Is It Sexual For Anyone?

[clbenster]

I am sorry if this is not supposed to be posted here, but does anyone else get sexual gratification from cross-dressing? I guess if not then I will be the first to say that cross-dressing really turns me on. I find that panties and anytype of womens clothing to be such a turn on. I guess that if I were actually passable that it might be a different effect on me but since I look like an idiot when I dress up then finding it to be such a turn on for me is just normal.

[zencat-x]

From what I am learning about myself with the help of this site and other resources is: Cross dressing is more about my sexuality and less about my gender. At least that’s what I am coming to believe as of today. However, like many things in my life that is subject to change now that I am in harmful substance addiction recovery. As I rediscover what constitutes me and what was drug induced, I’m seemingly redefining myself almost weekly.
Did I answer the question? Too much information?
The answer then is: Ooooooo baby yes….it’s a fetish most likely for me and extremely stimulating in a most sexual way.

[EricaCD]

Your feeling about cding is not at all uncommon. In fact, cds who do it principally for sexual gratification probably outnumber the rest by a significant margin.

It's also fairly common that as people come more to terms with themselves as cds -- and also as we get older :( -- crossdressing starts to morph away from a purely sexual pleasure. For some (self included) there is still very much a sensual component to being a CD. Others will use adjectives like "comfortable" and "relaxing" to describe the abiliuty to transform themselves.

All are cds and all can certainly learn from one another.

Erica

[Kate Simmons]

Nope, not any more. It can happen though but when it does, it's a whole different mindset and a whole different set of connotations for myself.:happy:

[RobertaFermina]

Nope!

When I dress up, I pass with very few people, though many are delighted and entertained, and a very, very few have revealed some level of arousal. Now that can be arousing for me....though more often cause to laugh with the fools and gods!

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Stephenie S]

Many, many, CDers dress for the sexual thrill of it. Please don't think that you are alone in these feelings. Some report that this diminishes with time, some don't. You are quite normal, hon.

Stephenie

[Mitch23]

I am sorry if this is not supposed to be posted here, but does anyone else get sexual gratification from cross-dressing? I guess if not then I will be the first to say that cross-dressing really turns me on. I find that panties and anytype of womens clothing to be such a turn on. I guess that if I were actually passable that it might be a different effect on me but since I look like an idiot when I dress up then finding it to be such a turn on for me is just normal.
yes!

mitch

[cindychan]

It changes with time is the best way I can describe it.

[Jaquelyn]

Kinky, fetish, perverted, whatever label someone wants to put on it, YES it is very erotic and sexual for me. Are you kidding, what is more erotic than ladies santin panties? Well, there's always stockings, slips, garters, dresses, bras, oh my this list is getting long........:D

[Rita B]

It used to be a lot but not so much anymore. More interested in expressing my feminine gender. Do I feel sensuous when I am wearing a nice satin nightgown to bed, of course, but I am more concerned that if I did "anything" I might ruin my beautiful lingerie. Does that sound stupid? I do women things like, cook, clean, and iron clothes etc and I feel so much like a woman ( I cry a lot) that I may as well dress like one too.:hugs:

Rita B

[Jaydee]

When I was a teenager it had a strong sexual component, but then again what did not. Now in my 50's, I find that it has the more sensual component, that Erica describes. I enjoy the relaxing feeling more than the arousal.

Jaydee

[Samantha B L]

You know,I'm not comfortable talking about it.But it's very,very creamy for me.Very sexual.Now,it doesn't have to be!Sometimes it's just relaxing and pleasant.And once in awhile,it's narcistic fun to be told by a freind that you looked good in a wig or a clothing item.So there's satisfaction in that regard.

[Holly]

You are sooooooooooooooooo normal! And as others have said, you may continue to find yourself stimulated when dressed or those feeling may diminish over time so don't be surprised either way.

[CaptLex]

I do women things like, cook, clean, and iron clothes etc
"women things"? :eek:

[Gisele]

Yep, your normal!

Like most it starts off that way and then it goes away for the most part. Kinda like when you were young and made the discovery of hey what's this down there? LOL

I was always at home in my room having fun with panties when younger. Now I am just trying to be the woman that I have inside of me. Sex is not the top reason anymore.

