Eating Out

[hunny67]

Hi all,

Hopefully you can help me.
I would love to go out for a nice meal with my partner jennilouise, how do i go about booking a table & telling them that my partner is a CD? would it be better to go out of town to a country pub/restuarant or go into town.

Hunny67 GG x

[sissystephanie]

Hi all,

Hopefully you can help me.
I would love to go out for a nice meal with my partner jennilouise, how do i go about booking a table & telling them that my partner is a CD? would it be better to go out of town to a country pub/restuarant or go into town.

Hunny67 GG x

You can do one of two things. Either just go out to eat without saying to the restaurant, with JenniLouise passing, or call the selected restaurant and ask them if they accept CD's. I think you will most restaurants just want the business. As long as the CD is not really doing a "drag queen" type of thing, they probably won't care.

I personally go out often dressed completely enfemme, but without a wig or full makeup. In other words, a man in female clothing. (But not dresses!) Never been challenged yet! Get "looks" and smiles, but that is all.:love:

I would say, Go For It!!:2c:

Sissy

More Girl than man

[RedBaron]

Restaurants, like all other businesses want your money. I would be very surprised if anybody would say anything. I have been going out as a man with a beard in skirts for 6 years now and never had any business question me in any way. I usually go to the same two restaurants frequently. After a while I actually get compliments on my clothes from the staff. So go ahead and just go there.

[Michelle (Oz)]

If you are concerned about being recognised in your local town then head further afield. I used to ring ahead and check as a courtesy whether the restaurant was ok with CDers. Now days I just turn up and am always welcomed. Dress appropriately so both you and the restaurant have a good experience.
Michelle (Oz)

[Kristen Kelly]

In my area, I have been out to many TG friendly restaurants, but have been treated as a women out in Mainstream restaurants also and enjoy the fact of mingling with others when out. Confidence helps, and remember to dress to blend and you won't have a problem. I was out with another CD friend and my GG SO, to Chili's one night and you would have thought we were invisible, we must have blended well for not even a second glance by anyone, it supprised the 3 of us .

[Joy Carter]

Go to a nice place where you won't have a drunken crowd and you'll be fine.:2c:

[Denise01]

I have been out to Restaruants totally femme, and have been well accepted.
In some Instances, i feel that I am treated better when out femme then when i am out drab.

In one particular Restaurant i was in, the waitress was very good, and she also commented as to how well my top was co-ordinated with the skirt suit I was wearing.

Go and enjoy, but Confidence is the big factor for a successful outing.

If you are not out and about at home, the only suggestion I would make, is to go at least a couple of hours from home where you are less likley to run into some one you know

Denise

[Joyce1702]

Around here, there are several Chinese buffets. They work well because you don't have to order or do a lot of talking. Just tell them how many are in your party and what you want to drink and you're done! Downside is you can't just sit there, you have to get up and get your food. And remember to eat like a lady! :)

Joyce

[SandyR]

Having never done this with my wife, I really don't have much advice, other then I agree with the fact that businesses need customers, and I have found this to be true when eating out on my own. Just have fun, and let us girls know how it went......

Hugs.

SandyR

[Di]

Not fam with your area....................are there tg resturants bars ect? I would suggest going a ways away from your area..............................then you will not have to worry about friends,family, neighbors ect seeing you and coming over. Good luck ...enjoy:hugs:

[Jodi]

I go out dining enfemme frequently. I have found that the more upscale you go, the better you will be treated. I have never had a problem. A word of advice for your SO on being presentable at a restaurant. Women do things differently than men do when out dining. Watch how a woman seats herself at the table. She enters the chair differently than a guy. Good table manners are a must. A woman sits erect on the edge of her chair with her legs crossed at the ankle. A woman eats slowly taking smaller bites than a man. When out, whatever a cd does--don't eat like a truckdriver. A woman holds her wineglass differently than a man does.

Doing things radically different than a woman would do in a restaurant, will bring the eyes upon the cd. Then the whole picture begins to fall apart.

If a cd plays the part with confidence, she will never have a problem.

Jodi

[Holly]

HI Hunny... if I were you, I'd just pick a nice restaurant that the two of you would like to dine at and go. My wife and I have eaten at several mainstream places and never had a problem. If either of you are concerned with being recognized, then a short drive may be in order. If you do travel, plan in advance who will be the designated driver... and have fun!

[Kieron Andrew]

you're in plymouth, just go....no need to warm them, just go have a nice time and report back to us lol

[teresa jeen]

if your gonna go out then go out. part of the problem with our delima is "what they think". too heck with what "they" think. "they dont pay my bills nor take care of my children,thank you.in america we dont care what they think. as long as its not against the law, so be it.:heehee:dont get me started!!!

[bridget thronton]

I have been to restaurants dressed with me wife and not have any problems (people tend to ignore you unless you are dcressed to thrill).

[Sally24]

If your SO dresses appropriately for the time and restaurant you should be fine. Just behave like two ladies and most everyone will treat you as such.

Good luck and enjoy yourselves!

[TxKimberly]

Hi all,

Hopefully you can help me.
I would love to go out for a nice meal with my partner jennilouise, how do i go about booking a table & telling them that my partner is a CD? would it be better to go out of town to a country pub/restuarant or go into town.

Hunny67 GG x

I travel all over the country for my job. Literally a new city every week and I eat out as Kim in all of them, so trust me when I tell you this - THEY DON'T CARE. A general rule if thumb - the "nicer" (AKA More Expensive) places are the safest. I wouldn't go into a fast food place and feel 100% confident I would be treated well. Any place else, all they care about is your business and treating you well - no doubt the hope for a tip may be involved.
That's another general rule that I have found most TG's follow - if we are treated well we tip well. We WANT them to not only tolerate us but welcome us back. In all of the times I've eaten out, I have never been treated with any thing less than decency and even friendship.
Don't worry about, don't let it make you anxious, it's just not an issue. Go out to dinner. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy your life - it's too short to sweat the small stuff.

[Emma England]

Hi Hunny,

I had already sent you a pm, before discovering this thread.

Just relax. You seem more nervous than your partner.

I agree with others saying that a more classy restaurant would be better.
If you go to an expensive place, please dress smartly. Wearing a t-shirt in some places would bring their reputation down.

[KimberlyS]

Hunny, I can not add much to what others have said. Being out of town does make things easier as you are away from those you know, especially for you Hunny, the SO. That is what my wife and I have done when she goes out with me. Pick a nice mid-priced restaurant that is a sit down place and not fast food. Since this will be your first time you may want to stay away from places that are more of a bar than a restaurant. And dress to blend in with others in the restaurant you will be going to.

From the looks of Jennilouise's profile picture you have nothing to worry about. So relax and enjoy.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I agree with the others here that your money is green and thats all that matters to any resteraunt. I have gone out so many times en-femme that I lost count years ago. I have never had any real problems and I have gone to all sorts of resteraunts. I think you will find that nobody cares.

[Sandra]

There is no need to tell them your SO is a cder. We quite often go out for a meal and have had no problems. Go and enjoy yourselves :)

[hunny67]

Thankyou for all your messages, Me & jennilouise will be going out very soon & enjoy ourselves. Thankyou again kimberlys for your comment on jennilouise.

Hunny67 GG X

[Glenda58]

I travel all over the country for my job. Literally a new city every week and I eat out as Kim in all of them, so trust me when I tell you this - THEY DON'T CARE. A general rule if thumb - the "nicer" (AKA More Expensive) places are the safest. I wouldn't go into a fast food place and feel 100% confident I would be treated well. Any place else, all they care about is your business and treating you well - no doubt the hope for a tip may be involved.
That's another general rule that I have found most TG's follow - if we are treated well we tip well. We WANT them to not only tolerate us but welcome us back. In all of the times I've eaten out, I have never been treated with any thing less than decency and even friendship.
Don't worry about, don't let it make you anxious, it's just not an issue. Go out to dinner. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy your life - it's too short to sweat the small stuff.


:iagree: Kim and I have been out a few times together and the nicer places treat you the best. Always calling us ladies. So go enjoy the food and wine and have a good time.

[Anthea]

I too have never had any problem in any establishment. Your SO should wear something approapriate and look presentable for the surroundings. Just go or turn up to somewhere you you would like and enjoy.

[Rachel Morley]

It all depends on how passable your SO is or how they present in a general sense, or how confident you feel ..... I hope you know what I mean. However if you want to keep it simple, book a table at a "gay friendly" restaurant and then it won't matter :D

I don't know where you live but I would say for safety why not try a big city like Barnstaple, Plymouth or Torquay? Then again places like Ilfracombe or Woolacombe or whatever, are tourist towns and people tend to be more "forgiving" because they are on holiday and they know tourists are from all over the place and so they are (somewhat) more tolerant if you stand out.