Crossdressing and your wife

[PantyBoots]

I have a question for the married men who crossdress. Does your wife have a problem with it? Does it get in the way of your sex life? I was wondering. I read an article about a married man who struggled with crossdressing. Here it is:
www.leaderu.com/stonewall/pages/randall_w.html

[Sharon]

Consider what would happen if someone found out about your cross-dressing. There is great truth to the saying "Your sin will find you out." So, you need to give this some consideration before your reputation is affected.

If you believe the above comment about crossdressing being a sin to be true, then it is you yourself that you should be concerned with, and less so with what a SO may think. How do you even contemplate having sexual relations when you feel this way?

Once you come to peace with yourself, everything else falls into place. I hope you find it.

[Karren H]

Yes she does have a problem with it .... and what sex life???

Karren

[will]

I have a question for the married men who crossdress. Does your wife have a problem with it? Does it get in the way of your sex life? I was wondering. I read an article about a married man who struggled with crossdressing. Here it is:
www.leaderu.com/stonewall/pages/randall_w.html

I have been married for thirty two years and my wife has known for about 10 years. When I told her ,she said she had her suspisions and did not have any problems with it. We immediately went out and bought me some things that I desired. We have always had a great sex life and are still turned on to each other. If you are truly good friends besides being married then you probably stand a good chance of total acceptence. I really love womens clothes and it is a really big turn on to me to be totally dressed but I always make sure that my wife gets off at least twice and sometimes three times. I use oral as well as hand stimulation to help her get off several times before I get off and she loves it. To many men are just concerned about their sexual needs and not their wives or girlfriends. You get back out of a relationship what you are willing to put into it. Make sure you find what turns her on and focus on really pleasing her in those area,s. Being accepted for who you are and your turn ons will then be your partners goals. If not then seek someone who really cares about your happiness.

[Eugenie]

I have a question for the married men who crossdress. Does your wife have a problem with it? Does it get in the way of your sex life?

Yes my wife has a problem with my X-dressing... She has known about it very quickly after our wedding. She tried to ignore it for many years, She thought it was a form of sexual fetishism, but when she realized it was full x-dressing she hated it...

Yes it gets in the way of my sex life... Early on, we managed to have a pretty ordinary sex life, nothing exceptional but quite satisfactory. We even went through the "happy seventies" and the sexual revolution, open mariage etc... But as years passed the drive became ever lower and since my x-dressing was becoming more and more an obsession for me, she got completely turned off...

On the side of X-dressing, there have been some progress lately. My wife is integrating that side of my life a lot more and, without accepting completely, she is now far more open about it (it used to be a completely tabou subject).

On the sexual relation side, I think neither of us is interested in the other one anymore, so it is both way, not just her rejecting me...

We do have a lot of mutual love, but it isn't expressed physically...

But perhaps, after more than 38 years wedding and having known eac other five years before we actually got married, it is not surprising that the sex side has faded away...

:hugs:
Eugenie

[Toyah]

The church sees crossdresing as not necessaraly a sin but an abberation, they cannot even make up their minds about women in the church let alone men who dress as women.
For me its simple if you dont like what they say get out its a society with rules and you are not gonna change em.
As for my wife she does not mind my dressing as long as I dont do it too much. As for sex I am married what chance do I get :p

[Holly]

I read the article when you posted the same link in another thread. It has nothing to do about how the wife wife feels and everything to do with how the husband sees it. If you see it as sin, then it is not right for you. For me, I'd be more concerned to what God is saying to me than what some other guy thinks.

Holly,

Moderator
Religion Discussion Section

[Charlotte1]

Yes my GF of 5 years knows, is not bothered either way, i.e. she still sees me as me and the sex is good(i hope she'd agree:heehee:) when im charlotte or not:happy::happy:

'Lotti -x-

[Ruth]

Interesting article. What works for him doesn't necessarily work for everyone though. And my wife knows, she's not best pleased with my CDing, but appreciates it's a part of me and loves me still for the whole of me.

[Jodie Wexler]

My wife is OK with it. She even helps with some of my acquisitions but I have not dressed in front of her in about 5 years. It would be nice on occasion but for me it is more of a personal thing and enjoy doing it alone.

