split personalities???

[christina marie]

I have noticed that many of us, like myself,see themselves as two seperate embodiments of the same person,i.e. male self,femme self, and have varied personalities as such. I have found that in the process of self acceptance, the line between these two has grown fuzzy, and I see her sneaking into his life more and more. Not really invading, just kind of supervising, influencing,guiding. As I become more comfortable with myself,and my place between genders,I see more of her in me every day. I do not see this as a problem,actually it seems to be an improvement. Maybe shes trying to turn him into a kinder,gentler a$$hole? Maybe it is her way of making a little more room to be her? not sure,but time will tell. just wondering, anyone else see this progression in themselves?

[Kate Simmons]

Yep and it's an ongoing progression. I've pretty much integrated my feelings into one overall personage. Now my biggest problem is what to eat sometimes. Lessee, pizza or salad?--tough one.:p

[Erinn]

Split personalities? I have many ID's (LOL)
Yes, many of us would make great actors bringing our CD experiences to the screen.
Nothing wrong with being two people, or more.:yrtw:

[battybattybats]

I don't find a lot of difference between my male and female sides.
But then a gay friend told me he'd noticed a lot of changes in my mannerisms and such over the last couple of years as I became more accepting so perhaps more of my femininity is seeping into my masculine expression? I don't see much point personally in having rigid divides bewteen the two anyway.

[marie354]

Yep and it's an ongoing progression. I've pretty much integrated my feelings into one overall personage. Now my biggest problem is what to eat sometimes. Lessee, pizza or salad?--tough one.:p

Hehe... Pizza or salad?
Eat the salad. You have to watch your figure, you know.

I too, have been noticing more and more of Sandy coming out in everything I do and how I act. I think that I'm more Sandy than Sam any more, but that's OK... Sam needs the break. Hehe.
:hugs:

[Kate Simmons]

Hehe... Pizza or salad?
Eat the salad. You have to watch your figure, you know.

I too, have been noticing more and more of Sandy coming out in everything I do and how I act. I think that I'm more Sandy than Sam any more, but that's OK... Sam needs the break. Hehe.
:hugs:Well, hell yes Sandy. Most of us have put up with that "guy act" all our lives. This is our time to shine and be ourselves. I figure being an "old biddy" is better than never having been one at all, right?:heehee:

[Marla S]

Split personalities ?

Hm, I think there is an old Chinese saying.

Everything has three sides. One that you can see, one that I can see, and one that neither you nor me can see.

:thinking:But that doesn't really fit here, does it ?:straightface:

Pizza or salad ??? .... I don't know ... isn't there something like a salad pizza ? :heehee:

[jennCD]

I also find major differences between my female and male personalities. Jenn is submissive; he is quite dominant. Jenn is open yet conservative in projecting herself while he is loud, funny and very non-PC. Jenn smokes while he does not. Jenn's taste in fashion is somewhat extreme and exaggerated while he is land and very basic. Both are heterosexual within their gender roles.

They are very separate individuals sharing the small space in me and at times it is a struggle yes. but I'm long past the point of trying to control either side... hopefully it won't come down to Natural Selection where 'only the fittest will survive' since Jenn has been around for 30 yrs or so now, it's somewhat like 'one big happy family sharing a small bathroom' lol

[Tamera]

I love my split personalities;
We learn from each other and,
I'm NEVER ALONE...:heehee:
LOL
Tamera

[Fab Karen]

The split personality people should rent "Sybil" and see what real split personality is.

[Ermintrude]

Everything has three sides. One that you can see, one that I can see, and one that neither you nor me can see.

I love that. :)

[Chantelle CD]

I dont really see it as a split personality at all. Yes i use a different name, and yes i PRETEND to be a different gender. Its all me. I can feel one feeling as Chantelle and feel the exact same feeling as my male Akkk have to use personality LoL Hmmm making me think here roflmao Basically what I'm trying to say is, i feel the exact same feelings and emotions at any given time no matter what mask i ware, i dont really see chantelle separate from myself, but rather what she feels i can feel, but because of the clothing, she is way better at feeling it, and holding on to the feeling for longer periods of time than i am. If i am angry at one given time, one may say he is a angry person, i just have an angry mask on at that moment, doesnt make me an angry person now does it? A smile from a stranger and now i have a happy mask on :) the feminine feelings and emotions i can feel and use at any time in my life, when the situation calls for it, weather i have male clothing on, or female clothing on, makes absolutely no difference at all, Emotions and feelings are void of gender completely. They are human emotions. This is where gender reality gets pulled apart, and the sense of separate personality's happen. Its just growing and becoming all you can be :)

Just like you said it


I see her sneaking into his life more and more. Not really invading, just kind of supervising, influencing,guiding. As I become more comfortable with myself,and my place between genders,I see more of her in me every day. I do not see this as a problem,actually it seems to be an improvement.


nicely stated :)

[Erinn]

The split personality people should rent "Sybil" and see what real split personality is.

Just like what defines "Normal" What clearly defines a split personality?

[Mitch23]

I'm becoming aware that the two personalities are coming together rather than being compartmentalised. Mitch is heavily influencing Mike and how he behaves. She doesn't like him looking at internet porn, and being dishonest with his wife now so he doesn't!

