Roommate probably suspects something

[jenw83]

Here is my story...

I live with 2 girls. One is my ex girlfriend who knows that I like panties (doesnt quite know the full story) and the other is one of her best friends. Her name is Jen and she currently has a boyfriend. A while ago I was doing laundry and I had to step out. Now I am usually very careful when I do laundry...I will do my laundry for my pretty things in one load and watch it like a hawk. This time I did the same however I did not grab everything and something lingered in the washing machine. So I get back and notice that all the laundry was already taken out (Jen took them out and dried them as well) but with my prettiest pair of victorias secret panties right on top of the load.

Now I have not had any girls over but if she were to ask I was just going to say they belonged to someone I was with...Anyways time goes by and she says nothing but then a few things come in the mail from victorias secret and other places thanking me for my purchases and blah blah. I also got sent a free panty from this other company but am not sure if she saw the package or not. Anyways, I am not that close with this girl and rather leave things quiet if possible. I am not even sure if she knows what I really am or not so I dont want to just come out and say it for no reason. I feel like she is curious and knows something is up... Should I just be more careful and play it cool or should I do something different? My ex gf seems to think I should remain silent but want to know what you guys think.

[DawnL]

Ex girlfriends best friend.....,hmmmmmm. Doesn't know about it....hmmmmm. Have you asked the ex if she is sure she never mentioned this to her best friend.

[Tasha Meredith]

Wow, Jenw! My current roommate situation is so close to yours I'm a little freaked out. There's even a dead-on name similarity. (I'm starting to wish I could see IP addresses now)

I *can* say that women can be surprisingly perceptive at reading people. Unless you give them the whole story they'll be forced to come up with their own theories about your activities and that can really lead to a lot of unneeded tension. There's also the trust issue. I have subtitle female mannerisms and my roommates received one of my invisible breast enhancer packages just to name a few run-ins. If they suspect that your TG, they're also probably wondering what else your hiding and that makes friendships even tougher.

That kind of sucks. I was hoping to help you when I started typing this but I guess I can't advise anything without being hypocritical. I came very close to coming out to my roomies but chickened out numerous times. They have soo many reason to suspect me but I keep holding back. I'm sure -as Dawn hinted- that your ex's friend has already been "briefed" on your CD experiences. Honesty might be our best options at this point.

[Stephenie S]

Trying to hide this from someone you live with is usually kind of a cruel joke, on yourself! It is almost impossible unless you store everything offsite and CD only away from home. In my opinion, both these girls know and are probably giggling behind your back about how you think you are fooling them. Come on! She folded your panties and left them on the top of the stack? And you wonder if she suspects? What planet are you living on? You do not have to CD in front of these girls to share your self with them, just casually let it be known that you enjoy crossdressing. Play it casual. Don't make a huge production over it and be RELAXED. They will both acept you. The more relaxed you are about this the easier it will be for them to be relaxed. If you watch a show about CDing, just drop the statement, "Oh, well I like to do that too." and then shut up. Play it cool, as you say, but stop thinking you are fooling two perceptive young women.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[Kristen Marie]

In ten years, you will probably look back on this situation and say, I really wish I had told them. I can think of people in my life who may have known about my dressing but I said nothing. Those are my regrets today.

Laundry does seem to be a problem/opportunity with everyone, so maybe the next time, you leave another article of feminine clothing in the dryer as well. See if it opens the door to a conversation. But bottom line, there is a good chance the roommates already know.

[Kitty Sue]

I would bet she knows. She is probably being polite and maybe waiting for you to say something eventually.

[joperinal]

If you tell them about your Cd-ing, does not mean that you are kicked out of the house...
They might even help you with your make-over and go out with you to have girl-fun.:p

[Tracy19]

I would probably say something. My guess is that she would be accepting and along with your ex gf, would probably help you dress up.

[jenw83]

Ok let me clarify a few things. I am still close to my ex gf ( we only dated out of convenience, we are actually pretty good friends). I told her a while that I like panties and a few other things. She did not seem to mind but she didnt promote it either. My ex-girlfriend does not think its a big deal but dont think she would ever help me in my dressing. I told her to please not tell anyone else and she is a very honest person and I knew she would protect my secret. I really doubt she told Jen.

I also dont know Jen that well. I mean we have hung out a few times but we arent that close. She also does not know that much about me. Anyways, I really dont go full out cd---I usually just wear underwear/lotions (gotta love bath and body works)/and every once in a while wear girls jeans (usually when Jen is not around).