[Alice B]

Ditto to Karren's answer.:straightface:

[Mary Jane]

My wife knows of my dressing and is only tolerable. I can only dress when she is away from the house. All other aspects of our life are considered normal.

[SandyR]

Wife supports my dressing. I took it slow, at her pace, but life is good now. We have a nice balance. As to the sex, well its been 8 hrs 13 minutes, but who's counting.....giggle.

Hugs.

SandyR

[sami1952]

my so has known about it for about 15 years and well she calls me weirdo when i dress and that's about it.when she shops i shop for clothes and i let her know i will cd.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Told my wife before I proposed to her. She supports it and has no problems with it. Jocelyn

[Carroll]

wife supports, buys, loves sex with carrol..blah blah....

[Misty_cder]

My wife first learned about my dressing when we started dating about 16 years ago. I mainly dress alone, but when I do dress around her, it doesn't bother her.

[Mitch23]

I have been married for thirty two years and my wife has known for about 10 years. When I told her ,she said she had her suspisions and did not have any problems with it. We immediately went out and bought me some things that I desired. We have always had a great sex life and are still turned on to each other. If you are truly good friends besides being married then you probably stand a good chance of total acceptence. I really love womens clothes and it is a really big turn on to me to be totally dressed but I always make sure that my wife gets off at least twice and sometimes three times. I use oral as well as hand stimulation to help her get off several times before I get off and she loves it. To many men are just concerned about their sexual needs and not their wives or girlfriends. You get back out of a relationship what you are willing to put into it. Make sure you find what turns her on and focus on really pleasing her in those area,s. Being accepted for who you are and your turn ons will then be your partners goals. If not then seek someone who really cares about your happiness.
A fascinating question! My wife is not keen on my cross-dressing at all - would rather not know what I'm up to - often seems to live in a state of denial. I have to assert myself a little like today 'I'm going out with the girls' not well received. Seems to think I do it because she's inadequate as a woman.

However our level of communication has gone up loads and our sexlife is way way better. I am far more attentive to her needs now rather than my own needs. I will spend hours sometimes just rubbing her feet and stimulating her manually. So she seems to be getting the benefits of my CDing without even asking for them! Funny creatures women, aren't we!!

Mitch

[RachelDenise]

I'm with Karren and Alice. I wish for better, but it's hard to be intimate when your wife rejects a part of your being, your inner self. It might help if we could discuss this, but she isn't interested.

[june58]

My wife knows about the crossdressing and tolerates it, but would prefer I didn't. I sit around the house in the evening dressed and we talk and spend time together, but I don't go out dressed. We go shopping together and I will buy things. She is great and I appreciate her tolerance.

[ARI]

I cd with my wife or alone. My wife is very ok with it and is an active participant when we are together. Our sex life has changed due to age (it's exhausting) not for want. We are together because we love each other, not because we dress different or alike. Other people may have different views and that's ok. We try not to flaunt it, but are not ashamed of it.

[JoanFlores]

My SO, has no problem with me in fem, she actualy enjoys the love making more now then ever.

[Victoria Anne]

I did not have te time to read the article or all the replies so I scimmed through,that said. I told my wife of 10 years about my dressing prior to our first date and we have a very good marriage and a healthy sex life for as much as her health allows anyway but it is not a problem,it is as she says "who I am" and I fell God made me this way so I see no wrong here.

[kassandra richard]

My wife doesn't know, although she may suspect. She told me that she didn't want to know what went on in February when she spent 2 weeks in Portugal -- I spent two weeks in a skirt :) while the kids were at school.

As for the sex life, I'd say it's normal although she's the one with the bigger drive. But the CD'ing hasn't had any affect on it.

