What do you think the object of this forum is? (MTF questions only)

[Kieron Andrew]

I have a few questions for the MTFs here.....

In your opinion what is the object of this forum.....Why is this forum in place? what purpose does it serve or should it serve?....im just interested in your take on things to get a better understanding as to where you are all coming from.

BTW if ANYONE else has anything constructive to say dont let me stop you.....

[Lora Olivia]

For me Kieron it is a place that I feel I can express myself, a place that I don't have to drive 150 miles to be with people like me. A place I hope my SO finds some support and finds that she is not alone. I hope it is a place that anyone who is (gender different?) finds something, hopefully some peace as we all need that:hugs:

[Veronica Fallon]

I can only speak for myself.

I came here mostly to learn all I possibly could about trans-genderism & to finally gain a sense of community with my own crossdressing/femininity. I'd also like to bolster my own bravery (I'm new to being in public as a woman) through the confidence of all my courageous sisters here, & I'd like to help any "lil' sisters" I might be able to. If I end up with a few real friends (or who knows... maybe even a lover for my GG & me) I'll feel doubly blessed!

Veronica

[Ruth]

It's a place where I can say what's on my mind about crossdressing. Actually putting things into words is a great thing - sometimes I don't know exactly what I'm feeling until I write it down.
And it's good to read the words of many other people who are in a similar place to me and are dealing with life in a remarkably similar way. We're not all the same, but it's possible for an isolated CDer to feel he/she is the only person in the world with this particular problem.
I even get some practical advice here.

[Karren H]

Its a place to meet like minded people and discuss what ever you want.. Up to a point....

Karren

[NovaScotia]

This forum has provided me a convienant location, like Lora, to go for support and encouragement to understand and develop my female traits without the sexually abusive and suggestive comments I encountered at chat rooms. Although I have only been a member a short time, I feel I have bonded with some of you and have followed your advice to more fully enjoy my life. This forum has given me much inner peace.

[RobertaFermina]

I'm accepted here.
I'm listened to here.
I'm somebody special here.
I'm nobody special here.
I speak my truth.
Sometimes what I think is my truth is just what I want to believe.
I read others' truth.
I notice others' confusion.
I learn from it all.
I am finding myself in the process.

I make connections.
I make appointments and dates.
I meet people from here, out there.
My life grows.
I am finding myself in the process.

People speak their strengths, and victories.
I envy and/or encourage them.
I set my own goals, notice my own strengths, share my own victories.
I am finding myself in the process.

People speak their wounds and needs.
I have compassion, or dread for them, and/or encourage them.
I notice and speak my own foibles, weaknesses, needs, problems.
I seek help, get help, give thanks, laugh at myself, heal.
I am finding myself in the process.


And when I think I have found myself, so what ?
Nothing..except for all the people I have found along the way...and because I put myself out there, I am one of the many that others have found...

And along these many ways and through our shared individualities and bonds..

We are finding each other and creating community.

It takes a village to raise a village.

:rose: A Villager :rose:

[KandisTX]

Its a place to meet like minded people and discuss what ever you want.. Up to a point....

Karren

Yeah.. what she said ;)

Kandis:love:

[SatinDoll00]

Just like any other online forum, this is a place where people can communicate with one another about the overall topic of the forum. In this case, it is crossdressing. It should not matter what area of crossdressing we discuss, or who we are...male, female, gay, bi, straight, MTF, FTM, TG, TV...whatever. As long as we show respect for one another. That does not mean we have to always agree...but this should be a place that is not about shame or judgement...we get enough of that in the real world.

Morgan

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Kieron, When I first joined the Forum, I thought the purpose of it was to understand TG/TS/CD issues, encourage one another and accept folks for who they are. Of course, I could have been mistaken but I'm hoping not.

[Hali]

This forum is simply a HEALING session for me, cos i get to be myself in TOTAL (all of me including the male me and female me), its so soothin, no harrasment...no intimidation...no insults....no hate. e.t.c ....e.t.c

[Deborah Jane]

Before coming nere i thought i was just [quote my ex wife] "a pervert who liked to dress up as a woman"!! Since coming here i,ve learned a lot about who i am [not a pervert], that i,m not alone and that there is a whole community out there who understands exactly who i am! Since coming here i,ve recieved support and understanding[I,ve even been out dressed] and as i learn to understand, hopefully i,ll be able to help others on here with their issues and return the support! Sorry to go on, but this site has helped give me a new lease of life!! Thank you.

