So when did you realize you wanted to be a sissy?

[Karren H]

That was the question asked me last week and frankly I was offended...

"I'm not a sissy!!". Or am I?

So I looked it up this morning http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sissy Didn't know that Sissy was a nickname for a female based on the word sister... I did know that it was also a term for an effeminate male but didn't know that it was the male converse of Tomboy but as was quoted "has none of the latter's positive connotations"... Meaning Tomboys...

Also under Sissyphobia, the statement "that gay and lesbian culture now place such a high premium on masculinity" seemed strange to me..

Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians??

Guess my question is....... I see a lot of people with sissy in their I'd's............. I'm not trying to pass judgement on anyone but just wondered ........ Do you consider yourself a sissy and why or why not?

Love Karren

[Rikkicn]

"Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians?? "
I think that's really true of gay men and only a little in the lesbian community. Has a lot to do with misogyny seems to me.
Great Questions!!!
When I go out to queer events I often wear a button that I made that says "sissy"
I wear it because there is a part of me that likes what that stands for erotically. I also wear it because I want to show the queer community that I'm proud of what I am. Sort of trying to "reclaim" it, like was done with the word queer

[Michelle 51]

I don't .I'm very macho untill the urge to dress hit' then if you seen me in a dress well i suppose i look quite a bit like a sissy. Justabit

[Dixie]

I've never thought of myself as a sissy everytime I dress, but there are those occasions when I am a total sissy and proud of it!! And this one time in bandcamp....:devil:

[NatalieGirl]

I'm a sissy. Always have been. Always will be.

Anyone who doesn't like that can kiss my panty-clad bottom.

XOXOXOXO
Natalie

[Phyliss]

Somehow I equate the term "sissy" with a limp wristed swishy type of person. I don't consider myself in that way. While I may be a bit more "soft" when dressed, I don't fully relagate my "maleness" to the back corner of my mind and totally become a submissive female.

I suppose it's true that some look upon those who CD as a "sissy" but those of us who actually CD know better what we are. As with anything there are so many different degrees of "how far you want to go" that it becomes almost impossible to give a definitive description of the term "sissy"

[Angie G]

Part time sissy meny years ago :hugs:
Angie

[Dixie]

My wife says my last comment wasn't complete enuff, she says that I forgot to mention that sometimes I'm just a sissy ****, But only for you my dear

[Deborah]

No i hate the term sissy and i don't consider myself one.

[JoAnnDallas]

When I was younger and I got called a "Sissy", it was because the other guys thought I did something that was girlist. Like "You throw a ball like a sissy". Today, I reference the term "Sissy" to that of a femizied subservant male that caters to a Mistress.

[Deborah]

I reference the term "Sissy" to that of a femizied subservant male that caters to a Mistress.

Exactly my thoughts too.

[Kate Simmons]

Well, I guess based on that definition, I am a sissy. Any body have a problem with that?:Punch:Didn't think so. :doll: :happy:

[Teresa Amina]

"I'm not a sissy"

You're a hockey player. Never seen a sissy hockey player. Toothless, yes, but not sissy.
I never wanted be a sissy, just a girl/woman :D

[Eva Diva]

Sissy certainly meant effeminate when I was growing up. The word, like many, has taken on new shades of meaning though. Today, sissy is generally used in self-identification to mean sexually - and otherwise - submissive and gay or bisexual. There seems to often be an association with voluntary humiliation. There is a sissy forum on the 'net - I'm sure if I linked it, my post would get pulled. :D

Some might not appreciate the above definition, but I heard "sissy **** tranining" name-checked on one of the CSI police shows recently while watching with my elderly mother :eek: so it's not like I'm pulling it out of my hat.

Regarding the gay community - there was a public radio reference some time last year that is relevant. Apparently a lot of gay male personal ads ask for "straight-looking" or similar requests. They interviewed at least one femme guy who complained about it. The issue was presented as gay men being "homophobic" somehow by seeking out straight appearing guys, but it was kind of a semantic game. Unlike straight people, who tend to see gay men as swishy "sissys", most gay men have no interest in feminine appearance - including in other men. They like "manly" men - that's the whole point of being a gay man, after all. The femme, swishy, girlie voiced sissy type is just what straight people recognize from TV and movies.

[Elly]

usualy when i think Sissy, within terms of the community, it brings up images of old guys dressed up like 5 year olds, wearing peticoats and many layers of silky, satiny materials, whick leans really closely to infantalism, neither of the two i support, as i feel going backwards in itself silly, i personaly believe in dressing "age appropriate", i guess it's the fact i've run into many "nanny sites" like sissify.com, while looking into the CD thing on the interwebs, i don't consider ppl that dress "age appropriate" as sissies as the word sissy in itself feels very infantile, and childish...

[Minerva Morgan]

So, Karen, what was your reply. "When did you realize you were a jerk?" The term, as it was used, was offensive, and meant to be. The suggestion was that your behaviour was inapproriate; when, actually, it was the questioner who needed to develop a sense of propriety.

Love

Minerva

[Mitch23]

sissy in the sense of being a member of the sisterhood - yes

girlie - yes

sensitive to the needs of others - yes

limp wristed and wet - no

mitch

[Brianna Lovely]

That was the question asked me last week and frankly I was offended...

"I'm not a sissy!!". Or am I?

Ok, sister, I have to ask.
Why were you asked if you were a sissy?



Also under Sissyphobia, the statement "that gay and lesbian culture now place such a high premium on masculinity" seemed strange to me..

Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians??

Reporting from the front lines..........I can verify this.
Before and up till Stonewall, fem Gay men dressed like girls. As the Gay Rights movement grew, Gay men wanted to be seen as "normal" (boo, hiss), so they started dressing and acting like all the other straight men.
Today, if you look at Gay personal ads, nine out of ten, will say, "Staight Acting".
So today a feminine male is frowned on and a CD Gay man is really, really frowned on, if not shunned.




Guess my question is....... I see a lot of people with sissy in their I'd's............. I'm not trying to pass judgement on anyone but just wondered ........ Do you consider yourself a sissy and why or why not?

Love Karren

I don't consider myself a sissy, in my daily life. But..............I could play the part, if the situation was right, giggle.

[Karren H]

So, Karen, what was your reply. "When did you realize you were a jerk?" The term, as it was used, was offensive, and meant to be. The suggestion was that your behaviour was inapproriate; when, actually, it was the questioner who needed to develop a sense of propriety.

Love

Minerva

And my answer to his question was that I didn't consider myself a sissy... He had assumed that anyone that like to dress like a woman was a sissy.. Just like many assume that anyone that dresses like a woman is gay

Funny though that we had been chatting about just normal CD things.. You know.. Like how pretty I was.. Hehe. And this question came out of the blue... His reply to my reply was "Ut ohhhh.. I think I made her mad"... Lol

But I thought I would ask the question... And get everyone pissed off at me early in the week!!

:tongueout

Love Karren

[Sheri 4242]

"Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians?? "
I think that's really true of gay men and only a little in the lesbian community.

There's a lot of truth in there! It isn't so much what the definition of a word is as much as what the general use of the word is and/or conotates. While these two may be close, there is often "wiggle room" in a definition. IMO, "sissy" may be a correct and good term when properly used, but, by common use, proper definition notwithstanding, it is frequently used in a most negative and derogatory way.

I've had two rather manly jobs by society's standards, but properly used, I guess I might be a sissy -- again, proerly used. The main problem I see -- and we have talked a lot on this forum about often needing good definitions to help facilitate discussions v. not wanting to be labeled -- lies in it becoming a label.

[MsJanessa]

Today, I reference the term "Sissy" to that of a femizied subservant male that caters to a Mistress.

Exactly!! And for all you sissies out there, you can cater to Me

[Sheri 4242]

Exactly!! And for all you sissies out there, you can cater to Me

Whoops -- i forgot that most proper use of the word, so add that to my above comments!!!

