First day of school - nice surprise

[Cai]

My first day of classes for my junior year was today. I have a pretty heavy schedule, I'm in class straight through on Mondays from 9-4 with an hour for lunch. I went to classes in full-on guy mode - I was feeling the need to pack today, so I went with it, plus my binder, a pair of khakis, and my plaid button-down shirt. Oh, and some brown men's shoes (the ones I was wearing in NYC).

One classmate came up from behind me while I was waiting to get into my 1 oclock class, and goes "I didn't recognize you! You look like a boy from the back!" I shrugged it off and mumbled something about it probably being the pants, with her going "Yeah, just the pants...and the shoes...and the shirt." Class started, so she dropped it, but cornered me at break and asked "So what's with the boy outfit?" I told her she was officially the first person at school to know that I'm transsexual (because I'm chicken and haven't told my roommate yet). She was way cool about it, although I think it hasn't sunk in yet. She kept laughing about the fact that I'd been wearing this outfit all day and she was the first one to ask about it. She said the shoes really caught her attention, that she was confused coming down the hallway because she really thought there were no men in that class. I was thrilled - I was pretty much resigned to not passing ever on campus because it's a women's college with lots of butch lesbians around.

My plan this semester is to be sort of "passively out." I'm going to dress the way I want, act the way I want, and let people draw their own assumptions, but if asked directly like I was today, I'll tell them.

[CaptLex]

Great way to start the school year, Cai! :thumbsup: Hope it's a good one, and I hope everyone (including your roommate) takes it as well. :happy:

[GypsyKaren]

I'm very happy and excited for you, just remember to keep on smiling!

Karen Starlene

[ZenFrost]

Sounds like and all-in-all successful day. :happy: And you've got a great attitude. :thumbsup:

[Adam]

yay sounds good day to me :D

[bi_weird]

Dude that sounds excellent. Yay for you being brave - kudos.

[Xaff]

Sounds great! You got cool classmates. Did you already know them all from last year or is it all new?

I have to go to school this midday for the first time. But I am still thinking about putting my boyish shurt on on monday. Becose then the lessons officially start. (Now introductions) But know I am androgy, so to cheak how my classmates are. (And my tight bra is being washed. :D )

Xaff,

[Cai]

Xaff, I knew most of them from last year. There is a batch of new freshmen I don't know, but none of them are in my classes so far.

I think you should wear whatever makes you comfortable, Xaff. If you're meeting them for the first time, it's probably easier to go ahead and do the androgyny thing, because that's then how they'll see you forever.

[Xaff]

Xaff, I knew most of them from last year. There is a batch of new freshmen I don't know, but none of them are in my classes so far.

I think you should wear whatever makes you comfortable, Xaff. If you're meeting them for the first time, it's probably easier to go ahead and do the androgyny thing, because that's then how they'll see you forever.

Yeah, I will ben a little bit androgyny this week. But I will defenetly wear boy clothing next week. Just to show them that I am something in bewtween. Nor girl, nor boy. It's strange. I have found peace with being a Tomboy, but somethimes I feel the need to dress like a boy. So people don't know my gender.

I have seen the other first-years. And I realy don't know what to think of them. There are 2 girls and a guy I already hang out with. So I hope they are in my class. But there are also 2 girly-girls who looked strange to me. The rest of the guys, talked together about games! I don't like that eather. I realy want to see my class.

But I am also a little bit scared to take my boy clothing to school. I don't realy know those people. And they are so diffrent then my classmates from last years school. I am even scared that they won't respect me. Becose we also should do very much tings together. So if I have trouble with them I am realy a little bit in trouble.....

[Syr_SwitchyGQ]

Glad you had a good first day... but one question... are all your records/official documents/etc. in your birth name? I've found it impossible to pass at college b/c everywhere we go we have to ID ourselves and mine is very clearly my female birth name. I just wondered if you'd had that problem. Or if it bothered you.

[Cai]

My ID is a very female pic (wearing a pink raincoat) but the only time I need to use it is for meals. And of course all my professors use my legal name for class attendance, but it's the name everyone on campus uses for me.
I'm thinking that I'll continue what I'm doing this semester, and wait until next semester or even next year to come out officially and ask that people use a different name. It wouldn't be legal yet, but other people have changed their name that they use on campus that way. The thing is that I'll need to be out to my mother first, because she'd find out otherwise.