[Sky]

For starters, the real object of the forum can only be assured by its founder, or founders. If one of them is around, raise your hand (virtually).

But it's interesting how many different views there are. For me, it's a place to find a few interesting opinions swimming in a sea of silliness. But that's common to every forum around the Web. You always need to mow the weeds to get to something good.

I was quite surprised at seeing how many GGs come to the forum for support or reassurance of some kind (the old "cds are not gay" thing that was beaten up to exhaustion in other threads). I believe there must be plenty of cds looking for the same thing, although some are not that vocal.

[Toyah]

For me its a place where I can meet and have fun with people that can understand my dresing nothing more I dont want to meet or go out

[Carroll]

For me it was a place to talk with others like me. Share stores, help with issues dealing with dressing, as I kept coming back I found that it was a great place for mental support when my wife was in the hospital for mental illness

EDIT...Its also a great place to brag about your accomplishments!:D:love::hugs:

[angelfire]

For me, it is to share my experience, and read other's experiences, so that perhaps I can learn some things through others' mistakes, without having to do everything the hard way.

It is a place I can seek advice. I would give more advice, except I feel that in many cases, it is not my place. I mean, I am one of the younger sisters here, so I have no experience dealing with an SO in many of the ways people here have, or are, so me giving advice on it would be pointless 90% of the time.

I feel free to give my opinion, no matter what it may be, and I read other's opinions with an open mind. It is a place I am accepted for who and what I am, without any fear of rejection.

[Ermintrude]

I joined thinking it might help me understand myself a little better. In practice, I've ended up understanding the rest of you a little better instead. :)

[az_azeel]

I'm in the wrong place.... I thought this forum was about people that got angry putting their clothes on ......:heehee:




On a serious note though I joined this forum because It was nice to meet like minded people, to have a bit of fun and for the first time in my life realise that I was not alone. I am a straight hetrosexual male and all through my life I thought I was a freak... I realise this not to be the case and feel I have made a few good friends on here. Had the odd slap but hey thats life....


Take care :hugs:

[sterling12]

It provides a feeling of "Community." It provides us with dialog and information. It reduces isolation and may reduce stress. This forum seems to avoid the trap of blatant sexual come-ons, and pornography. That's something I personally appreciate.

Ultimately, it may provide all of us with an opportunity to take our CD Places in the World. It certainly seems to have helped an awful lot of people to stop their hiding, and achieve some form of self-acceptance.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Wendy me]

[QUOTE=Kieron Andrew;978036]I have a few questions for the MTFs here.....

In your opinion what is the object of this forum...




my opinion this forum's object was abought understanding god bless any one of you that understood your selfs before you found this place ... me i did not ....




Why is this forum in place?




for people to come and learn abought who they are and abought others they might not understand .... in a safe place were for even a little while being just who you are is ok......






what purpose does it serve or should it serve?....



what it serves and should serve.....i my opinion is simple... this should be a melting pot of people out there from all over the world that for some reason don't fit the mold .. to me labels suck .... trans this and cd that and so on we all have issues with some kinda gender fitting ,be it the guys or the girls .... and also our husbands / wifes and So's out there and our family's and Friends that try to understand us while at time we struggle to understand our selfs and them as well...

call this what you want a forum ... but for many this has been a life line ...




im just interested in your take on things to get a better understanding as to where you are all coming from.



Kieron you know i found this place abought 3 years ago ... i was scared i was excited i had almost no computer skills (still don't) i was shaking and scared to death with my first post here ... it's true ...

over time i met so many good people from all over and as a person that has changed me for ever this forum this gift we all have ...

i as a lot of people went through changes over my time here .. i was asked to be a mod then became a admin ... at times this place is overwhelming and some times it can consume all your time and thoughts .... i am truly thank full to the owners of this place to allow us this forum to express who we are ..

and were would we be without our staff??? say what you might no better any were on the web ... trust me .... just try doing the job asked from them.....

