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Kaelin
07-06-2007, 08:00 PM
So as I've gottent across through my relatively few post, I'm a guy who enjoys wearing skirts/sarongs/hosiery, etc, but I make absolutely no effort to hide the fact that I'm male. I find the clothing comfortable. Incidently for those that are curious sarongs (over bare leg) seem very accepted, and appear to be becoming trendy for men. Any non-flowery skirt also goes without a second look from most people. It seems to be the hosiery + skirt that confuses people, where I'm clearly male, but reagardless.

Anyway onto my question; I've been out in public, my gf knows and has seen it and been out with me, and I've told my mother who has probably told my dad. The thing is though when I told my mom she gave sort of a concerned "you have to kind of go with society to do well in life" speech, she didnt outright tell or ask me not to, just expressed concern. As a result neither of my parents have actually seen me in a skirt, and I still feel like I'm hiding it even though they know.


Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to break through this? I mean.. should I just do it one day? Should I try to bring it up again verbally? Thoughts please.

ps: I might as well append this on here;
I'm moving to ottawa next month, does anyone know how cd friendly it is there?

AllieSF
07-06-2007, 10:17 PM
Kaelin,

First welcome to the forum. There is so much to learn and experience here from all those that have been there before us. Regarding your question on how to approach Mom and Dad, I suggest that you keep a running and patient dialogue going with one or both. The dialogue could include more info on why men and women cross dress, the great variation between each one of us and the different ways each one expresses their own sexuality and gender. I would not expect immediate support and acceptance. They love you and will probably come around. It just takes time to adjust to a major shift to their own paradigm regarding men being men and women being women. I wouldn't rush to dress in front of them. That probably will come in due time. Be open and honest and offer them reading material so that they can read something and digest it. Good luck and enjoy the forum and your stay here.