the erge is faiding

[Shining Star]

should i stop dressing. the last couple of day my erge to dress has started to fade away. don't know why i am feeling this way. has any one else felt this way before

[SilkenPrincess]

Hey Star!
I'm probably not the best one to answer due to my lengthy purge, but what you are experiencing is quite normal. I wouldn't be alarmed, nor should you make any long term decisions based on what you are currently feeling. If you were to give it all up because of your present feelings, I can assure you that you will later regret your rash decision. You're OK!
Love,
SilkenPrincess

[Sharon]

I'm a firm believer that you must listen to your erges, especially if they're faiding, as that can be quite painful. :rolleyes:

[SilkenPrincess]

I'm a firm believer that you must listen to your erges, especially if they're faiding, as that can be quite painful. :rolleyes:
THAT is funny Sharon! You made me laugh! Thanks
Love,
SilkenPrincess

[celeste26]

Yes follow the urges (erges) dont force this on yourself (or anyone for that matter) if it is right for you then they will come back if not then so long, farwell, good riddance. In spite of what some of these people may say this is not an especially noble thing we all do, some of us do it because we cant get away from it no matter what we try. So if you feel like not doing it dont do it plain and simple. See what happens.
Keep us informed though

[Shining Star]

thanks girls well lets see what happens wjell it has only been 3 days so i can't be to sure on whats going to happen hope they come full again

[SilkenPrincess]

I'm willing to bet they will.

[Sweet Susan]

I'm sure the urge will never come back, Star. So, pack up all of your panties and send them to me! Susan

[SilkenPrincess]

I'm sure the urge will never come back, Star. So, pack up all of your panties and send them to me! Susan
Oooooh! Your bad! LOL
Love,
SilkenPrincess

[CindyT]

I often just don't feel like dressing for some reason BUT the urge always comes back. Be patient and don't be too hasty to purge, you may regret it later! If you never feel like dressing again then so be it, you are the only one who will determine that.

Quite often I will go for a couple of weeks between dressing sessions, but other times I get the urge every day! Theres a lot we still don't know about WHY we dress, we just know that we like to!


Follow you dreams!!

Good Luck


CindyT

[Richelle]

Shining Star,

I believe we all have had those feelings of not dressing. Just relax and enjoy your life. Dress only when you feel like it.

Richelle

[donnie123abc1]

Shining Star, there's an old saying that I wish to share with you. " Once a smoker always a smoker." While we all seek to quit an compulsive disorder such as smoking there will always be the urge to light up. We can suppress it to varying degrees but it will always be there. Crossdressing ,although not as bad for your health, may carry the similar urge. You may successfully abandon wearing women's clothes but the desire will always be there. I'm not saying that crossdressing is a compulsive disorder. We choose to be who we are. Its not something we can turn on and off like a light switch. It is only a part of who we really are as a person. You may abandon the clothes but you can't abandon yourself.

Dawn Marrie Thats Who I Be !0

[Shining Star]

thanks again girls i will try to work this out if i can

[trinity24]

I urge you not to listen to your urge. It will come back, so don't get rid of your stuff - you'll only regret it later. We are not crossdressing on a whim, it is not something we do, because we want to - we were born that way.

[Tristen Cox]

Everyone gets that way. Some may go a month or more without wanting to do any dressing. BUT is does come back. The only thing you'll accomplish by throwing out your things is you will have to buy more when you want them back cause you threw them out. KEEP everything. Put things off and focus on some other hobby, the sooner you stop thinking about it the sooner the 'erge' will come back.


Love
T

[Julie York]

There's another thread on this "Ebb and flow of crossdressing" just down the page with similar advice.

What size shoes do you take? I'll keep them safe for you.

[Elinor]

The ebb and flow does change from time to time.
DON'T PANIC !
The URGE WILL RETURN again.
If you throw all your feminine clothes away
you will have great fun replacing them all.

Hey once a crossdresser always a crossdesser.

Its the girl within she will always be around and wish to come out to play.


Its okay to stop being a jane girl now and then but your femininity will return so don't worry she will be back. :D

[Sherlyn]

yea i get that way ..sometimes just a day or 2 but it has happened where i'd go mths without dressing..even tried ta force myself ....didn't happen..it always comes back ..and is usually stronger .. like right now.... : ]...its the c/d's pms i guess ..lol

[Dominique Melt]

Star,

I really can't add much more sage advice than what has lready been posted. From expereince I, too, have purged on more than one occasion and have thrown away too many clothes, shoes and accessories than I care to recall. There is nothing wrong with wanting to step away and focus on other aspects of your life. Your CD/femme side will always be with you. You will know when it is right for you to express yourself and when it will be time to leave your Star dormant.
In short, I'd not worry too much about it.

[Sandra H]

Hi Star.

Cross dressing is like many things in life, when you can’t have it or do it you want it more than ever, but when you can have it or do it as and when you want some of the thrill goes away. Like food if you like a particular meal and then you go off it you would never think that you would never want that meal again in your life. More often than not a while without it gets the juices flowing again and you cannot get enough of it again.

The main difference with cross dressing is I think we are born this way it is not something most of us do just to get a short-term fix. Because of this although the urge will ebb and flow during your lifetime it will still be part of you in the background. I like many of the girls here have been interested in female cloths since a small child of around 5 or 6, I have been dressing fully for well over 25 years. During this time I have wanted to dress most everyday others I can dress once or twice a week, sometimes I have not dressed fully for 2 or 3 years, but it always comes back in different intensities. The second half of last year I would dress on a daily basis someday when I was not going out I would dress all day other days only when I got home for the day. Yet I have not dressed very much this year at all. The only thing I do wear at all times are my panties and pantyhose and I always sleep in my nightie.

So relax, take the advice of the other girls and don’t throw anything out, because you will need them one day. Enjoy life knowing that you will always have the great side to your personality namely being partly female.

Remember, once a Star always a Star.

Take care, look after yourself.

[Priscilla1018]

Hi Star,

Like all of the others have said;we've all been there done that. If it feels right to you ,do it.Many of us do not dress everyday. I've been doing this for 46 years.In all of that time I have purged some wonderful outfits only to have to start all over again.The "P" word is a definate no no.

Love and Hugs,
Priscilla

[Casandra]

So leave already!! It seems like I read one of these I'm leaving threads a week from you. And now you're losing the "erge" also?
Give me strength.

[Holly]

I can't add anything else to what the other ladies here have already said. Borrowing just a bit from your signature line... "Let Star be your Guide."

[brandi]

Don't get hasty or anything, I have gone as far as stopping and throwing everything away, only to regret it a few weeks (or days or hours :rolleyes: ) later. Then I had to start all over again. What a pain that is. My suggestion would be to put everything you have away for awhile and see how you feel.

Good Luck and God Bless

Brandi