Sex change

[Vanessa kitty]

Im really considering to fully change into a woman for real i have always dreamt bout it for years, but im still a bit unsure but it would be a big relief for me if i did...


Love Vanessa Kitty

[Sherlyn]

Vanessa thats a very big decision ....you should be 100% sure ... i don't think i could..however i would love ta be she/me ..without all the painstaking things we have to do.. to get dressed SPECIALLY the shaving... everyday ..hope you are doing the research i know nothing bout these things... i'm sure that many do

[Priss]

Definately something that you want to be sure about before you take any actions. It's not something to be done on a whim by any means. Now's the time, to try it out all you want. Cross dress. Go out in public. See if the life is going to fit with you. If the life is for you, you'll wake up one day and just know it to your very soul. If that doesn't happen, then stay who you are.

Me, I knew before I started that I wanted to go all the way. It was just part of who Iam. Trying it out, only reinforced my feelings and desires.

[jennifer31191]

i also wanna b a girl but am to young for it how close can i get without goin that far?
with love, jenn
write me a private message

[Virginia]

Don't know the laws "down under" but in the states, we have certain requirements for those who wish to have SRS. You may want to contact a "gender varient" counselor, first! Just one girl's suggestin!
Virginia

[Ashley in Virginia]

I was thinking about it but decided not to. I couldn't "pull it off". lol

[sexy]

yea id love to be a girl but i still love girls if you had a sex chage and still sleep with girls would that make you a lesbian

[Akyra]

sexygg????

you do know what gg stands fur donchya??? :confused:

genetic girl you twit.......

now how kan u be a crossdwesser and a gg if yur a boy......?

hello.......

wtf?!!!!!

[Priss]

yea id love to be a girl but i still love girls if you had a sex chage and still sleep with girls would that make you a lesbian
Well, bi atleast...:eek:

[Chrissycd]

If you're serious, read through the archives here. You'll learn alot and find resources to go to learn more about the process and what it involves.
Chrissy

[Paula UK]

Dont think i could ever pass as a real girly...so, however much i may "wish"... it will never happen. therefore ill just have to settle with the half way house (boobs, still with bits) if you know what i mean!??


paula xx:(

[Chrissycd]

dear. Let the surgeons decide whether you could pass or not. They can work miracles. If you are choosing between living miserably for the rest of your life as a man, and being a woman who doesn't have the benefit of looking like a bombshell, well, it's your life but, it's not such a difficult choice if it is truly who you are inside. Take a look around you. Not all women are playboy pinups. It might be worth looking into and at least exploring the possibilities. Keep your chin up.
Chrissy

[Davena]

The technology available today makes it possible for any male to transition to a female with the right hormone therapy, electrolosis to remove facial hair, feminine facial surgery (FFS), and genital reassignment surgery (GRS)... There are many excellent doctors in the USA and Thailand that can perform these surgeries - though very expensive - they can change your physical body to look that of a female...

A good source of information for anyone who thinks that they may be a transsexual female is: HTTP://WWW.TSROADMAP.COM

[skirtlover80]

I agree with paula

No way one can become a woman by SRS. Its mearly kidding onself and spending lot of money. Society will never accept a reconstructed woman.

We must be satisfied by wearings women's clothing aand admired ouselves in front of mirror or correspond with other cross dressers

[Davena]

No way one can become a woman by SRS. Its mearly kidding onself and spending lot of money. Society will never accept a reconstructed woman.

We must be satisfied by wearings women's clothing aand admired ouselves in front of mirror or correspond with other cross dressers

Sorry, I have to disagree. If you go to Dr. Lynn Conways website you will find many successful male to female (mtf) transition stories -

http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TSsuccesses/TSsuccesses.html

Also Carla Antonelli website has pics of some of the most beautiful post-op girls in the world -

http://www.carlaantonelli.com/primera_pagina.htm

[Chrissycd]

I'm surprised at that post, skirtchaser. Nobody ever suggested that surgery can MAKE us gg's. It's done b/c the MIND does not match the body and it helps align us so we can live life without losing our minds. You don't seem to understand the depth of the issue for many of us. I'm not saying this to dis you. It's just the fact of the matter and I don't think you appreciate the emotional pain some girls suffer from their gender dysphoria.
Chrissy

[Davena]

Don't know the laws "down under" but in the states, we have certain requirements for those who wish to have SRS. You may want to contact a "gender varient" counselor, first! Just one girl's suggestin!
Virginia

Therapist. What a rip off. Go to this website to get an idea about the HBIGDA Standards of Care.

http://www.tsroadmap.com/reality/hbigda-standards.html

The only reason doctors want that letter is for legal purposes. Dr Suporn (Thailand) as performed GRS on girls who were only full time for 6 months and DIDNOT have a therapist written recommendation. Bewarned though, that he may ask you to see a local therapist, I forgot his name, for an evaluation.

