Fancy dress party

[Michelle (Oz)]

I doubt I'm brave enough to push ahead but it's sure tempting.

My wife and her friend are organising a 40th b'day party for her husband with a Casino Royale fancy dress theme. My wife asked who I would go as (I'm mid 50's) I jokingly said "M". Trouble is I've been thinking about that and I'd sure love to go dressed as M - right age, love dressing, easier than any alternative, etc.

The problem is that my children don't know I dress and the b'day boy is almost homophobic, plus my wife doesn't want anyone to know about my dressing in our small town. I'd be comfortable but probably the only one that would be.

Should I push for approval or just resign myself to doing my best Daniel Craig impersonation.

Michelle (Oz)

[rose382832]

it's a costume party. no one needs to know you dress. it's just like haloween. if you think your friend might be uncomfortable try to dress way over! be obvious that you are a guy , but still enjoy ( inside ) the fact that you are out and dressed.( you dont need to pass to dress.) sometimes it is easier to dress not to pass than it is to try to pass. either way i hope you enjoy the party.:drink::hugs:

[AllieSF]

Unless it is a true costume party where dressing would go mostly unnoticed, I think I would let it pass and keep everyone happy. The party is for someone else and there is no need to potentially divert attention unneccesarily from the birthday boy.

[Roxi Loh]

No surprise from this group you are going to get a go for it. Its M its not Elvira...(thats who I would go as)

[Joy Carter]

If you dress in anything other than camp you will be outing yourself. I'd go as Odd Job.:2c:

[Angie G]

I don't think it would be a good idea hon :hugs:
Angie

[Dixie]

As tempting as it may sound, you should respect your wife's wishes. I think she has set a boundary that I think you should consider if you want her continued support. Remember you are not the only one affected by your dressing.:drink:

[racquel]

I agree with Dixie,respect your wife's wishes.:2c:

[rachel_rachel]

You should know that it is nearly every Aussie bloke's right to dress as a woman at a fancy dress party!!!

Look at most AFL footballers, or any type of footy players for that fact, they don't even break stride when they do it... and in public!

[Sarah Rabbit]

So many factors in this say 'No' don't do it. Your wife does not want you to do it, and the Birthday boy is 'Homophobic'. Why push the point and cause friction.

Sarah R. :bunny:

[Emeralddragon]

Well you could ask around and see if anyone else is going as M. If someone is then dont and if the slot is open just say that somebody had to do it. That somebody just happened to be you.

[TV Wannabe]

aw forget Daniel Craig and M, go as Austin Powers.

Yeah Baby

[trannie T]

What should one wear to a fancy dress party?

A fancy dress, silly!

[susiej]

I've encouraged girls in this forum before to take a chance, but this time -- bzzzzzttt! Danger, Will Robinson!

Michelle, you named all the reasons not to take this particular chance. Listen to yourself, and take your advice on this one. If you want, you and your wife can have your own private party, with different costumes, afterwards :) .

Hugs,
Susie

[Robin Leigh]

it's a costume party. no one needs to know you dress. it's just like haloween.
We don't really celebrate Halloween in Australia, Rose, although in recent years some people here have started to follow the American pattern.


The problem is that my children don't know I dress and the b'day boy is almost homophobic, plus my wife doesn't want anyone to know about my dressing in our small town. I'd be comfortable but probably the only one that would be.That's not one problem, Michelle, that's 3 or 4. :) If you do CD for this party people will talk. For years. Please don't subject your wonderful supportive wife & your kids to that.

Just a thought: maybe the birthday boy has "issues" of his own... sometimes people act homophobic to divert suspicion. :heehee:

:hugs:

Robin