How do I continue?

[Rita B]

How does one go on when they are rejected for SRS? It's been over 20 years for me and I have not gotten over it yet. I was almost 50 when I started counseling. By that time I had had bypass surgery once and two minor heart attacks after and they were reluctant to put me on hormones or subject me to the stress of transition. I am still a woman inside after all these years!

Rita

[barb M]

Rita,
I am very empathetic to your situation. Luckily my health is good and I've been safely on hormones for six months. If you would like.. send me a private message,and I'll give you a couple of doctor's who may be able to help you.
Best of luck ,
Barb M

[Sharon]

....send me a private message,and I'll give you a couple of doctor's who may be able to help you.


Wow, I really sympathize, Rita, but I would urge a bit of caution in trying to find just any doctor who might be willing to prescribe the meds regardless of your medical history. This might sound overly dramatic or cautious, but it will do you little good to gamble your health or life. What's the point of transitioning if you're possibly going to be killed by it?

Now, understand, that I would be a nut case if placed in your predictament, and the comparitively minor health problems that are affecting my med dosages are nothing when weighed against yours, but I would suggest just doing what you are capable of -- dressing and living the life you desire. No matter what, you are still who you are. :happy:

:love: and :hugs:

[Holly]

Rita, please listen to Sharon. She is so right!

[Rita B]

Rita,
I am very empathetic to your situation. Luckily my health is good and I've been safely on hormones for six months. If you would like.. send me a private message,and I'll give you a couple of doctor's who may be able to help you.
Best of luck ,
Barb MThank you very much for your post. Barb, I am afraid that my horse has left the gate. My medical history should be a text book for aspiring cardio thoracic surgeons. I have had so many surgeries that my body is beginning to look like a raggedy ann doll. Luckily, my spirit and my face are still very young. I had a lady who was in her 70's herself tell me she thought I was in my late fifties. Not bad for 72 is it? In my heart I know what I am and that is what is important. ( still wonder what kind of lady I could have been though):hugs:

Rita

PS I got my 3rd heart attack about one month after I was refused hormones.

[Rita B]

Rita, please listen to Sharon. She is so right! You have replied to many of my threads and I don't know if I ever told you how deeply I appreciate it. Holly, honey, I am 72 years old now. I have had countless major surgeries. You can say that I have numerous internal makeovers. Wish I could work on the outside now. Actually I was told lately that I looked like I was in my late fifties, in drab yet. I'll never get over the disappointment of finding out what kind of lady I would have been, but the doctors were right. A month or so after my visit to the doctor I had another heart attack, and that was after bypass surgery. I am really a f------g walking miracle with all that I have been through. In my heart of hearts I am a woman and no one can take that from me. . . .and I am a hell of a cook too.:hugs:

[Rita B]

Wow, I really sympathize, Rita, but I would urge a bit of caution in trying to find just any doctor who might be willing to prescribe the meds regardless of your medical history. This might sound overly dramatic or cautious, but it will do you little good to gamble your health or life. What's the point of transitioning if you're possibly going to be killed by it?

Now, understand, that I would be a nut case if placed in your predictament, and the comparitively minor health problems that are affecting my med dosages are nothing when weighed against yours, but I would suggest just doing what you are capable of -- dressing and living the life you desire. No matter what, you are still who you are. :happy:

:love: and :hugs:Sharon thank you so much for your post. It's a little late for me. Time has passed me by. I have lived through my years of disappointment, compounded by being married to someone who would not until now tolerate my transgender issues. In my heart of hearts I am a woman and that is where it counts. I am so happy for all the girls who go through SRS successfully. I'll always wonder what kind of lady I would have been though:(

Rita

[kerrianna]

Aww Rita....:hugs: :love:

All I can say is that it does sound like Option A ruled out, so somehow you need to excise it from your mind. That must be hard when you see others being able to go that route.

The main thing is you KNOW who you are. How you get to express that to the rest of the world is limited by the realities. So all I can suggest is work with what you can and bring out the most of your lovely self.

I know it's not as easy as that. But dwelling on things that you can't do anything about will just make you depressed, sad and frustrated.

Know that you are not alone Rita.

There are many people who don't qualify or can't afford or are just plain scared to death of SRS. The trick is to try and limit the ARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH! moments. It's okay to express them once in awhile though. But I do hope you can ways to feel yourself and express your true nature.

:hugs: :love:

[Stephenie S]

Rita, please don't give up on transitioning. You can never be too old to follow your dream. The actual surgery is a small part of transitioning. Were you to do nothing else but get SRS, you would not be at all believable as a woman. Were you to do everything else but SRS, you could still live your life quite believably as a woman. The fact that you can not get surgery should not stand in the way of your dream. SRS does not make the woman. The way you live your life does. There are MANY transexual women living quite successful lives never having had SRS. PLEASE, girl, follow your dream while you still can.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[Rita B]

Aww Rita....:hugs: :love:

All I can say is that it does sound like Option A ruled out, so somehow you need to excise it from your mind. That must be hard when you see others being able to go that route.

The main thing is you KNOW who you are. How you get to express that to the rest of the world is limited by the realities. So all I can suggest is work with what you can and bring out the most of your lovely self.

I know it's not as easy as that. But dwelling on things that you can't do anything about will just make you depressed, sad and frustrated.

Know that you are not alone Rita.

There are many people who don't qualify or can't afford or are just plain scared to death of SRS. The trick is to try and limit the ARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH! moments. It's okay to express them once in awhile though. But I do hope you can ways to feel yourself and express your true nature.

:hugs: :love:Thank you for your kind words, K, . In my heart of hearts I know that I am a woman. I am working at getting out and enjoying my feminine side more. I am just disappointed that I never had the opportunity to see what kind of lady I could have been. Would you believe that I even got my Real Estate license because I had planned to get a job as a female realtor. Anyways, dear, did I tell you that I was 72 years old and the fires are still burning. So for all you young uns out there don't ever lose hope.:hugs:

Rita