[Kate Simmons]

"women things"? :eek:Yeah, I know. You can come to my house Rita, I hate housework and could use a good woman here. Haven't seen hide nor feather of one myself.:p

[espaniola]

Hi, I find it kind of unusual and interesting that you find it to be such a turn on to look like an idiot when you dress up. That goes to show you never know.

I thought most crossdressers like myself, got turned on ONLY if they looked and felt super-sexy (like a real girl they would actually date) in front of the mirror.

What I mean is, if I dress up and I don't feel and look super-sexy and feminine, I simply can't get aroused at all. The first time I crossdressed, at about 14 years old I just secretly "borrowed" a super-sexy tube top from my sister, and that was enough for me to get aroused and get off with immense pleasure., because I felt sooo sexy and feminine.

The second time, I added to the mix some super-sexy open sandals and beach shorts. I had even more pleasure. And ALWAYS, always in front of the mirror. If I can't see my super-sexy feminine image in front of me, I can't get aroused by crossdressing.

Today, I wear a wig, earrings, paint my lips, eyes and face (even though I don't have any idea on how to do it, I use water-ink markers as makeup! And still, I look very feminine and sexy in front of the mirror, and that's why I get turned on. I obviously wear super-sexy lingerie, feminine blouses (mostly tube tops, I love them, and I look so feminine in them), miniskirts, etc. The more feminine and sexy I look, the more aroused I get. As I am a hetero, my biggest dream in life is finding a genetic girl attracted to me and my femininity, so I can make use of my wild arousals, when I dress up as a girl.

Don't get me wrong, I don't do it only for the arousal; even though I'm a closet crossdresser, when I'm alone, most of the time I prefer to be dressed in girly clothes, and in my real life, I pluck my eyebrows, and lightly color my cheeks and lips to look a bit sexier and younger than my normal look.

If you find it arousing to do it the way you do it, then it is fine, and yes, I'm sure this is the right place to talk about something like that, not to worry.

Carla O

[kamala]

No other comment needed....

Love,
K

[O2B Barbara]

Yes! Although there are times when I just need to dress as Barbara and leave the drab behind for a while.

[Margie]

I'm in my early 60's and it more a feminie thing than sexual.

[Eva Diva]

Yes. And no. And yes. :D

The inspiration to dress is definitely sexual. But being dress does not lead to, ummm.... self-gratification. :blushing: Nor does it lead to sexual fantasies. But I have to make sure I'm locked up tight in my pantyhose before I put the lipstick on or I'll have a terrible time becoming "presentable". :D

[Karren H]

Ahhhhhh No....... Should have been a nun!!! I do look good in black and white, btw.... hehe

Love Karren

[LilSissyStevie]

Sproing!!!:devil:

[Dixie]

Yes it always has been a turn on for me. I hope that it always will be, I know my whole sexual outlook changes when I am dressed. When dressed I feel like one of those very naughty kinds of girls, and I love it:heehee:

[Sweet Jane]

its never been a big sexual turn on for me....I suppose thats why sometimes I wonder why I do dress, except that somehow I just 'feel" better. Somedays I just think this is how i was supposed to be???

[Sandra H]

Hi.

I have never found it a big turn on when I dress, I dress because I want to feel like a woman. In the early days about 30 years ago I would get turned on slightly when I thought of buying something I had never worn before and I did get sexually aroused when I bought it and tried it on for the first time. But now I have and have tried on every type of clothing a woman wears I do not get turned on any longer. I just put on my fem cloths just like I put on my drab, but I like the women’s cloths best.

[BOOTLOVINGGIRL]

It's always been a sexual turn on for me, although not as strongly as in my early years. I agree you're quite normal.

[silkie h]

Started like that. Has diminished somewhat, but is still strong in my Psyche.

[sterling12]

I'll propose a theory. I think it's ALL sexual, whether your orgasmic or not! Those overwhelming feelings of "femininity" are sensual, (or is it sensuous, never get that right).

Over time Freud has been largely discredited, it's not always about sex. However, for the average CD it is about feeling very good and that seems to be very closely aligned to sexual feelings. Years ago, I remember reading a quotation. I believe The Writer said: "99% of all sex, happens between the ears." "What happens below the waist, is just the manifestation of the other 99%."

