flirted with for the first time

[Amber82]

Ok, here is my dilemma. Finally got my wig and some better clothes and decided I would get out of the house just a little for a few mins with my wife. I let her drive me to the gas station and get some gas while i enjoyed being out of the house dressed for the first time. I was still very nervous about people seeing me so i elected to just sit in the truck while she went inside and see how good i could pass, if i got any funny looks, and so forth. Everything was going good to begin with, the woman at the pump in front of us who we were waiting on to move her car so we could get gas finally came out of the store and looked straight at both me and my wife and waved with a grin (the kindof grin that says sorry i took so long girls) and i waved back with a girly wave and thought hey this isnt so bad. Then while my wife went inside to pay another truck pulls up to wait in line on the pump on the other side of ours and while they are waiting this older guy (maybe late 30s early 40s, i say older because im 25) catches my eye and just for a breif moment i locked eyes with him. He gave me a very flirtatious smile and blew me a kiss. Now i got really REALLY scared. I didnt know if he was seeing right through me and giving me that look to joke with me or if he really thought I was a sexy girl and was interested in me. Knowing all the horror stories of what can happen if a guy likes you and then after a closer look finds out your not really a girl i became terrified so my only reaction after he did this was to just turn my head to the side where all he could see was my long blonde hair and i acted like i was being a shy girl. Then my wife came back and i rushed her like crazy to hurry up and get us out of there because i was scared. After she pumped the gas and we drove off she tried to explain to me that from the way the guy looked at me that it was a flirty look as if he liked me as a girl. I have said since i began crossdressing that I was bi and would love to meet some nice guy while crossdressed but somehow this first time scared me. It brought me to the point of really having to think and ask some serious questions to those of you here, both the ones who consider themselves straight crossdressers and bi, i could use both your opinions, on how to handle a situation like this. If a guy flirts with you and really thinks you are a girl what do you do? Ive about got my voice figured out where i can talk like a girl pretty good my wife says but how do you ask the guy without blowing your cover or endangering yourself if he knows that your not really a woman? If he has been talking with you for awhile and likes you and wants to go further how do you go about telling him your, in my case, a transgendered crossdresser? I really need some advice here from all of you before I go out and do something stupid and get attacked by some crazy guy. Any input is appreciated.

Amber

[Holly]

I know it sounds old fashioned, but you are a married person. You should never let it get to that point. If someone starts to put the make on you, thank them but tell them that you are already in a committed relationship.

[Amber82]

thanks Holly, but the reason I asked is because my wife and I are both "swingers" but we have never "swang" with me crossdressed, only normally. My wife is totally open to all of this (I know I must be lucky in that respect) but its me who needs some advice on how to handle this situation. Being that we are both swingers there is no jeolousy and no problems with either of us being with other people, bi or straight, which is what brought me to this point and these questions, sorry if i didnt make that more clear, didnt mean to sound like I was cheating, lol.



Amber

[Holly]

If that's the case, then I will have to defer to others... uncharted waters for me. Good luck.

[Lori SC]

I have said since i began crossdressing that I was bi and would love to meet some nice guy while crossdressed but somehow this first time scared me.

If a guy flirts with you and really thinks you are a girl what do you do?

Amber

I have no experience in this area, but for starters I would say - ACT LIKE a GIRL and FLIRT BACK.

Hugs, Lori

P.S. Be careful. There are reasons girls always travel in pairs.

[Tiffy]

Swinging crossdressed is something that I just started with my wife. We have had an open relatioship for 11 years now. But we are only just starting with me being dressed. I think I have 4 or 5 encounters dressed and swinging. Best wishes and drop me a line if I can help.
Tiffany

[MsJanessa]

well men flirt with married women all the time, regardless of whether the girls are swingers or not----so don't worry about it---he either was attracted to you as a GG or as a TG---either way I'm sure he liked you. The problem would be if he thought you were a GG but found out the truth---most men would simply be suprised in that situation but some would react badly even violently. My advice if you and your SO do swing with you dressed is to be right up front with the other couple or guy(or girl) so they know exactly what they are getting before the action begins---if you meet over the internet be sure to let them know before they meet you in person. Good Luck

[tracigirl_tv]

Amber, though regrettably I have little experience in the "being flirted with" arena :), I would suggest you and your wife frequent places where it's known that TGs are "in the house." Although your profile doesn't show your location, most urban areas have clubs/restaurants etc. where girls like us are welcome always, or on designated nights. In that situation, our TG-ness is a given, and you know he's ok with it if he's there in the first place.