[vbcdgrl]

Hi, Karren. Well, to me, the term "sissy" has always meant a subserviant, meek, cowardly person, not necessarily any sexual connotation. I remember kids would be called sissys if they didn't want to play sports or participate in "manly" activities. Today, I see there's a "sissy culture" where there is a dominatrix who is forcing these "sissy" servants to perform domestic duties, among other things. I certainly don't consider myself a sissy, and I would be insulted if anyone called me one. Crossdresser, transvestite, TV, tranny, CD, T-girl Ok. Sissy, drag queen, not what I am...

Vikki

[Rikkicn]

Regarding the gay community - there was a public radio reference some time last year that is relevant. Apparently a lot of gay male personal ads ask for "straight-looking" or similar requests. They interviewed at least one femme guy who complained about it. The issue was presented as gay men being "homophobic" somehow by seeking out straight appearing guys, but it was kind of a semantic game. Unlike straight people, who tend to see gay men as swishy "sissys", most gay men have no interest in feminine appearance - including in other men. They like "manly" men - that's the whole point of being a gay man, after all. The femme, swishy, girlie voiced sissy type is just what straight people recognize from TV and movies.

I live in the gay community for the most part. The Gay men's move toward uber masculinity is a long term shift from the more femme.

The gay liberation taking place in the sixties saw an equal population of the masculine and the femme. There were cders and drag queens seen constantly on the streets of the Castro district. Not any more.

The nighties changed that and the femme has slowly disappeared to the point where it's hard for a gay man to come out as a crossdresser.

I have many femme gay friends and they have a difficult time feeling at home sometimes.

The femme, swishy, girlie voiced sissy type is just what straight people recognize from TV and movies.......
This had a basis in reality...This was a large part of the gay community.

[Kerrie Sifton]

Sissy:
1 the opposite of tomboy (not always a positive term)
2 boy who wears girls clothes
3 male feminized to be subservient to a mistress
4 could be an old guy dressed up like a very fem 5 year old (see sissify.$$)
5 means effeminate
6 as per 4 could signify sexual conotations
7 Limp wristed swishy type person

A look at the above descriptions from the above notes, I believe that the term is multifaceted. Therefore there are a few denotations as per dictionary.com:
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl
and from there we each have multiple connotations as per the items 1-7

On a daily basis I am not a sissy, nor do i think about that terminology. However thanks to karen if someone came up to me and said I was a sissy because i like womens clothes and dress err... well.. ok! Sure I am but I certainly am not a woose and by the way buddy.... what of it??
I also note that if you look at the youth around us and the women around us, the ultra feminine dress has been replaced by very functional clothes.
So the sissy of old may becoming extinct. Now that might be sad. :2c:
Now that Karren has distracted me, I am going to go find a pretty blouse and skirt!! :D Maybe something in matching camo!!

[Crissy Kay]

Maybe the first time I dressed up completely as a french maid. Hard not to consider myself a sissy, while I"m flouncing around in petticoats!!!!!

[Trudy]

I like to wear female clothing. My wife has pushed me to the point that I wear almost all female clothing. Jeans. Tops but if you looked at me you wouldn't know it as a lot of my clothing look pretty neutral. I do all the dishes and make the bed everyday. My wife insists. I never considered myself a sissy but I am coming to think I may fit the definition.

[Alice B]

I do not think of myself as a "sissy". I feel very very much the female when dressed, but at all other times I a without question a strong male and present that image without having to do anythinbg special. To me, maybe because of my up-bringing, the term "sissy" has a negative feel or meaning. If someone were to call me a "sissy" I would be offended, even if it came from someone that does not understand what a cross dresser is.:rolleyes:

[Shelly R]

That was the question asked me last week and frankly I was offended...

"I'm not a sissy!!". Or am I?


Love Karren

I would have never thought of you as a sissy, suprised me. :eek:
I have never thought of myself as being a sissy, but was called that most of my younger life. Used to really hurt my feelings, I would start crying, then I would be an even bigger sissy, kids can be so cruel. I am what I am, A woman. If that makes me a sissy, then I am. Just what I need, another label!