Kassandra

[TerriM]

My wife and I are married 35yrs. I told my wife after 10yrs of marriage. To this day she has not seen me dressed, except for a couple halloween parties before I told her. She wants no part of my femme side. She is and has always been a very religious (Catholic) person. I am also Catholic but not really a practicing one. After I told her, at her urging I went and spoke to our pastor. He said that my crossdressing was not a sin and it was something that was between my wife and I. He also said that if Jesus met me he would say that he loved me. This helped my wife. At the time we had 3 children, we had two more after(they dont know). I struggled with my femme side on and off over the years. About 10 or 12 yrs ago I found inner peace. I get out about 1x a month and go shopping , parties and other events. Have a lot of CD friends.
Our sex life is good. The quality out weighs the quantity. I sometimes think about trying to bring Terri into the bedroom, but realize it might hurt what we have. My key word in my life at this pont is balance. I know that my femme side will always be there and just work to balance the different parts of me in my life.
Yours Terri

[AmandaM]

My wife new before we were married. She doesn't care as long as I don't do it in front of the kids. And yes, it's been in the bedroom too.

[gennee]

My wife is tolerant about my crossdressing. She doesn't mind panties, nail polish or the camis. She doesn't like me with a skirt on. She knows I hang with CDs but doesn't know that I have been out in public many times. I won't push this on her. I'm happy that she's partially accepting. She even borrows some of my clothes :D.

I never felt shame or guilt about crossdressing. It's not a problem with me.

Gennee

:happy:

[Betti]

My GF is ok with my CDing. Her only request is that I not wear a bra to bed. Since she knows I like to dress after work our comprise is she undress me for bed - Betti

[StephanieH]

:I agree with Holly, (Hey Holly!). I've read this one before and it bugs me just as much now as it did the first time I read it. This guy wrote an article about how he used to be a CD'er and was convicted of it, so he stopped doing it. Therefore, in his eyes, across the board, crossdressing is a sin against God and needs to be dealt with and all those participating in it need to turn or they cannot count themselves as Christians - at least that's certainly the impression given off. I think that's a bit absurd and presumptious.

I firmly believe sin is different for most of us and that's what the article is about. I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong or anything against God by doing this little hobby, or whatever, and thus I don't see it as something that God is going to scowl at me about. If I was convicted of it and felt it was wrong, then yes, I would stop doing it. The same is true of gambling, drinking excessively, dog fighting, and stealing cable. Whatever you feel ashamed about when dealing with God, that's probably what you need to change.

As for my wife, she's been much better with this, although we're in a bit of a slump again lately, but things will snap back I'm sure. It's summer, it's hot, there's too much going on.

And Karen, I like the line you had about "what sex?" Sometimes it don't matter what you wear, do it? :tongueout

I heard a comedian say once that there was no reason for any woman to have an unfulfilled sexual fantasy, because pretty much anything she wanted to do, a man would do it - and that's so true! He had the audience rolling laughing, and said, "you want me to dress up like a fireman? I'm there! A cop? No problem? A burglar? I can do that! A gorilla in a fireman outfit who's wearing a mask looking to rob your house? You got it! Let's just have some sex!" Everytime I think of that, it keeps ringing true - now if it were only the same if the tables were turned... :happy:

[Carin's Wife GG]

it is hard to dismiss such a huge part of the person you love. If I feel like I don't want to be around it ALL the time i let Carin know. We have a good relationship and communication. Bottom line is I love her in my heart and soul regardless of what she decides to wear. Our love comes from the inner soul of who we are. And if you believe in a Higher Power then I think that Higher Power will be very glad to see such love between two people.

As for sex....no problem there (no matter what she is wearing, lol)


Louise.

[Maureen Henley]

My wife of 23 years is very accepting of my crosdressing, despite the fact that I hid it for the first 14 years. So far as our sex life, it was pretty much nonexistent due to medical problems before I came out.

I have always regarded sin as hurting others, being wanton or wasteful. An action that does not fall into one of the three aboves catagories I do not consider sinful. If someone else finds something sinful, it is up to them to refrain from that action, not to tell me that I will suffer eternal damnation for not accepting their definition of sin.

[Mitch23]

I must confess that when I first replied I had not read the article. It makes uncomfortable reading and is exactly where my wife is. She feels that it can be cured by prayer and counselling. Interestingly, he does not hide behind Deut 22:5, he acknowledges that at least 2% of church populations are CDers and highlights his own struggle and deliverance.