But to me Dr. Suporn has an excellent reputation because he averages 7 inches of depth for girls with less than average size - ah - male thingies ;)

[Like2BAspen]

I think that if its what you want to become the person you are happy with you should do it.There are plenty of gg's that can't have children does that make them less then a woman. There are so many gurlz that have had srs and are extremely happy. Be the gurl you long to be

[Like2BAspen]

If that is you in the pic you are awsome and the surgery would be the icing on the cake. I am sure you have plenty of guys and girls for that matter panting over you you're beautiful.

[Danielle1960]

Morph is right. :) I too think about doing this too. But unlike you and Morph I think I might be very disappointed with the outcome. After you've had couseling and decide to go forward, remember it won't fix problems that already exist for you but might actually compound them. But if your willing to face life as a woman and one who might be unfairly treated then you might be ready.

I've read and talked with a few women who found after there operation that the men they hoped to be with lost interest in them after the SRS. I guess the main thing is to ensure it is for you and you alone!

Danielle

[MarieTS]

Vanessa: I think its a lot like that old addage about being in love....
Mommy, when will I know if I'm really in love? "Honey, you'll just know. You'll see."
Well, if you want to know if should really transition, believe me, you'll know! It will occupy your ever-waking (and nonwaking) thought. You will feel at peace with your innerself. You won't have any doubts--fears, concerns, and worries, perhaps. But no doubts.
It sounds like you're not really ready yet. You have those doubts. Just give it some time. There's certainly nothing wrong with that.

[SAMANTHA SIREN]

HYE VANESSA; I guess you should know how you feel inside.I used to say I would never consider changing my sexual nature by surgery-but the growing desire within me is to be a woman.I really adore and love everything feminine and if surgery helps to accomplish that aim-who knows?

Whatever,I wish you every success in your desire to be a fully equiped Woman.

Love and kisses,
From a dizzy blue eyed english blonde,
Samantha.xx

[Julie]

When I finally decided I was going to transition I believed it would solve this inner conflict once and for all. I thought it would be the magic pill and the answer to my prayers. I was wrong. It created more than it solved and I abandoned the idea.

What I realized was something I had been told many times - You have to be prepared to lose everything if you do this. It doesn't mean you will, you just have to want it so bad you are ready to lose everything you have. That's a pretty powerful statement but I found it to be true. I wasn't ready to lose everything and even though I have since told those who know I'm not I still am suffering the loss of friends and family, the hardest being my son. So before you pursue this think long and hard about all that could happen. Much of it probably will. Our society isn't very accepting of men who take on anything remotely feminine, not to mention an entire lifestyle.

[crispy]

When I finally decided I was going to transition I believed it would solve this inner conflict once and for all. I thought it would be the magic pill and the answer to my prayers. I was wrong. It created more than it solved and I abandoned the idea.

What I realized was something I had been told many times - You have to be prepared to lose everything if you do this. It doesn't mean you will, you just have to want it so bad you are ready to lose everything you have. That's a pretty powerful statement but I found it to be true. I wasn't ready to lose everything and even though I have since told those who know I'm not I still am suffering the loss of friends and family, the hardest being my son. So before you pursue this think long and hard about all that could happen. Much of it probably will. Our society isn't very accepting of men who take on anything remotely feminine, not to mention an entire lifestyle.

it's good for our health to have somebody bring us down to earth with a bump from time to time. You're not wrong, Julie.

[Like2BAspen]

I lived in las vegas for 16 years and worked in some of the major strip hotels and for several years the same girl won showgirl of the year. She wound up being a post op ts. There are so many there Some of the hotest cocktail waitresses are ts's and even some cd's There are two at the Rio and they have some pretty hot outfits I personally knew two at the Tropicana and they could have any guy they wanted. So depending on your desires and as was said what you have to loose vs gain its your decision If those close to you love you they will eventually respect you when they see how happy you are. Friends may be in shock but thats understandable because it will be kind of like their friend or family member is kind of gone.

[Rachel_740]

HYE VANESSA; I guess you should know how you feel inside.I used to say I would never consider changing my sexual nature by surgery-but the growing desire within me is to be a woman.I really adore and love everything feminine and if surgery helps to accomplish that aim-who knows?

Whatever,I wish you every success in your desire to be a fully equiped Woman.

Love and kisses,
From a dizzy blue eyed english blonde,
Samantha.xx

Hi Girls,

It takes more than loving everything femanine to actually make the transition and live as a woman 24/7. It's not just a case of dress up when you get home from work, in the privacy of your own home. It's get up at least 1/2 hour early every morning to do your make-up, it's telling your family, people at work, people you have dealings with during your working life, people everywhere else you have any social connections, it's getting talked about behind your back, sniggered at, laughed at openly in the supermarkets and so on. And thats just the start of things!!!!!!

I did it 5 months ago and I'm loving every minute of my new, vastly improved life. I'm more open, more honest about feelings, more outgoing and could NEVER go back to my old life as a guy.

Looking forward to my op next year - can't wait to loose my 'excess baggage'.