[susiej]

So, bottom line, it seems that the pejorative definition of "sissy" has pretty much overcome the sweet sisterly one. What a surprise that is :eek: .

This effect is so pervasive, in my view, that the only people who are willing to be identified as sissies any more are those who enjoy being submissive.

Too bad, but probably an inevitable evolution of the language. I, also, was called a sissy a few times in my childhood. I don't think it contributed to my drift toward things femme (rather, it was evidence of same), but one never knows for sure.

Nonetheless, I definitely don't consider my femme self to be a sissy. I'm a liberated woman, and love every minute of it! If you want my peaches, baby, you'd better bring some sugar to go with them :).

Hugs,
Susie

[Eva Diva]

The femme, swishy, girlie voiced sissy type is just what straight people recognize from TV and movies.......
This had a basis in reality...This was a large part of the gay community.


Sounds like you know more than me. I did spend time in Provincetown in the mid-Seventies. There was a lot of "she", and "Mary" and "bitch", and the "gay voice", the femme lilt, was there, but the same guys dressed pure male, and I wouldn't have called many sissies, although many people would, just because they were gay. It seemed to me at the time - a straight guy just observing - that the drag queens were a separate world, and that the Marlboro Man was the model, not the "gurl" in heels and lipstick.

Having said that, it's been years since I was anywhere near P-town or the gay community in general.

[Ruth]

The language is sometimes like a battlefield, with various groups trying to claim words for their own. "Sissy" was a childish term of abuse for a long time, and would be said equally to boys and girls where I come from. Now there's a set of submissive CDers claiming it for their own.
I'm old enough to remember when the same thing happened to the word "gay". It used to have nothing to do with sexual orientation.
Never mind, language grows and changes. We just have to try to keep up.
I wouldn't be upset if someone saw me en femme and called me a sissy. I wouldn't be sure what they meant and would give them the benefit of the doubt. There are worse things a man in a dress might get called.

[stormrider]

Hmmmm, effeminate, submissive, bisexual.... I guess I am a sissy. I am all of these and the kids who called me a sissy back in the 60's apparently were right. I wish I had listened to them.

Michelle

[JacquiUKTV]

That was the question asked me last week and frankly I was offended...

"I'm not a sissy!!". Or am I?

So I looked it up this morning http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sissy Didn't know that Sissy was a nickname for a female based on the word sister... I did know that it was also a term for an effeminate male but didn't know that it was the male converse of Tomboy but as was quoted "has none of the latter's positive connotations"... Meaning Tomboys...

Also under Sissyphobia, the statement "that gay and lesbian culture now place such a high premium on masculinity" seemed strange to me..

Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians??

Guess my question is....... I see a lot of people with sissy in their I'd's............. I'm not trying to pass judgement on anyone but just wondered ........ Do you consider yourself a sissy and why or why not?

Love Karren

As a child I came in for a certain amount of teasing/bullying on account of my being perceived as "soft"...not quite one of the boys. The term "sissy" was never actually used (at least not to my face) but that was the sentiment; I was made to feel "wrong" about having a gentler side.
Accordingly, I tend to associate the term with those not of, shall we say, the most evolved stratum of intellect...those who in adult life still retain the propensity for cruelty-as-fun (schadenfreud?) that children are so often capable-of.
In my own adult life I'm proud of my disposition...I firmly believe that those who experience the joys/pangs of both sexes are blessed, not cursed.
As humankind evolves away from the caves and toward the stars perhaps TG-ism is symptomatic of a parallel evolution wherein the "Tarzan and Jane" mentality is becoming a bit er, redundant?
Might one speculate that the need for strict M/F genderism for survival purposes is perhaps fading?
Just a thought.....a "sissy"? Me? Yes, and proud of it.:love: Jacqui.

[Carin's Wife GG]

That was the question asked me last week and frankly I was offended...

"I'm not a sissy!!". Or am I?

So I looked it up this morning http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sissy Didn't know that Sissy was a nickname for a female based on the word sister... I did know that it was also a term for an effeminate male but didn't know that it was the male converse of Tomboy but as was quoted "has none of the latter's positive connotations"... Meaning Tomboys...