If sin is falling short of the mark then I guess I am a sinner. I have absolutely no doubt that God loves me and is not really that bothered that I CD. I guess the ultimate issue is whether it enhances my relationship with my beautiful wife or damages it. The jury is still out on that one and I guess I will be called to reckoning on my last day by the big fellah

love Mitch

[Melissa Monet]

Great! I have been waiting for a oppurtunity to express a few ideas! First I was a christian for many years...now I am a child of God. I have had many years of theology and have debated almost everything to some point beyond ridiculus. Modern Christianity doesn't work for me anymore. I have a wonderfull relationship with a God of my understanding, and she has blessed me with the wisdom and courage to express myself as I trully am. And she has put wonderfull caring souls in front of me to guide and comfort me. One of them is my wife. When I met my wife she bargained for a man that had a closet full of gowns and lingerie. She accepted the man and was happy to borrow a dress now and then. 22 yrs later man is now wanting to express himself to others and wife stands behind man. The WOMAN that lives in the house when the man isn't there doesnt pay rent and leaves all kinds of makeup and other clutter all over the house. But the man is somehow worth the woman. My wife is a saint.... We have learned how to manage with all kinds of new parameters and issues. We work it out becuase we love each other! And as Bill and Ted would say we are excellent to each other.

Melissa

[Ashly]

My wife does not like wig or makeup on me....which is not a problem for me, because I got longer hair anyways and my face is more like the one from Arnold Schwarzenegger.....THAT would look really strange...wouldn't you think so ??

In and out of the house I usually wear jeans skirts..T-shirts and..of course...my fine lingerie :)

[Carin's Wife GG]

my uncle is a Dominican priest. A wonderful thoughful man. His idea of sin is that which harms others from ones own will. I cannot see being TG as a harm to oneself or others. It is , for most, a part of who that person is and if that person lives their life in kindness and with generosity how can that person be sinful?


Louise.

[Bev06 GG]

:
I heard a comedian say once that there was no reason for any woman to have an unfulfilled sexual fantasy, because pretty much anything she wanted to do, a man would do it - and that's so true! He had the audience rolling laughing, and said, "you want me to dress up like a fireman? I'm there! A cop? No problem? A burglar? I can do that! A gorilla in a fireman outfit who's wearing a mask looking to rob your house? You got it! Let's just have some sex!" Everytime I think of that, it keeps ringing true - now if it were only the same if the tables were turned... :happy:

LOL how funny. Actually women are more adventurous than you might think when it comes to dressing up in the bedroom. I think the problem that some women might have when it comes to making love to their partner dressed as a lady, is that he/she might be more worried about how he/she looks and not the actual act of making love to their spouse. We women like to be the centre of attention when our partners are giving us some sexual attention. As for my partner dressing as a gorilla in a firemans outfit, I expect that would be just fine as long as he gave me time to get over my fit of laughter and wasn't hurt or turned off by it.
Bev


my uncle is a Dominican priest. A wonderful thoughful man. His idea of sin is that which harms others from ones own will. I cannot see being TG as a harm to oneself or others. It is , for most, a part of who that person is and if that person lives their life in kindness and with generosity how can that person be sinful?


Louise.

Yes true, but in actual fact, in Gods eyes we all fall way short of the perfect mark so its more a case of taking the log out of your own eye before condemning others for what they do.
Bev

[Darla in Pa.]

This site really is great, I've been married for 26 years and my wife knows about my CDing, but she sure can't come to terms with why I do. and for that matter I really never could either, but all the situations and responses i have read in here has helped me quite a lot thanks everyone.

Darla

[sissystephanie]

My dear departed wife knew about my CD activities when we got engaged. As I have reported in other threads, we wore matching white silk lingerie on our wedding day. The only restriction that was put on me was that I would not CD around our 2 children. To the best of my knowledge they still don't know! Of course they are grown up now. My wife and I had 49 1/2 years of a very loving marriage. I think part of the reason for that was because I told her about my CD activities before we were married. Honest communication is always the best way to handle things!:2c:

Sissy

More Girl than man

[Carin's Wife GG]

none of us is perfect and we can only do our best in generosity and openness of spirit. When I see my husbands/wifes spirit I an enchriched to my soul. It is his/her soul that I join with not the clothes she happens to be wearing.


