Have you ever been mistaken for a woman while NOT en femme?

[SweetCaroline]

I'm just curious. How many of you ladies have ever been mistaken for a women or girl when you were in your boy clothes?

Maybe not a lot of you, but I do have naturally long hair. Long hair that I'm proud of and It's not unusual for someone to see me from behind and say "Excuse me Miss" or "pardon me mame", only for me to turn around and they see my face and say, "Oh my God, I'm so sorry". LOL.

I've even had children run up to me several times and ask me "Are you a boy or a girl?"

The worst experience I ever had was when I was in my early twenties. I was hanging out in Boston, when some really drunk guy tried to "pick me up". I was dressed as a boy, yet it's was obvious he was taking me as a lady. Being hetero, I just ignored him, and waited for him to just go away. Still he tried pretty hard. LOL. For his own sake, I didn't say a word, as not to embarrass the poor dude. If he heard my voice he'd know I was a man. Tho, looking back at the time, it was kinda funny.

So has anyone else besides me ever been mistaken for a woman, even when not dressed up?

[Julogden]

Much to my amazement, I've had that happen on a few occasions, usually when I'm sitting down (I'm 6'5" tall in my bare feet), but once when I was standing, wearing blue jeans, a t-shirt and baseball cap while fishing. I too have hair that's on the long side, but still......

Carol:hugs:

[MJ]

for me you joking right :D

[Lilith Moon]

Yes, regularly in my 30's when my luxurious hair was waist length. Now it is shoulder length, threadbare and with a large bald patch....once in a while from the right angle with the lighting just right and the observer drunk or stoned... :D

[Sapphire]

Yes. It happened at a crowded outdoor street event when I picked up something that someone had dropped on the ground and handed it back to them. I did not expect a “Thank you Mam”. As soon as the man involved realised his error he immediately apologised. My hair was fairly long at the time and being fairly slim, clean shaven and closer to the average height of a woman I could understand how the error could be made and I took no offence. I am heterosexual yet I must admit that I felt in no way upset – in fact quite the opposite: it seemed to appeal to my feminine side. Life is curious at times.

[micheal]

Iv had it happen a few times.
Its getting rarer as i get older :sad:.

Iv had my bum pinched a few times in pubs & had some guy come up behind me and put his hands on my hips :rofl:.
Im fairly sure they wont gay or jokeing either.

Walking out of my streat one day i overheared one guy passing by slowly in a car arsking his friend "was that a boy or a girl".

Last cristmass one of my nefues refeared to my as a he she.

And i couldnt count the number of times iv been bibbed by cars passing from behind when i have my hair down.

Iv had to put this down to a lack of other hippys in my town and people not wearing there glasses as when i do dress i realy dont stand much chance of passing :heehee:.

[Sedona]

Nope, for me, not a chance.

[susie evans]

nope not a chance to old fat and bald :hugs:

susie

[Joy Carter]

Oh god yes ! My brothers called me a sissy for years and a couple of bullies called me a p----y once. LoL

[Sarah V]

Not my face or appearance, but my voice gets mistaken for a womans frequesntly on the phone.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Nope can't really say I have that problem. Wish I did though:heehee:Jocelyn

[battybattybats]

It's happened a number of times. Mostly from the back as I generally only shave every 2 or 3 days. Once I've even had it happen from someone who knew me! Someone who had dated my brother in the past! My GF and I ran into her and a friend of hers in the supermarket and she said 'Hi girls!' then she stammered 'I mean..' and apologised mumbling something about my long hair and getting embarassed. I was very amused.

[andy6432668]

Over the phone I get mam,ed in person no I do have a kind of natural female voice which I like.

[Rachel Morley]

When I was in my late teens I too had long hair, and with my small body (5ft 4ins 128lbs) I used to get mistaken for a girl (from behind) a lot of the time.

Nowadays it rarely happens, except very occasionally if I am dressed "girly boy mode" androgynously openly wearing fairly obvious women's clothes. The last time was in Las Vegas about 6 months ago. My wife and I were walking down the strip in the Saturday afternoon sunshine, and as we approached a woman handing out fliers, she held out her flier to me, made eye contact, and said "How about a show Ladies...umm...Sir....I mean, Ma'am."