Also under Sissyphobia, the statement "that gay and lesbian culture now place such a high premium on masculinity" seemed strange to me..

Soo Tomboy's are seen positively and enfem males aren't, by the general public and even gays and lesbians??

Guess my question is....... I see a lot of people with sissy in their I'd's............. I'm not trying to pass judgement on anyone but just wondered ........ Do you consider yourself a sissy and why or why not?

Love Karren

you are nowhere NEAR a sissy!


Louise.

[JacquiUKTV]

Addendum to previous post...."Age of Aquarius" and all that?:tongueout

[Lovely Rita]

Can we take the word sissy over and make it positive? You know the way other groups take derogatory words and make them positive and also take the sting out of them?

[SandyR]

Sissy! Yeah Right......Hockey,,,,Working out. I don't feel sissy......

I am afended too..........

Big Hug!

SandyR

[Joni Beauman]

I just want to be a woman. A dignified, hard working woman. Or at least dress like one. Whatever that makes me... Somebodies still gotta chop the wood and hoe the beans. That'd be me. And I suspect many macho males couldn't hold up under the routines of botanical/ecological field work under typical summer conditions. Joni

[marie354]

Does that make all MTF's sissy's?
NOT!
I've never considered any of us sissy's. We're just pretty men, aren't we?
Well, whatever we are, we're happy. For the most part anyway. And maybe a bit more tolerant of others... Yes?
:hugs:

[MsMarci]

Yes - I've come to realize that being a sissy with another crossdresser is my part-time fantasy of a cd-lesbo encouner.
Marci

[SuzieInSatin]

My inner Sissy is about how i feel,if i am wearing my frilliest pink satins and lace yes i am feeling sissy and i have felt this for several years the older i get the younger and the more i want to be a sissy.:love:

[suchacutie]

If we are to say what we think we are or not, we need a defined term. The tomboy/sissy obversity seems a place to start, but we can only define our own opinions here so I'll define these terms as being clearly of one gender, but absorbing/demonstrating qualities of the other gender. The boy who likes the "things" girls are "supposed" to like is called a sissy. He continues to stay outwardly a boy during this situation.

In a second set of definitions, a subserviant male taking on dress or mannerisms of a woman, willingly or under duress, is talked of in previous postings as a "sissy".

Given these two definitions, I don't fall into either of these categories.

When I'm a guy, there is no mistaking it: Broad shoulders, physical strength, deep voice and manly speech patterns, manly mannerisms, enjoy most sports and most other things associated with men.

Tina attempts at all times to eliminate, hide, or minimize those male attributes. She wishes to be a woman, not an effeminant man. She camoflages those broad shoulders, underplays her physical strength, her mannerisms (learned, for sure) are those of a woman (she hopes!), lightens her voice and changes speech patterns, and she looks to enjoy the world from a woman's point of view. She is hardly submissive.

Maybe it is this "total" separation of viewpoint that puts me outside of what I perceive is the "sissy" definitions. It will be interesting to see how those of us who respond to Karen's questions put ourselves into one category or the other, or if everyone can succeed in such a categorization. Regardless, it's great to see support for all these possiblities.

tina

[Kate Simmons]

Good grief, we're milking this thing. aren't we? Anyway, I take my previous post back because I've decided I'm not a sissy, definition or not. I'm a tomboy, dammit. I'll probably never live that one down.:rolleyes:

[MJ]

who me :eek: ok if the name fits. but i don't think i am. but if i need another label i am sure some people would think it fits me.. but i don't think so

[Alex!]

I find the term "sissy" offensive personally. I am quite masculine, though when en femme I like to look like a classy, more or less conservative young woman. Even so, while dressed as a woman, I walk and talk like a brute. I suppose I need to work on that...

[Brianna Lovely]

Well, by this dictionary definition, I'm a sissy. And I'm proud to be who I am.

Sissy
An offensive term for a boy or man, who is considered, not to exhibit stereotypical masculine behavior.