I just dont know...I mean I dont know her that much and it just feels odd to tell her that when she does not know me that well. Yeah she has had a few clues but nothing concrete. My ex will also tell me if Jen ever said anything and like I said, she does not lie. My guess is that Jen is not sure whats going on and has a few ideas but probably did not think much of them. Maybe Im all wrong in this but it just feels weird to come out to someone that you dont know all that well...Thanks for the help though and any other ideas you girls have I would greatly appreciate it.

[Tasha Meredith]

Mmmmm still... We have an ex who knows, panties "accidentally" displayed atop your guy stuff, lingerie addressed to you, and a trail of breadcrumbs leading in only one direction and somehow two intelligent young women can't piece it all together? I think it may be time to start rehearsing an explanation.

Myself, I'm just going to ask if my roommates wouldn't be bother if I'm TG. I'm 100% certain they won't mind. I'm still nervous though but I have my first Tri-Ess is 2 weeks. I think honesty will be a lot better than getting "caught."

[Wenda]

I agree with most of the other girls, here, I believe they both know. Women don't feel a need to connect all of dots. If they can connect 3 out of 9, and they 'feel' they are connected, then THEY ARE CONNECTED.
They obviously aren't making a big thing out of it, so, I wouldn't either, but I would take the opportunities to include it in the conversation, as opposed to our usual habit of derailing the direction of the conversation, or just staying silent. Pretty sure they know, if you cautiously share your 'secret', it can make you 'one of the girls'. Women enjoy having a secret. Take it easy, turn your estrogen radar on, and see what happens. Should be good. w.

[jenw83]

Thanks for the help. I just wish I was better friends with Jen cause that would make it easier. Thats how I was able to tell Lauren. Im just not as sure about Jen. Lauren I could tell was an understanding person but I dont get the same vibe with Jen. Maybe she would surprise me I dont know. Why cant life be easier?

[Cindy43]

:love: Its simple, Thank her for everything then ask what she thinks.

[AllieSF]

I also believe that honesty is the best policy. However, to buck the trend here a bit, what is your situation if you do tell Jen and then she, not being the close and trusting friend that Lauren is, let's the cat out of the bag? Is it OK with you? Are you far enough removed from others that Jen sharing an interesting secret with her friends and potentially others, that it will not get back to those who you don't want to know? I think I would trust Lauren on this one, but explain to her that you are concerned about lying to Jen and how she might feel about that, etc. Jen may even be concerned that you would get into her stuff. You can always see what happens over time and then devise a plan with Lauren's assistance to explain to Jen your interest in feminine clothes. I think more conversations with Lauren may help you define your next steps. Good luck.

[AmberTG]

Personally, I'd just thank her for taking care of my laundry, if it was me. If she's curious, she might ask you about the items. She might just not be curious about it. Believe it or not, some women just don't care about stuff like that, she probably already has her own idea about why they were there and that's probably good enough for her.
I wouldn't come out and tell them for no particular reason, but if something is mentioned, just say something like" ya, those are mine". If they want to know more, believe me, they will ask. Don't lie about it, but why give out information that they may not be interested in and don't need to know? It's not like you're married and keeping secrets or something.

[Sheri 4242]

In ten years, you will probably look back on this situation and say, I really wish I had told them. I can think of people in my life who may have known about my dressing but I said nothing. Those are my regrets today.

Laundry does seem to be a problem/opportunity with everyone, so maybe the next time, you leave another article of feminine clothing in the dryer as well. See if it opens the door to a conversation. But bottom line, there is a good chance the roommates already know.

I agree on all points! There were times in my past that I wish I had told someone when such an opportunity had come my way.

I also have to believe that the roommate probably knows!

[Angie G]

Just shut up and let it go :hugs:
Angie

[jenw83]

Personally, I'd just thank her for taking care of my laundry, if it was me. If she's curious, she might ask you about the items. She might just not be curious about it. Believe it or not, some women just don't care about stuff like that, she probably already has her own idea about why they were there and that's probably good enough for her.
I wouldn't come out and tell them for no particular reason, but if something is mentioned, just say something like" ya, those are mine". If they want to know more, believe me, they will ask. Don't lie about it, but why give out information that they may not be interested in and don't need to know? It's not like you're married and keeping secrets or something.

Thanks Amber...that is basically how I feel and I agree with your logic.

[Bobbie Jo]

I'm like Jo Per---
I'd give it a go. Just bring it out in a Fem... Way..lol
Have fun