So, my vote says that it's sexual, no matter what does or doesn't happen.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[JoAnnDallas]

When I was a teenager, it was sexual. Even when I was in my 20's it was somewhat sexual, then for many years it was neutral, but now it is different. When I dress, I get a whole different feeling, It starts when I take my shower and shave my chest and legs. I get this warm inner feeling of peace and calm. After shaving my face and putting on my makeup, the feeling transforms into what I think of as a excitement. Once I have my outer clothing on, heels, wig, lipstick, perfume, and I stand there looking at myself in the full mirror, I feel a rush that I can only explain as a switch being thrown. My male self has turned off and my fem self is fully on. This stays with me until I start the reverse process. Some Residual feeling remains even if I revert back to full male mode.

[karynspanties]

Not usually, but it can be........:D

[miss laureux]

For me, it is practically strictly sexual. once the sexuality aspect of the climax is finished, i find no need to continue, until the urge comes again...

[Marcie Sexton]

If there is a real turn on for me, its the fact I can go from guy to gurl in a matter of minutes...

[Dixie]

Wow this post just keeps going, just like the last one like it, and probably more in the future, I am so Hott right now......I guess I should hook up the swamp cooler now that summer is here! hehehehe:heehee:

[Sam-antha]

Early on, it was of course a big turn on and did not need much material for me to react.
Now, well, stimulation happenings are variable, but dressing is not now one of the happenings that stimulate... well not very often.
The big moment nowadays is to find someone else in the big mirror, fully dressed and to know that it is me, going out. there is nothing sexual in going out, is there ?
~Samm

[RuthieER]

At first, my dressing was exclusivly sexual, but now, as I dress with great regularity, and go out and do things in the real world en femme, it isn't primarily for sex, but it is still a turn-on, and I still dress for sex quite a bit.

Ruthie

[Sarah_new]

It depends on my mood, but yes dressing can be very arousing.

For me it is stockings and suspenders (garter belts) that do it.

[Shasta Daisy]

:doll: Yes, it is definitely a sexual thing with me. Wearing tight, ultra low rise feminine jeans and dangling earrings was the way I met my boyfriend for the first time. Now he wants me to take more steps to become a crossdresser.

[willowgurl]

Dressing like a sexy girl certainly does turn me on! For years this led to fantasies about Men, and self gratification. In the last couple of years I have been exclusively dating men, with all that entails. willow

[Roxi Loh]

It started as a real turn on and that has not worn off. The act of getting dressed is a turn on and an adrenaline rush. I don't feel that I have to reach a climax while dressed which is a good thing because I would not want to go out while erect all the time. Very poor taste.

[Alpaula]

Yes its definately a turn on every time I dress but I also feel so relaxed and at ease as if this become an everyday activity

[Faye Emmette]

Yes. And no. And yes. :D :D
It's a bit like "When you invite a woman out for dinner and evening, is it sexual"?
Mainly for comfort now but decades ago (ooww it hurst to say that)... the sex/guilt/start-again cycle was there.
We're all individuals here, aren't we?:heehee:

[cindi51]

yes it always been a big sexual thing. in the early years after the sexual release, the guilt would kick in and I could not wait to get back in drab.
Now there is still a sexual part sometimes, but I usually dress because I like to dress that way and not just for sexual reasons.

[jete2_ballet]

In response:

I get a lot of sexual gratification from cding and indeed pleasure, and the majority of the time that is the main driver for doing it. Some of the emotions are or result in feeling sexy ,and I feel a true expression of my feminine side.

Interestingly the mood to dress comes and goes in varying degrees and I often wonder whether I wax and wane like the moon.(kind of abstract).

I also think the urge is an expression of wanting to feel attractive and loved.

cheers

[Joy3]

Sexual gratification has always been a part of my crossdressing since I was very young. It is still there in my "golden years". I must say that it played a much bigger role when I was younger and that [cding] plays a much broader role in my life now.

Joy

[MsJoann]

I mean "was". I can remember being in my early 20's, sneaking away to the parents' beach house in the fall months with my GF's garter belt and all the accessories I could steal.
I became highly aroused when I could get away to do this "shameful and weird" thing. And yes, self-gratification was the motivation and the finish.
Different story now...sometimes I do get excited but rarely take care of business if you know what I mean.
I work on perfecting my look and presentation these days.

[Slip Affinity]

Like the majority of the responses here, yes, for me it is a very sensual and sexual experience, but not 100% of the time. I love the look and the feel of my lingerie and like others, I feel very relaxed and comfortable wearing it. I feel as comfortable in a bra and panties as I do in a T shirt and shorts.