[Deidra Cowen]

Its a nice friendly little place on the net that entertains me!

Also, I have learned a lot too...a lot of my progress as a Transgendered person came from reading stuff posted by many of the people here. But I am not going to mislead you...I mainly just find it fun and entertaining.

Finally I have met some friends in person that I first encountered here...thats always super kewl!

I luv waking up on a Saturday Morning, I grab a cup of coffee and after checking my email, then a yahoo club I moderate ... I jump right in here and start looking at the threads and posting a bit too. Very relaxing and fun.

I do my best to avoid negative stuff and drama...but admit every once in a while I slip up and might post in some thread with turmoil and trouble brewing. :tongueout

[WendyCD]

We are not alone. We are more alike than we are different.

[KarenSusan]

It provides a feeling of "Community." It provides us with dialog and information. It reduces isolation and may reduce stress. This forum seems to avoid the trap of blatant sexual come-ons, and pornography.

Very well said, Joanie. My sentiments exactly.

[Michelia]

But I know what it was for me when I first found it. It was a door to another world where I belonged but I did not know existed.

Now it is a place to connect, to laugh, and distract myself from what has been the toughest time of my life.

Where would I like to see it go?

If it ain't broke don't fix it.

Michelia

[Darlene-VA]

It is a place where I can learn things from others like myself and help some people with the years of experience that I have had being what I consider to be the real me

[Alex!]

I guess for me it's mostly for sense of community, to reinforce the sense that I am not alone with my hosiery and lipstick thing. I also learn some things now and then.

[Veronica 1]

It is a place where I can come to and learn more about the overwhelming changes that are presenting themselves to me. Somewhere I can find understanding and support, like minded people and stories of inspiration that will guide me in my recent transition and awakening. Otherwise I would still be the same screwed up male I was a few months ago.

[TxKimberly]

I want to post this answer BEFORE I read every one else's to be sure that I am not influenced by their response. I would make a small distinction though -the true "object of this forum" or its reason for coming into existence can only be spoken to by those who started it, but I will tell you why I value it.
You can come here to know you are not alone.
You can come here to share - your triumphs and your failures.
You can come here to seek advice or to offer it.
You can come to learn from the experience of others.
I think those are the main points for me!



I have a few questions for the MTFs here.....

In your opinion what is the object of this forum.....Why is this forum in place? what purpose does it serve or should it serve?....im just interested in your take on things to get a better understanding as to where you are all coming from.

BTW if ANYONE else has anything constructive to say dont let me stop you.....

[Kathleengurl]

Plus, it's not porn & hookups.

Real girls, real questions, real stories, real problems and real solutions / support.

V/R -k-

[ta2]

I have only been here 3 days i can tell you why I will stay
To fell normal 7 years ago I commited to live alone so I coud dress
and in my apartment Alone in dress i felt normal.
I felt so right for the first time in years relaxed and the end all happy I remember the day This is me. Backe then I had no computer no knowledge of them.I worked 4 10 houres a days as a mechanic and 2 at a tattoo shop tattooing I dressed every sunday.

After a little over a year I relized I lived only for sunday. The whole week was to keep bills paid so I could lock the door unplug the phone and do things around the hose in girls clothes.

I quit the factory I was happier alone in my apartment I tattoed 4 days and had 3 for me.I had bought a computer and thought what if I could make a living off the internet dressed as a me controil all my time live as I want when I want long story short

yes with houres of hard work I worked all day and night as me I even forgot and went to the store 2 times with light makeup on The peopel new me for years and I knew what i forgot as soon as we made eye contact

However my new life gave me strength to think screw them screw them all If I have to I will live alone without friends and for 2 years
I did worked and lived at home somtimes not leaving for over a week my own little well stocked world I opend a storefront this year so now I see maney people every day However allin my mask of what society calles male clothing and little time to dress latly
lead to a google search I had serched years ago. maney times but nothing lie this came up Just porn.