[Sweet Jane]

I so completely detest being referred to as a sissy. I suppose the "new" connotation of the word is a submissive, subservient cowering bottom in panties, and thats not me.
When I model myself on a woman, I'd prefer it to be a confident, outgoing person, a person with drive, enthusiasm and responsibilities, not some ones trained hausfrau?
I suppose it does irk me that some CDs appear to only see a womans place as someone who is inferior and subservient. I only make this assumtion based on how they see themselves and act when they are dressed as women, so maybe its a case of 2 plus 2 equalling 5????
Personally, I view women as I view myself.....neither inferior or superior, and the most interesting ones are independant and assured.
As for the term sissy, I would never call a lady a sissy either...I think the term is just too demeaning.

[paulaN]

I'm a sissy and proud of it. I don't always do sissy things, I don't act sissy most of the time. but if I were to be labeled by a bunch of macho males, I'd be a sissy for sure. Or to be labeled by a mistress I'd be her sissy(for sure). now I'm getting some where. Seems most people have to find some kind of a label to put on someone. We have all seen it. Can't say as I care for it. The sissy label is as good a fit as any for me. I guess!!!!!!! So I will stand proud in my heals and dress. Woo Hoo!!!!!!!!!!

[Vivian Best]

I'm not sure I understand the correct thrust of your question! If it means when did I start feeling like I was female, I never did! I always felt that way.

[tvbeckytv]

well as is often the case these words mean different things to different people no matter what a dictionary says.
being a pragmatic sort of a person, i was well aware from a young age that i was indeed a sissy.
I dont choose to refer to myself as such, but remember vividly the day i wore a pair of my sisters black satin capri pants and a pink jumper...i knew then i was a sissy.

[Alex!]

Put another way, did kids beat you up in school for being a sissy? Not me, since I did not match this stereotype. I am a man and thankfully so, and I do adhere to the Western paradigm of maleness (though with a caveat - I do not care for machisimo, which is forced masculinity and comes off looking like a characature of maleness by a guy who is insecure). Sophisticated women have little tolerance for masculinity run amok, and I am thankful that I have a sensitive, emotional side which sees physical manifestation as Andrea from time to time.

I tell you if people found out I was a crossdresser they would certainly be aghast. I think that is true for many of us in this forum. For others, it seems their male personas are efeminite, so others would not necessarily be surprised about the crossdressing, etc.

[Sissy]

I have always been a sissy and I'm not going to ever change that. I'm proud to be a sissy.

[EricaCD]

Emphatically not a sissy, personally, though I certainly understand it's a common enough desire/interest. I do think our more sissified friends here make for a diverse, and really fun, part of our community! And they have pretty dresses, too.... :)

Erica

[charlie-50]

been called weird by a couple of diffierent chicks ! but never a sissy least not to my face anyway...cp...:o

[sissylacypanties]

I do not view being a Sissy as anything negative. If the panties fit...smiles.. I especially enjoy being effeminate, soft, silky, subservient...smiles.. a girly girl:) Soft skirts, pretty underthings, it's great being a Sissy! If being a Sissy is negative in many senses, that's okay, because I am not a negative type. I am the eternal optimist, dressed in pretty things:)
Sissy Lacy Panties (That's me!)

[Annesah]

No question. I was a sisssy before I was born. Remain so to this day and love it. Gurley is Cool! Who here will dispute that?

[Jaquelyn]

Well, since my wife is femdom, and we regulary endulge in bdsm, being a Sissy is a badge of honor, not a negative conitation. In fact, part of my interest in dresssing stems from being her Sissy. Can't wait to get a new maids dress, that will go with my new white baby jane wedges:D . Couriously, we have several freinds that are into bdsm, that sometimes we play with; they are male dominants. You should see them squirm at the mere mention, that I am a sissy maid to my wife, or that I like to dress. As long as I am masculine in front of them, we seem to get along fine, but the moment that subject even comes up, they are instantly uncomfortable. As if, "they might turn gay getting to close to me" or something. LOL

[Kelsy]