[laura.lapinski]

I agree with JoAnnDallas and WillowGirl! For me, it is sexual; I do experience the excitement, guilt/shame/rediculousness, and restart cycle. But I do accept its part of me, and that I truely enjoy it. Don't know that I would ever pursue it as far as WillowGirl, but its fun to fantacize.

[in-media-res]

For the longest time the sexual component was the majority of the reason I dressed. Now that I've started embracing the CDing as part of myself I find that I'm not exclusively aroused when I dress.

It's easier for me to understand what others are saying about it changing gradually over time to something less sexual.

[Gerri Paul]

For me it's always been a total turn on!! From the moment I slip on pantyhose n heels it's a very sexual experience.Self gratification is part of my dressing. Take care Gerri Paul:2c:

[Ashleigh]

When I was very young, 5-10 or so, it was not. It was so normal to me. Probably about 11 or 12 it became very much sensual through about 25 years old. It was still normal but the hormones were flowing then. After my mid 20s, things calmed down and it was normal to CD and let my "woman within" come out as often as possible. At 50, it is still wonderfully normal and relaxing.

A:doll:

[franvonceder]

Its always been a turn on sexually for me. I can make it much longer now i"m much older.

Fran

[Khriss]

...I'd give it up in a Heartbeat..if it was'nt ..??

[tracie674]

When I just wear panties to work, which is almost everyday, its me just being me. If I get a few hours alone, which happens often since I travel a lot for work, then I get all dolled up and take videos and photos of myself and it always ends in self gratification. The cameras help with the arousal. Its like doing it with someone watching but hopeing that no-one ever will. I seldom just dress to be comfortable. I'm in my late 50's and its been this way since puberty. Although now it can take all night to do what I used to do all night.

[Cindyloo]

Yes at times. When you get older you feel more feminine I believe. For me it brings more of the woman out in me.

Cindy

[sami1952]

At first it was but now i just do it because i like to wear women's clothes and it's the inside of me that i will never really be,Female.

[Amiad]

yup, me too. And if I have a "happy ending" while dressed, everything comes off right down to the nail polish.

[steppingout]

Every time I dress it gives me a thrill, but someone raised the issue of sensual vs sexual - for me, it's sometimes sexual but always sensual.

[Jamie001]

For me it is not sexual. It is a release of tension to allow the girl that is inside of me to express herself. It is really hard to describe, but is kind of like a weight is lifted off me and I feel to relaxed. That is the reason that I have incorporated some fem traits such as fem earrings, highlighted hair, and professionally pedicured and polished toenails into my daily drab look.

[kerrianna]

For me it is not sexual. It is a release of tension to allow the girl that is inside of me to express herself. It is really hard to describe, but is kind of like a weight is lifted off me and I feel to relaxed. That is the reason that I have incorporated some fem traits such as fem earrings, highlighted hair, and professionally pedicured and polished toenails into my daily drab look.

Yeah, I get that Jamie.

I wouldn't say release of tension myself, more like keeping a harmonic note going that is in synch with my true spirit. :happy: But the little things go a long way. :battingeyelashes:

[Faye Emmette]

For me it is not sexual. It is a release of tension ... the girl that is inside of me to express herself.... like a weight is lifted off me and I feel so relaxed.
A girlfriend asked me once "Why"?
I said "I feel so relaxed".

[courtney44]

I agree with you all. It is a sexual thing yet for me, but sometimes I get the feeling of wanting more, and it relaxes me. Sometimes for me, a new beautiful dress gets me more excite, but my older ones relax me.

[Christine Kelly]

I'll propose a theory. I think it's ALL sexual, whether your orgasmic or not! Those overwhelming feelings of "femininity" are sensual, (or is it sensuous, never get that right).

Over time Freud has been largely discredited, it's not always about sex. However, for the average CD it is about feeling very good and that seems to be very closely aligned to sexual feelings. Years ago, I remember reading a quotation. I believe The Writer said: "99% of all sex, happens between the ears." "What happens below the waist, is just the manifestation of the other 99%."

So, my vote says that it's sexual, no matter what does or doesn't happen.


I completely agree.
Even as a child, I believe there is an element of sexuality.
I think Freud would agree with me