Helping others

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

I have been chatting with a t girl about telling her wife. They have been married for 11 years and she couldn't keep inside anymore. I told her that she needed to be honest. Other girls told her the same as did her gender counselor.

Last night she told her wife and the wife was very accepting. Turns out she loves her husband as a girl. Now she is so happy.

Now I know many wives will not react that way but in this case I and some of the other girls did her a favor.

Moal of the story: we girls have to help each other out. Just some thoughts, girls.

Hugs

Sasha Anne

[Robin Leigh]

You're a good sister, Sasha Anne. :bighug:

But I bet your friend is kicking herself over all the needless pain & hassle she went through for those 11 years. And the fun she & her wife missed out on, too. :devil:

:hugs:

Robin

[KandisTX]

Moal of the story: we girls have to help each other out. Just some thoughts, girls.

Hugs

Sasha Anne

Truer words have never been spoken sister Sasha Anne. You are a great friend to you sisters.

Kandis:love:

[sissystephanie]

[QUOTE=Robin Leigh;953396]You're a good sister, Sasha Anne. :bighug:

But I bet your friend is kicking herself over all the needless pain & hassle she went through for those 11 years. And the fun she & her wife missed out on, too. :devil:]Quote

That is exactly why I always tell CD's to be honest and tell your wife or SO very early on. I told my dear wife when we got engaged, and we had 49 1/2 years of very happy CD life. She told me often that I was not only her husband and best friend, but also her best girl friend!:love:

Sissy

More Girl than man

[Shelly Preston]

It is always good to help others in a diffuicult situation

This had a happy outcome which makes me very happy

It not so easy sometimes to slove a couples problem but it can be done with time effort and understanding

So be careful when giving advice to others

[Sapphire]

I am delighted that this worked out. But unfortunately disclosure is
sometimes not so successful. I can understand how some will keep their secret to themselves – as divulging it can mark the ending of a relationship or a marriage. Also tolerance levels can change with time – so even after a disclosure is made there is a need to proceed very cautiously and with great sensitivity. What the woman is being asked to accept may be completely at odds with her concept of masculinity - and that may never change. There is a difference between being loved for what one is and being merely tolerated.

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

I want to be clear that my friend did not act solely on my advice. In addition to seeking advice from other t girls she consulted with a gender counslor that she had been seeing. I agree that one person's advice is insufficient to making a life altering decision. My only point is that we need to support and understand each other and help in what little ways we can.

[Emily Ann Brown]

I must add here that disclosure cost me a marriage....and now I have met a wonderful woman (met while Em) who is not only accepting but supportive. Honesty is a very good policy.

Emily Ann

[susie evans]

we all need/want support i'am glad that you were there to help another sister

:love: susie