Happy flirting!

[Kate Simmons]

Hmm--I have to say Amber, it goes with the "turf". I think you did okay by turning your head but you will learn how to play the "game" after awhile. It's the "price" you pay for looking so good. You learn after awhile how to react like a girl and show you are not interested but flattered at the same time. All GG's get this kind of attention one time or another, so just be prepared, either that or don't look so damn good.;):happy:

[Bonnie D]

It is hard to say how to handle the situation in public. I agree that specific clubs are a better place to meet men. In this instance I guess I would have smiled and then turned away. If he came over to chat then I would talk until your wife came back. If he wanted to try to set up a date with you and possibly a friend for your wife, not realizing you are a couple, then I would tell him that you are a crossdresser and this is your wife. See how he reacts. If it is okay and he continues chatting then see where it goes. If he reacts negatively or even shocked, just tell him to have a good day, smile and ask your wife to get going.

Bonnie

[Sugar]

Hi Amber,

Are you planning on posting any pic's? I'd love to see you. Their are some really gorgeous girl's here. Might you be interested?

I'd love to go out dressed up, just to get gas. For now I can't seem to find my ball's. I know they're here somewhere.

I'd probably get beat up or something.

peace

sugar

[Kate Simmons]

Come with me Sugar or maybe you better not. I'm not the one to teach you to be a lady for sure. I thrive on meeting a**holes who want to cause trouble. I've never unwilling to use some of Rich's muscle and a lot of my attitude if confronted. Gee, you think that is the reason why they respect me? You never know these days.;):heehee:

[Amber82]

yes Sugar I am planning on posting a picture or two in my profile as soon as I get some taken, hopefully this week. Where are you located, if you are nearby sure we could get out sometime, two crossdressers going out in public has gotta be a more secure feeling than one, lol.


Amber

[Lori SC]

Where are you located, if you are nearby sure we could get out sometime, two crossdressers going out in public has gotta be a more secure feeling than one, lol.

Amber


Hi Amber, me again.

Going out with a friend, or a group is definetly they best way for the first time out. Although you will still have some significant jitters!

You might want to check into you local Tri-Ess group (I think there is one in Raleigh), or there are other groups too.

For the biggest TG, TS con in the Southeast, Look into SCC (Southern Comfort Convention) in Atlanta, the second week in September.

There are plenty of way to get out.

Hugs, Lori

[Tamera]

Well,
I met a swingers couple once at a TG club. This guys hands was like a wandering octopus. I thought he was going to squeeze the silicone right out of my breast forms.
Then on the same night I met a guy in a suit without the tie. And he talked about how he likes to treat women like a lady.
Try it!!! If you like it... Try it again....If you don't like it, Don't do it again, at least you can't say "You never done that".
Like I say "Take Life By The Horns and ENJOY the RIDE".
Hugs,
Tamera

[teresa jeen]

first id be flattered that he thought i was "passable" then i would get all wiggly inside. if that happens then you call him over, tell m your a C/D and go from there. k sara sara!!if you try and be sexy and accomplish that what are you complaning about?

[Amber82]

yeah i know, i wasnt really complaining, i just freaked out being that it was the first time and all. I am flattered that he thought i was sexy, means i passed very well, but im still really nervous!!! lol!

[Sugar]

Salandra, I think I would feel ok if I was "out" with you. Back in my day GG's would do my hair (long) and makeup. They would tell me I looked pretty and I thought so too. Just never could get the walk and other mannerism's down.....sigh.

peace sister,

sugar





Come with me Sugar or maybe you better not. I'm not the one to teach you to be a lady for sure. I thrive on meeting a**holes who want to cause trouble. I've never unwilling to use some of Rich's muscle and a lot of my attitude if confronted. Gee, you think that is the reason why they respect me? You never know these days.;):heehee:

I'm looking forward to your pic's honey.

I'd love to get to know you, I think we're about 800 miles away from each other. But hey, ya never know...do ya?

And yes, the more the merrier and secure too.

peace

sugar





yes Sugar I am planning on posting a picture or two in my profile as soon as I get some taken, hopefully this week. Where are you located, if you are nearby sure we could get out sometime, two crossdressers going out in public has gotta be a more secure feeling than one, lol.


Amber