Shannon CD
05-06-2007, 03:59 AM
OK, I was out with a group of friends tonight at a local bar. Although I am sure that some of these friends, if not all, were involved when my ex tried to out me, I don't think any of them are "positive" that her stories were true.
That said, as we sat at our table I noticed a gurl walk past our table and I knew right away that she was CD. But so did my friends, whose comments were mostly along the lines of "you know that's a man". Fairly bonine, but nobody was fooled (and she actually did a very good job with make-up, etc.)
I kept quiet myself, not wanting to be disrespectful to someone that I knew had a lot of courage to go to a straight bar dressed. However, I chickened out of saying something positive, e.g. "that really must take guts", or something to that effect, because I was afraid it would raise suspicion amongst a group of people who already have a clue. (I know that some of you will say that I should just come out and be done with it, but I maintain that it is MY secret and I should be the one who picks who is privvy to it.)
I couldn't help but think that I would have loved to have walked up to her and let her know that I admire her courage. Besides the fact that I just couldn't find a way to do it without being seen, I was afraid that she might be horrified to think that she had been "made" if she thought she was passing. I even thought that if she did react that way and ask me how I knew that I could simply tell her that "it takes one to know one" and hope that she understood what I meant.
I guess that the point I am trying to make here is this; I have no idea how we can show support to one another when we are in drab and are trying to keep a low profile. Is it even possible? should we try? WE NEED A CLUB SIGNAL...LOL.
I will say that she sure looked comfortable and not the least bit nervous, but I have no idea what was going through her mind.
Any comments?
That said, as we sat at our table I noticed a gurl walk past our table and I knew right away that she was CD. But so did my friends, whose comments were mostly along the lines of "you know that's a man". Fairly bonine, but nobody was fooled (and she actually did a very good job with make-up, etc.)
I kept quiet myself, not wanting to be disrespectful to someone that I knew had a lot of courage to go to a straight bar dressed. However, I chickened out of saying something positive, e.g. "that really must take guts", or something to that effect, because I was afraid it would raise suspicion amongst a group of people who already have a clue. (I know that some of you will say that I should just come out and be done with it, but I maintain that it is MY secret and I should be the one who picks who is privvy to it.)
I couldn't help but think that I would have loved to have walked up to her and let her know that I admire her courage. Besides the fact that I just couldn't find a way to do it without being seen, I was afraid that she might be horrified to think that she had been "made" if she thought she was passing. I even thought that if she did react that way and ask me how I knew that I could simply tell her that "it takes one to know one" and hope that she understood what I meant.
I guess that the point I am trying to make here is this; I have no idea how we can show support to one another when we are in drab and are trying to keep a low profile. Is it even possible? should we try? WE NEED A CLUB SIGNAL...LOL.
I will say that she sure looked comfortable and not the least bit nervous, but I have no idea what was going through her mind.
Any comments?