AmberTG
08-18-2007, 11:15 AM
Be prepared for the whining and possible rambling on!
I've had a rough week, mentally. Here I am, attempting to seriously transition, and I realise there are things that I will need to fix if I ever expect to be physically passable as a woman. I know that certain things you can't do anything about, like hand size, for instance. My feet are acceptable, size 10 or 11 woman's, depending on the shoe.
Electrolysis is expensive, and at the rate I can afford to go, it'll take another 2 years, very frustrating! Then there's the really big ticket items, like a trachial shave, which will be quite necessary for me to be believable. That's one of the problems with being skinny, it sticks out like a beacon.
I'm hoping that the HRT will fill in my face properly, but only time will tell. A good partial wig, for the top of my head, will be expensive, I have enough hair every where else on my head and would prefer to use as much of my own as possible. The finesteride and spiro are helping my hair, but I doubt it will ever be thick enough to be acceptable on top.
If I do need FFS to "look the part", I'm screwed! I couldn't come up with that kind of money if I sold everything I own!
The body shape is probably the easiest thing to modify, thank God. Padded garments work wonders for others, one of these days, I need to buy a padded panty girdle to try it out.
All the mental preparation in the world won't help me if I'm instantly identified as male when people see me!
I get enough strange looks now when people see me with my long hair and earrings, people probably just think I'm gay, which is OK with me, I don't care about that. People don't confront you about that anymore, they just let it pass. For instance, I was fixing a juke box at a bar last night and I could see some of the men customers checking me out in that way that men do when they think "something ain't right here", but things were cool while I was there. I think I made one guy nervous, he was joking about putting some free credits on the juke box when I got done fixing it, so I did, and I was joking back with him about him. I think he got a bit nervous about that, of course it could just be my impression, also.
Anyway, the point is, will I continue to be identified as a "gay man" as I go through transition? Will I ever be able to physically "pass inspection" as a woman, even at the most casual glance? Do I just give up and go back to being miserible? I can't go back to testosterone, I think I'd have to shoot myself before allowing that to happen. Thank God that spiro is inexpensive, it's been part of my reason for wanting to continue on in this life.
The V.A. won't pay for any cosmetic procedures, hell, I haven't been able to get them to prescribe the HRT yet, which they will do if you can meet their criteria.
I think I'm just gonna go outside and sulk in my garden for a while, take my mind off all of this mess for a while! My garden is my relaxation and "get away from my problems" thing.
I've had a rough week, mentally. Here I am, attempting to seriously transition, and I realise there are things that I will need to fix if I ever expect to be physically passable as a woman. I know that certain things you can't do anything about, like hand size, for instance. My feet are acceptable, size 10 or 11 woman's, depending on the shoe.
Electrolysis is expensive, and at the rate I can afford to go, it'll take another 2 years, very frustrating! Then there's the really big ticket items, like a trachial shave, which will be quite necessary for me to be believable. That's one of the problems with being skinny, it sticks out like a beacon.
I'm hoping that the HRT will fill in my face properly, but only time will tell. A good partial wig, for the top of my head, will be expensive, I have enough hair every where else on my head and would prefer to use as much of my own as possible. The finesteride and spiro are helping my hair, but I doubt it will ever be thick enough to be acceptable on top.
If I do need FFS to "look the part", I'm screwed! I couldn't come up with that kind of money if I sold everything I own!
The body shape is probably the easiest thing to modify, thank God. Padded garments work wonders for others, one of these days, I need to buy a padded panty girdle to try it out.
All the mental preparation in the world won't help me if I'm instantly identified as male when people see me!
I get enough strange looks now when people see me with my long hair and earrings, people probably just think I'm gay, which is OK with me, I don't care about that. People don't confront you about that anymore, they just let it pass. For instance, I was fixing a juke box at a bar last night and I could see some of the men customers checking me out in that way that men do when they think "something ain't right here", but things were cool while I was there. I think I made one guy nervous, he was joking about putting some free credits on the juke box when I got done fixing it, so I did, and I was joking back with him about him. I think he got a bit nervous about that, of course it could just be my impression, also.
Anyway, the point is, will I continue to be identified as a "gay man" as I go through transition? Will I ever be able to physically "pass inspection" as a woman, even at the most casual glance? Do I just give up and go back to being miserible? I can't go back to testosterone, I think I'd have to shoot myself before allowing that to happen. Thank God that spiro is inexpensive, it's been part of my reason for wanting to continue on in this life.
The V.A. won't pay for any cosmetic procedures, hell, I haven't been able to get them to prescribe the HRT yet, which they will do if you can meet their criteria.
I think I'm just gonna go outside and sulk in my garden for a while, take my mind off all of this mess for a while! My garden is my relaxation and "get away from my problems" thing.