My new thoughts on my cross-dressing

[erica12b]

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I had the thought that if I had a gg that was a friend and knew about my dressing it would help my life and be a less stressful secret well I now have a gg friend and she has seen me dressed we talk and have had a good time , but it has not changed my life or helped my stress levels, I don’t go out dressed and dressing” just in the house” helps me feel good about my self, im starting to think that having this privet time and doing something “ I should not do” is what de-stresses me . I half to be very careful about my dressing and my feeling about the TG community, where I live and in my job “im in a very macho, mans field” the jokes fly but the tolerance is not there.

I love to dress and look sexy and fem, I don’t know if I will ever go out dressed but I had a online gg friend tell me I could go out with her and her friends, there a group of out going lesbians’, I had a image of 5girls trying to look just slightly fem, and me looking fem as I can and fitting in, lol

What are some of your thoughts on dressing ,not coming out ”to the world” but still just being yourself with some friends

[ChanDelle]

Hmmmmm. Great question, and I'm disappointed others haven't picked up on it. I'm kind of new, and just found the "lounge."

I'm like you and don't go out dressed as I'm so far in the closet I couldn't find the door in a week or two. That said, I do wonder if the "taboo" part isn't part of the fun? It's a very private time to play and explore what life would be like if...

Also exploring the sensations women feel and take for granted. It's really wierd when you think about it, that we take man stuff for granted, but revel in womandom things. I would like to try sharing with a SO, CD, or GG, but have no idea what to expect.

By the way, say hi to Grand Junction for me. It's a special place in CO!

[JoAnnDallas]

Until 2005, I only went out dressed late at night and then it was sitting on the portch or for a walk. Then the company I was working in WV shut down and I ended up moving here to Dallas, TX and staying with my sister until the house sold and wife could come. My stress level was high, mainly because I am over 55 and it becomes increasingly hard for one to find perm employment. I had brought a few items with me and I started dressing when I was not out on a job interview. Then my sister started a clothing drive for her church, which allowed me to obtain some more items. Then one day I got enough courage to take a walk dressed in the daylight. He house sits on a corner, so I would walk out the back, up the side walk, up the front walk, to the front door. Then I started taking drives around the neighborhood. Then filling up the SUV. All en fem and in the daylight. This really help manage my stess level. After 4 months, I found perm employment, house sold in WV and wife came to Dallas. In early 2006 I found the local Tri-Ess group and found out about HEF2006. I got all excited because now I had the chance to meet others like myself. I went, which was exciting for me becuase first it was held at a public hotel and second I was meeting other CDer. I had a ball. One of the best days I think I have had. This has given me the encouragement to take my CDing to an even hight level. So over the next year, I had times where I could get all dressed and goto Tri-Ess meetings and CD events. Then last weekend, wife was staying at my sister's helping with her garage sale and helping her pack her house, since my sister is moving to Houston, TX. I then did some things I had never done before. First I went shopping for a new outfit at WalMart in drab. I had no problem doing that. Then Sunday night I went en fem and filled up the SUV, then got enough courage to walk into the station store and buy a bottle of water. Having done this, gave me the couarge to do it again the next night. Building on this, Tuesday evening, after I got home and ate dinner, I got dressed and drove to the local Payless Shoe Store. It was still daylight, spent over 30 minutes in the store trying on shoes, bought a pair, and no one paid much attention to me. I even had the chance to try out my fem voice.
The key to all of this was

1. Staying calm - don't act nervious
2. Act like you belong.
3. Be yourself.
4. Dress to blend in

I have now found that doing these four items, no one seem to pay much attention to me and I was able to enjoy the outing and have fun do it.

[Stephenie S]

Well, it's clear that JoAnn has found the key to going out successfully. I would put "dress to blend in" at the top of the list, but she has got it all just right.

These four steps, plus what I personally consider my biggest asset when out, a huge grin, will take you anywhere you want to go. Remember, women SMILE! They smile at each other, and to themselves. And a big smile really disarms a potential problem. If you can get someone to smile at you, they then have a really hard time being mean. So first, dress to blend in, then SMILE!, and act confident, like you belong (which you do).

JoAnn's got the formula! Listen to her. And SMILE!

Lovies,
Steph

[Mitch23]

Well, it's clear that JoAnn has found the key to going out successfully. I would put "dress to blend in" at the top of the list, but she has got it all just right.

These four steps, plus what I personally consider my biggest asset when out, a huge grin, will take you anywhere you want to go. Remember, women SMILE! They smile at each other, and to themselves. And a big smile really disarms a potential problem. If you can get someone to smile at you, they then have a really hard time being mean. So first, dress to blend in, then SMILE!, and act confident, like you belong (which you do).

JoAnn's got the formula! Listen to her. And SMILE!

Lovies,
Steph
On this smiling thing... On all my pics, i do a big broad grin and it looks ok, i do anything less and i look stupid! I find it very difficult and quite tiring to walk around with this big grin on my face,

mitch