I was wearing a baseball cap, and I had my gold stud earrings in, I was also wearing pink and white tennis shoes, tight fitting low rise boot cut jeans, a women's fitted pale blue t-shirt and a brown women's ribbed rayon/nylon mix cardigan. However I wasn't wearing any make up, except a little eyeliner and lip gloss. Add all this together and I guess I didn't look much like a man, but I didn't think I looked enough like a woman to be mistaken for one either, because I wasn't dressed fully en femme. It felt wonderful to be addressed this way! :happy:

[Rita B]

Not since I was 3 haha


Rita

[shannonsilk]

since i joined the forum i let my hair grow. it grows pretty frizzy and women tell me they would like to have hair like mine--tho i don't believe them. put longish hair and my height of 5' 3" and i am regularly taken as a woman.
i had a previous post of the day when i was mistaken for a woman 3 times in one day. i don't know the thread link.

[gmss]

In my early teen years, my hair was much longer (at least shoulder length), it was pre-moustach days, and I actually sometimes wore more women's style jeans (what little I could.) I've got a few pictures of me from those days, and I look at myself and wonder why I didn't get mistaken more often.

Still, I don't remember ever being mistaken for a girl, I just always wished I was one... :-/

Oh well... life goes on.

[Lisa Baby]

There have been numerous occasions when I have had the pleasure of being addressed as "Miss" while being dressed in drab.

Once, while entering a local grocery store, a young man and his gf passed me as they were entering the store, he turned around to take a second look at me, and I overheard him tell his gf that he had thought that I was "a girl." :happy: Which gt him in trouble with his gf because he was "looking at other women." :heehee:

I am very pleased when people address me as "Miss." I have been trying to "Feminize" my appearance and movements for some time now. (This is getting more dificult as the spare tire around my waist continuse to expand. :mad:)

Lisa Baby :happy:

[Mariah]

yes, on the phone all the time, when I had my hair longer and was younger (re less face hair lol) I was mamed most of the time...I loved it!


hopes to you all
keris

[brenya]

once a long time ago I was dressed all goth and had bright pink hair, a kid in the mall tugged on her moms pantleg and said "mommy I want hair like hers" it made me smile and my friends laugh

[stormrider]

Sissy when I was a kid (I really sucked at being a boy) and ma'm on the phone and by sarcastic guys. Kinda bothered me, heck yes it bothered me a lot, as a kid it made me cry. But when my second wife said "You'd make a good wife", I took it as a compliment.

Michelle

[ronna]

Only once, and it was before I ever tried CDing but I had really long hair. A couple of guys pulled up alongside me hooting and hollering but when I turned toward them one of them said, "I thought you was a chick!" I didn't know what to say. Now it would be "thank you"

[SandyR]

Nope. Not me! I did get busted once with left over eyeliner....drew some odd looks. Does that count?

Hugs.

SandyR

[Margie]

I can only dream !!!! I would take it as the ultimate compliment tho.

[Charleen]

Got called Ma'am by a fellow worker(GG) that I had to talk to about her job performance.

[Rachael]

Once when reversing my car and much younger. Some guy began giving unsolicited directions and caling me "love". When I eventually turned round he was the one overcome with embarrasment and apologised "O:devil:h sorry mate!" I had a good laugh and told all my friends.
:devil:Rachael

[Hermione Simpson]

yes, a few months ago while i was waiting for a bus with my sister a women came up to us and said excuse me girls do you know what time the next bus is, when she said it i felt great as someone called me a girl even though i was in drab

[yms]

Hi

I also have very long hair, longer than my wigs, and I sometimes am called Miss or M'am from store clerks who don't take a real good look at me.

What I find interesting is how upset they seem to get at themselves, as if they've offended me in the worst way imaginable. Sometimes I see a look of panic or fear, like I'm going to be outraged.

I guess we still live in a culture where calling a man a woman is an insult.

[rose382832]

not even the chance of a snowball in h**l. im to wide in the shoulders and until a few months ago i still wore my hair army short. however i'm growing it out and we will see in another 6 months wether i can pass without a wig. :2c:

[Kelsy]

My personality may have been mistaken as female but never my physical appearence:eek:
Jennifer:happy:

[Donna tv]

OMG yes this has just started happening to me in the past 4 months. The 1st time was back in Jan. the wife and I went to Florida , played golf at a semi private club that had a tended gate entrance. I was driving and the guard said "hello Ladies" . My hair is longer than most guys I have always kept the look of the 60's and 70's but still it is not as long as it once was. Just this past weekend the wife and I went out to our usual Fri night dinner we tried a new restaurant and the person who serves the food not our regular waitress says ok Ladies here you are enjoy. I am wearing my guy pleated khackies and polo shirt. The very next day at the mall we were at the Sunglass Hut and sure enough a young guy at the counter asked "what can I help you ladies with today. by this time both the wife and I are really wondering what is going on. I do not consider myself passable when en fem much less in drab. However my inter - femininity seems to be on the increase lately. Maybe it is starting to show on the outside. It's weird but kind of cool too

