marie354
05-03-2007, 07:30 PM
Some of you may know My SO and I have had a bit of trouble in our relationship.
Some of it was do to my cross-dressing, but most of it wasn't.
THE DRESSING........
Shortly after I found this site, she allowed me to dress as freely as I wanted. This was great! Her thoughts were that once I did it steady for a while that it would get old and fade away. Oops!
I went straight into the ''PINK FOG!'' (The real fun part.) We went shopping together... We bought dresses, skirts, makeup, hair-rollers, etc... I had, (& still do,) a blast. I love being free. (Well as free as I can. It'd be total chaos if we were unconditionally free.)
Two months ago, she told me that she needed some space. (Separate space!) So I converted the dining room into a bedroom and that helped a lot. (I have RLS. (Restless Leg Syndrome.) Meds don't help it with me.) Separate beds helped her get some needed sleep. Problem 1 solved.
Some of the others were the normal quarks that bother everyone from time-to-time. (Toilet paper, dishes, laundry, etc...) Not really problems, but things to be addressed for sure. Problems 2, 3, 4, ... Solved.
Now came my CDing..........
I was dressing 24/7 except when I was out of the house. She held a lot back here as she is very passive. When I finally got it out of her, it DID bother her that I wanted to do it all the time. (It's hard for women to understand what we do. Hard for us to understand it too sometimes.) We talked and talked and talked... Not all at once, mind you... This took a couple of months.
Well... After many discussions, the middle-ground was found...
Which brings us up to today...
We need to talk openly to our loved ones about what we really feel so that they can better understand what we are going through. Well it really seemed easy to me until that day she said she wanted to separate. I knew that it would happen eventually and expected that I'd have to work through it. I was patient and it was worth it, in the long run. In the words of The Grateful Dead... ''If life looks like easy street then there is danger at your door.''
Well that's my story and I'm sticking to it!
For those that have read this far... Thanx! And remember... Life will never be dull. Very interesting at times, disappointing at times, really, really fun at times, and even quite sad at times, but never, never ever dull!
:hugs:
I know this has been a long post, but it's been a while for me.
Some of it was do to my cross-dressing, but most of it wasn't.
THE DRESSING........
Shortly after I found this site, she allowed me to dress as freely as I wanted. This was great! Her thoughts were that once I did it steady for a while that it would get old and fade away. Oops!
I went straight into the ''PINK FOG!'' (The real fun part.) We went shopping together... We bought dresses, skirts, makeup, hair-rollers, etc... I had, (& still do,) a blast. I love being free. (Well as free as I can. It'd be total chaos if we were unconditionally free.)
Two months ago, she told me that she needed some space. (Separate space!) So I converted the dining room into a bedroom and that helped a lot. (I have RLS. (Restless Leg Syndrome.) Meds don't help it with me.) Separate beds helped her get some needed sleep. Problem 1 solved.
Some of the others were the normal quarks that bother everyone from time-to-time. (Toilet paper, dishes, laundry, etc...) Not really problems, but things to be addressed for sure. Problems 2, 3, 4, ... Solved.
Now came my CDing..........
I was dressing 24/7 except when I was out of the house. She held a lot back here as she is very passive. When I finally got it out of her, it DID bother her that I wanted to do it all the time. (It's hard for women to understand what we do. Hard for us to understand it too sometimes.) We talked and talked and talked... Not all at once, mind you... This took a couple of months.
Well... After many discussions, the middle-ground was found...
Which brings us up to today...
We need to talk openly to our loved ones about what we really feel so that they can better understand what we are going through. Well it really seemed easy to me until that day she said she wanted to separate. I knew that it would happen eventually and expected that I'd have to work through it. I was patient and it was worth it, in the long run. In the words of The Grateful Dead... ''If life looks like easy street then there is danger at your door.''
Well that's my story and I'm sticking to it!
For those that have read this far... Thanx! And remember... Life will never be dull. Very interesting at times, disappointing at times, really, really fun at times, and even quite sad at times, but never, never ever dull!
:hugs:
I know this has been a long post, but it's been a while for me.