Going out dressed

[donnafl31]

I am sure this is a topic many of you have gone through many a times. I been crossdressing for more than 5 yrs now. Just recently i got the courage to go out dressed, that also at night driving my car. I dressed fully with all make up on and driven through the highway and even stopped at a empty gas station to fill gas. It was a very unique expereince for me.

I am looking forward to hear more tips and tricks from you all expereinced gals! About how to be more passable in public and also how to seduce MEN :-)

[Sweetasapeach]

Welcome Donna:

Your right some of us have been there. It is so nevre wrecking when one first goes out. I've done the drive and at first, it feels like everyone is looking into your car. Now I drive all the time in various stages of dress.

[barbra]

there are no tricks out here,just be yourself and be safe.be happy for whom you are and love what you do.when you get the nerve up,go out in the day time to get gas or food fully dressed,now that is the best time to do it.i do it all the time and dont have no problems.just my :2c:worth.

[noname]

How to seduce men? Go to a gay club or something I guess. I for one do not think we need to ad to the publics misbelief that crossdressers are gay or trying to fool guys into a relationship.

* disclaimer: Yes I know some cd's are gay. Nothing against them.

[JoAnnDallas]

There are two things you need to be arware of when going out in the daylight dressed. These are Attitute and Attention. First you have to develope the attituted "That you do this everyday". This means don't act nervious, don't stare at other people, and above all act like you do this everyday. Second is Attention. Don't dress to attract attention, this includes your makeup and wig, unless you want attention. It also goes with your age. If your older like myself (59), you don't want to dress like a teenager or 20 something. Neither do you want to dress older than your age. Either way will cause people to look at you closely.

As long as you dress in a way that most people will glance at you and then go about their bussiness and you act like this is normal for you, then most people will not even take notice of you and you will be just another female out and about. Also remember that most people will not care about you and some that do clock you will smile and leave you alone. It is only a small percentage that will clock you and make a seine.

[Mary447]

Well, hon....one of the reasons I came to this site was to meet other gurls who can give me the experiences that they had ....I want to learn from other gurls

Mary

[Sarah cd]

Going out dressed is a brave thing to do but it is also a good fun thing to do i know i have done it twice now and it gave me a real buzz. I hope you realy did enjoy yourself.

[Dita_B]

...and go to places where commonly there are lots of other women, like a Mall.

The Mall, IMHO is a way better a place to go than venturing out late at night, as late at night you risk exposing yourself to all kind of unwanted attention. You are not the only one who ventures out under the cover of darkness, and perhaps with less innocent intentions than you have, think about that and be prepared. You may still be in Male thinking mode, but you portray a woman now. There is a reason there are not many women out there un-escorted late at night.

Also, if you go for a ride late at night, think ahead what you are gonna do when you get car trouble, like a flat tire, a fender bender or being pulled over by the cops. I always carry a small suit case with me in which I carry my male cloths and all the stuff I need to get my makeup off. Carry enough cash to pay for a cab and don't forget your cell phone so you can call one.

And finally: A girl on the side of the road at night with car trouble is an invitation for those who are out to meet one...

I don't want to scare you off, I only want to remind you of the common sense involved, which you may forget in the excitement of the moment.

For the rest: Go for it girl and have fun!

:love:Dita

[Karren H]

I'd say that guys that are readily seducable by t-girls don't have passability as number one on their list!!! Lol. And if you are really passable and trick some guy into a compramising position that he may not expect or appreciate.... Well let's say that you may not need to pay for that SRS after all!!! Hehe

How cool is that??

Karren

[Ruth]

Donna, I think you need to sort out your mission statement. Do you want to go around looking like a woman or do you want sex with men? The two don't have to go together.

[Kristen Marie]

If you are most comfortable going out in the cover of darkness...as many of us are....try interacting with people. My first driving while dressed had me go through toll boths where I had to pay an attendant. That was huge for me. Try taking some more little steps.....and ignore the seducing guy thing...it's overrated!

[teresa jeen]

I'd say that guys that are readily seducable by t-girls don't have passability as number one on their list!!! Lol. And if you are really passable and trick some guy into a compramising position that he may not expect or appreciate.... Well let's say that you may not need to pay for that SRS after all!!! Hehe

How cool is that??

Karren

ditto;

[jannette]

Donna, being passable is a state of mind. If you are unsure the best way is to have other T girls tell you honestly what they think. One thing for sure is to dress appropriately. Ie, if you are 50 don't try to dress like you are 18. Dress you age style wise, etc. Invest in a GOOD wig. One that does not look like it came from a $19.95 closeout rack. It will cost more but a real hair, well styled wig will go a long way to a passable look. Again, get one appropriate for you in terms of age, style, color, versus your age.

As for seducing men. Go to places that are TG friendly where admirers so. Not necessarily Gay bars but places that are say "alternative oriented" Don't worry, if you look good the "admirers" will find YOU. Good luck,
Jannette in Utica NY

[Jennilouise]

Welcome to the club

i have only gone out once before and found it nerve racking but i can't wait for the next time which hopefully will be very very soon, as soon as my partner and i get some money together and decide where to go.