Louise.


Louise.

[psion128]

My exwife did have a problem with it and did want me to stop. But she knew about it before we married so, she accepted it as how I am. But she only tolerated it. She didn't like it.

[vikki2020]

As always, there are words of wisdom to be found here.This subject is what my wife and I have been dealing with lately,and it's been a little hard for her, trying to figure me out.She's gotten to where she doesn't want to talk about it at all.But, from your posts, I see things can work out. Thanx!

[Stephenie S]

The author of that article STARTED with the idea that CDing was a sin and then tried to justify that from the Bible.

The problem with this that I have, is that to be a Christian, one must read and study and learn the words and teachings of Jesus Christ. That's what Christianity is all about. Jesus Christ said NOTHING about CDing. Jesus Christ said nothing about homosexuality. Jesus Christ DID say a whole lot about love and acceptance of other people, no matter how low or poor or mistaken they might be. Love and acceptance, folks.

If you want to bad enough you can twist the words in the Bible to condemn and hate almost any group different from your self. Read and study the words of Jesus. Leave the hatemongering to sexually bankrupt preachers and demigods.

OK, I'm done now.

Stephie

[sally Dickson]

I dont really know where to start here-Iam very happily married and a cd (very much in closet). I feel very confused about myself and sometimes my head just spins in confusion. I like wearing womens clothes as I feel comfortable and relaxed. My wife found some lingerie in a cupboard a while back and challenged me as to whose they were- I told her straight they were mine (very sheepish) she was quite obviously shocked but there was no anger. she could see i was embarrassed at what she had found, she asked if i wanted them thrown away, i didnt say anything but she folded them and placed them in my drawer. Nothing has been said on the subject since.
A couple of weeks ago we went to the theatre in birmingham and half time went for some nibbles-there in the bar area was a full TV with two other women. I mentioned this to the wife over a drink in the pub afterwards and she replied that she has nothing against cd's as long as they did nothing to hurt her. This has made me more confused-could that be an invitation for me to open up? Sally

[KandisTX]

I dont really know where to start here-Iam very happily married and a cd (very much in closet). I feel very confused about myself and sometimes my head just spins in confusion. I like wearing womens clothes as I feel comfortable and relaxed. My wife found some lingerie in a cupboard a while back and challenged me as to whose they were- I told her straight they were mine (very sheepish) she was quite obviously shocked but there was no anger. she could see i was embarrassed at what she had found, she asked if i wanted them thrown away, i didnt say anything but she folded them and placed them in my drawer. Nothing has been said on the subject since.
A couple of weeks ago we went to the theatre in birmingham and half time went for some nibbles-there in the bar area was a full TV with two other women. I mentioned this to the wife over a drink in the pub afterwards and she replied that she has nothing against cd's as long as they did nothing to hurt her. This has made me more confused-could that be an invitation for me to open up? Sally

Sally,

I would percieve this as an opportunity, not an invitation, for you to open up to her. Communication is very important in the success of any relationship, and when we add our CDing into the mix, it becomes paramount. My lovely wife, GlitterGG, has known about my CDing for the last 12 years (since a couple days after we met), and I honestly think that it has been a huge factor in our ability to communicate about any topic, not to mention that we are able to be open and honest with our children when they come to us with questions. Take it slowly with her, and do not try to force her to accept it, it sounds as if she already understands since she folded your lingerie up and put it in your drawer.
Good Luck darlin'
Kandis:love:

[Tiffy]

My wife has never had a problem with it. And if anything or sex life has increased.

Tiffany

[shauna 9]

At first my wife was okay with it. She used to go shopping for clothes and makeup buying me pains and dresses. She found a website on the Internet where I can go to have my makeup done. One day she set up appointment for me to get my makeup done she dropped off a duffel bag with my close and a note inside the hotel key tell me to meet her there after I had my makeup done that was the first time I was out in public had to drive 35 miles to the hotel she was inside the room waiting for me . best night of my life. She will find things on the Internet is shown me she likes those items .that's been going on for 18 years now since we had a child together things are go downhill. Some day she likes it other day she hates it she still allows me to wear my panties she still packed my bags with my girly things when I go out town . She still shaves my back. looks in the Avon book for makeup for me.
Those days when I'm out of town she asked what I'm wearing. When I come back from work she has things laid out for me. the next day she's all pissed off. She sends me mixed feelings on the subject.

