Clubbing

[nikki_t]

Hello everybody, this is my first post on here.

I want to go clubbing (en femme) but my wife always feels uncomfortable escorting me. I, in turn, would feel uncomfortable going by myself. Does anybody have any suggestions as to how to get around this problem?

BTW, I'm in San Antonio, Texas. Has anyone had any experience with any of the clubs here. I've heard that "Saint" is a bit of a dive but "Bonham Exchange" is supposed to be really nice. Is there many TG folk there? The last club we went to I was the only TG there and felt a bit out of place.

[Deidra Cowen]

I met two other Tgirls at a little lesbian bar last night. Both of those girls were married and just left da wives at home. A few wives like to come out with the girls but most don't. If there is a degree of trust it appears a lot of married CDs can and do just go out by themselves.

Last Saturday night out of our pack we had two girls that were there with their wives. Those GGs however have hung out with us for a long time. One of them actually met her 'husband' out clubbin with us so of course she is totally kewl with us Trans types anyway.

So I hope you can work it out sweetie.

[nikki_t]

Thanks for the responses. I guess I should've clarified that the problem has nothing to do with me dressing or the type of establishment but that she's just not a late nighter/cluber/drinker type. She's usually in bed by 9pm. :straightface:

She wishes she could do it but can't (physically). She doesn't do it because she feels guilted into doing it. She's very supportive and we have an exceptionally good partnership. On the other hand, I can go by myself no problem... but then I feel guilty for not having her there - even though there's 100% trust either way. It just doesn't feel right. We've always done everything together. Like going to the movies or a nice restaurant or a pool hall or a vacation. Some things just don't feel right doing them by yourself. Do you know what I mean? We're pretty clingy. I guess there's no easy answer to this one.

Sorry if I wasn't clear the first time.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Nikki

Welcome to the forum

Sometimes as you say there is never an easy solution but at least you are looking to see what other options migh be available

I wish you the best of luck in your quest to go clubbing :hugs:

[kay_jessica]

Thanks for the responses. I guess I should've clarified that the problem has nothing to do with me dressing or the type of establishment but that she's just not a late nighter/cluber/drinker type. She's usually in bed by 9pm. :straightface:

She wishes she could do it but can't (physically). She doesn't do it because she feels guilted into doing it. She's very supportive and we have an exceptionally good partnership. On the other hand, I can go by myself no problem... but then I feel guilty for not having her there - even though there's 100% trust either way. It just doesn't feel right. We've always done everything together. Like going to the movies or a nice restaurant or a pool hall or a vacation. Some things just don't feel right doing them by yourself. Do you know what I mean? We're pretty clingy. I guess there's no easy answer to this one.

Sorry if I wasn't clear the first time.

Hey Nikki, you do not need to explain. It suffices that you have a reason. You don't have to go clubbing to have a good time. I'm not a big club fan but I go out couple of times a month. Though, what I prefer to do, and may be this is something you and your partner can do with you en femme, is to just be out doing the things I normally do. Try going to a cinema or theater. I don't know if there are places in Texas, but here in the UK there are scores of hotels that welcome us. But i think that is true of most hotels. Take her away for a girls weekend

Above all have fun, and if you are not having fun do something else.


Hugs

Kay

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[nikki_t]

Yup we've stayed at some of the fancy hotels here downtown San Antonio and also Vegas. Casinos are always good and the riverwalk here is great too.

First time I went out en femme was in the UK :D

[Stephenie S]

Thanks for the responses. I guess I should've clarified that the problem has nothing to do with me dressing or the type of establishment but that she's just not a late nighter/cluber/drinker type. She's usually in bed by 9pm. :straightface:

She wishes she could do it but can't (physically). She doesn't do it because she feels guilted into doing it. She's very supportive and we have an exceptionally good partnership. On the other hand, I can go by myself no problem... but then I feel guilty for not having her there - even though there's 100% trust either way. It just doesn't feel right. We've always done everything together. Like going to the movies or a nice restaurant or a pool hall or a vacation. Some things just don't feel right doing them by yourself. Do you know what I mean? We're pretty clingy. I guess there's no easy answer to this one.

Sorry if I wasn't clear the first time.

Dear Nikki,

I am glad your SO is being supportive. I guess you read my answer to you before it was deleted. This is a support group here and I want you to know that I am supportive of your CDing. I guess I sounded a bit harsh at first. My apologies, hon, and no need to explain.

I haven't been in San Antonio since my Air Force days. I'm sure it's a different place now. All grown up.

And yes, I do know what you mean. I always feel a bit out of sorts whenever my dear partner and I are separated. Even though we both go to work apart, if she is out of town, I just rattle around the house all at lose ends.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[nikki_t]

Thanks again for the responses and support. No need to apologize at all... my silly fault for not making things clearer in the first place. :o