So I come here becouse after years of walking alone in a dessert I see a society of people like me and I hope
and It feels natural it makes me happy info on all thes organized things I knew nothing of this I come her to not be alone I read post and already I see maney people I would like to get to know
I come here becouse this is my lifestyle and I want to start living it
I cant explane how happy I was to find this place it is in a oasis in what for maney was a lonly and confusing dessert

[dakota_ann69]

For me I find it positive therapy, by that I mean that I can come here to learn more about myself, and possibly help others in need. I hope to make lifelong friends here that truly understand who I am and why I do what I do. I found this forum quite by accident and I am glad to be here.

[scarlet]

I want to post this answer BEFORE I read every one else's to be sure that I am not influenced by their response. I would make a small distinction though -the true "object of this forum" or its reason for coming into existence can only be spoken to by those who started it, but I will tell you why I value it.
You can come here to know you are not alone.
You can come here to share - your triumphs and your failures.
You can come here to seek advice or to offer it.
You can come to learn from the experience of others.
I think those are the main points for me!

I couldn't have said it any better myself.:hugs:

[BarbaraTalbot]

A Community for Crossdressers, their Family and Friends.

There is a prominent sign posted just outside of town with curious symbols of F-A-Q that hardly anyone reads inititally in their understandable rush to reach...

The welcome embrace of the Welcome Committee. A lot of people do tireless but interesting duty there, No stranger enters with out a sincere embrace or a peck on the cheek. After the long journey arriving here remembered by all here it is hard not to be curious about the very next arrivals, dusty from the trail.

There are different buildings to shelter from the elements the people who in that building are gathered in discussions of varied importance to them.

As you enter town, there is the main town square where everyone passes through checks the gossip and either stays to shoot the breeze or each other before going on about the business of why they came. Some stay to watch the traffic, some are gregarious and like talking to everyone. I am not sure why town square is called FtM. It is for the most part a pretty clean looking town with the occasional inadvertent littering episode discretely picked up by circling moderators. Occasionally if the trash recepticals are full or have overflowed, or on hot days when decomp is faster, some of the populous cries out for more pick-up days.

Still in the public space, just off to the side, under the spread of a welcoming oak is a place for a little more reflective thoughts about who we are and what makes us who we are.

Nearby with membership one can duck into the body shop to discuss repairs and upgrades to the chassis.

There is a little used store, It would be good to see more merchandise in stock. Apparently though we are a community of hoarders at last comfortable with our stash and loath to part with it (except Karren of course).

There are quiet lanes for reflection, even a house of worship where we can connect with others and possible some higher power. There is a really supportive clinic for mental health issues.

There is a pool hall where the boys hang out. I expected it to be a bit more raucous in there than it actually is. I sometimes slip in there when I am really feeling in touch with my sensitive side, and always find the boys often deep in real meaningful conversations and courteous to a lady.

There is a well staffed with volunteers preparation and recovery center for those who are just about to head out to the big city or just back from there for corrective surgery.

There is a woman's hall where entrance is only granted after the secret knock is learned. The mysteries there I know not of, but I will say my wife emerges there from often with a smile affixed

There is a street of shop windows where the giddy teen girls gather and look in the windows and compare notes on fashion. There is also a powder room nearby for them to check there make-up.

The art gallery is very progressive with unfinished works displayed next to stunning artistry all to good acclaim. This progressive community values beauty and seems to truly appreciate it in all its forms.

There is a building for planing and zoning and where one goes to apply for a varience.

There is an electronic fix-it shop.

Oh and the park. It seems free from cares,with rides and amusements, poets and poets to be minstraling about, and games and laughter.

I forgot..what was the question?

Oh Its a place for what society and biology calls guys to figure out why wearing a skirt has its appeal, for what society and biology calls girls to figure out why it is that a skirt was thrust into their wardrobe, and for the family and friends to have a place to hold the hands of their loved one while they figure all that out.

And for me, apparently, a place to practice my typing.

[melissaK]

Kieron,

I'm here because people like KarenHutton can answer the question in one line, and because people like RobertaFermina and BarbaraTalbot answer it in 75 lines.

I'm here because people like me are here. People like ta2 who tell such emotionally moving stories not all too disimilar from my own.

And I'm here because it splices in FTM's and sometimes I find the tone of the FTM's soothing.

And, because I can live my 'in my heart of hearts' life here in cyber-space, whereas I can't, or won't, or am still trying to figure out how to, do that in the real world.

hugs,
'lissa

* PS, and because I get insomnia and this place is open all night.

