Being "outed"

[Rita B]

For as long as I can remember I have always feared being "outed" by a man. It never bothered me if women saw that I was wearing women's kid gloves or high heel boots. I have no real concern even having my mother knowing. I would go shopping for women's clothes like lingerie and shoes and of course gloves and would be happy to work with a woman sales clerk. If I went by a lady's shoe department and there was a male clerk I would walk right by. Conversely I enjoyed trying boots in front of a lady clerk. The fear abated somewhat when I started going out en femme and acquired a little more confidence in my appearance and abilities to walk and act like a woman. Still I recall the fear that all women must have of being followed and stalked at night. I learned one night that a lady had to use judgement and care everywhere. I have never been molested or intimidated as a child. I am wondering if there any sisters out there who share these feelings.

[DeeInGeorgia]

I have been buying feminine things for my wife and myself for going on 20 years, and I still do not like dealing with a male sales clerk. When enfemme, I am more willing to deal with a male clerk.

Dee

[Angie G]

Makes no difference to me :hugs:
Angie

[Cheryl T]

Is this male clerk a friend or acquaintance?
If not...then why worry??? He's no different than a female clerk. He's just working and could probably care less (unless he's a CD too).

Stop and shop and be happy...

[Karren H]

Makes no difference to me :hugs:
Angie

Me neither.... in male mode buying fem things of out enfemme....

Love Karren

[Joy Carter]

No problem for me. Just as long as I get what I came for is all that matters.

[uknowhoo]

I must say, I do feel more comfy around women (incl CDs) when enfemme, as I feel a tad nervous/vulnerable around men. I don't expect it's quite the same thingy as GG's may feel alone out at night though. If I'm shopping for gilie things in drab, I'd prolly go to the register of a GG vs. GM SA, though that doesn't really makes as much of a difference to me.

[Michelia]

to feeling the same way. But I do not think it should be this way.

I make a conscious effort to double check myself into not "discriminating" against male clerks. Put yourself in his place. If you sold women's shoes, would you want anyone avoiding you because you are male?

The other day I bought some nail polish and lip gloss at a semi-rural Walgreen's. The male manager happened to be covering for the cashier. I almost retreated as moments before, there had been this very friendly girl there. I told myself I should go through with it. So when at the sales counter and just as he was totally counting my things, I added a copy of Seventeen to my purchases. He blushed an intense red. So, in this case, he turned out to be the unintended victim -not me. Poor thing!

Michelia

[tifftg]

I guess it depends on the situation. I haven't got the courage yet to buy shoes with a man helping me try them on, though it is on my list of goals to accomplish en femme. I have however been very comfortable with male makeup artists when I have gone to MAC.

tiffany

[Jodi]

With any male SA, you just never know. Here I was working as a male SA at New York & Co and then the Limited, and guess what, I'm a cd. No--the male customers never knew it, but why should they have been scared of me?

That male SA just might have a secret.

Jodi

[helenr]

I think this might add a twist to this interesting topic. On saturdays the local ARC thrift shop has half price day to clean out inventory. Among yesterday's purchases was a lovely pink nylon peignoir set-so, so femme--a longish nighgown with a translucent pink outer jacket in a rare size L. There were two check out lines and the one I went to was run by a female, but only in genetics. Amber is her name I learned and she is the butch in a lesbian relationship. I saw her at a Dollar Store (you can tell I am not a Neiman Marcus customer!) with her squeeze who was super cute, super femme. Anyway, Amber tries her best to look masculine-short hair, no makeup, seems to bind her breasts,etc. So hard for us transvestites to understand-we so wish we were GGs and here is one who wants her own penis. crazy world we are in. Anyway, I wondered if she would react to this purchase and another Vanity Fair summer nylon nightie--she didn't bat an eye. We made small talk-I try to relieve them of any embarassment. I am sure I went to her line as I would have felt foolish trading with the nice man at the other line. helenr

[chrissietoo]

I feel safest with a gay male clerk....otherwise I'd probably gravitate to the lady's side...:heehee:

chrissie

[christina marie]

was always taught not to give a crap what others think, but find myself more comfortable with GG clerks. they see my ring and ask if im picking up something for the wife, usually starts an interesting conversation when i tell them, no is for me, couldn't find any in mens department. :D

[JenniferR771]

Classgloves, Me too!
I went to a thrift store drab in another town. Nervous, as I was much bolder than usual. I had dress, shoes, necklace, earrings in cart. Store was busy. Got in line to check out. Pleasant looking woman was cashier--but--shift change at 3pm; 18 year old high school boy took over! I was very reluctant, but felt trapped as there were customers in line behind me.

After my first professional makeover. Driving home, I was all dressed up in my nice suit and no place to go. So i stopped at a drugstore and nervously picked out some press-on nails. Got in line at register, nice looking lady cashier. When---a man decided to open up another lane. He said to me, "I can help you over here mam." I ignored him. He repeated. Ignored him. Third time, I pretended to just notice, and went through his checkout lane-- sweating under my wig and trying not to use my voice.