TG/TV/CD's perception in the LGBT community

[gaby818]

hello yall,
Im a new member, and new to dressing up. I'll be going all the way especially this summer, as i plan on being single again and school is out.
I really want to go out fully dressed to clubs, but only gay clubs and the like. I was just wondering how safe would it be? What is the gay perception of girls with a little extra package? hate, cool, dont care? how bout with chicks? I just want to be able to go out to a club/pub and have a good time, without being hassled, harrased, made fun of. Im very passable and cute as a girl, but you never know. i just want to have fun, hopefully meet a cool people every now and then. Hows the situation like in just getting in (with the drivers license situation)?
I also ask because of my situation, ill be looking for roomates and i kind of prefer someone that is gay or bi, and that wont care about me walking around in my panties or fully dressed. But I have no clue about what the perception is of us.
Thoughts? Advice?
Thank you

[hotbobbie]

You should be fine in SD. I live in Seattle and the gay and straight community is really good for CD. Just feel your way thru it and be carefull and things should be fine.

[Gina_darling]

At the moment I go to the gay bars and clubs dressed. Here in the UK it is perfectly safe in them. I wouldn't go to the inner city football pubs though. I leave my flat dressed, get the train into town and then walk from the station to the bars. I don't even get looks so I either pass or no-one is bothered.

You'll be ok, have fun! But be careful not everyone is nice but you can spot them before you get close and before they know you're not a girl!

Gina xx

[Kate Simmons]

The club I hang out at is great and hardly any problems at all. They are very welcoming of us there.:happy:

[Shelly R]

You'll be all right at the gay clubs, they are very accepting of CD's, a good place to start. Just don't expect much from the guys, "frilly girls" they don't want, they usually want the "hunk". Lesbians are not interested in a guy in a dress, they don't want the package. The occasional rogue can be quite fun! You will make friends. Don't worry about your DL. One club I go to has a cover charge, but Tranny's get in free! Is that cool or what? They don't believe me till I show them my old DL.
LGBTQ community? It's all good, how ever you present. Remember that the "T" stands for TV, TG, TS, or anything else inbetween.
Just get out there and be yourself, and enjoy! :hugs:

[Eva Diva]

You'll be accepted in some gay bars, but maybe not the more macho "leather bar" type places. In some places, there are bars with a mixed clientele - mostly gay bars, but with a mix of straight and hip, artsy-fartsy types. I suspect you'd do better in a place like that. There should be an alternative newspaper that can help you out.
I don't know S.D. all that well, but I do know that it's a military town. I'd be pretty careful about going out without checking in to places very carefully.


Edit to add: there are those in the gay/lesbian community who see crossdressers as repressed straight men who deny their own sexuality, and vote republican - in other words, we're the enemy. I suspect that kind of person would be more likely to ignore you than give you a hard time.

[trannie T]

I've been to a lot of gay establishments without problems. One leather bar I went to was not really friendly but not hostile. The last time I was out I met a group of lesbians and we had a good time.
The basic determing factor in how well you are accepted is how you present yourself, not by appearence but by attitude. Good makeup will not over ride a bad attitude.

[Sally24]

Up in Boston the t-girl group I go with goes out to a mix of clubs. Several gay clubs are quite friendly towards us. There is a lesbian club that many members go to and they say the girls there love us, but do pinch a fanny or two if you let them. Even had one gay guy ask me to dance (ok, when he came up to me I asked him to dance!). Most Gay/Lesbian/Alternative clubs are pretty accepting of anyone else. We're all in this together, ya know?

[gaby818]

cool. thanks girls. i cant wait to go to my first club dressed up.
and ya, out here in San Diego, because of the military presence here being careful is not an option. Heck i almost got beat up one time, not dressed up, for simply walking through a neighborhood by the beach. its like many people want to make up for the size of their member, or lack thereof, by picking fights and talking big infront of their friends.