[Trinni]

For me this is the only place I express my feeling as Trinni. Even though I still keep pretty much everything about myself a secret, here I tell what I have done, want to do and how I feel about things I don't feel I can tell anyone else. As I have mentioned before, I seriously doubt my wife would want to see her man dressed as a woman and my children are very young and it would really confuse them. I also have to admit keeping Trinni a secret is fun for me. Don't get me wrong, I would love to go out in public as Trinni but part of my likes the fact I have something that no one who personally knows me, knows about. This is the only secret I have from my wife and I like having at least one secret. Now that I have drifted away from the real question I would have to add not only so I can express my feeling and experience about cross dressing, it's so I can learn from other people experience and know that a lot of what I have thought since I was a kid, is the same things other people think too. I also like to see the different thoughts people have since some of us crossdress full time, some part time, and some not at all.

[PortiaHoney]

It's a place where I can say what's on my mind about crossdressing. Actually putting things into words is a great thing - sometimes I don't know exactly what I'm feeling until I write it down.
And it's good to read the words of many other people who are in a similar place to me and are dealing with life in a remarkably similar way. We're not all the same, but it's possible for an isolated CDer to feel he/she is the only person in the world with this particular problem.
I even get some practical advice here.

I'm with you Ruth :thumbsup:

[PortiaHoney]

Oh well, actually it's for all the reasons listed above from everybody.

How do you get stockings on without damaging them with t h o s e nails Trinni? Sorry, changed the subject - they are yours, aren't they?????

[Angie G]

A place we can talk to others with our interest and to share info on dressing and support eachother in time of need :hugs:
Angie

[Kieron Andrew]

Ladies alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve? i cant put it any plainer than that

[KandisTX]

Ladies alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve? i cant put it any plainer than that

Brother and sisterhood is what it's all about. This place is here for crossdressers, mtf and ftm as well as ts etc, and GGs to come in and have a place to talk with others of like mind. A place where we can talk to each other from around the world and share our experiences and hopes/dreams, and find out that we are not alone in what we do. ;)

Kandis:love:

[BarbaraTalbot]

why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone?

To help any (esp. CD/TG/TS/SO) sincerely curious about gender/dressing and attached gifts or baggage. To share and to ask. To gain the understanding needed to accept ourselves and maybe acheive the craved for acceptance of others.

there...2 lines! :tongueout

[MsPriscilla]

Just being able to converse with like-minded folk, see their problems and pleasures.


Oh and the pics are onderful and an inspiration to us

[Sam-antha]

Here I can meet people.
(Something I do outside of this forum )
Here I can talk about my Cd activities........ if I want to.
(I know now that I am not alone [and twisted] and that there are others who thought they were alone.)
I can share with people.
(People can share with me)
There can be friends here.
(They are increasingly difficult to find in the real outside world.)

~Samm

[Robin Leigh]

To provide a place where we can support each other & learn from one another. And maybe even understand one another.

If we can't understand and accept us, what hope do we have for wider acceptance?

:hugs:

Robin

[Rebecca_Annette]

alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve?

A place to go to achieve peace and understanding, and a release for pent up frustration?

[Mitch23]

my friends, my support group network, my family, my encouragement, my learning place ...

mitch

[Julie York]

Ladies alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve? i cant put it any plainer than that

You haven't asked the right question Kieron. Do you want to know what purpose people WANT it to have?....or do you want to know what people THINK its purpose is, from having visited it?

The REAL answer to your question is that the forum exists and was created in order to generate advertising revenue. A bi-product is that is has become a useful resource and credible source of information and entertainment for the CD community....which generates more visitors....which creates more advertising revenue.

But anyway.....

I THOUGHT its purpose.....(the one molded over the years and created by the Mods and members) was as a place where people could express their genuine emotions, problems and feelings, regarding ALL CD/TG issues.....without being subjected to the usual sexual excess on the internet. And where, as a result, people make friends, have a laugh, share triumphs and failures and become educated.

The problem Admin has is that there are four distinct groups, which have very different needs and it is impossible to cater to them all without somehow redefining the FUNCTION of the forum.

