Effect of doing on thinking?

[BOOTLOVINGGIRL]

As a closeted CD who hasn't dressed in a while and doesn't do alot of it, I spend too many hours thinking and fantasizing about it. My question is directed more to those who go out dressed and have met other CD friends. Did venturing out have any effect on the amount of time you spend thinking about CDing? Initially, I imagine it would be very consuming thought wise but after a while does it become routine to the point where you think less about it and just do it when you want or do you still think about it the same or more? Thanks for your input.

[Holly]

I think the answers you get to this question will vary a bit from person to person. In may case, I think it may be true that I spend less time thinking about it now than I did in the past. Partly because I can dress just about anytime I want, but I think it has more to do with how I view and perceive myself now. I accept the fact that I am a cross dresser and it's what I do... I like to swim, but I don't think about that all the time all the time either.

[Dixie]

In my case I think about it more. That may possibly change in the future, but for now it is a major topic of my thought processes.

[Glenda58]

No I don't think about all time now that I have been dressing and going out. Now I just dress when I feel like it and do what needs to be done. In fact I seem to get more done now that I'm dressing more offend. I'm not distracted by think of what to wear or when am I going to get the chance to dress.

[marie354]

I dress every day in women's clothes. I threw out almost all my mens clothes.
I actually think more about what I'm going to wear than just thinking about the dressing itself any more. I wear jeans, slacks or shorts most of the time. Especially if I go out of the house. No one around here, except my SO, a few close friends and my 2 brothers have ever seen me in a dress or skirt. So I guess that anyone that does it a lot would get used to it a bit.
:hugs:

[AllieSF]

I have only been out twice and just recently. I don't dream about going out, but I do want to go out to have some fun. At the present I am not so interested in passing for others, but rather to enjoy being dressed in a bar, reataurant, TG/CD friendly club. Both outings included eating in a restaurant (cyber cafe in San Francisco) and a Denny's at 2:00 AM. Definitely got read, but didn't really care (so far at least). The more I go out, may cause me to rethink my goals to be more passable in none nightlife situations. I can see that may be happening now as I bought my first denim short skirt and it has become my go-to house outfit when I am at home and not wanting to dress completely. Plus after my last night out (Saturday) to dance salsa in a gay bar, I was way over dressed (too fancy) for the locale, everyone was in levis and slacks with me in my sexy floral short skirt, black nylons and black top :o. So now I am looking what I can add to my wardrobe to meet that need and plan my next outing.

One thing I strongly recommend to you, is to network from this site to try and meet other local CDs. Both times out were with someone I met here and will be going out next week with one of them again. After chatting with them and meeting them in my guy mode, I felt secure in going out with them dressed up. It definitley works.

[Kate Simmons]

I don't think about it a lot, just do it. Since I'm retired now, I can pretty much be who I want to be when I want to be.:happy:

[faltenrock]

Well, I think about it a lot.

Whenever I have a chance to go out, it gives me a huge relief. After being out, I usually think about it much less for a certain amount of time - let's say for a couple of weeks. It seems like a cycle to me.

Doreen

[RobertaFermina]

I feel about it. I feel when I want to go out dressed.

The feeling is a yearning, an emptiness, kind of a sadness.... "god I wanna" and the response in thinking is "maybe, is it reasonable?"

When the feeling overwhelms me and I MUST go out, then I think about it a little. Mostly, even when decided, I'm impulsive and creative in my process.

If I thought about it....I wouldn't dress so much. Thank heavens for that pink fog that seems to neutralize any tendency to think much about things.....hehe!


:rose: Roberta :rose:

[mellisac9]

I had a crossdressing friend, I actually talked about him on here once but people actually thought I was lying, why would u think I was lying just becasue most people are closet dosnt mean everyone else is. Anyway sorry, BOOTLOVINGGIRL, I have been out crossdressing more then a few times, it does increase well for me, my need to do it more becasue I know I can do it so I want it more but as it became routine, yeah, after awhile it started to feel like yeah, so what, crossdressing, actually it's probably the reason for me stopping, I crossdress still but not as much, just becasue I know I can, everyone knows im a crossdresser, so now what lol. I'm interested in Women anyway. I still crossdress at home.
My asain friend who i was crossdressing with for sometime was a 'fulltime' crossdresser and was quite attractive as a girl. He has stopped now though. I saw that after some time he did get used to it and things became routine. We would talk to eachother all the time about crossdressing. Most of our conversations were about Trannys or Crossdressers. I think he stopped becasue he realised he was just being accepted as a girl. Lucky bitch I was a little jeloues haha. I guess I dont think about it as much. Although I still feel I have a femmine side.

[RachelDenise]

I don't go out and I think about it all the time!

[christina marie]

dont go out... yet, and yes, if im not dressed, im daydreamming about it. pretty much all the time.