[Sylvia.iluv2dressup]

I have never gone out dressed. I've gone to the backyard or front porch in pantyhose but that's it. I am going to try to join a support group this week. Good for you, I can't wait for my first experience as the wind blows against my legs. or when someone checks me out..Sylvia from Canada

[Sylvia.iluv2dressup]

Hi I'm Sylvia from Ontario, you are absolutely right. You are a very cautious person and smart. But in the end, who cares what others think. If you act confident, you will not attract attention. Also, we crossdressers attract attention because we do not dress appropriately for the environment we are in. For example, if you dress up totally with pumps and a classy dress, and go to the mall, you will not find females dressed that way. CAsual is the answer. If you were in a downtown business section, then dressed up that way you would fit in. Anyhow, we all live and learn and it is through experience we learn. Society has scared us men so much to not act feminine that it is hard to get out of our preconditioned heads or minds. Kisses.... Sylvia

[sissystephanie]

Going out dressed is a brave thing to do but it is also a good fun thing to do i know i have done it twice now and it gave me a real buzz. I hope you realy did enjoy yourself.

I agree with Sarah. It is a brave thing to do, but it sure is fun. However, I do it a bit differently than most of you girls. I go out dressed, but no wig and no makeup, so I am not trying to pass. Also, not trying to seduce a man! I am a man!! Just one who likes to wear female clothing.

Just a short time ago I went to a local Office Depot. The clerks there know me, and have seen me enfemme too many times to care. I was wearing an orange tank top which very clearly showed off my "girls," a pale blue skort and open toe pink sandals. Oh, I was wearing lipstick! I had just had a manicure/pedicure and my toes were a sparkling red/orange. As I left the store a middle age lady came towards me. She looked me up and down (twice!), smiled and said, "my, don't you look pretty!!" Did she make my day, or what!!:love:

Sissy

More Girl than man

[jasmim101]

ive driving to a remote spot, had a quick walk, then went home ,getting stopped driving was to scary for me to do again..:thumbsup:

[cute_cd_paige]

just a personal experence id like to share i was out one night in femme rideing around made a stop at a store to get a can drink from a machine outside and ended up locking my keys in the car (i left it running incase i had to leave quickly ) boy was that a dumb idea lol well to make a long story short, i had to go in the store luckly the girl working there was frendly and called a locksmith he got my door opened and i was on my way very shaken and neverous , but on my way none the less so the moral of the story is dont ever get out of your car while its running dressed up lol :2c:

[Emma England]

Strange, if I left my car running, the doors will always be unlocked.

I would be too worried for someone stealing the car to leave the keys in!

I remember a true story about a gg who went to a local gas station to buy bread and milk. Wasn't wearing a bra (before breakfast maybe?), and left the car running. Wanted to rush in and out in an attempt for no one to see that she was not wearing a bra.

Someone drove off with it whilst she was still in the shop.

The insurance wouldn't pay out, saying that it does not matter what clothes you are wearing, you should never leave keys lying around.

[jasmim101]

what a hot sunny day its bin, when it cools down later iam going to walk my two dogs dressed up. but not wearing a dress or skirt,i will wear some tight leggings a sports bra and my pink nikeys. hope nobody i no sees me..:heehee:

[Glenda58]

ive driving to a remote spot, had a quick walk, then went home ,getting stopped driving was to scary for me to do again..:thumbsup:

If you obey the law and don't speed or run a red light you won't get stopped. It's not illegal to drive dressed in any state.

[Glenda58]

just a personal experence id like to share i was out one night in femme rideing around made a stop at a store to get a can drink from a machine outside and ended up locking my keys in the car (i left it running incase i had to leave quickly ) boy was that a dumb idea lol well to make a long story short, i had to go in the store luckly the girl working there was frendly and called a locksmith he got my door opened and i was on my way very shaken and neverous , but on my way none the less so the moral of the story is dont ever get out of your car while its running dressed up lol :2c:

Don't leave a car running with the keys in I have seen 2 car drive off while the person was in paying for the gas or getting the bread. It takes 2 seconds to restart a car if in good condition. And if some one outs you so what you'll never see them again anyways just be cool and drive off.

[jasmim101]

i went out not fully dressed coz i was to scared to do it, but i did go out in femerning clothes, and nobody noticed...:D

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

Good for you on your first outing en-femme, it gets easier as you go out more and more. As for seducing men, thats a wrong headed statement, men don't need to be seduced they are easy and will go after the easiest targets so if you are easy your home free. Just be careful with who you get involved with. I go out dressed at least two to three times per week and get all sorts of looks from men, but I am not interested in that action.

[rebeca_abigail30]

I talked in length to Tamera last night about going out for my first time, too. OMG, it's coming up on Monday!! I'm a little nervous. Especially since my DW (1) doesn't know, and (2) would kill me, or at least kick me out of the house if she'd find out. :gg:

[joann07]

Its all about observing, practicing, and being confident in yourself.
I've been out several times now and each time I learn and gain valuable experience interacting with ordinary people. I'm not as nervous anymore and I look for any opportunity to go out whenever it arises.

As far as seducing men, I'd be careful because if he found out what you really were you never know how this person would react.
I'd hate to think of the worst case scenario so be careful who you choose and where you go.

Hugs!