How can you be honest and genuine about the CD experience without discussing the issues of sexuality and fetishes?
How can you create an environment that a GG could visit without being made sick by the references to confused sexuality and fetishes honestly expressed?
How can you make FtM feel welcome even though they have virtually nothing in common with CDs?
How can you make TS feel welcome without fragmenting the forum and making a distinction between one group and another?

I don't know the answer but I think the structure as it is is fragmented enough. What is required is some sort of common understanding amongst the members that when you post in a section you don't naturally fall into, that you are a GUEST. And therefore, like a guest, you should maybe keep some of your opinions to yourself...or rephrase them somewhat.

THAT'S WHY GG's get a hard time when they post something provocative in the MtF section about CDs.

THAT'S WHY EVERYONE gets a hard time if they post something provocative in the FtM section about FtMs.

THAT'S WHY a CD gets a hard time if they post something provocative in the TS section.

They are seen as Guests, intruding....... rudely.

Regardless of everyone's best intentions, divisions exit, and whole sections of the forum have been created to accomodate those specific divisions. Therefore, what is required are not more divisions, but a common philosophy.

(I of course reserve the right to call anyone a complete tosspot. Thank you.:D)

[Marcie Sexton]

How about a source of inspiration, for support and use as needed by each indivisual.

[SatinDoll00]

The REAL answer to your question is that the forum exists and was created in order to generate advertising revenue.

Ah...that ugly thing...the truth. :)

Morgan

[Deidra Cowen]

Julie York as usual nailed it! :thumbsup:

[Tamara Croft]

Julie York as usual nailed it! :thumbsup:Yes she nailed it, but then why go against change in the lounge, in the forum revamp thread? Isn't that just being a bit hypocritical? and before you slap me for posting, Kieron said I could :p

[Daintre]

I have to agree with Wendy, this place is a life line to me and many more. When I first joined, I was so shy, that posting was painful, but I read and read.......slowly I began to believe that I was not the "pervert" that I had been labeled and now I feel I can interact with almost all the membership here. Personally I am very grateful that the Forum is here and that I am allowed to be a part of it. So keeping this short :D, the object is Understanding, Friendship, Exchanging views, did I say being understanding?

[Tamara Croft]

All OT posts have been deleted... please stay on topic... goes to slap self...

[flatlander_48]

Some of us are on the Path. Some have heard there is a Path, but have no idea where it is. Some have found the Path, but don't know which way to go. In short, we are all at different places along this spectrum of Transgenderism. I would think the purpose that this forum serves is being a source of information and exchange, a source of encouragement and a feeling of belonging.

[Roxi Loh]

I think it is a great place to post questions and get answers for questions you have not even thought of yet. It can be informative and provacative and at the same time tasteful. Love it.

[battybattybats]

Considering the high suicide rate, violent death rate, divorce, discrimination and oppression that face CDs in much of the world I'd say that one of the primary objects of the site would be/should be/is to prevent deaths, to provide accurate information, news, support, to help perhaps even advocate and organise.

On the small scale to help calm fears, combat depression, help relationships and families, provide a place where isolated people can be part of their broader community and a place of discussion and discovery.
On the large scale to help educate the masses, combat missinformation and help communities and society.

Both seem to me to be the duty of care, the responsibility, of the site but also of all of it's members.

[Billijo49504]

It's a nice place to be, with a lot of nice ppl. Isn't that a good enough reason to be here...BJ

[PortiaHoney]

I have a few questions for the MTFs here.....

In your opinion what is the object of this forum.....Why is this forum in place? what purpose does it serve or should it serve?....im just interested in your take on things to get a better understanding as to where you are all coming from.

BTW if ANYONE else has anything constructive to say dont let me stop you.....

As you know, I am new here. Duh. (Still finding my feet, found them, on the ends of my legs where I left them (nice nails))

This Forum has been formed in order for like minded, isolated (internal sense and geographically) individuals, to have a place that is accepting, comfortable, informative, safe and fun. (I hope)

Some have said it is to make money. I say it is money well earned.

Even though the central concept is heavily MTF CD TV TS TG....... the common thread is that most here feel disjointed from mainstream society and this is the place we come to for acceptance and company with similar views or interests.