[sissystephanie]

Told my wife before I proposed to her. She supports it and has no problems with it. Jocelyn

I told my GF in 1954, married her in 1955. She passed away in February of 2005, five months before our 50th Anniversary. She never had a problem with it our entire married life. We made a joint decision that our kids would not know and they still don't. The only effect it had on our sex life was to make it much more interesting. Sometimes she was the man and I was the woman. But most of the time I was a man wearing feminine things. As an example, at our wedding we wore matching white silk lingerie which stayed on until our wedding night! It got in the way! So, yes, she certainly did support me!

Sissy

More Girl than man sometimes

[Sheri 4242]

Yes she does have a problem with it .... and what sex life??? Karren

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[DAVIDA]

Jean has known before we got married. She probably understands it better than I do.
What was the second part? Oh yeh, SEX????????????????????

[Hippy Chic's Chick]

I'm not religious, but was brought up very catholic and had my 'teachings'.

I never saw Jesus described or depicted in a three piece suit. ;)

Didn't the Jewish men and women wear pretty much the same, long robes? It was only the Roman males coming over with their mini-skirts that caused any problems. :D

[Raychel]

My wife is become more and more accepting of my drssing every day. She has been making sure that I get time for myself to dress aboout once a week. That is extremely nice of her. :hugs: As far as affecting our sex life, No it really has not affected it. But I must admit that after our last son 12 years ago, intimacy really hasn't been tops on her list.

[Dixie]

We have been married for 18 years and my wife has known and encourged me to dress for 20! I guess we will see if it goes farther as we seem to be growing apart with all the stress that we find ourselves under lately.

[Marcie Sexton]

Nope not me, she has no problem, encourages me to dress a lot more often than I do...

Guess I'm one of the lucky ones...

[dakota_ann69]

Wife knew of my cding with undergarments before we got married, she does not know of my full cding and she just thinks that it is weird that i like female clothes of any kind. as for the sex life well i am married.........................

[CarrieAnneEvers]

My (EX) wife knew, but while we were married I started going out and interacting en femme. She had a problem with that.

[Hippy Chic]

It's only a problem when the lippy I have on now looks better on me than her!

[Joy Carter]

I told my lovely wife after a month of marriage. She saw me once and laughed but said she didn't want to see "IT" (?) again. She has a big problem talking about our issues. Why I don't know? She's always been this way. She rather sit and think about things and not share her thoughts. Every once in a while she will ask a question or just blurt out a comment. Usually it can be pretty hurtful. So she has known for going on thirty nine years and still can't deal with it. I'm lucky in that she doesn't mind me going out, and buying for Joy, over the past year. At least I don't have to hide anymore.
The one comment she said to me when we were dating, I will never forget. "Your not like other men." Oh how right she was ! LoL:D

BTW she has enJOYed my alter ego for years and didn't know it. She just thought J--, liked being helpful around the house. He He He.

[Jennilouise]

My Partner (Hunny67) dosn't have any problems with my dressing and she really enjoys me doing it (so do i :devil:) She helps me with my make up.

[will]

I have a question for the married men who crossdress. Does your wife have a problem with it? Does it get in the way of your sex life? I was wondering. I read an article about a married man who struggled with crossdressing. Here it is:
www.leaderu.com/stonewall/pages/randall_w.html

I have been married more then 30 years and have a great relationship with my wife.I think trust and honesty are the #1 factors in a sucessfull relationship. I did not ask to be a crossdresser,it just happens to be part of whom I am. My wife is a big part of my life so I am honest to a fault with her. My desire to choose and wear clothing of my choice has always been met with complete approval. We both seek things in life that give us fullfillment and or justify our goals so it is important that you as well as your wife feel that sense of accomplishment. I do not think that you have to be religous or look to the lord for approval. Give your wife whats important to her while not focusing on yourself and hopefully she will attend your needs in life as well. Sex is a big part of our relationship because we both seek to please each other and at the same time get total fullfillment from making love. Always try to attend to your spouses needs with an urge to leave them breathless and totally satisfied and if they really love you then your dressing habits should not be a problem.