Each to their own :)


Anne

[Chrissycd]

Stay strong, you can't go wrong.
Would you share a little more about your journey so far?
Hugs,
Chrissy
:)

[Rachel_740]

Stay strong, you can't go wrong.
Would you share a little more about your journey so far?
Hugs,
Chrissy
:)

Hi Girls,

Here is a brief outline of me journey so far, as requested by Chrissy.

Since I was about 8 years old I knew I was 'different' to other boys. When I reached 13/15 I managed to work out what it was that was different - I was in the wrong body.

Anyway, I finished school, started work and went through my apprenticeship, and eventually got married (first time) at 33. I had two lovely children with my first wife, but I when off the rails and was unfaithful to her 5 years ago. She moved away after the divorce and I didn't see her or my children for about 2 years.

Quite quickly I married the woman I went off with and she then threw me out nearly two years ago now.

That is when I made the decision that I had to live my life for myself and not (as I had been doing until that point) as was expected of me. Also, about this time my first wife got back in touch with me and we have a reasonable friendship going now.

From the time I first thought about transitioning and living my life for me, it took about 4 months before I found this website (I have another log-on here, but I have changed my name to that, so I set this one up when I transitioned). With the help and encouragement of girls on this site, I slowly started going out en-femme. First time was about 2am. I had decided that I HAD to get out, so I drove to my nearest city dressed, knowing that to get home I had to buy petrol. I was absolutely terrified, but I did it.

Things rapidly picked up from there, going out more and more frequently, building confidence all the time. After a while I found my local TV group and went there one night (it took me two attempts before I went in).

I had been there a few times and a couple of girls came in I hadn't seen before. It turned out that they had recently transitioned and they put me in touch with a counsellor. I made an appointment with her and had a few sessions. I also went to see a gender dysphoria doctor, told my family of my plans to have a sex change - they were all ok with it, except for one of my cousins, who felt she was 'losing her cousin'. It wasn't long before the time was right to tell my manager at work (last Oct/Nov) that I was planning on a sex change.

Work were great with it too - a new experience for almost everyone there too - and I had regular meetings until after I transitioned, which was early January this year.

My transition went well and things have (with one or two hiccups) continued to go well for me since - I count myself as unbelievably lucky in the way things have gone for me. I know that a few people at work have problems with me, but that is their problem, not mine.

I started laser hair removal for my (very serious) beard shadow last October and that has gone really well. Although I still see it, the shadow is nothing now relative to what I have always had. My hair is still growing and looking better every week (I want it really long), and I am generally looking much more the part than when I transitioned. I know that lots of people still see through my 'disguise', but others either don't look any further than the surface and see a woman, or they are just willing to accept me as I'm presented and refer to me as female, calling me 'dear' or 'love'.

And just to put the icing on the cake, I am sooooooooooooooooo happy now!!!!!!!!! It really is the right thing for me.


Anne

[Stlalice]

While I'm new to this board, I'm not new to being TS and working to transition to a new way of living. When you come down to it transition is for most of us a crapshoot. You put everything that people value most on the line. Friends, family, your home, career, you name it. It has been called by some a last desperate gamble on a chance to live at peace in your own skin. When I finally figured out that Gender Dysophoria and depression would not go away by themselves - that substance abuse and thoughts of suicide did not equal a "normal" life I was already in my late forties. Now, several years later, after coming out and starting to live as close to full time as my situation allows I can say with some assurance that life IS better. I've lost very little - no significant family or friends although some of the guys are still "trying to get their heads around the idea". Away from work I am Alice - with all that entails - routine living, shopping, dealing with people wether it is the neighbors, store clerks, whatever. Since I'm quite close to being able to take early retirement at work I still do what I politely refer to as "boy drag" for work purposes. The place I work being of the don't ask don't tell mentality why upset them? I have long maintained a "firewall" between my at work life and my outside life - so why upset things this late? A couple more years and I start the RLT with the confidence that I WILL make it. Solve all my problems - no way - more like trade one set for another but infinitely better able to deal with them. Thats about it for now - feel free to reply back - I'll always enjoy a good conversation. :D :D

[melissa12]

a good resourse to use is www.susans.org

[bikebuster77]

No...from what I have read, I don' think that she's wrong, because wanting to transition from male to female, that' s a BIG decision, and you should be prepared to live with that decision. In my case, I made the decision when I was about 13, and I had parental consent. But the biggest thing to this is, that it should be well-thought out, and you should make an informed decision, and as long as you know its right, then its right in my book. The way I always looked at things were, "Stand up for what you believe in, no matter the adversity!"

Love Sarah

[Jasmine Marrie]

i would say go for it i too want a sex change and have thought about it for years.

[Gina Lima]

Go for it! I think about it daily too. I just wish I was born a girl so I would not have to deal with this thought anymore. Do what makes you happy and others will accept you if they really and truely love you. It does not make a different if you are a man or a woman, it is the person that counts! Go for it girl!!!