Am I projecting???????????

Unfortunately, I have noticed some with "attitude" but I understand that this is born from living with non acceptance, either from others, or even from oneself, even though espousing acceptance.

Yep, I'm projecting!!!!!! Didn't realise I had so much "attitude".....

I don't live in Nirvana, I wish, but as many others have said, accepting yourself and having confidence in yourself is the first step in getting others to accept you. This Forum is the ideal place to start.

I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted. Now, I am starting over. :hugs:

[Julie York]

Yes she nailed it, but then why go against change in the lounge, in the forum revamp thread? Isn't that just being a bit hypocritical? and before you slap me for posting, Kieron said I could :p
I think you'll find that I didn't say that I was against change as such. I am against fragmentation and division.

[brylram]

I think you'll find that I didn't say that I was against change as such. I am against fragmentation and division.

I'm guessing, Julie, that you would like to be able to fix existing problems while creating less areas on the forum in order to make us all more integrated. Maybe in an effort to get everyone interacting together, 'playing nice' (which would still involve some fighting as all healthy relationships do), and understanding one another. Am I right? Please correct me if I'm wrong.

[Hippy Chic]

It's about creating a support network init?

[Julie York]

I'm guessing, Julie, that you would like to be able to fix existing problems while creating less areas on the forum in order to make us all more integrated. Maybe in an effort to get everyone interacting together, 'playing nice' (which would still involve some fighting as all healthy relationships do), and understanding one another. Am I right? Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Something like that.

[Victoria Anne]

I have not read any of the replies yet as I do not want my awnser to be swayed by others,I want to awnser you from my heart. This forum is a second family for me , it is a place I come to to share my victories as well as defeats , a place I come to for encouragement and guidence. It is a place were I can be myself without fear of reprisal from the ignorant. I come here to laugh and to cry . Most of all it is a place for friendship and for family , a place were I don't feel alone , haveing a wifes support and encouragement is wonderful but to feel a sence of being as Viccy is something that only comes from others who truely understand , from my fellows . Love and kisses to all.

[sami1952]

Before i found this site,i was a closet cd and kept to myself,since then i have come out and express myself in ways that i wound never have dream of. i'm thankful for this site,i have come a long way since joining and i'm no longer ashame of who i am. i no longer hide my true self.

[SusanMarie]

For me...
This forum is an opportunity share feelings and experiences in a sincere and respectful manner.

IMHO everyone here is affected by this 'special gift' we share. It benefits us all to be able to talk with each other. Regardless of whether the discussion is about the 'good times' or 'not so good times.'

[cindybarnes]

In my opinion the object of this forum is to allow TG people and those involved,, SO's etc ,, the ability to communicate.

Why is this forum in place ? In my opinion its in place because something is working,, lots of forums fade away.

What purpose does it serve? Depends on who you are and why you keep coming back,, I will leave my reasons out since thats not the question, but it serves a lot of people in different ways,, a place to vent, post those first photos, a place to joke in the lounge. I think most sections of this forum have a purpose , some dont apply to everyone but thats the way its supposed to work I think

Cindy

[Carin]

In your opinion what is the object of this forum? I see this place (it is more than just a forum to me) as stated in page header " ***T he #1 Community for Crossdressers, their Family and Friends ***"


what purpose does it serve or should it serve?
For me the purpose it serves is

a safe place to find information, post views, ask questions
a place to understand and explore public tolerance and acceptance
a place to meet genuine friendly people
for Crossdressers, their Family and Friends

The "Community" includes those people whose lives are affected by nature or emotional association with the challenges of gender expression and presentation outside the traditionally defined roles of "Male" or "Female" as described on one's birth certificate.

In practice, this place is a lifeline for people who have nowhere else to turn.

[dancer1]

Well the forum suports its self by being availlable to share what the masses in general can't.
When exspressing yourself and getting a responce and for some is a tremenous feeling and others not so well know to the forum feel posting and a lack of responces is clickie, if i spelled it right.
But for each one of us it will give something so for me iam glad to be able to share with you all.
And i still belive Karren Hutton is the Queen of this forum her and a few girls like her inspire the fem to stand up and say hello welcome to the forum.
Love Nadeen