I think I realized I was a sissy when I was 13 when my friends Grandmother taught me how to knit and I liked it:eek:

Jennifer:happy:

[Jaquelyn]

I think I realized I was a sissy when I was 13 when my friends Grandmother taught me how to knit and I liked it:eek:

Jennifer:happy:
learing and liking to knit when you were a kid does not make you a sissy. I learned to crochet from my mother before I was 12, and thought it was fun, something to do, make something. That would be like saying all girls that like to camp, fish, hunt and hike are all dykes. My wife likes all those activiites, and is no dyke!!:D

[Kelsy]

learing and liking to knit when you were a kid does not make you a sissy. I learned to crochet from my mother before I was 12, and thought it was fun, something to do, make something. That would be like saying all girls that like to camp, fish, hunt and hike are all dykes. My wife likes all those activiites, and is no dyke!!:D

Take no offence! I liked it and I know who I am! I like alot of other girl things too but I am as hetro as they come!! what is it exactly that makes you a sissy??:D

jennifer:p

[Samantha B L]

I'll have to fess up that I'm a sissy.I got called a sissy all the time in grade school and junior high and for a long time I was annoyed but I finally decided why fight it since I was becoming more consious of my CD tendencies as time went by.So since it was the truth anyway it was a moot point and it didn't matter.But the word "sissy" can have hostile connotations and implications when that run deeper than just being told to "cram it sissy" when you're on a grade school playground and you ask for room to make a basketball shot. I'm 51 and I very seldom use the word "sissy".And of course any CD/TG/TS person has cause to wonder what's up should a couple of guys in deer hunting fatigues drive by in a pickup truck while you are walking along and they holler out the window "go on home sissy".Samantha

[Jaquelyn]

Take no offence! I liked it and I know who I am! I like alot of other girl things too but I am as hetro as they come!! what is it exactly that makes you a sissy??:D

jennifer:p

Oh my, no offence taken, in fact, I thought is was kinda finny, which is why I called you on it. Are you asking me what makes me a sissy? or just in general. I am a sissy maid because I want to be for my wife, it's a fun role to play. What makes someone in general a sissy, who knows, I have already read enough responses in this thread to see that to each their own. I think in society, it is a negative conitation; I beieve the remark made to Karen by that guy was such; he believes that if you c/d, you're a sissy, well you and I as heteros disprove that eh? I wonder how many males that say those sort of things are actually very unsure of their own masculinity? Picking on others can sure keep the heat off of yourself, eh?

[Kelsy]

Oh my, no offence taken, in fact, I thought is was kinda finny, which is why I called you on it. Are you asking me what makes me a sissy? or just in general. I am a sissy maid because I want to be for my wife, it's a fun role to play. What makes someone in general a sissy, who knows, I have already read enough responses in this thread to see that to each their own. I think in society, it is a negative conitation; I beieve the remark made to Karen by that guy was such; he believes that if you c/d, you're a sissy, well you and I as heteros disprove that eh? I wonder how many males that say those sort of things are actually very unsure of their own masculinity? Picking on others can sure keep the heat off of yourself, eh?

Sissy maid?! Oh how fun!!:D I love doing house work enfem!

Jennifer:thumbsup:

[christina marie]

i also find housework much more enjoyable in heels, but give me a moment to change my clothes, then follow me into the woods. i'll have a fire going,a shelter built, and dinner sizzling before you find your way back to me. i love my femme side and will never again deny it. i have actually become quite proud of it after finding you good people here! but i can still out-manly most of the guys i know. sissy? not for me, i think, but for those as it is, enjoy!

[CheriTV2006]

I knew I wanted to be a sissy (meaning, to me, that I enjoy feeling/displaying la femme/aka femming out) around age 10-11 back in non-coed military boarding school in the early 1970's. Going to the movies on Wednesday afternoons, I would envy any attractive feminine actress that I saw and identify with her qualities afterwards. Fortunately, I had my own click of fellow cadets on my hall who did the same. We would act campy around each other behind closed doors admitting our feelings and loving the freedom and vibe. Then I knew I was had for life! Birds of a feather. At ease Girls! Cheri.

