Should I get a hair cut?

[lynn27]

I have not cut my hair in about six months now, other than a minor trim a month ago. It has gone from a number 4 clipper to well past my collar. My wife hasn't said a negative word as she seems to like the longer hair.

The issue:

My 30 something daughter, who I haven't seen in years emailed last night about coming up from Fla. for a visit starting Monday. :D


As background, my ex-wife had gone to Fla. to be near her parents when they retired when my daughter was 5.:sad: At first she came up here for 2.5 months in the summer and I'd visit a little in the winter. My daughter stopped coming up here for visits when she was about 13 or 14 and I have only seen her 2 or 3 times since.:sad: Child support became a huge contest with the ex and she withheld visits from me unless she got what she wanted.:Angry3: Any visits ended by 17 and they moved without telling me and I refused to hunt them down. We have been emailing the last 4 years and are getting along pretty good. She is doing well living on her own and working in Fla., and she working on her Masters.
My first thought was, "Oh no, I have to cut my hair." Then I thought I'll leave it as it is and deal with the questions as they come up. She once asked me, when she was about 8 or 9 if a wore dresses [real nice ex-wife:mad:]. At the time I denied it but I know it must still be tumbling around in there.

I'm not concerned about what others think but I don't want to ruin a long overdue reunion with this if she cannot deal with it. Someday soon I would like to come out to her.

So, do I leave the hair alone, get a minor trim or just not worry about it and see where it leads?

[Dixie]

Just be yourself, I think she is old enough to understand, if the subject comes up. Once you tell a lie it leads to another lie which leads to... you get the picture? All the lieing will be more of a source of hurt when the truth does come out. I wouldn't just jump out with it, but just kinda let nature take it's course.

[Nadine]

I would just leave it be. Many normal males have long hair and if your daughter is in any way "modern" she won't mind it at all.

[NatalieH]

I'm not concerned about what others think but I don't want to ruin a long overdue reunion with this if she cannot deal with it. Someday soon I would like to come out to her.

So, do I leave the hair alone, get a minor trim or just not worry about it and see where it leads?

Lynn,

I saw my 29 year-old daughter for the first time in a year a few weeks ago at a family wedding. While not actually coming out to her I did explain my shoulder-length hair and occasional earrings by saying as I grow older I just don't care (too much!) what others think. She said later she loves my "new crazy ways"; I think she's happy that I haven't become TOO boring in my old age...

I would think there's an excellent chance your daughter could react in the same way - I hope so. In any event, I suggest you do nothing and see what happens. I'll bet it all works out fine.

Good luck

Natalie

[Hermione Simpson]

i agree with what nadine says, as i know a quite a few 'normal' men with long hair, couldn't you put it in a ponytail and see how it goes from there, but whatever you choose to do i hope it goes well with your daughter

[Sarah Welch]

I have grown my hair long, have it cut in a femminine style and get it colored every eight weeks. I also indulge in a deluxe pedicure every 2 weeks and have my fingernails done in a french manicure.
When people notice and ask whats up I answer their questions if they are nice about it. If someone is rude or insulting like some of the people I work with I just explain that it is none of their bees wax and move on without being rude myself.

[kay_cd]

Cut your hair? At that length I would hardly think it a hint at your femininity. Then again she may find she very much enjoys your femininity.

Anyway, I usually need to blow dry my hair in the morning while bending over so it hangs down and then I pull it all back in a pony tail. :) It's quite a bit longer than in my photo to the left

Just enjoy your daughter!

Too cool!

[Angie G]

Let it stay she may think its cool if not tell her you like it like that :hugs:
Angie

[Sally24]

Keep the hair. It's a minor thing, especially as she is not used to you looking any particular way. If she asks, think about telling the truth.

[renee99]

She may try to get you to cut it because she thinks she is doing you a favor by giving you the advice, like you are unable to manage fashion on your own. That is the way my younger sister was towards my hair when she first saw it growing out. They will also say it looks dumb, well duh, going from chrome dome to Rapunzel doesn't happen overnight and the in between is tough to manage sometime, especially with your bangs... just be prepared to weave around the subject and they will usually drop it.

[Wendy me]

i say no hair cut my hair has not been cut in over two years.... and past the middle of my back .... and i only cut/shave body hair..... i have go a few comments on it ...... no biggie ..... don't cut it.....

[az_azeel]

I agree with the answers so far... be yourself.. I am sure your daughter wont see it as feminine.. just be yourself.. and answer any questions your daughter has honestly..


Take Care :hugs:

[Kerry Owens]

Don't cut it. I won't let Lawren cut his hair! I love it..hehehhee.

[Dixie]

No don't cut it, remember what happened to Sampson!!!!!
:thumbsdn:

[Cheryl T]

Almost cut my hair, it happened just the other day.
It's getting' kinda long, I coulda said it wasn't in my way.

Thank you Crosby, Stills and Nash

[MarissaCDinRI]

I'd say there's absolutely no reason to stop being yourself on her behalf. Keep your hair, just tell her you wanted to try the long haired look.

[RachelDenise]

I would not cut it. This is who you are, and she'll have to deal with it. It's just hair, not like a Mike Tyson face tatoo!

[Seville]

Lucky you to even have hair.

Naaah...don't worry about it.

[trannie T]

It has been a long time since men with long hair were looked upon as being feminine. I get a haircut when my long hair becomes a nuisance, it's now in a ponytail. If you want to get a haircut, get one, just don't thing it will make you more masculine.

[Joy Carter]

Just be who you are and don't worry about the others. I'm sure the daughter will think it is cool.:D

[Carin]

Be youself. That is who your daughter wants to meet.

[lynn27]

Thank you for all your thoughts. If I had done a poll I think I'd be looking at over 99.9% so far.

You all confirm what how I thought. She shouldn't have a problem with it and if it confirms her suspicion about me wear dresses, so much the better. :hugs:

Thanks everyone, I'll keep you updated on how it goes...