[Charlene Ogden]

To all of you who have supportive wives I say, Lucky You !!

Before I got married I told my wife that I had dressed in the past and that my dressing urges were declining. That was true. She told me that she didn't want me to CD after we got married. She was mostly afraid that someday I'd turn gay and would want to become a woman.
Three years into our marriage, I found my way back into femme clothes. It's a release that allows me to bring out another side of me. I never told my wife.
Currently, my wife let's me wear pantyhose to bed. She's totally cool with it. She doesn't know that I dress up a few times per year but I have a feeling that she suspects, especially when I start shaving my legs.
I'm pretty sure that my wife does not want to know. She'd rather live in denial. I think that she can live with it as long as it never comes out in the open.
I feel lucky to have her accept my pantyhose fetish and have noticed that over the years that she's mellowed out a bit and has made comments that indicate that she feels less threatened by crossdressing.
My dressing is so infrequent that I don't feel that it's worth the burden it would bring to my wife.
My dressing has not affected my sex life which is not as vigorous as it used to be but still is satisfying. My wife and I still love to have sex and are passionate about satisfying each other.

[whitney]

My wife knows, supports and enjoys it.
And it's certainly not a sin. Religion can't enter into the clothes one wears. It's just silly to think otherwise.

Oh, and my sex life dressed is as good, if not better, than when not.

[Bunny Love]

Mitch 23, I agree with your last paragraph completely regarding needs. As the wife of a CD, I am well aware of the needs of women and when our needs are not met we aren't going to be interested in sex or much of anything else.

IMHO, it seems that it's quite possible that a crossdresser becomes more interested in himself/herself and tends to neglect the needs of their wife or SO. They get self-absorbed in their feminine side and develop the female needs.

I have felt the neglect from time to time but fortunately for me, it isn't a frequent thing. I love my husband dearly and try to understand what he has to deal with emotionally when it comes to being a CD.

We're happily married and I really try to understand him and his needs. Although, it can be confusing as to what those are sometimes.

In the end, it's just being considerate of the other person and learning to give as well as take.

:2c: :happy:

[collette01]

My wife knows about my crossdressing and on a good day tolerates it, but would prefer I didn't. yet in saying that she is quite happy to help choose makeup and clothes, but hates seeing me dressed. If she knows I'm going out as Collette, if she can she will delay coming home from work until she knows I will have left the house.

Collette

[kittu_80]

i am intrested to learn more about this.

[Hippy Chic's Chick]

Mitch 23, I agree with your last paragraph completely regarding needs. As the wife of a CD, I am well aware of the needs of women and when our needs are not met we aren't going to be interested in sex or much of anything else.

IMHO, it seems that it's quite possible that a crossdresser becomes more interested in himself/herself and tends to neglect the needs of their wife or SO. They get self-absorbed in their feminine side and develop the female needs.

I have felt the neglect from time to time but fortunately for me, it isn't a frequent thing. I love my husband dearly and try to understand what he has to deal with emotionally when it comes to being a CD.

We're happily married and I really try to understand him and his needs. Although, it can be confusing as to what those are sometimes.

In the end, it's just being considerate of the other person and learning to give as well as take.

:2c: :happy:

People on here always talk about how lucky CDs are to have a supportive SO. I'd say that some of us SOs are lucky to have a CD who is just as supportive. It's a two way relationship. :)

HC has never made me feel neglected whatsoever, in fact, he makes me feel like a huge part of his CDing which I suppose gives me a role within that, so I don't feel that it's something just for him.

While he buys nice things for himself, he never, ever forgets to buy things for me to feel special in either. Whether it's something a bit naughty or something he knows I'll like, he's always doing it.

I think the key to having a SO who is supportive is to involve her, include her and never ever forget her. :)

[Michelle_NY]

Yes mine does have a major problem with my dressing. SHE FREAKING HATES IT. Nothing about this is ever in our sex life. TY Michelle