[Lisa Maren]

I do not like the term sissy. In it's most common form, it refers to a man in woman's clothing and I do not identify as a man. Thus, for me, the term is entirely a misnomer in any of its senses.

Hugs,
Lisa

[Diane1950]

When I was growing up, a sissy was a boy who shied away from roughneck activities with other boys, as well as one with a noticeable feminine aspect. I never fell into either category, but as an adult I embrace and cherish my feminine side. I also love being a man. If that makes me a sissy in the eyes of others, so be it. Sticks and stones, etc.

[TxKimberly]

You stated that you found it offensive - so do I.
I consider a sissy to be someone that is afraid to get dirty, to do the hard jobs, or to chase away the wild life - a whimp. I am none of these. I'm not exactly thrilled at the idea, but I will jump in and get dirty when its needed, I do work hard, and can hold my own with the best of them.
The fact that I like to be pretty (as pretty as I can anyway), and wear pretty clothes, does NOT make me a whimp or sissy.

Kim

[RobertaFermina]

Roberta has been seeking to become as a feminine persona. If that is Sissy....GUILTY!

If Sissy is SubmISSYve, then I am INNOCENT!

You be the judge!

I have wanted to expand as a feminine being, sort of, since Early 2006. I have gotten more serious about internalizing femininity and developing as whole and complex a feminine persona for Roberta as Bob is masculine. That effort has accelerated since January 2007, when I made my first non-Holiday Party Outing to ILOVITGIRL! Relating to other CDs in-person and EnFemme started it out for me.

Oh Joy !

:rose: :<3: :rose:

[JamieTV]

what a question Karren - I guess that I am at times a sissy and times not.

[Michelia]

I remember a grandma I knew referring to her beautiful grandaughter as very much a sissy because she was so feminine and loved to look pretty. She was a car mechanic!

I like Rita Lovely's idea of taking the word back and making it ours.

Today's connotation carries too much of a humiliation/submissive weight to it. Sad. When I am at my most girly, I feel like a sissy. I could wear ribbons in my hair or piggytails, and I could be submissive to my SO, but that is very different from the role play the word sissy now implies. And I am not against it. It just is not for me.

There also seems to be another component in the current meaning of the word that I am not sure I like. There is an adoration for everything female and a disdain of every thing male. Having worked in a female dominated company for a number of female bosses I have to say there are as many good bosses and as many ***holes from both genders. Actually, the best woman boss I ever had was a lesbian.


Michelia

[faltenrock]

I don't like the term sissy. It does not reflect my character at all.

[Fab Karen]

Sissy- "An effeminate boy", also archaic slang for gay. In our society the worst insult for a boy, and the worst insult a man can receive is to be called a woman. What does that say about how women are viewed?

[Karren H]

Sissy- "An effeminate boy", also archaic slang for gay. In our society the worst insult for a boy, and the worst insult a man can receive is to be called a woman. What does that say about how women are viewed?

Not very well in general and terrible in some cultures..... So why is it we want to emulate women again?? Lol

Love Karren

[Kerrie Sifton]

Karren... why emulate women? Such a silly question! It's not because of the stockings, it's not because of the skirts and dresses,not the silky lingerie, nor the makeup, nor their shapely looks, and marvelous hair. ( err... or is it?) I love the way they look, the way they talk and the way they dress. as the Carpenters sang:" I just want to be close to you!" :D

[KarenSusan]

I do not view being a Sissy as anything negative. If the panties fit...smiles.. I especially enjoy being effeminate, soft, silky, subservient...smiles.. a girly girl:) Soft skirts, pretty underthings, it's great being a Sissy! If being a Sissy is negative in many senses, that's okay, because I am not a negative type. I am the eternal optimist, dressed in pretty things:)
Sissy Lacy Panties (That's me!)

:iagree:I could not have said it better. To me, Sissy is not derogatory. It is
simply how I feel.

[laura47]

I am too afraid to dress in public so I would have to guess I am a "Sissy"