Mitch

[prettywithsideburns]

so far not yet. but I am actively practicing my femme voice, and my TS friend wants to think up a femme name for me (I terrible at thinking up names, so if she wants to volunteer...), so perhaps once that all comes together things may start getting... complicated.

"All about that Personality Crisis, you got it while it was hot
But now frustration and heartache is what you got" - NY Dolls

[Mitch23]

It was a girlfriend that gave me my femme name - it just fitted somehow. As for the voice - thats going to take a long time

Mitch

[prettywithsideburns]

It was a girlfriend that gave me my femme name - it just fitted somehow. As for the voice - thats going to take a long time

Mitch
well she's a really good coach on the voice thing. her voice is 100% passable. so much so that when she tries to resurrect her old guy voice she just sounds like a girl trying to sound like a guy. from the tips she's given me my femme voice is coming along fairly well i think. still needs lots of work, but for the short time I've been working on it it's not bad.

[KimberlyS]

Split personality, well yes and no. Interestingly my male personality is someone or thing I have become in the last 10-15 years due to multiple things. More strict, more work oriented and getting things done, and less fun. My femme personality is who I use to be and think I still am trying to get back to on my male side. And that is not just me saying that. My wife has also said that I use to be more fun loving, easy going and silly at times. For what ever the reasons my male side does not currently allow me to bring this out like I use to. My femme side allows me to be who I really am inside.

Maybe if she could see how much my femme side is like I use to be, she would like my femme side better.

[prettywithsideburns]

Split personality, well yes and no.

LOL!

can I steal that line for a T-shirt?

[Sheri 4242]

Does anybody else feel this way? At times it seems like this might be splitting hairs, but my personal belief is that I have a dichotomous personality v. something that might be labeled as schizophrenia. The former I view as one divided into two, while the other is more rigid, being classified as a mental dissociation from one's environment with a corresponding deterioration in character and personality.


I don't see much point personally in having rigid divides bewteen the two anyway.

I disagree b/c I see it as mentally important to understand this. I guess you can say, "to each their own," but I find it mentally comforting to have an understanding of why I feel like I do.


I also find major differences between my female and male personalities. Jenn is submissive; he is quite dominant. Jenn is open yet conservative in projecting herself while he is loud, funny and very non-PC. Jenn smokes while he does not. Jenn's taste in fashion is somewhat extreme and exaggerated while he is land and very basic. Both are heterosexual within their gender roles. . . . They are very separate individuals sharing the small space in me and at times it is a struggle yes.

I feel distinct changes, and, as you said Jenn, the differences are major. I didn't always think the differences were that major until I realized that when "Barbara" got upset or angry, all of a sudden the urge to return to my male personna becomes incredible. The only reason I can think of is that testosterone must be raging.

Maybe hormones play more of a role than we could ever imagine. Stress, for example, might cause feminine hormones to surge (my wife and I both have noted that the urge to dress seems to escalate in times of stress, something we have discussed on here before).


I'm becoming aware that the two personalities are coming together rather than being compartmentalised. Mitch is heavily influencing Mike and how he behaves. She doesn't like him looking at internet porn, and being dishonest with his wife now so he doesn't! Mitch

Ditto, Mitch! This brings up the interesting idea of the merging of the two! Does the dichotomous activity (the division into two), fade and allow for a merger or some sort of melding? Is it age (and the fluctuating difference in hormone levels as we age)? Or is it that we are becoming more comfortable with this "other personna" and therefore feel it is safer to allow what we are to start coming to the forefront? At this point, there are probably a whole lot more questions than answers!

[Carin]

I'm not sure that I ever saw two personalities. Definately there were distinct behaviors characterized by situational restrictions. Carin grew out of my original personality, developing and molding as experience and self awareness evolved. The pink fog was part of that development but I was never concious of having different personality traits. Just a lousy sense of dress.

Personality traits tend to be more observable when in company, and I never ventured out until recently. Does the falling tree make noise if there is no one there to hear it.

For me this journey has been one of discovery, a linear path to a more complete whole.

[Sheri 4242]

I'm not sure that I ever saw two personalities.

Really a great way of stating it, Carin! I think this is what I am trying to say when I use "dichotomous" (one divided into two). I have always felt that I was one, with two personnas expressing themselves at differing times.

BY-THE-WAY, how is Louise progressing??? I know many of us have been very concerned about her! Any news on re-scheduling your Vegas wedding? Want a bridesmaid??? (I've just got to have a reason to go back there and do something like this again!!!)

[KimberlyS]

LOL!

can I steal that line for a T-shirt?

Steal away.

[Jannette H]

Ladies,
I don't believe it's a split personality as much as extension personality. I guess I learned to carry both of them because Jannette is a part of me. When she is out I let her have control. I used to try and manage the female side from the male side when Jannette was out and that doesn't work well. It's a learning process and I was so worried about doing something wrong as a female and having that" blinking neon sign above my head with the arrow pointing down feeling". I was just trying to be too careful. I wore out fast and I went out a lot en femme. Now when en femme I let Jannette take charge. She is a soft hearted and very moral lady and can stand up for herself and very confidant even more so than the male self. She adds to my male self and I see some of the mannerisms leak over and I have caught myself a few times. But I believe it's more of an extension of personality. When en femme I'm Jannette when not I'm not. Hope this helps