Oh the Disappointment!

[McLegs]

Hi Ladies,
Just needed a place to vent. The SO(who doesn't know) was supposed to go out to a party Saturday. I was more excited than her. I get a chance to dress fully with plenty of time to enjoy it. I though long & hard about what outfit to wear. Was already to spend some time on the computer chatting with a friend who knows. We always discuss outfits, she likes to know what I'm wearing while we chat. Even told her I would send a pic of the outfit. Then Saturday morning arrives, the SO gets a call that the party is canceled. Frustrated, Disappointed, Aggravated!. AARRRGGG!!! The plans all went down the drain. Just needed to release. Thanks for lending an ear ladies.

Hugs,
Michelle

[Nigella]

I can sympathise with your frustration, but lets be honest, its not the end of the world, there will be plenty of other times to dress.

Your frustration could have been a lot less if your SO knew about your activities, you have already confided in a friend, why not your SO?

Oh what a tangled web we weave :rolleyes:

[Alaceann]

I know the feeling.. A couple of weeks ago my SO had to stay out of town overnight and I went through the same of what I'm going to wear all evening but then things happen and I didn't get to dress at all.:sad:

[jennifer ann]

Oh yea I know exactly want you mean. This last Feburary my wife and kids were at her parents house for a week about 3 hours away (where they go every year). I did not get to spend to much time dressing because of work. Anyway the day before she was due home I had planned on spending out shoping, dinner and then to the bar for drinks and some dancing. Around 8am she called and said she's comming home to beet the snow storm that we were to get the next day, so my yearly trip out CANCELLED!!!. By the way the storm blow over and we only got 1/2 inch or so.

[Karren H]

Hate that too.... but got to be flexible with a hobby like ours... Always another opertunity....

Karren

[RachelDenise]

I know that there have been times when my plans go right out the door! I hate that when it happens.

[Barb Valentine]

I sure most of us have been there

[Seville]

I can C/D anytime for as long as I wish.
My wife can easily tell when I need to dress...
and has no objections.

How well I remember the old days like you ladies
are experiencing.

It CAN get better...

[renee99]

This would be a good opportunity to, instead of showing your SO any disappointment or frustration, to 'man up' and do something special for her instead... think of the brownie points.

[brenya]

sometimes I'm glad I don't have a SO for this reason even though I get lonely

[SandyR]

2 weeks ago on Business I had all these great plans to dress, and work go in the way......sigh......There will be another time.

Hugs.

SandyR

[EricaCD]

Means, motive, opportunity - sadly they all need to be there, at the same time...

[Di]

[QUOTE=Nigella;869974]I can sympathise with your frustration, but lets be honest, its not the end of the world, there will be plenty of other times to dress.

Your frustration could have been a lot less if your SO knew about your activities, you have already confided in a friend, why not your SO?

Oh what a tangled web we weave :rolleyes:[/QUOTE


:iagree: Do something nice for the s.o. I bet she is disappointed too....after all it was a party she was missing.........

[bredalee25]

With my Ex SO no amount of nice things were good enough for her. She accepted my dressing then took it back and said nomore dressing i can't deal with it. I did what any loving man would do i stopped dressing and it only got worse she ended our relationship soon after but says my dressing wasn't an issue at all maybe so but it makes me wonder if she was being honest with
me. Confiding in ones SO is different for all of us some can deal with it while others can't i wish i'd never have came out to her now.

I know of what your talking about my plans got ruined more than once.

ttfn

[Sheila]

I can sympathise with your frustration, but lets be honest, its not the end of the world, there will be plenty of other times to dress.

Your frustration could have been a lot less if your SO knew about your activities, you have already confided in a friend, why not your SO?

Oh what a tangled web we weave :rolleyes:


:iagree: so much easier if your SO knows, ans if your SO ever discovers your CDing AND that you have confinded in somebody else ..........well?????????

[Rita B]

Hi Ladies,
Just needed a place to vent. The SO(who doesn't know) was supposed to go out to a party Saturday. I was more excited than her. I get a chance to dress fully with plenty of time to enjoy it. I though long & hard about what outfit to wear. Was already to spend some time on the computer chatting with a friend who knows. We always discuss outfits, she likes to know what I'm wearing while we chat. Even told her I would send a pic of the outfit. Then Saturday morning arrives, the SO gets a call that the party is canceled. Frustrated, Disappointed, Aggravated!. AARRRGGG!!! The plans all went down the drain. Just needed to release. Thanks for lending an ear ladies.

Hugs,
Michelle Bummer!

Rita :(

[Dixie]

WELCOME!!!!......to life in the closet

[Tina Dixon]

Been there and done that.

[Dixie]

OH!, The Horror, The Horror. HeHeHe
We all have it happen, so ......Don't get your panties in a bunch:heehee:

[trannie T]

"I'm sorry your party was cancelled honey, here's twenty dollars, go see a movie."

[Tree GG]

I believe few posting in this thread consciously wish their wives/families "would permanently go away" so they can do the secret CD thing, but think about what your SO's would think/feel if they read your posts here.

I understand looking forward to an event and being disappointed when plans change, but look at these comments. When I found out, thinking back to all the years that I drove hours and hours to daughter's sporting events and the husband didn't go along. I asked him if he enjoyed us being gone (had his CD time if in the mood), why did he eventually start complaining that we were gone too much? He said he was "hurt" that I would think of it that way. ???? Definitely a conflict of interest - when does "me" time (which everyone is entitled to) become selfish and disrespectful to the partner?

I don't have an answer. Just throwing out that the comments in this post could be potentially hurtful or problematic to SO's. Just food for thought. :confused:

[Denielleinheels]

I feel for the situation. My exwife was so cut and dry it never would have flown. I met my SO through a dating service where her said she wanted a "real man". I couldn't leave it alone so I answered and pushed the issue. Early in our talks I had to tell her everything. She asked if I was trying to scare her away, Isaid "No", I just want you to know what you am getting up front befire we are too involved. She supports me and admits she has never met anyone like me. It is indeed a good thing. I am lucky. My ex thought it was disgusting when men would dress as wemen on tv shows.