[monkey88]

hell yeah. I've had kids in the street ask if I'm a boy or a girl, and a couple of people have confused me for a girl before. I do however have a slightly feminine walk, especially as I keep my arms by my sides and my legs close together, I'm a shy, nervous kinda guy and I guess my sub-conscious sees it as taking up less space, and makes me less obtrusive. In fact the other day, while at work, sat down at my checkout, namebadge on that says 'Robert' on it, a women mistook me for female. I do have longer than average hair. It used to be about shoulder length, but now it's a lot shorter, makes it easier to manage, and I've never been one to take too much time over my appearance. Except when dressed of course.

These things used to bother me, but I don't care any more. It just means if I ever go out, I'll pass easier! Until I open my mouth anyway, I have a really deep voice, I mean real deep, it's often been commented on by others, both family and friends.

[KarenNY]

Many times, but not really since I was younger... as a teenager I grew my hair down to my shoulders and usually wore it in a ponytail in "guy-mode"... being about 5'5" and 125 pounds or so at the time, and because my face was more effeminate when I was younger, I was occasionally called "miss" at some point when I was out, even en drab in a T-shirt and jeans. I never cared much when I was in high school or college, I guess I was used to it by then. I was a short, small, slender guy and that translated easily to passable crossdressing. I'm still only about 5'6", but my hair is short now so I don't get mistaken at age 37 the way I did at 17...

[JoAnnDallas]

My wife and I once stopped for lunch and the wietress kept refering the both of us as "ladies". My wife got a good laugh out of it. I just smiled.

[RuthieER]

Oh, yes, it happens to me a lot. I am small and slight, 5' 1", with long brown hair, and sort of cute. I get called "Ma'am" by sales clerks even when I'm trying to pass for butch! I used to feign indignation, now I'm inwardly proud.

Ruthie

[fredgregjoe]

No, but that's actually the reason I keep my beard.
With my long hair and being kinda skinny, I think my beard is the only thing keeping people from maybe putting 2 and 2 together. XD

[StephanieH]

:happy: Yep, it's happened about half a dozen times now, usually at stores or fast food drive-thrus. I've got fairly long hair and both ears are pierced, so it's understandable I suppose.

The funniest one was when me and wifey were out to dinner a few months back, the waitress came up and said, "and how are you ladies doing this evening?" Wife looked at me and knew I was delighted! We still joke about that one.

:D

[Kristen Kelly]

Hi
I also have very long hair, longer than my wigs, and I sometimes am called Miss or M'am from store clerks who don't take a real good look at me.
What I find interesting is how upset they seem to get at themselves, as if they've offended me in the worst way imaginable. Sometimes I see a look of panic or fear, like I'm going to be outraged.
I guess we still live in a culture where calling a man a woman is an insult.

A few days ago was out to dinner at Applebee’s in drab with my GF, the waitress wrote on the check “Ladies have a good night”, she saw me 4 times and spoke to me. The following day we went out shopping in drab again, GF will not go shopping with Kristen, I was wearing women’s shorts, and a leather fanny pack walked into shoe store and got a big “Good morning ladies” from the sales woman, I said “Hi,” she never showed her face again while we were in the store.
Today was the ultimate I was out shopping in Target after work in “drab,” women’s low rise jeans, a blue micro fiber Champion Tee shirt, small hoop earrings and sneakers, an hour drive from work had to use the restroom, on my way threw the door a women says, “Yo miss that’s the men’s room”, I smiled and said “Thanks”. Now my hair is brown, below the collar highlighted, with auburn and blonde, have been apprehensive to go out with out the wig but I think it will happen soon.

[Denielleinheels]

I actually have many times in resturants when the waiter or waitress approaches me from behind.

[Alysin CD]

My hair is long & have both ears pierced. Been called maam from behind a few times. I just turn & say thanks. :happy:

Aly

[Kellycrossdress]

I've been called miss many times at work. Usually its by someone behind me. or just gets a glimpse of me. I just take it as a compliment when I customer says it. Many applogize, 'Oh, I'm sorry' they say. I guess I just sorta have a womans figure from the back. :)