The TAXI CLUB Oxford

[mellisac9]

Hello all,

This is just some thoughts: 'To 'her' whoever and whereever she is'

I'm a crossdresser but I dont crossdress when I goto Taxi Club in Oxford st Sydney. I don't crossdress all that often anymore. I'm ok looking as a guy, I do like TS girls.
I don't dislike Taxi Club itself it's a good club but it's also a harsh place, full of wonder and mystry; who is that lady would she talk to me or simply say 'go away'. Just becasue it's Oxford St, that dosnt mean everyone is a drug addict or freaky wirdeo. I'm just a 24 year old guy, sensitive at heart, loving nature, knows his femmine side, why such torment from those that I so admire. The rejection, mostly harsh, unthoughtful.

Should I crossdress, should I become transexual so maybe you would perhaps talk to me?
I so admire and respect you, you ladies are the most beautiful special ladies, I will not be bitter, but they seem to hate so easy, I regret the day I came home crying in the Taxi, if only they knew I was just seeking someone special, someone to hold, laugh with, talk with. I know your life must have been hard, transitioning and becomming a women, but please just remember, you are attracting men, it is what you wanted is it not? I know you must be careful, you don't want a broken heart, or a broken nose. But please I ask, take your time to just be nice, you are a special women, and I just want to get to know you as a person. Whoever you, whoever is listioning, I hope that my words here can be heard. Not just the Taxi Club but anywhere.
Sorry if I wasted anyones time, I just had to let this out as I feel my pain is not heard.

"Do unto others, and others will return the favour"

Thankyou

[Robin Leigh]

Good luck, Melissa!

I've never been to the Taxi Club, in either mode. Oxford St scares me a bit. One time I was walking up Oxford St en femme with a GG I got hassled by a bunch of guys. Maybe they were yobbos from the suburbs, in town for a bit of gay-bashing.

:hugs:

Robin

[GypsyKaren]

I'm sorry if I'm taking any of this the wrong way, but I'm having trouble trying to figure out your point here. Am I correct in saying that it boils down to getting shot down in some kind of bar? I'm sorry if I'm confused, but that's what it sounds like to me.

I hope I can put this in a way that you'll understand. I am most certainly not transitioning so that I can attract men, that has absolutely nothing to do with it, and I think I can safely say that at least 99% of others who are also doing so feel the same way. I am going through all of this so that I can feel right about myself, and so that I can be myself, it's not so I can have a bunch of men hover over me in a bar.

I don't know why anyone wouldn't want to talk to you in a bar, perhaps they just felt like being left alone so they could visit and have fun together as friends? Just a thought...

Karen

[MJ]

oh no here comes another guy i wonder what he wants ...
guy hi there can i get you a drink
great he hitting in me , what do i do what if he hears my voice and gets homophobic and then hurts me or kill me ... er no thanks i am driving ones my limit
guy OK well lets talk awhile whats your name? do you come here often
great now he know my favorite bar ...

OK so put your self in our heels what would you do ? . maybe you come over too Strong try too hard try to relax

here is another point i am not fixed so no sex for you Lol and holding cuddling leads to kissing and then to fear as i can't go all the way
i don't know what you would want so it best to say NO ,NO ,NO,
get to know and understand us as a friend and who knows over time we girls will respect that ..
you should start dressing and going to the bars and see how guy react to us or think we will turn a easy trick for them ...
and you wonder why we say NO who are you are you ?. will i be safe am i in danger
we are just as scared as you

[Stephenie S]

Well Mellisa, I feel your pain, hon, but I'm not sure what it's from. I really don't get the point of your post. Are you looking for a CD or TG girlfriend? Are you looking for a CD or TG boyfriend? Are you looking for sex? Do you want advice on picking up girls in bars? If you think this is a dangerous bar in a dangerous part of town, perhaps you should be elsewhere. The kind of people you meet in dangerous bars in dangerous parts of town are rarely worth meeting.

I can tell you're hurting, dear, but I'm not sure why.

Lovies,
Steph

[faltenrock]

Mellisa,

I agree with the answers here, what do you want??
I've never been to Sydney, but we've those streets and bars in Hamburg as well, same in San Francisco and elsewhere. It'll be quite difficult to find what you want - isn't it, except you're just looking for some sex.

A relationship, needless to say, needs much more...

Calm down and figure out what you want, stay away from dangerous places, when afraid of them. Get clear.

Best wishes anyway

[battybattybats]

I've heard some talk of the taxi club as a known TG hang-out.

Should I crossdress, should I become transexual so maybe you would perhaps talk to me?

Nope, just be yourself. Of course if I had the chance to go to somewhere like this I'd be out to find friends not anything more. I think that would be the case for many people. If love is what you're after remember that not no-one is everyone's type, rejection is something that happens to everyone. Also perhaps your approach isn't doing you justice?

[Faye Emmette]

a.k.a. Grosvenor Club. It's in Flinders Street just off Oxford Street.
It's a safe place Mellisa. Just some of the streets around are a bit dangerous .. and hold onto your handbag.
Thanks for your kind thoughts but by the time we've arrived at this site and found good friends, we're mainly quite happy with ourselves.
I did meet someone at the Club and think I'd rather the broken nose than the hurt from emotions. The beak is ok in a few days but the scissored feelings still hurt.
Live with your CD-ing and enjoy the freedom of feeling the way you are comfortable with. :happy:
And no, I don't wish to attract blokes.

[Robin Leigh]

Oxford St is the heart of Sydney's main gay & lesbian district. The annual gay & lesbian Mardi Gras parade goes up Oxford & Flinders Sts. The Taxi Club is Sydney's oldest & most well-known trans-friendly club. It has a mixed reputation...

Robin

[RobertaFermina]

Mellisa,

No one can tell what is in the heart of another. Even when the object of your admiration and desire "spurns" you, her heart may be open, but her mind is closed due to fear, or some misunderstanding.

I hear the pain in your heart, I don't have to guess, you have said it. Your pain is a product of your joy, and the misunderstanding that has seperated you from it.

Your joy is your joy, and those you admire remain the same.

Perhaps you could say more clearly what has hurt you, so both you and we could more easily understand how to support you, and renew your courage and joy.

You show much dignity in how you describe your anguish...I see no blaming or hatred, really no anger.

Sounds like it is time to try again after a little time and comfort.

Be constant in your honor and your intentions, even when at first you are rejected. Constancy can relieve fearful ones of any doubt, nurture trust, and make safe space for the opening of her/their heart(s).



:hugs:

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Dixie]

Be open, honest, and above all patient.:drink: