Balancing Act

[emmicd]

How do you maintain your masculine side and still manage to please your feminine side?

I realize I am a crossdresser and I like to appeal to my feminine side but i know I am a guy and i have no problem with maintaing my masculine side. I just feel sometimes that i am very different from most people. i like having both a masculine and feminine side and i do certainly like wearing dresses when i can.

emmi

[Karren H]

Ohhh it's a challenge for sure..... Coal miner..... Playing ice hockey, then going out enfemme and shopping for dresses!! It's become just part of life.... Some days it's all guy and some days it girly in the morning, out enfemme at a local casino, then change and make it back to work by 1pm for a meeting.... So far haven't mixed them up... lol

Karren

[DianaGomez]

How do you maintain your masculine side and still manage to please your feminine side?

I realize I am a crossdresser and I like to appeal to my feminine side but i know I am a guy and i have no problem with maintaing my masculine side. I just feel sometimes that i am very different from most people. i like having both a masculine and feminine side and i do certainly like wearing dresses when i can.

emmi

In drag, 100% female. In drab 100% male. Dont know why. Just the way I feel. No issues really. Now, if I'm wearing panties under normal male clothing (alot of the time at least this!) I feel definitely more feminine, like a mixture.

[TracyH]

I think that realizing that you don't really have a "masculine side" and a "feminine side" is the first step. You are who you are and the only thing making you feel polarized are societal constraints. But really, if you're worried that your feminine side is overpowering your masculinity, you're going to start trying to overcompensate, which usually ends up with you trying to armwrestle everyone around you. Instead of trying to keep the two separate, try more to incorporate both sides into every day life. There are times when you need to have "masculine traits" and times when you need to have "feminine traits" and I think the key to making life easier is

Wait. I forgot what I was saying.

Oh yeah. The key to making life easier is knowing that having more of one doesn't diminish the other.

[susie evans]

it's a lot of work and you realy have to learn how to multie task but karren is liveing proof that it can be done :heehee:

susie

[Kate Simmons]

Simple really, I need both parts to be myself. Anything else just isn't me.:happy:

[Dixie]

You have to set aside time for both, you have to feed both sides.

[TerriM]

Balance has been the key word in my life for a long time. It is not easy. Having a family , two jobs, bills, family events and trying to find time for you femme side can be difficult at times to say the least. I had a very macho job for a long time, and still do now. I liked what I did , but I also love getting all dolled up and going shopping , hair done , etc. Yes BALANCE is hard , but it can be done.
Yours Terri

[Chantelle CD]

Just in knowing that you can be both and at anytime you want, The only reason you are different from most, is that most dont know they have this side in them, until it is awakened. The fact that you are aware of this, only makes you a balanced person, try not to let others unbalance make you judge yourself unfairly ;)

[Nikki A.]

All along it's been male and female sides with little overlap. Over the last year or so I feel there has been a melding of sorts. Where the fem side is always there and apart of me. I have been more accepting of it and in someways wish I could be open with this part of me and be accepted that this is me and it does not make me a pervert or a bad person.

[Rita B]

There are many little feminine things you can do while still in masculine mode. I have found that growing a nice set of nails and taking care of my hands is one of them. Giving myself a nice facial every night and putting on moisturizer or other "anti-wrinkle" cream is another. My feminine side is always working and thinking. When I watch TV, I pay a lot of attention to what women are wearing, their makeup, their hair. I have also gone on a diet and I am hitting the exercise bike for almost an hour a day just to get back into, hopefully, a size 12. I know it's hard not to be able to do the exterior transformation all the time, but at least I can work on the inside and when the opportunity comes when I can get all dressed up, I will be ready. That's my way of dealing with it. I'm sure there are as many ways as there are girls out there. As Tammy Wynette sings, "Sometimes it's hard to be a woman".:hugs:

Rita B