Hair Hair Everywhere

[CaptLex]

Just wanted to share that Mom has finally started to notice my hairiness, and has begun commenting about it. For those that don't know the circumstances: my mom is old (80), doesn't see well, doesn't hear well, is not always lucid, knows nothing about my transitioning and I don't think it's worth telling her 'cause she won't understand it and it will probably confuse her more. She's still in a nursing home (though we still don't know if that will be temporary or permanent) and I visit her as often as I can, which is several times a week - especially since her family has stopped coming by or calling (now that they figured out she's gonna live :rolleyes:).

Anyway, I had decided to take my son's advice and stop shaving when I go see her, figuring she probably won't notice much anyway, and if she does, she'll just blame it on my dad's (hairy) side of the family. So the other day I went to see her and she said, "hey, you got a hell of a mustache there". Took me completely by surprise, so I just laughed and said, "yeah, I know". Of course it is a "hell of a mustache" for a girl, but not much for a boy. Glad she didn't ask me to shave it off. :p

At the following visit I wore shorts ('cause it's hotter than blazes here now) and she commented about my hairy legs and asked me why I haven't shaved. All I said was that I couldn't be bothered. She also looked surprised that I cut my nails very short (though I've been doing that for over a year now). Now I wonder if she's wondering just how masculine I intend to go. Meanwhile, she's confusing the nurses 'cause she keeps introducing me to them as her daughter. They give me funny looks and I just shrug as if to say, "she's not all there".

[Dasein9]

LOL! Hey, you're passing to the nurses! That's excellent! Nurses are biologically-oriented too, so they're tough ones to pass with. :D

[CaptLex]

LOL! Hey, you're passing to the nurses! That's excellent! Nurses are biologically-oriented too, so they're tough ones to pass with. :D
Oh yeah, I hadn't thought of it that way - thanks. :happy:

[Kieron Andrew]

I think you are doing a grand job of coping with this with your mother, and you son is fantastic for telling you to get on with it and not shave :).....excellent that you are passing to the care staff too :D.......told you that you could do it didnt i? :tongueout

[Kimberley]

I know what it means to have a parent or loved one in this situation. It is not easy. I am sure that every second is precious and worth remembering.

Ever thought about taking up a tot or rum? :D

:hugs:
Kimberley

[Kate Simmons]

Yep, sounds like you are doing just fine Lex.;):happy:

[Felix]

Great news Hun and as Sal said Ya doin just fine. I'm real happy for ya Hun xx Felix :hugs:

[CaptLex]

Aw, thanks boys and girls . . . Yeah, Kimberley, a little bit of rum doesn't hurt either. :drink: ;)

[ZenFrost]

That sounds great. I'm glad you feeling comfortable being around your mother without shaving. :D

[princessmichelle]

... my mom is old (80), doesn't see well, doesn't hear well, is not always lucid, knows nothing about my transitioning and I don't think it's worth telling her 'cause she won't understand it and it will probably confuse her more. She's still in a nursing home (though we still don't know if that will be temporary or permanent) and I visit her as often as I can, which is several times a week - especially since her family has stopped coming by or calling (now that they figured out she's gonna live :rolleyes:).
....

Aw Lex, that's difficult. :hugs: But good for you for taking the time, while still finding a balance that works for both of you.

Michelle

[princessmichelle]

LOL! Hey, you're passing to the nurses! That's excellent! Nurses are biologically-oriented too, so they're tough ones to pass with. :D

Congrats, Lex!

Michelle

[Charleen]

Good for you Cap! All the way around!

[CaptLex]

Thanks, Zen, Michelle and Lily . . . it's a matter of choosing which is worse: letting my mother see me hairy and maybe question it, or getting called "ma'am" ten times a day (which is what happens when I shave it all off). My son knows I was miserable having to correct people all day, so he suggested just letting the hair grow and only having to deal with Mom's comments, if any. So far, so good . . . I'll just have to dismiss it when she finally gets around to telling me to go shave. It's weird, though, in a way it gives me comfort that she sees it and still treats me the same way anyway (apart from a few comments). :happy:

[Emily Ann Brown]

Send the ten "ma'am's" a day my way, can never get enough.

And great to see that you are making time for Mom......I do wonder if any of mine will come to see me if I end up in that situation. You only have parents once.

Emily Ann

[Charleen]

Cap, you're a wonder son to your Mom. A few comments aside, my Mom always had something to say to me, your Mom is probably glad to see you regardless! I wouldn't sweat it my man!

[SL]

Very excellent. Both on mom and the nurses. :thumbsup:

[Tina Dixon]

Well it's good to see your settling in to the real you you hairy pirate :thumbsup:

[CaptLex]

Well it's good to see your settling in to the real you you hairy pirate :thumbsup:
Thanks, Red . . . and it's nice to see you drop in for a visit. :koc:

[Kate Simmons]

Don't feel bad Lex. My Mom and Grandma were always telling me to go shave when I had a day's growth and just wanted to "bum"it for the day. I swear those ladies had stock in the razor companies.:rolleyes:

[Tina Dixon]

Thanks, Red . . . and it's nice to see you drop in for a visit. :koc:
I miss you guys, but since your going all hairy, just wait till your butt gets hairy and you start getting skid marks on your undies, thats a mark of a man:heehee:

[crazy4cheezeits]

I miss you guys, but since your going all hairy, just wait till your butt gets hairy and you start getting skid marks on your undies, thats a mark of a man:heehee:

well that sounds exciting...

[Cai]

I miss you guys, but since your going all hairy, just wait till your butt gets hairy and you start getting skid marks on your undies, thats a mark of a man:heehee:

Gets hairy? You mean it's not supposed to have been that way forever? :heehee:

[CaptLex]

Gets hairy? You mean it's not supposed to have been that way forever? :heehee:
:lol2:

[Tina Dixon]

Gets hairy? You mean it's not supposed to have been that way forever? :heehee:
Most females don't have a hairy butt and I have checked them out ;)

[Wendy me]

lol just how weird is it the mtf's want to get rid of the body hair and the ftm's want to grow it ...... capt enjoy lol excuse me i got to go shave my legs lol.....

[Tina Dixon]

lol just how weird is it the mtf's want to get rid of the body hair and the ftm's want to grow it ...... capt enjoy lol excuse me i got to go shave my legs lol.....
Your so right, I know a few guys out there that say there hair is just a pain, but guys enjoy your fussyness:thumbsup: