chance came along I most likely would take it. I am happy with my wife and our love life :) That might be your best bt to, jst be patient.

I am happy you came here, and posted, to get things off your chest. This is the best place to do that.

[sandra-leigh]

hi all.sorry if this sounds stupid .

It doesn't sound stupid in the least. Your posting fits right in, and is very similar to situations expressed by a number of other people.


ive always wanted to cd but was always to scared to try,but after a long time it just got too much and now i am slowly doing something about it.

I suspect if you ran a poll, you'd find half or more of the people here agreeing that it described them as well.


ive always been intrested in gg for partners,but now i am not sure and have been thinking about guys a lot and what it would be like.i cant get this feeling out of my head.

There's a nasty cycle that some of us put ourselves through. It does not apply to everyone, but it can really mess with your mind if it gets ahold of you: "If I like to dress as a woman and act like a woman, then because women like guys, I must like guys. If I am to be a woman, I must like men. If I were a woman and I liked women, that would make me a lesbian, but I am not gay, so therefore if I am to be a woman, men must be attractive. I am a guy who is not exactly a guy, but since I know I'm not gay, I must like guys, because it would be just Too Much to be a homosexual (lesbian) transvestite."

But even crossdressers who are sure they love women, and whom would be delirious to get as far as finding a woman excited by them when they are crossdressed (or further) -- even they can end up struggling with their feelings about men. For example, I find it almost scary how much I enjoy it when a man gives me a sincere compliment when I'm dressed, he thinking I was a woman. What the :censored: does that say about hidden parts of me?? It's a bit of a shock, afterwards, when you realize how you just instinctively reacted.

And of course, there is always the possibility that you are bi-sexual and hadn't realized it before. There are a number of bi-sexual members on the forum, some of whom are well respected and some of whom are (at least temporarily) given a hard time. The ones who are given a hard time are the ones who cheat on their existing partners, or propose to cheat on their existing partners -- and I assure you, the men who propose to cheat with a woman are given a quite hard time too. It is, in other words, not bisexuality or homosexuality that is the issue: it is cheating that gets the cold shoulder.

If, after thinking it over, you do decide to experiment with men, then make sure you do it in a way that you can respect yourself afterwards, and make sure you play it safe. "Picking someone up" is often not a good choice from a self-esteem point of view, and it is often a downright lousy choice from a safety point of view, both physically and medically. Internet dating sites aren't necessarily any safer. "What do I know about this person? If by some mischance I picked up an STD, would I be able to find them again?"

[jo2007]

wow thanks so much,theres a lot of help there and i really do appreciate it very mcuh.i feel so much better now having great gals like you to talk too.as you said im just gona see were it takes me and im certainly not gona hold anything back now,no way,its given me too much hurt in the past,even tried to take my life but somehow was saved at the hospital,so i am gona try and go with the flow now,it is a bit scarey but its feeling of excitment as to what happens as well.i hope i am making sence,so sorry if i am rambling on sorry.thanks so much again girls.newbetty sorry about your loss,i know how that feels,least u got friends here,please im any time for a chat babe,as would love to hear from you.take it easy ok hun,big huggs.thanks again everyone

love joanne