valery
07-22-2007, 09:13 PM
As a new member here posting his first thread and still have to become familiar with this forum, first of all I have to say that I'm not a native speaker, so if anything sounds ambiguous or strange please give me a hint.
visual perception ...
... what is your experience in getting a picture of someone (to perceive so. as sth.) I mean your visual perception, also of yourself.
Are you able to change, keep or control those pictures?
Are you able to put yourself into a neutral position somehow - I mean like kids do, you know - and be able to see someone as boy, girl or inbetween whatever he/she/it was at birth.
If you see (meet) someone for the first time without having any information about this person you will make (paint) your own picture based on your personal experiences, preferences and dislikes, education and values.
If you get specific information about that person by someone elso before your picture will be totally different and you might not longer (never???) be able to paint it by yourself. I think it's the same thing with strong education and other influences - like friends and family and I think I'm fighting against those influences, being afraid that some of them never go away.
My idea and my biggest dream is that it should count what someone does not what he is, or how he dresses and if I like him/her/it, it shouldn't count whatever he was at birth - But my visual sense, that is very sensible and strong, is not error-free as I had to find out several times concerning to the things I wrote above and below.
Here is one of my experinces (3 years ago) to give a better idea.
I was at the airport on my way to the check in. A fantastic looking girl walks in front of me - unbelievable feminine walk, I was round about 7 meters behind her and so I couldn't see her face - only the silhouette for a short moment. She was getting already on the airplane, as I still was in the waiting line. So I prayed, please, please let me sit next to her. To my suprise she was sitting in the row in front of me and then I could also see her face (lovely). Not until my third or fourth view I'd realise the five o'clock shadow and then it became strange.
On one hand my picture of her changed in that moment - my brain was doing this automaticly and assumed all control over itself. I did realize, but couldn't get the control (picture) back - like a innocent bystander watching himself doing something stupid.
On the other hand I was irritated and fascinated and became absolutely nervous at the same time. I mean I'm a crossdresser myself who is not going out in public and there she was - that was the very first time for me that I was so close to a crossdresser (maybe transsexual, I didn't find out) who is fully himself in public, self-assured. It was so cool to see how she handled the sitiuation with the stewardess and other people staring at her.
She wasn't what I thought, o.k., but she was a fantastic looking beauty. So the rest of the flight I was thinking about that. I hated myself and tried to get my first picture of her back and fortunately it came back the next day and it also stayed, but I was still confused and unhappy about this day before.
So I started to work on this. I took pictures of world-famous models (male and female) from different magazines. Most people have male and femal aspects, everybody knows. As example many femal-top-models have male eyes. I looked over them intensive and tried to get the same effect on those photos like I had on the airplaine. After a while it worked and I could change this pictures but only for a short moment - it was very exhausting and not stable. Am I too much visual assessed? For myself I don't even need to wear a dress or lingerie to feel the girl inside of me - and the picture of myself is neutral (inbetween).
Does anybody has similar experinces and how do you handle it, does it make any sense to you? :sad:
visual perception ...
... what is your experience in getting a picture of someone (to perceive so. as sth.) I mean your visual perception, also of yourself.
Are you able to change, keep or control those pictures?
Are you able to put yourself into a neutral position somehow - I mean like kids do, you know - and be able to see someone as boy, girl or inbetween whatever he/she/it was at birth.
If you see (meet) someone for the first time without having any information about this person you will make (paint) your own picture based on your personal experiences, preferences and dislikes, education and values.
If you get specific information about that person by someone elso before your picture will be totally different and you might not longer (never???) be able to paint it by yourself. I think it's the same thing with strong education and other influences - like friends and family and I think I'm fighting against those influences, being afraid that some of them never go away.
My idea and my biggest dream is that it should count what someone does not what he is, or how he dresses and if I like him/her/it, it shouldn't count whatever he was at birth - But my visual sense, that is very sensible and strong, is not error-free as I had to find out several times concerning to the things I wrote above and below.
Here is one of my experinces (3 years ago) to give a better idea.
I was at the airport on my way to the check in. A fantastic looking girl walks in front of me - unbelievable feminine walk, I was round about 7 meters behind her and so I couldn't see her face - only the silhouette for a short moment. She was getting already on the airplane, as I still was in the waiting line. So I prayed, please, please let me sit next to her. To my suprise she was sitting in the row in front of me and then I could also see her face (lovely). Not until my third or fourth view I'd realise the five o'clock shadow and then it became strange.
On one hand my picture of her changed in that moment - my brain was doing this automaticly and assumed all control over itself. I did realize, but couldn't get the control (picture) back - like a innocent bystander watching himself doing something stupid.
On the other hand I was irritated and fascinated and became absolutely nervous at the same time. I mean I'm a crossdresser myself who is not going out in public and there she was - that was the very first time for me that I was so close to a crossdresser (maybe transsexual, I didn't find out) who is fully himself in public, self-assured. It was so cool to see how she handled the sitiuation with the stewardess and other people staring at her.
She wasn't what I thought, o.k., but she was a fantastic looking beauty. So the rest of the flight I was thinking about that. I hated myself and tried to get my first picture of her back and fortunately it came back the next day and it also stayed, but I was still confused and unhappy about this day before.
So I started to work on this. I took pictures of world-famous models (male and female) from different magazines. Most people have male and femal aspects, everybody knows. As example many femal-top-models have male eyes. I looked over them intensive and tried to get the same effect on those photos like I had on the airplaine. After a while it worked and I could change this pictures but only for a short moment - it was very exhausting and not stable. Am I too much visual assessed? For myself I don't even need to wear a dress or lingerie to feel the girl inside of me - and the picture of myself is neutral (inbetween).
Does anybody has similar experinces and how do you handle it, does it make any sense to you? :sad: